how to excite your husband while pregnant
Pregnancy is an unusual condition for a woman, which affects literally all areas of her life, including intimate ones. As a rule, the longer the period, the fewer sexual contacts occur. This is often due to the reluctance of the spouse, who is afraid of harming the baby in the womb, or loses interest in his wife, who has changed a lot in appearance. What to do, how to bring intimacy back into a relationship? Here are some tips on how to excite your husband while pregnant.
Photo session of a pregnant woman with her husband in the studio
A studio photo shoot is always attractive. In any weather, you can come and it will be cozy, warm, good. You will be offered a cup of tea or coffee. Even if you have to wait a little, the wait will still be in a soft chair. I'll tell you a little about myself.
I am a mother of two children who went through two pregnancies. If this is your first pregnancy, then you enjoy every moment, not counting toxicosis, of course. Until 6 months of pregnancy, everything seems to be going perfectly.
But as soon as the deadlines come to an end, a burning desire appears to give birth and already see your baby. I no longer want to get up 30 times a night to go to the toilet, I want to wear normal shoes, and not those that look like slippers.
And in general, I want to see my beloved baby, look into his eyes, rub his little cheeks, kiss his heels. Be patient a little and you will have it all.
And now you need to capture the most beautiful moments in your life. Probably the most important rule that you need to do before shooting is to find a good photographer who has already photographed pregnant women.
I usually tell my clients how to stand up, how to turn their head, where to look, how a husband should stand up. In the studio, I really like photographs by the window, even without artificial light.
If there is tulle in the studio, then I would use that too. You can either stand at the window or sit on the window.
Crisis in relationship with husband during pregnancy
Hello! I need advice and an outside perspective on the situation: my husband and I have been married for 4 years, together for 7 years, we couldn’t get pregnant for a long time, after long and persistent treatment, I am now pregnant, at 7 months. My husband was happy about the pregnancy, and of course I was too. Over the years that we have been together in our relationship, crises have periodically occurred, they consisted of the fact that my husband completely loses interest in me, does not kiss, does not hug, comes home from work, sits down at the computer with headphones in his ears and that’s it, he is not there, that is as a woman, I cease to exist for him, I also worked before maternity leave, I was also tired, but I was always ready to spend time with him, pamper him, kiss him, ask how he was doing, how the day went, etc.
I never learned how to get out of such crises correctly, I usually endured it, and then broke down and told him that I wasn’t happy with this behavior, that I didn’t have enough of his attention, they started quarreling because of this, sometimes I went to my mother, usually a few days later he got bored, came, said that he understood everything, that he loved him and that this was just such a difficult period, I accepted it and we made peace, for some time he again became loving, caring and affectionate
Sometimes during quarrels he said a lot of offensive things, that he regretted getting married, that he didn’t want children, that his feelings for me had passed, but as soon as he felt that he could lose me, he returned me, said that he didn’t think so and asked forgiveness, I forgave.
But with each such crisis in the relationship, it felt like something was breaking and, naturally, we could no longer return to the original relationship; each of us was left with some kind of grievances and understatements.
I tried to find out what caused such crises, he says that he has such a character that he often gets bored, nothing interests or pleases him, everything gets boring and apparently I do too.
In all other aspects of life, he is considered a good husband - he works, gives money to the family, does not drink, and has not been known to cheat
When we first started dating, everything was perfect for the first two years, then such crises began to recur more and more often, now within a month, apparently another one of them, I called him to talk, said that I couldn’t live like this, that I was alive, I needed his attention, communication, especially now during pregnancy, he said that he understands that it’s hard for me to be with him, that this is his character, that now there is a decline in his feelings for me and that he doesn’t want the child to grow up without a father, but and he doesn’t want to keep me by force either, he sees that I feel bad with him
I see that he doesn’t hold me, that is, in principle, he is mentally prepared for me to leave, as long as he lets me see the child later
I have somewhere to go, but I’m afraid that now that I’m pregnant I simply can’t psychologically cope with separation and divorce, and I’m crying all the time. In principle, he doesn’t kick me out, and if I can come to terms with his indifference, then I can live for a while as it is. - simple, like neighbors, but this is also very difficult for me
I suspect that he might have another girl, not even in terms of sex, but in terms of falling in love, and that he switched all his attention there (he stuttered about a new attractive work colleague)
Everything, of course, could be attributed to my pregnant hormones, but firstly, this is not the first such situation, and secondly, he himself admits that there are problems in the relationship, that his feelings have cooled down and that we are moving towards divorce
What to do in such a situation? I understand that he most likely hasn’t had feelings for me for a long time, I understand that we won’t make a reliable family, that it will always be like this, I love it, I don’t love it, but is it worth going into pregnancy right now? Or should I wait until the birth and until the baby grows up a little? Sorry for the confusion, my head is a mess.
