How to pick up a guy at work. Three secrets

These are the Americans! Instead of doing the actual work at work, they invent ways to send nonverbal signals to male colleagues. And then they say that they have a crisis and recession.

As you know, work is a place where sexual temptations await you at every step. And this is not surprising: where else, if not at work, do people of both sexes spend most of their time talking and without touching each other? It's no surprise that people fall in love with a co-worker from time to time. Usually, they have to listen to a lot of advice about what not to do. Also, these tips usually fall on deaf ears: as statistics show, more than 50% of people go on a date with their work colleagues. The American newspaper HooK shares the secrets of how best to pick up a guy at the next desk.

Play out loud

Most men are unable to perceive female signals. They can easily mistake a friendly smile for an invitation to have sex. But at the same time, men do not perceive non-verbal signals of sexual interest. This is once again proven by the results of an experiment during which students were shown images of girls who tried to make it clear by their appearance that they were attracted to a man. The vast majority of participants in the experiment mistakenly perceived these signals as an expression of friendliness.

Rest assured that during the work process, men will be even less receptive to non-verbal cues. And if your office is populated by knowledge workers engaged in creating some kind of information, then the number of unperceived courtesies will be much greater. According to scientists, this occurs as a result of the so-called Asperger syndrome. The ability to recognize nonverbal signals is formed in early childhood, so children who think like Einstein very often become the owners of Asperger's syndrome. As a result of its development, the area of the brain responsible for logical thinking, spatial perception and memory develops better, to the detriment of the part of the brain responsible for recognizing non-verbal signals.

Thus, when it comes to a man's inability to perceive sexual overtones, it varies depending on the level of male intelligence: the higher it is, the more difficult it is for a man to cope with non-verbal hints of a sexual nature.

If he's interested, don't give up without a fight.

If you know for sure that a guy is interested in you, make him work hard to get you. Males simply need to feel like a hunter pursuing prey. Even laboratory mice demonstrate this. In addition, it has long been known that men (women, too, by the way) do not take seriously relationships that have not had a courtship process. According to statistics, only 3% of couples who indulge in lovemaking on the first date end up getting married. Thus, if you want something more from a guy than a fleeting love affair, get ready to play hard to get.

It is worth noting an interesting detail. Most men and women intuitively increase their worth until they meet their “dream woman/man.” After this, both forget about all socio-ethical norms and plunge headlong into the ocean of love pleasures.

Don't take the first step if you're not the same age

Approximately 80% of both sexes are ready to take the first step to start a relationship. However, if a man and a woman belong to different age categories, it is the man who, as a rule, makes the first step. A study of long-term relationships of couples in which the woman is older than the man found that in this case, the first step in 95% of cases was taken by the man.

Another study, conducted by researchers at the University of California, Santa Cruz, found that the way older men make the first move in trying to get into a relationship is by mentoring a woman as an overture to an affair.

So, if a guy is the same age as you, buy the book “How to Pick Up a Colleague” and feel free to go into battle. If a man is older or younger than you, make him pursue you. In any case, remember that on average a modern person changes jobs every year and a half. So, if something doesn’t work out for you, take failure as a “test of the pen” - anyway, soon you will work in another place.

And in conclusion, we note that starting to date a work colleague is sometimes much easier than understanding that this is exactly what you want.

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Tips for modest representatives of the fair sex

Not all women are ready to take the initiative into their own hands, so these girls have their own secrets with which they can seduce a male colleague.

Lessons in seducing a man for modest ladies:

Internet! Becoming friends with a colleague on social networks does not bode well; it is just friendly communication. And there you can already wander around - mark or comment on the photo you like, explore its vacation spots, view your preferred styles of music.
Find yourself in the same work stream (joint preparation of a project, development of a plan, business trip). Don't miss the opportunity to spend more time with your colleague.
Find yourself “accidentally” where a male colleague spends his off-duty hours. What's wrong with that? You signed up for the gym because it is very popular, you prefer this cafe because they serve delicious julienne...
Improve yourself. The growing personality attracts with its charisma and versatility. Men love successful people, and you will only have advantages from this.
Gradually intrigue with your appearance. It will be great if you find out what kind of ladies he likes. This doesn't mean you have to put on hair extensions or wear a tight black skirt. Men are sometimes like children; they can live by prejudices or stereotypes. Some people categorically dislike blondes, hoodie dresses, red lipstick, and sharp nails. Well, make a small adjustment to your wardrobe or appearance. Pamper yourself with a change!

