Nice place
St. Petersburg resident Zoya became an employee of the information and marketing department of a large construction company. Nobody kept the charming blonde busy with work: at a leisurely pace, she updated news on the corporate website and prepared advertising brochures.
Much of the time Zoya had nothing to do at all in the office. She chatted with colleagues from neighboring departments, drank tea, surfed the Internet and did homework for her English courses. Nice place to work!
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Where do office romances come from?
The beginning of the novel
How can such an office romance begin? Usually it goes like this. The boss begins to pay attention to his employee, give compliments, at first the most simple ones, and then perhaps even a declaration of love.
How can you resist this, especially if it is said by a boss who is clearly a handsome and confident man? In addition, it is easier for such women to advance in their careers, because the boss can do anything to get reciprocity from an employee.
If you are satisfied with this option, before making a decision, you should find out about the possible pros and cons that await you in the process of building true love with your boss.
Honorary invitation
One day, the general director invited Zoya into his office and announced in a solemn voice: “This Sunday I celebrate my birthday. I cordially invite you to take part in the celebration! I invite all top managers of the company, business partners, city leaders... It will be useful for you to make new business contacts.”
On the appointed day, the boss’s personal driver drove up to the house where the 23-year-old girl lived, and in half an hour delivered her to Sergei Lvovich’s mansion, located on the Gulf of Finland, in the Kurortny district of St. Petersburg.
Unusual birthday
The hospitable general director was waiting for the guest on the threshold of the cottage. To Zoya’s surprise, the boss met her not in a business suit, but in slippers and a colorful silk robe... The embarrassed employee presented her with a gift: a bottle of cognac and a Napoleon cake of eleven layers, which she had baked herself the day before.
Sergei Lvovich led her into the living room, where a festive table was set for two people. He did not invite any top managers, business partners or city leaders. “I want to spend this day only with you!” – said the 53-year-old womanizer and kissed the girl on the lips.
“What about your wife? How are your daughters? Didn’t they come to congratulate you?” – Zoya asked. The boss assured that although he was not divorced, he had not lived with his wife for a long time. The family remained in the St. Petersburg apartment, and he moved to a country mansion.
Advice for women
What to do if you are the boss and you fall in love with your subordinate?
It is psychologically and career-wise dangerous for a female boss to have affairs with her subordinates. Your position obliges you to be especially careful and vigilant. It’s one thing if a man starts an office romance, and a completely different thing if a woman starts an affair. The team approaches this very differently.
Romances between female bosses and male subordinates are usually bright, but very short. Some men, especially if they are younger, sleep with their bosses in order to gain some material and career benefits. And as soon as they get what they want, they suddenly cool down. A female boss finds herself in an ambiguous situation and the situation is not in her favor.
In addition, a rare man is able to withstand such a relationship for a long time, if he is not a gigolo. He will be haunted by a constant feeling of the unnaturalness of the situation , because the female boss, even outside of work, will command him, she will decide where and when they meet - that is, take on the functions of a man.
A man with normal healthy instincts will not be able to withstand this for long, and he will not want to. No man likes to be controlled by a woman. And women leaders cannot play a different role.
If a man is a gigolo and sleeps with you for expensive gifts, he will quickly get the hang of it and manipulate you. The moment will come that you will not be able to pay him as much as he wants, and he will leave you for another, wealthier woman.
There are men, especially young men, who are interested in entering the world of a woman who has achieved success and made a career. They want to know the secret of success. In this case, in a few weeks or months of your romance, you will be able to satisfy your sexual desire, and he will be able to satisfy his desire and curiosity.
Usually women want to meet a strong, reliable, self-confident man. But men with such qualities do not sleep with their bosses. They prefer completely different women. If you are a boss, then you are unlikely to have the qualities that strong, reliable, confident men value in women.
Rich but unhappy...
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Tatyana Netreba: Flirting as a crime?! The man gave Zoe a tour of his mansion. In the semi-basement next to the pool and sauna there was a special massage room. “I traveled a lot in Southeast Asia. And I learned massage from the local masters. Would you like to get acquainted with my art? – asked the gray-haired seducer.
After the massage session, the newly made lovers moved to the bedroom... “I don’t regret that I became close to Sergei Lvovich, despite the thirty-year age difference,” says Zoya. According to the girl, she was guided by sincere feelings, and not by selfish intentions: “He is successful, rich, but so unhappy... My little bear yearned for a woman’s affection.”
