There is no need to train a man, he needs to be raised correctly
Are men trainable? How to make your beloved man sane and controllable? More on this later in the article.
In a situation where a woman throws herself screaming at a man (wanting to “remake” him), she can awaken the aggressor in him. Hence the conclusion: if you want to get what you need from a man, then never engage in direct aggression.
Women often complain, “He didn’t do everything the way I wanted again!” or “Couldn’t you have guessed what I wanted from you?”
How can you make a man do everything without a woman’s direction, without prompting? This is impossible, a man will not guess all your thoughts. A man cannot do everything a woman wants unless she tells him to.
A man is a carrier of testosterone.
We rely on male instincts
What strings will a woman pull to get what she wants from a man?
- Sexual instinct is the need for sex. A man wants sex with an interesting and sexy woman. A sexy woman is one who loves sex. If a man says that sex is not important, he is either impotent or trying to lull your guard. Control a man with sex. Do not impose too strict a taboo, otherwise the man will find himself a mistress.
- Self-preservation instinct - a man does not seek to get married, does not risk his life or health. You can blackmail a man with his health.
- Hierarchical instinct is a competitive instinct with other men. Wants to be stronger and more worthy than others, successful, have status in society, loved. This instinct is just as important as the sexual one. Men are ready to break their necks to prove their “coolness”.
If a woman directly tries to command a man, he will lose himself as a man if he submits. He becomes a “rag” and henpecked. Therefore, the control must be hidden so that the man does not have to guess about anything.
A woman should refuse reproaches and advice when managing a man. Instead, we play on a man’s instincts.
What methods to start training a puppy?
Starting to train a puppy correctly means choosing the right training method. Today, 2 methods are used that are harmless to the physical and psychological well-being of puppies:
- Operant. You watch the puppy, and once he has done what you want, praise him and give him treats. Gradually, the puppy will understand what behavior you are “buying”.
- Taste rewarding (guidance), when you use a treat to direct the puppy to the desired action. For example, to teach the “Sit” command, move the piece up and back over your baby’s head so that he raises his head and automatically lowers his back to the floor.
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If you manage to start training your puppy correctly, you will get a great friend, pleasant to talk to, safe, comfortable and always ready to cooperate. If you have any difficulties or are not sure that you can start training your puppy correctly, our puppy training marathon “An obedient puppy without the hassle” will help you.
Coping with difficulties
Change your behavior with a man. Learn to give the choice to a man who will always work for you.
In order for a man to trust you better, it is important not to ignore the difficulties he has encountered (not to say that he will cope with them easily). By doing so, the man sees that you are belittling his abilities when he is trying to fight real difficulties. He thinks that he will overcome all these difficulties, all his actions will be “down the drain”, because women consider them “ridiculous”. Conclusion : accept that there are serious problems, but always want the man to cope with them.
When a woman shares her experiences with a man, and he says, “Never mind, it’s all nonsense.” Those. your experiences and feelings are devalued. What should I do?
- Tell a man that you are hurt.
- Tell him “It is important for me that you listen to my experiences, how I feel.”
- Tell the man “I love you and I really want this situation to be resolved.”
Women's complaints about men (when she tries to control them)
- “He never talks to me heart to heart, doesn’t share his feelings.”
- “The issue of our relations comes last. It seems like I’m the only one who needs it.”
- “Why is a man so limited? He thinks about sex, food and how to sleep. He’s not interested in anything else.”
Dear women, your complaints are not always justified. Why?
- Often a man’s feelings are visible in his voice, intonation, and facial expressions.
- A man is no less concerned about relationship issues. He's just trying to put on a face like he doesn't care. But that's not true.
- A man is not limited. He just doesn't know how to speak normally (like most men).
A Guide to Women's Happiness or How to Train Men
The most wonderful time in a relationship between a man and a woman is the period of winning a woman’s heart, or as it is also called the candy-bouquet period. Unfortunately, this time passes without a trace, and unromantic, gray everyday life begins, into which quarrels and conflicts now and then add variety. They occur for various reasons, but, as a rule, the essence of all discord lies in the inability of partners to find a reasonable compromise.
Men want to feel their primacy and dominance everywhere, and women, who have fought for equal rights with men for so long, do not want to retreat. In order for a man to be satisfied, and for you not to feel violated in your rights, it is enough to use a couple of feminine tricks. They will help you get what you want, while it will seem to the man that everything is being done the way he wants.
So, let's look at the main points about which conflicts arise.
The most favorite pastime of the fair half of humanity and a terrible torment for many men is shopping. This term usually refers to shopping, buying clothes, groceries, and cosmetics. For men, this activity seems like a boring waste of their free time and money. And here the most important thing is to change men’s idea of shopping.
