Rule 3. Find support points that will help you accept this situation.
Having decided to put up with the toxicity of a leader, you need to change your attitude towards his rudeness. Say to yourself, “I’m going to stop making too much of my boss’s behavior. His behavior is the result of his own unresolved emotional and psychological problems, due to which he cannot control himself. His rudeness is not my problem, but his.” When looking for a foothold, the most important thing is to maintain self-respect. Tell yourself: “I respect myself in any case, I am confident that I am right, I have self-esteem and I deserve the respect of others, even if the boss thinks differently.”
Rule 6. Boss versus boss.
There is a special method that helps to maintain calm, self-confidence and a firm tone in a conversation - the biofeedback method (BFB). This is a scientific method of psycho-emotional self-regulation, which is based on ancient practices including breathing control, concentration and relaxation. It helps people control their emotions and manage their emotional and physical states. Biofeedback is a technique that allows you to manage your physiological state as a whole and the activity of individual body systems (respiratory, cardiovascular, nervous, etc.). One of the biofeedback techniques is the technique of diaphragmatic relaxation breathing, in which the diaphragm is included in the breathing process.
With this type of breathing, we slow down the exhalation and thereby turn on the parasympathetic nervous system, which is responsible for emotional inhibition (calming). If you learn to speak while breathing out, pronouncing your words clearly, slowly and confidently, your speech will sound convincing, and thereby you will force your boss to listen to your words. That is, you don’t chatter, don’t shout over him or make excuses, but calmly and clearly state your position AS YOU EXHALE.
Biofeedback therapy is actively used as a self-help method for overcoming stressful situations, normalizing the emotional background, increasing stress resistance and acquiring relaxation skills. To fully master the biofeedback technique, you need to contact a psychologist specializing in this area.
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The phenomenon of a boss treating his subordinates, to put it mildly, not very politely, is quite widespread throughout the world. There is even a special term for such a situation in social psychology - “toxic leader.” Toxic means poisonous, and this is a very accurate definition: the boorish attitude of the authorities not only spoils the mood, but also poisons the entire body. As a result, various diseases arise that are the consequences of chronic stress and the accompanying constant overexcitation of the nervous system. If you regularly encounter rudeness from your boss, then the best way to solve this problem is to change jobs, since you won’t be able to re-educate your boss or force him to change his behavior.
