Having desired the body of another woman (or man) , be sure to understand exactly what path you are taking. Agree, if you want to try real BDSM or sex with suffocation, then there is no problem at least going to the Internet for information, which is teeming with such pearls that mom don’t cry. But still, in the case of adultery, it is better to rely not on your own omnipresent, but so often failing intuition, but on the body of knowledge accumulated by humanity on this topic. Because cheating is a very cunning practice that exhausts both the body’s physical and emotional resources, and also has a number of unpredictable, but sometimes quite pleasant side effects. And it is worth treating it with increased attention. In general, understand what to do if it’s too late to say “no” to your dark desire and you don’t know how to hide betrayal from your other half.
How to avoid getting caught cheating on a man
• Every man needs to remember that many women can be compared to an Indian who went on the warpath in full war paint. As a rule, there is practically no visible makeup on the faces of such ladies, and in the elevator they leave with a persistent smell of perfume for at least fifteen minutes. It is quite logical to assume that clothes absorb odors even better than an elevator, so if contact with clothing is inevitable, then when returning home, you can drink vodka and fall out in the trash. Believe me, it would be better for any woman to smell like schnapps and slop than Chanel No. 5.
. Although it would be more advisable to walk along the street for an extra hour and drop in on a friend who has a tart cologne in stock.
• Traces of makeup on a naked body are not as dangerous as, again, on ill-fated clothes. A simple shower will wash away all traces of ugliness, but lipstick not noticed in time on a snow-white collar is fraught. You can, of course, say at home: they say, a drunk passenger pressed herself in the transport. However, as practice shows, such excuses are not successful. Especially car owners. In this case, you can ask a friend (or, in extreme cases, do it yourself) to break your nose, lip , or fracture your skull. In general, a blood-stained collar will be a 100% guarantee of keeping a secret.
. Especially for women - don’t feed them bread, let them take pity on someone orphan. Although, of course, it’s easier to ask your mistress to look at you exclusively with a feminine gaze and simply wash away the incriminating evidence. And just one single hair can become such. It was not for nothing that the sword of Damocles hung by a thread. True, horsey, but still...
• A woman can also be easily compared to a big cat. And those, as you know, love to scratch. Especially in moments of passion. And although they say that scars make a man, rest assured that only your girlfriend will be interested in the scratches on your back. Trim your lover's nails, pull on her mittens, tie her hands, put on a vest
, the main thing, in the end, is to firmly remember: only a completely naive girl will not be able to guess the reason for the occurrence of such “battle wounds.” But if this happens, refer to the fact that you had to work a little as a loader (correction: it doesn’t work with big businessmen), a drunk Chinese did acupuncture, unsuccessfully did yoga on nails...
• Never solve the issue of unwanted SMS with a password on your phone. Women are suspicious, but more just curious
, like those Barbarians (or vBarbarians?). It’s better not to leave your number to your mistress and always call yourself.
Have you taken a lover? How to hide it from your husband
Many women believe that relationships on the side are something normal and natural. I would like to disappoint them, but this is not the case at all. Relationships on the side when you are married are one of the main reasons for separation. Sooner or later, if your husband finds out about your “affairs,” you will not escape trouble. And divorce is one of the simplest consequences, because a man who has been betrayed is worse than an angry bear. We recommend that you do not start a relationship on the side under any circumstances if you are already married to someone or are just dating - sooner or later the relationship on the side will become the cause of all your troubles. However, if our advice did not help you and you agreed to an affair “on the side,” then we will tell you how to hide from your husband that you have a lover. But remember: everything secret always becomes clear. And when the truth is revealed, there will be trouble.
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Don't show your husband that you have changed.
A woman, when she is overwhelmed with feelings and emotions associated with a man, changes very much.
She begins to take care of herself even more, wear bright makeup, and dress more and more sexy. Seeing all this, the husband may suspect something is wrong, so the advice to the ladies with their lover is to behave naturally, put out the sparkle in your eyes, wear your usual clothes, take off your “war paint”, and then your husband will not suspect your betrayal. 2. Get yourself an imaginary friend.
Naturally, when a woman has someone, she must devote time to him, and often the husband begins to suspect that his wife is wandering around somewhere.
Get yourself an imaginary friend who you can blame on being late home or being late at work. 3. Hide gifts from your lover.
Try not to show your husband gifts from your lover, and if he sees you have a new dress or some kind of jewelry, then you can refer to a distant relative who went abroad and left you a small inheritance as a present.
Or these are gifts from mom, but in no case from someone the husband has never even heard of. 4. Refer to business trips.
Not often, but you can refer to business trips if you want to spend time with your lover.
The main thing is that your husband cannot check this information, otherwise you will not escape the storm. 5. Don't bring home bouquets.
There is no need, I think, to say that the appearance of a wife at home with a bouquet of flowers (if she is not a teacher and not on September 1st) may arouse suspicion on the part of her husband.
Try not to bring home flowers from your lover, and if you do, then refer to the fact that you and your friends are going to sign up for a floristry class, or a bouquet for someone’s birthday. Whether the husband will believe it or not is another question. 6. Don't conduct love correspondence at home.
Try to sit at the computer at home as little as possible, this may cause unnecessary suspicion on the part of your husband.