Promotion
The day after the rendezvous, Sergei Lvovich invited his beloved to his office and, in the presence of all his deputies, announced a promotion: from an ordinary employee of the information and marketing department, Zoya became an adviser to the general director. Her salary was doubled and she was given a separate office next to the boss’s apartment...
Meetings of lovers became regular. Moreover, they always took place on the man’s initiative, in accordance with his plans and desires: at any time of the day or night, Zoya was ready to go to Sergei Lvovich’s mansion.
To Zoya's chagrin, the love affair could not be hidden from her colleagues at the company. The heroine of our article began to face outright envy, angry and caustic remarks from her colleagues... But she does not regret anything: “I have nothing to be ashamed of! Relations with Sergei Lvovich are our personal matter.”
Story "Office Romance"
It was Thursday. I sat in my office and looked through the documents in which my desk was buried. It was necessary to deal with them urgently, since the weekend was looming ahead. I devoted them entirely to my little son. There was a knock on the door. A striking blonde, my boss’s secretary, came in. Although this girl had some education, she had no good manners at all, since I had never heard the word “Hello” from her.
- The boss is calling immediately.
Having said that, she turned around and left. And I sat for some time and thought about why our leadership needed me. Various thoughts were swirling in my head.
I work for a large publishing house and head one of its departments. Until recently, everything was calm and wonderful, until our boss changed.
Pavel Nikolaevich, that’s the name of my new boss, appeared at the publishing house three months ago. He turned the entire publishing house upside down, gutted all departments and, to the deep surprise of everyone, was dissatisfied. He then immediately called a meeting and outlined new ways of working. Of course, these were not drastic changes, but since then the publishing house has lost peace and has become like a hive of wild bees.
“Love at first sight” didn’t work out for me with him. From the first days, Pavel Nikolaevich began to find fault and criticize the work of my department, and undeservedly. On this issue, he and I often had arguments that led to nothing but misunderstanding.
But our large sorority just went crazy over the new boss. Somehow they saw him as a “charming, elegant and sexy man.” Every now and then, all sorts of conversations, rumors, and just gossip about him and his personal life circulated around the publishing house. The main news among unmarried ladies was that he was a confirmed bachelor. And without a doubt, everyone hoped that she would be the one who could “cure” her boss from this terrible illness.
Yes, they would have my problems...
Once again I gathered my courage and left the office. I met my friend Katya in the corridor.
-Are you going to the boss? Calling again?
I nodded resignedly.
- Well, how happy you are! That's lucky! You should be happy, but you don’t have a face.
She hugged me by the shoulders. “You know, all our ladies would like to be in your place, so that they could go to his office every day and be alone with him for a long time.”
-Are you kidding?
Katya laughed.
“There’s already all sorts of gossip going around about you, people saying things like that...
I was surprised and embarrassed at the same time.
“If he ruined their nerves every morning like he did me, they wouldn’t think so.”
We approached the chief's office.
- Sash, take a closer look at him, maybe...
I understood perfectly well what Katya was hinting at, so I didn’t let her finish and quickly entered the office.
Pavel Nikolaevich was sitting at the table and leafing through some papers. In response to my greeting, he muttered something under his breath and, without raising his head, continued to do his job. Three minutes passed before he deigned to turn his attention to me.
- Alexandra Vladimirovna, take a seat. Sorry for making you wait.
I immediately sat down, because from the experience I had accumulated in a short time, I knew that the conversation was going to be long.
- And so, Alexandra Vladimirovna, I called you to consult and hear your opinion on some issues that concern me.
Has a miracle really happened? I couldn't believe my ears. It was very difficult for me to contain my smile.
- I'm listening to you.
…After leaving Pavel Nikolaevich’s office, I spent the whole day running around the publishing house, fulfilling a very urgent order. Towards the end of the working day, Katka came to see me.
- I've been looking for you all day. Where do you run?
— I placed the order. Pavel Nikolaevich asked to personally check it.
She smiled slyly.
- Since when did Pavel Nikolaevich... personally...
I didn’t pay attention to her ridicule.
“I myself can’t really understand what happened.” Imagine, Katya, this morning for the first time he asked my opinion about the work of the publishing house. He and I worked very fruitfully on some issues.
