Woman's happiness
What is women's happiness? Eternal question! We invite you to a conversation on this topic of concern to many.
We collected questions that concern many women and asked them to Rami Black, our regular author and a person who has extensive knowledge in the field of alternative psychology and ancient Indian astrology. What do you think about this? Let's discuss! You can send your personal comments by email and we will definitely pass them on to Rami.
Question. How are women's health and mood related to lunar cycles?
Answer. There are two main forces in this world - yin and yang, masculine and feminine. Planets with a pronounced feminine nature are the Moon and Venus. And all women are connected to them. For example, the female cycle lasts about the same time as the lunar month. In short, the main rules are as follows. During the full moon, the emotional plane intensifies, and at this time women react much more strongly to what is happening. We need to take this into account. Secondly, during the new moon, a woman’s body is most weakened, strength and energy are practically zero. During this time, it is better not to plan anything that requires a lot of effort, especially physical. The new moon and full moon are not very favorable times for starting new things. Another general rule: on the waxing Moon you need to start business and carry out things related to acquisition. The ideal time for this is from the first to 14 lunar days, especially the fifth and tenth. And on the waning Moon, you need to finish things and carry out everything related to removal. For example, if you want to get rid of a pimple on your face, you need to do this during the waning moon. It is best to use the lunar calendar, which helps to calculate the most favorable time to start and carry out various activities. It is useful for women to let out emotions periodically. Men, as a rule, need to control themselves, and a woman is a pure emotion, she is unpredictable by nature. And one of the secrets of long family relationships is for the woman to remain a mystery to the man. If she is easily predictable, the man will be bored. Women can sometimes cry, because they live mainly by feelings and get rid of unnecessary emotions with tears. However, you don’t have to cry at all for this. You can watch comedies or read books that touch your soul. A wise man at least gives a woman the opportunity to speak out. If she feels like you don't understand or value her feelings, that's a serious blow. But if a man asks her every day how she is doing and listens to her, she will idolize such a husband. One of the rules for a long and happy marriage: a man needs to just talk to his wife for 15-30 minutes a day, listen to her and be interested in her affairs. If at the same time he also shows that her feelings are important to him, this makes the woman happy.
Question. Why are women now so often unable to bear and give birth to a healthy child?
Answer. Because our entire civilization now lives inharmoniously. About 60% of women in Europe experience serious problems with having children, not to mention the fact that many women cannot give birth to more than one child. Of course, ecology, lifestyle, and nutrition play an important role. But the culture itself prevents women from having children. Early sex is one of the main energetic reasons that may prevent a woman from having children in the future. And abortions - in Russia millions of babies are killed, after which the woman’s karma worsens. You need to understand that an abortion can affect not only the woman herself, but also her future children. According to the laws of karma, having an abortion is about the same as killing your child who is playing in the sandbox, simply because you don’t have money now or you want to continue studying. Those who have had abortions or encouraged others to do so must go through a process of sincere repentance. Ask for forgiveness from that soul who was not allowed to be born, make a large donation. And never blame yourself after that, accept it as a mistake. And most importantly, the spirit of consumption and selfishness makes our civilization sterile. Russia is increasingly accepting the Western way of life, where money and pleasure are most important. And nature turns off the reproductive function: if you don’t need children, if subconsciously you don’t want them, you won’t have them. We started with the fact that there are two main energies - male and female. So, the father represents the masculine principle, and the mother represents the feminine. If a person treats his father with disrespect, the beneficial influence of masculinity is blocked from him, which brings certain illnesses and troubles. A woman with a closed masculine principle cannot have a happy family life. And if, due to an abusive attitude towards the mother, the feminine principle is closed, this also brings problems with childbearing. The easiest way to check that you have more closures is to see which side of your body you have more disease on. If there are more sores and ailments on the left side of the body, then the feminine principle is closed; if on the right side of the body, then the masculine principle is closed. That is why all religions teach to honor father and mother. Have you ever wondered why Eastern peoples most often have no problems having children? Because in the East ancient traditions are still preserved and respect for parents is cultivated. In addition, in the East, women's honor is protected. But if a woman is not picky in relationships, this breaks through her energetic shell. I know that such views are not popular now, but, from the point of view of Eastern psychology, everything is exactly like that. A certain sexual culture of a woman minimizes the problem. In addition, in the East they love children. In the West now everything is different: women are trying to achieve success in their careers, and when they are going to give birth at 35–40 years old, problems often arise.