It is better to conduct all correspondence with your lover at work, where even if you delete the history in the browser, it will not raise as many questions as at home. 7. Turn off your mobile phone at home.
Or agree with your lover so that he does not call you.
Suspicious calls and SMS primarily cause jealousy of the spouse. 8. Don't forget about marital duty.
If your husband sees that your relationship with him has faded, he will begin to look for the reason for this.
And it’s unpleasant to even think that another man could be the reason for this. 9. Do your chores.
The husband’s suspicions can also be aroused by the wife’s refusal to fulfill her direct duties. Try to continue to be yourself, and under no circumstances show that you have someone. Unless of course you want a scandal.
Here are some simple tips on how a woman can hide from her husband that she has taken a lover. However, before doing all this, think about whether the game is worth the candle? Maybe you should still love your spouse and be honest with him? Remember the main thing, any lie is revealed, and you won’t be able to deceive a man for a long time. And then you cannot avoid a scandal...
How to prevent cheating
We talked with Vita Nekrylova, a practicing psychologist, specialist in interpersonal relationships, and member of the All-Russian Professional Psychotherapeutic League, about how to use simple behavior to reduce the risk of a girl’s betrayal.
1 Load her with responsibilities
For the sake of the girl, you keep the apartment tidy, you hardly drink, and you even screwed a bolt on her mother. And you cook dinner yourself and listen to hysterics. So? Then don’t be surprised that one day, having faked a visit to a beauty salon, she goes to visit someone else. “A woman begins to truly value a man only when she herself invests something significant in the relationship,” explains the expert. “This could be any task, whether it’s cooking breakfast or cleaning.”
2 Talk about stupid things
“Often the reason for betrayal is hidden resentment,” says our consultant. You looked at the saleswoman the wrong way, looked too closely at the photograph of Zhanna Friske, often give your secretary Masha a lift... “Individually, all these are little things. But they accumulate like a snowball in a woman’s subconscious and provoke deep resentment,” says Vita. — A girl’s accidentally wounded pride, jealousy and excessive suspiciousness will make her suspect you of cheating. It is likely that in retaliation she will go to bed with someone else.” It’s easy to eradicate hidden grievances. It’s enough to talk to the girl about what might have bothered her, clearly explaining that Friske is just a magazine photograph, the saleswoman has braces on her teeth, and Masha finally bought a car.
3 Surprise
Have you been together for a long time and everything is fine and measured for you? “Stability is great. But a woman needs an emotional shake-up from time to time; she is looking for new experiences. This is a normal mental need, and if this need is not satisfied (clubs, erotic games, extreme sports), then the girl will look for fresh sensations in sex with other partners,” the expert warns.
4 Ask her opinion
“One of the reasons for betrayal is the constant struggle of partners for dominance,” our consultant is sure. “A girl can sleep with someone else only because that person values her point of view.” Of course, it's normal when you choose a new laptop for her. But create at least the illusion of a joint choice. “It is important for a girl to understand that ultimately the responsibility for making decisions lies with the man. But when making this decision, she should feel that her opinion is important to you and it does not go unnoticed,” says the expert. Next time, no matter what you are arguing about, let the woman speak, try to convince her that another solution (yours) is better, and wait until she agrees with it. “Unity of choice and a sense of the importance of the opinion of each partner help the girl realize the uniqueness of your relationship,” our consultant assures.
How to get rid of psychological dependence on your husband?
Hello Olga! From your description, it sounds a lot like a midlife crisis. Both you and your husband, which only complicates the situation. At this time, you want and it seems that this is the case, to cross out your previous life, a radical revaluation of values begins. It seems that it is necessary to start something new, to start living again, but it is scary and it seems that there is not enough strength. It's good that you are working on a new lifestyle, looking for a job, changing your appearance. Just think, is it worth changing everything like that? The first thing that needs to be reconsidered is the value of your former life with your husband. Yes, now there are ruins and hatred, but this was not always the case. You don’t want to lose your husband even now. He is dear to you, no matter what. This is your right and this is your desire. Accept this as your wish. Not all of our desires are fulfilled, but many can be fulfilled. You tried to get closer to him, but it led to the opposite result. This means your methods were wrong. Instead of helping, they caused the opposite effect. I advise you to pause. Just stay with what you have now and think and observe. Both for yourself and for your husband. Too much inadequacy of his reaction may indicate that some feelings remain, but they are poisoned by irritation, anger, perhaps pain... And this pain and anger is quite possibly not caused by you, but by his own. It is sometimes very difficult to accept your own pain and sadness, and here you come across with your jealousy at random, with comments and, most importantly, with your pain... You remind him with your suffering of his suffering and this is just unbearable, believe me... You have been together a lot years, but some things cannot be shared. Everyone has their own pain of the unfulfilled, their own fears, their own disappointments. Everyone has their own feelings and there is no habit or ability to share them. There is a habit of chasing them away, not letting them in, and kicking them away. Your appearance has changed, it's annoying. Or maybe you really feel bad for your appearance? Or for youth? And so on... Looking through such glasses, you can see a lot in your life differently. Maybe it will be possible to start communicating in a different way. Accept some things as inevitable, but change some things and do them in a completely new way. Try it! If it gets difficult, you can always ask for help.
How to get rid of psychological dependence on a person?
Istranova Natalya Leonidovna, psychologist Moscow
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