I thought about it, but my friend still didn’t let up.
- Finally, he saw in you both a professional and a woman, and a beautiful, kind, smart, lonely one...
From that day on, work became a pleasure for me. Pavel Nikolaevich and I quite easily found a common language, or rather, it was he who stopped finding fault with my work for no reason. What happened and why he so suddenly changed his attitude towards me, I still don’t understand. I’ll immediately make a reservation that we had only a purely business relationship with him, although rumors had long been circulating around the publishing house that I was his mistress and was sleeping with him in order to achieve a promotion.
At first I was very worried about this and often got upset. But Katya convinced me not to pay attention to all this nonsense and not waste my nerves. She just couldn’t understand why nothing really had happened between Pavel Nikolaevich and me until now. At such moments I was ready to simply kill her.
After some time at the publishing house, Pavel Nikolaevich became his own man. His straightforwardness, tact and excellent sense of humor won the respect of all his subordinates. I think that the friction that arose at the beginning between him and all of us was nothing more than acclimatization in the new team. After all, he was not the only one who could not find a common language and understanding with me. It’s good that everything has returned to normal and work has begun to boil.
At Katya’s insistence, I tried to look at my boss as a man, that is, “with different eyes.” But either my upbringing, or the work environment created by him, did not allow me to do this. And besides, I’ve heard more than once about the dire consequences of office romances: they never led to anything good.
One summer, during my vacation, I was returning from my parents to my home. On the way, I stopped at the supermarket, since there had been nothing in the refrigerator except bananas and sausages for a long time. I took the basket and began to slowly wander between the grocery shelves.
Having filled the basket with everything I needed, I headed to the checkout, and suddenly my attention was attracted by one man. He stood in the vegetable department and thoughtfully looked for something. When he turned his face in my direction, the basket almost fell out of my hands, I was so stunned. Well, I never expected to meet Pavel Nikolaevich in the store! And that was exactly him - so indecisive and so charming.
I wanted to remain unnoticed, but my boss’s eyes managed to glance at me and in an instant pinned me in place. He looked questioningly, and I had no choice but to approach him.
— Hello, Alexandra Vladimirovna. It's so good that I met you here. Won't you help me?
He was in a great mood, a charming smile shone on his face. It was unusual and I saw him so real for the first time.
- Good evening. How can I help?
He showed his empty basket.
- Yes, I decided to cook cabbage soup, but I don’t know what is needed for this.
I was surprised.
— Pavel Nikolaevich, do you cook for yourself?
It was clear that he was embarrassed.
— Not much, if scrambled eggs and sausage can be called a dish.
We smiled at each other.
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Love from your boss: how to resist harassment at work? Women who enter into intimate relationships with big and small bosses are often accused of selfish intentions. In fact, such accusations are not always justified. The fair sex has always been attracted to successful, prosperous men. Therefore, it is not surprising that the heroes of office romances are often the managers of enterprises.
The status of a boss in itself contributes to the emergence of affairs. As a rule, they have spacious, cozy offices where you can invite the employee you like.
27-year-old accountant Galina does not hide the fact that she has repeatedly had the opportunity to enter into close relationships with the heads of the enterprises where she worked: “I just wanted to touch a bright, interesting, beautiful life! Big bosses are often invited to banquets and theater premieres. They go on business trips abroad. All these joys become available to their loved ones.”
How to keep romance at work and not ruin your relationship
The desire to meet your soulmate and preserve feelings for life is inherent in almost every person. And if, after all, your relationships at work are not meetings without obligations, but really the foundation of your future life together, then it’s worth fighting for them and allowing something or someone to destroy them.
Secrets of behavior at work:
Do not advertise your relationship under any circumstances. Maintain a neutral distance in the group. As part of the conspiracy, it is not recommended to come to work together.
It's better to look for your equal!
29-year-old public relations specialist Anastasia is categorically against love affairs with bosses, especially if there is a significant age difference: “It is much better to find an equal, someone close in both age and social status.”
The girl also points out that the boss’s mistress can never become a respected person in the company. Most employees are dismissive of such ladies.
– Courtship from employers in show business is a common occurrence. After all, they are creative people, and therefore romantic in nature. But you always need to understand what you can sacrifice for the sake of this relationship.
— Elena Maksimova