Question. Why are there so few real men around that you can rely on?
Answer. Because there are only men around you whom you raise, dear women! Women are trying to achieve equal rights, some even pay for themselves when they come to a restaurant with a man. And now it turns out that equality is not always good. Boys need to be taught from childhood that a girl is a flower and must be protected. And girls need to be explained how to behave with a man: treat him with respect, believe in him, give him the feeling that he is in charge. It is very important for a man to feel like a leader, why not play along with him? If a woman believes in a man and shows him this, then over time his subtle body changes. In a year or two he will become stronger and more confident. Behind every great man there is an equally great woman. If a woman behaves with a man on equal terms, there will be no harmony. But when she constantly makes a man feel that he is strong, his energy changes. I've seen many examples of this. When a man lives with a woman, he develops a certain pattern of behavior; if he lives with another woman, this pattern changes. A man’s behavior is 80% determined by a woman’s internal state! A wise woman asks a man to help her: after all, he is strong, and she is weak. She does not impose her opinion on him, but asks: “What do you think?” She teaches children that they need to show respect to dad. Let a man think that the decision is always his. He really needs it. And if a woman works equally with a man and wants to decide everything herself, she suppresses him, wittingly or unwittingly, and this is unacceptable for him even on an energetic level. I'm not saying that there should be some kind of subordination or suppression of will in the family. Just behave respectfully: don’t call the man Tolyan, call him Anatoly. A man must protect a woman, take care of her, buy her gifts. Give him this opportunity.
Question. Modern women often cannot arrange their personal lives. Smart, beautiful, housewives, but they can’t start a family. Why?
Answer. One day a very impressive woman came to my training; she was about thirty years old, but her personal life was not going well. I asked the men who were at the training: “Is she beautiful?” Everyone answered: “Yes, very much.” She is very talented, smart, began to read amazing poems that she wrote herself... But nevertheless, nothing works out for her with men. No one can live with her for long. Why? Because she has a strong inner pride. In the poems that she read, there was even a line: “Follow me, my love...” And it is important for a man to feel that it is a woman who is following him. The wisdom of a woman is to very gently show a man that he is in charge. Men energetically cannot tolerate stronger women, this is nature. And there are many beautiful, talented women who are hindered by pride or rigidity. Another reason for an unsettled personal life may be disrespect for the father, unforgiveness of the first love, or unforgiveness of the first husband. A flexible woman who knows how to create a space of love will not be lonely.
Question. Is a woman’s external attractiveness really not important at all?
Answer. Of course, it is important, because a woman’s external beauty is also an indicator of good karma. But when talking about beauty, I don’t mean the correct facial features or body proportions, but also the energy plan - a healthy complexion, sparkling eyes, positive energy. Imagine a beauty who has a very aggressive and envious expression on her face. Would you say she is attractive? On the other hand, imagine an ordinary girl, full of love and peace, who knows how to accept herself as she is, who knows how to give, and who has a sense of humor. Can you assume that such a wife will not find a good husband? In order for a woman to truly look good, three elements are necessary: proper sleep, proper nutrition and a harmonious personal life. If a man can get up early and run to work, then a woman needs to get enough sleep. The amount of sleep is very individual; some people need more rest, others less. But in principle, it is not recommended to sleep more than 9 hours, it takes away subtle energy. It's better to rest a little more during the day. Another wish: a woman needs to go to bed around 10 o’clock in the evening, because the nervous system rests only from 10 to half past one in the morning. If you go to bed at 2 am, the nervous system does not recover. You also need to pay attention to proper nutrition. Eastern medicine does not recommend that women eat meat, at least poultry and game, and not beef, pork or lamb. The psychological mood while eating is also important for a woman: you are angry or discussing something unpleasant, the subconscious is programmed to be negative. In conclusion, I want to congratulate you, dear women, on March 8th. Thank you for being! Be happy, healthy, sincere and beautiful in all respects! Let your children only make you happy, and your personal life be a source of bliss.