Photo session of a pregnant woman with her husband in nature - 5 ideas
I’ll tell you a little about how they took pictures of me on the street when I was pregnant with my daughter. It was a hot summer of 2012, we really wanted to take good photos outside.
I thought for a long time about where to take pictures. At that time, we already had a little son, who was not even two years old. And he was far from a calm boy.
He liked to either sit on the arms or hide somewhere and you, in a panic, look for him throughout the clothing department in the supermarket. He liked to hide behind some hanger.
We had to find a place where we could see him and not be afraid that our baby was lost. We found a small lake near the city and a path to it.
We had clothes - white T-shirts and blue jeans, sneakers. The most important thing in an outdoor photo shoot is not to stress. You need to relax and enjoy the walk.
If you already have older children, then bring everything they need (water, diapers, food, a change of clothes). Let it all lie in your car. Below I will attach a photo of ideas on the street.
In general, I like it when there is some kind of plot. For example, you chose that you will have a picnic. Then you need to take a blanket, tea service, and small sandwiches. You can also take a kite with you and fly it at sunset. If shooting in the summer, then at 16:00. A boat ride is also suitable for an outdoor photo shoot. I don't like modern boats, but old, wooden ones with a little shabby colored paint. Start from what interests both of you.
For example, if you are an artist and love to draw, then take an easel with you to the field and paint a picture together. If you are a motorcycle lover, then you can take photos wearing helmets on a motorcycle.
If you love balloons, then order large blinders of the same color from a holiday agency. Let your dress be airy red and the balloons can also be ordered red.
If possible, you can drag a bathtub into the forest and fill it with leaves or apples or whatever you like. Beautiful photographs can be taken near the bridge, where there is a pond.
If the photo shoot is in winter, then find a beautiful street lamp and come to it when it gets a little dark. A beautiful mysterious light falls from the lantern. Also in winter you can use the lights of the city at night. If you are going to take photos in the evening, then ask the photographer if he has a special flashlight. If there is, then let him take it with him. The flashlight produces excellent shots. In winter, it is better not to take photos in the cold.
Otherwise you risk getting a red nose in the photo. And you will have Santa Claus with a red nose (your husband) and you with a red nose.
Dispel fears
Dispel fears
Particularly caring fathers often worry that sex during pregnancy could harm the baby. In their minds, during intercourse, the penis inside becomes a threat to the baby. This is not at all true if you approach the process with a certain amount of caution. To dispel your husband’s fears, you should recommend that he read several books or publications that cover the topic of sex during pregnancy. As a rule, such literature describes in detail possible risks and ways to eliminate them. Using these recommendations, you can choose the most optimal position that will help you have sex without fear of in any way injuring the baby in the womb or the expectant mother, whose condition is different from normal. In addition, your loved one should explain in detail that the fetus inside is under reliable protection of connective muscle tissue, which will not allow any mechanical impact on it. And the amniotic fluid in which the baby “swims” can smooth out all fluctuations. If the spouse still persists and worries, it is necessary that a doctor provide him with detailed advice on the topic of intimate life during pregnancy. You should take your husband with you to the next scheduled examination with a gynecologist, who will answer all questions and help dispel unreasonable fears.