The simplest and most effective remedy that is ideal for this difficult task is love, affection and pleasant sensations. So, while you are buying groceries, you can buy a bottle of good wine, as if hinting at the upcoming pleasant romantic evening. So that a man doesn’t feel like time is dragging on for a long time, you can talk about topics that are interesting to him, and it’s better if he does the talking and you listen with enthusiasm.
When buying clothes, you can interest a man by calling him into the fitting room. A couple of innocent kisses in an exciting environment will definitely lift his spirits, and you will be guaranteed a new outfit.
When making any purchases, ask him for advice, let the man feel that he is competent even in such an area, and you need to know his opinion. Casual conversation and flirting will help you turn shopping into an interesting pastime for your man, and systematically consolidating the acquired skills will develop a reflex, thanks to which he will love going shopping, just like you.
Over time, men forget how wonderful it can be to spend an evening alone with their beloved. And they replace us with a computer or TV, devoting all their attention and free time to their hobby such as football. But there is a solution to this problem too. Sex is the main weapon in a woman’s arsenal and the most pleasant reward for men.
All you have to do is light a couple of candles, put on a light silk robe and turn off the electricity. Just do not forget to make sure that due to a sudden power outage, important information from the computer will not be erased, so as not to provoke a scandal. In other cases, he will probably like you no less than a summary of the news for the day.
Like dog training, raising an ideal man is based on the principles of rewarding for correct actions; mistakes can be punished by lack of attention or radical actions. For example, a man can pay for scattered things by having his mother-in-law come to visit you for a few days, who will jealously monitor the cleanliness of the apartment.
The only thing you should not do under any circumstances is to nag your man, otherwise you risk turning into a grumpy woman dissatisfied with life, and he will simply run away from you.
It’s possible to create a cozy home and make the man of your dreams possible by giving him love and affection.
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Male learning ability test
- Ask your man to call/remind you to do something important at a certain time (for example, call your mom at 7 o'clock). Conclusion : we will find out whether he is oriented in time, and whether we can count on him. If he doesn't do this, indicate to him that this is important to you. If there is no result, repeat the exercise.
- Ask him to come to some place (for example, let's go to Ikea this weekend).
- Energeticly talk/ask a man to do something (let's go pick out tiles for the bathroom).
This test reveals a man’s ability to navigate time, space and fulfill a woman’s requests.
This test allows you to look at the strengths and weaknesses of a man. And improve where everything is bad.
Active actions
You don't have to put in a lot of effort to get people interested. There is no need for obsessiveness, on the contrary - modesty, a good mood, the absence of unlucky fans, sad stories will help to attract attention. It is necessary to avoid abrupt transitions, rudeness, and unflattering statements addressed to the individual or, worse, relatives. Arrange interesting, passionate meetings that will excite not only the body, but also warm the soul. Having children for your other half is not a hindrance; the main thing is to show that you are delighted and crazy about them.
Agreeing with everything is also strictly forbidden, it is very boring, monotonous, quickly becomes boring, everyone has their own opinion, you need to be able to express it correctly: restrained, unobtrusive. Adequacy is above all: don’t make scandals, don’t stalk, don’t call home, don’t intrude! The role of a married man's mistress is not so bad if you take the pros and cons correctly, for example:
- In fact, freedom, but you have to hide a lot, in fact, you live a double life.
- A minimum of moral shocks, everyday life, scandals; the other side is the option to remain single.
- A good time and... loneliness during the holidays.
Everyone has their own life, goals, privileges, above all to be happy, but in what way - the decision is yours.
We fight bad habits in men
First step . Talk about the action (bad habit), and not about the man as a bad, weak-willed person. For example, “I’m very upset that you drink/smoke,” “You smoke, your health worries me.” Those. action and designation of negativity to you.
Second step . Suggestion - you talk about the good that will happen if he restrains himself. For example, “when you’ve been holding back all day, I’ll give you a massage in the evening.” Conclusion: indicate what he will receive if he behaves “correctly”.
Third step . Show him encouragement that he will like it. For example, sex, fishing or hunting, do not pull him while he is watching TV.
Show him an example of how a strong man behaves with a woman.
Mars or Venus?
Remember forever. We, representatives of the stronger sex, unlike you women, do not like emotional reasoning, a lot of words and little meaning. Specific information is important to us. Not your vision, not your feelings about it, but dry logic. You can disarm your boyfriend with a logical conclusion, not with speculation, but with facts - he is your warm and soft one. This is the reason for the fundamental male actions inherent in him by nature.
Influencing the male with the help of constant emotional tricks: tears, hysterics, screaming, etc., gives a short-term effect. Afterwards, we adapt to the fact that we cried and went to eat our favorite low-fat yogurt. We stop perceiving you, with all your snot, as a tragedy and a need to obey. There are no arguments, there are emotions - the dialogue and the conclusions you want will not take place.
You need to talk to a man with your head, not with your emotions. More specifics means more respect and obedience from him.