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Alexandra is thirty years old, yet she already has a five-year-old divorce behind her - and two children of the same age in her arms. However, it should be noted that Alexandra was very lucky - and her parents help with all their might, and her ex-husband turned out to be a decent man, he left like a man, in the same suit, and, although he doesn’t really communicate with the children, he pays child support honestly, not like some. Many of Alexandra's self-mom friends are jealous of her.
What else is needed: alone with children, her own mistress, in a tiny, but her own apartment, parents live two streets away, on the one hand, in the wings all the time, and on the other, still not together. Alexandra works, the children are grown, the youngest son went to school this year. In general, we can say that I completed a difficult life quest with minimal losses. I got off with a slight fright.
And only on the personal front, until recently, Alexandra was absolutely deaf. At work, the female team usually runs home from work, let the nanny or grandmother sit with the children, at home - the children with homework and activities, and in the morning go back to work. Meanwhile, women the same age were just starting to think about marriage in their thirties, and all at once. It was as if an epidemic had begun, mass insanity. Everyone is surrounded by dates, gentlemen, romantic stories, bouquets with couriers, and even weddings, dresses from salons, limousines and restaurants... Alexandra, with her well-organized life, general cleaning, shopping on Saturdays and two schoolchildren, looks like a well-lived woman compared to her peers an aunt who has nothing to expect, and it is indecent to dream.
And, although everyone around convinced Alexandra that she was an interesting girl, thirty years is the prime of youth, and children, even two, are not at all a hindrance to a woman’s happiness, and they gave examples from the series “but my aunt’s friend got married with four without any problems.” children! — for some reason life showed the opposite. A couple of men who had interested Alexandra over these five years, having learned about two children, shied away that same day like the plague, without explanation, abruptly cutting off all contacts. - Well, don’t be upset! - Alexandra’s friends consoled her. - Everything that is not done is for the better! That's where the road is! This means that this was simply not your man. And it’s good that he ran away right away! A person who has real feelings for you will not be scared away by your children!
But Alexandra only sighed sadly. It takes time for feelings to flare up and that state when other people’s children don’t scare you. You need to meet, communicate, get to know a woman, discover something important in her that is not visible during a superficial acquaintance - but no one categorically wants to meet and communicate with a mother of two children. Vicious circle. Nevertheless, it is not in vain that they say: whoever seeks will find. Six months ago, Alexandra met Sergei, and - lo and behold! - the information about the presence of children did not shock him. We started dating.
The people are modern and not young, the candy-bouquet period has passed quickly, they are already spending the night with Alexandra, there is talk about moving in together and renting out a second apartment. Alexandra is completely satisfied with Sergei, he is a reliable, caring and responsible man, in addition, he is generous and easy to communicate with. Alexandra is already seriously attached to him. There is only one problem - Sergei is somehow not very good with children. He doesn’t have any of his own, so he’s probably being unfair to the Alexandrins, honestly admitting that he doesn’t have any special love for them and never will.
“And I don’t have Makarenko’s talent either!” - he adds. “I won’t raise them because I don’t know how.” Your children are inattentive, incapable of anything, capricious, neglected, the belt has been crying for them for a long time... And don’t argue! Here I am at nine years old, wow! And your son can’t boil a sausage!.. They just sleep and eat, and play on the computer!.. You have to take the belt before they sit on your neck, but I won’t do that - who am I to them?.. Therefore, they are better than me from them fence. Your children are your problems.
The maximum that Sergei is ready for is to tolerate these children in his home. Provided that they behave quietly - do not run, do not yell, do not argue among themselves, speak in a low voice, obey unquestioningly and do not distract the attention of their own mother. Naturally, no one will like this attitude, especially in their own home, and the children pay Sergei in the same coin, and at any opportunity they run away to their grandmother for an overnight stay.
Mom and married friends wave their hands - why did he give in to you like that? the children are disturbing him, you see, the prince has been found! To choose a man in this case means to betray the children, that’s all! Children, they say, are having a difficult time, we need to think about this now, puberty is just around the corner, and not look at men. If there was a traveler who would become a father to the boys, there would be no conversation, but as it is... Drive me in the neck!