How not to take photos in winter
1. Don’t go on skates - you risk falling.
2. Do not go into the forest at night, unless the photographer has a special flashlight for such shooting.
3. Don’t climb a tree - you risk falling again, but you need it.
4. Do not wear thin summer blouses, heels, or slippery shoes.
5. Don't think about your morning sickness. Think about him at home.
6. Don't overdo it to walk far. Let the shooting be somewhere nearby or let them take you there by car.
7. Don’t use cheesecakes to roll down slides in winter.
8. Don’t invite your mother or mother-in-law to the photo shoot. Let there be mystery and mystery. With mom there will be either a lot of laughter or a lot of tension.
9. Don't run or jump, even if the photographer asks you to.
10. Don’t wear gray clothes, it’s better to wear something bright if it’s winter, or white if it’s summer.
Pregnant wife or “other” – which one do I still love?
Let's say right away that the situation when your wife is pregnant and you fall in love with another does not mean the end of the world. But that’s not about that now. Have you heard the proverb “If you chase two hares, you won’t catch either”? Or “You can’t sit on two stools”? Heard? So, both of these proverbs apply to your current situation. Why? Because it is impossible to love two women at once (love for a mother or sister, of course, does not count - these are different feelings). Impossible! Even if you are sure otherwise. And in any case, you will have to choose between your wife and your new love. Just remember that family (wife and your future child) is synonymous with home warmth, reliability, and comfort. And your new love (we will discuss with you whether it really is love) is passion, freedom, romantic adventures... Which of these is more valuable to you? Decide youself.
Maybe it's just a passing fad?
Since such thoughts appeared in your head, it means that you yourself are not sure that your feelings for the new woman are genuine. Or maybe you feel like you don't love your wife anymore? After all, after several years of relationship, passion has faded, you no longer want to devote all your time to each other, quarrels and scandals are not uncommon. But at the beginning of the relationship with my current wife, everything was completely different... just like now with my new girlfriend! So! Stop! Here we come to an important thought that may help you make a choice. The whole point is that love is a thing that changes miraculously over time, but nevertheless does not cease to be it (provided that it was love in the full sense of the word).
Starting with falling in love, flirting and passion, for those who know how to keep it, love grows into something more. And this “more” is difficult to describe in one word. You can only feel it.
But this is all a lyrical digression, let’s return to the analysis of your situation. So, your relationship with your new girlfriend reminds you of the first meetings with your wife. Well, it looks like you, as people say, haven't had enough time. And there is nothing wrong with this, we don’t know how old you were or why you got married. Maybe you even had to do it against your will. And when choosing a new love, do you want to experience something that you have never experienced before? Just remember that, most likely, after some time this passion will pass, and the new relationship will become more ordinary and boring. This, of course, does not always happen! Some people actually meet their true love not the first time, and then they realize that all previous relationships were just a semblance of it.
Therefore, we urge you to finally sort out your feelings. If life with your real wife has become completely unbearable, you are tired of endless bickering and quarrels - leave. A child, of course, will “tie” you to your family for a while, but without drastic changes it will be difficult to save your family. What if, after short dates with your new passion, you rush home to your wife, who is waiting for you with dinner? Then maybe it’s time to give up on romantic adventures and realize that you have always loved only your wife? And you will have a baby soon! In a word, carefully evaluate everything and make a choice.
I don't love my wife, but I don't want to leave my child
So that's why you still haven't separated from your wife? You are afraid to look like a traitor in the eyes of your own child, who is about to appear. Hmm... it's complicated. Listen, how desired was this pregnancy? Perhaps your wife, tired of omissions and suspicions, became pregnant on purpose, quite rightly reasoning that if not her, then the child would definitely keep you. Yes, do you really think so? And you seem to be glad to break off relations with your wife, but the child has nothing to do with it. It’s not his fault that his parents’ lives didn’t work out. But living with an unloved woman, waking up every day knowing that somewhere out there you left the one and only... is unbearable. The choice, again, is up to you.
In our opinion, if there was no love in the family from the beginning (everyone knows that the reason for going to the registry office is not always love), then the appearance of a child will not save it. Moreover, children feel when they are unwanted and when their parents’ relationship is not working. So is there any point in torturing yourself and others? Or should I try to start all over again? Listen to what your heart and your mind tell you, and you will find the right solution.