However, divorced friends for many years are not so categorical. - Lonely, independent men with no obvious shortcomings do not lie on the road! - they reason. - Yes, you yourself already understood - with two children there is no queue for those wishing to marry. Think about it. Maybe it makes sense to try and get used to each other somehow. And if it’s categorically not, your parents are nearby, they love their grandchildren, you’ll send the boys to them. In the end, the children will grow up and fly away, and whether you will have another chance is unknown...
It now seems to Alexandra that all women who married with children have compromised to a greater or lesser extent. Those who claim that in the end no one needs other people’s children are right, and all this talk about being married with 2-3-4 children and being happy is deceit.
Waiting by the sea for another man - despite the fact that there really aren’t a lot of options, the years are passing, Alexandra is not getting any younger, there really is a double puberty ahead, and it’s not a fact that anyone will want to get involved with a woman who has teenage children. After all, they say - little children are little troubles... Or grab what you have, but with children - how will it work out? What do you think?
08.03.2019 11:10:00
Women's happiness is in family and children
On the eve of March 8, we talked with a wonderful woman, our fellow countrywoman, mother of many children, Yulia Rysyukova, and learned the secret of women's happiness.
Julia has two sons and two daughters. I’ve dreamed of a big family since childhood, but I don’t think about what’s ahead. Yulia was born and raised on Venev land, graduated from Venev secondary school No. 2. She was an activist at school, took part in public and sporting events, and loved to go hiking. I somehow didn’t think about choosing a future profession, I dreamed of a family, and definitely wanted to have many children. She admits that she was internally prepared for this, since since childhood she had heard her grandmother’s stories about how life was in a large family. And although the grandmother did not hide the difficulties from her granddaughter, the main thing sunk into Yulia’s soul: a large family is a great happiness and there are many relatives nearby.
One day Julia came with a friend to St. John the Baptist Church. Priest Oleg Aleynikov suggested trying to sing in a church choir. She did not refuse, little by little she began to help in the temple and in other church affairs. Today she serves in the temple, this is her job. Julia is a psalm-reader, singer, and teaches children at Sunday School.
Somehow I needed to help at a church service in the village. Tulubevo. There they met Yuri, who later became Yulia’s husband. As often happens at the first meeting, we talked and everyone went their own way.
But since fate would have it, Yuri later found Yulia in Venev, in the church where she served. We began to communicate and went on Orthodox trips together. Then Yura and Yulia got married and got married. Life went on as usual, children appeared, worries increased. When asked how she manages everything and still works, Yulia replies that the older children are gradually becoming more independent, and her helpers are reliable. Yulia’s husband, parents, and grandmother help her cope with everyday and economic issues. While her husband works and tries to provide for his large family, Yulia is raising children. Julia talks a lot with the children, and they always consult with their mother in all matters. It is important when there is trust and mutual understanding in the family. And Yulia is very happy that she works in the church, and all her children attend Sunday school. The children also go to sports clubs and a music school. Despite all the workload - in a large family there are more responsibilities, Yulia remains a cheerful and friendly person, she feels quite happy, because a large family is, first of all, a great joy. “For now, of course,” says Yulia, smiling, “I’m not in the mood for fitness or the pool. We always have family holidays; we also take part in various events where our children are involved. In the summer we live at the dacha.”
The Rysiukov family has its own traditions. Holidays are celebrated, family and Orthodox, they are always fun and noisy. A large family gathers around a large hospitable table. Yulia says that she was very lucky that her parents and grandmother taught her to cook. And he believes that it is important for a woman to be able to cook simple but satisfying food, because in a large family there are many eaters.
Yulia is a very pleasant person to talk to, she does not complain about fate or complain, on the contrary, she has a very positive and wise attitude towards everything that happens. And to my question, where does she get her strength from, since different situations happen in life and fatigue still accumulates, she answers that serving in church brings her joy and peace. This is not only a change of activity, but also a spiritual recharge. And Yulia also says that a woman needs to work, at least part-time. Household chores do not end, and being busy at work gives a woman peace of mind, confidence, and good spirits. A woman should rest, then she feels good, looks great and is in a good mood.
Julia also advises never to lose heart. She herself tries to be cheerful and wishes this to others.
Congratulations to Yulia and all women on March 8th!
Galina Rudakova
Photo from the archives of the Rysiukov family