If after all your timid but consistent attempts at seduction you do not see any possible development, value your time. Think about whether you need a man who is unable to see and feel your subtle mental organization. Don't become a hostage to feelings or a secret admirer of an unapproachable colleague.

A corporate party brings colleagues together well. Just don’t try to extinguish your shyness with a large dose of alcohol - it can make you do/say things that are unusual for you, which will make you feel ashamed to go to work later!

Are you not afraid to take the first steps, so are you ready to seduce your favorite male colleague in the near future? Great! Emancipated women have long ceased to cause surprise or condemnation.

So, the secrets of seducing a male colleague for purposeful, active ladies:

Invite him to an event that will allow you to chat in an informal setting. Just choose a place that will not strongly hint at sympathy on your part.
When communicating, do not be too straightforward - security questions or phrases can cause awkwardness, and then you will reproach yourself. Let the hints be ambiguous, and the dialogue be filled with lightness.
If a colleague agrees to continue the evening, and you don’t mind, don’t go to his house, rather invite him to your place or drink coffee on a bench near the fountain. Keep your face - he must pursue you.
No publicity. Ask a man about this - let this communication be secret for now. Everything should go as usual, and let employees know about your meetings later.

Strong women often make mistakes in their behavior with potential partners. Don’t go too far when trying to seduce, use your inner strength as a weapon: no vulgar jokes, “thick” hints, pressure or neglect. Remain fragile, mysterious and wise, let the man go crazy from your many advantages!

If the man is a colleague

As a rule, new employees at work attract attention. A work colleague whose attention a woman wants to attract may turn out to be such an employee. Or the woman herself may end up in a new team at a new job, where one of the employees made a strong impression on the woman. In the first case, starting a relationship at work is not as risky as in the second. How to interest a man

, you can proceed from the situation. In a new workplace you need to show yourself as a professional. Flirting will be regarded not just as frivolous behavior, but a frivolous attitude towards work and one’s responsibilities.

How to seduce a man at work

Well, office romance often forms the basis of a strong union. You already have common interests - at least professional ones - and you spend a lot of time together. All that remains is to wait for a good reason to transfer the relationship from work to romantic. The best option would be a joint business trip. Another suitable place is a corporate event. Just don't drink too much champagne for courage. Control your actions and do not lose your dignity, because no matter what happens, you will still have to work together and see each other in the office every day.

Office romance has its pros and cons, so weigh it all carefully before taking decisive action. Explore the waters with playful correspondence in the work chat: this way you will quickly be able to recognize his mood and demonstrate your interest. How to seduce a man correctly? Try to go to lunch with him more often and communicate not only during working hours. And at a meeting, sit next to him and touch his hand under the table. Anyone will understand such hints, and retaliatory actions will not be long in coming.

How to seduce and keep a man: TOP 15 secret ways

For centuries, girls have been “hunting” for the best representatives of the stronger sex. Wise ladies have hundreds of tricks and ways to charm a man in their arsenal. They are happy to share their experience with their younger “followers.”

But just winning a guy’s attention is not enough, you also need to keep him. Therefore, we present to your attention the TOP 15 tips that will allow you to captivate a man and remain in his heart forever.

TOP 10 ways to seduce a man

Men are very flattered when women like their jokes. They immediately become bolder and proud of their sense of humor. After all, they themselves believe that it is capable of captivating any lady. Just don't overdo it with laughter. It's better to do this only when the joke is really successful. Otherwise it will turn out like the old saying: “Laughter for no reason is a sign of... you know what.” If you “sneer” at any reason, you can be considered stupid. This will only alienate a normal, sane man.

Shoot your eyes

A very old trick that, oddly enough, works almost flawlessly. It’s especially suitable if you haven’t yet met a man who “has fallen into your soul.” The first step is to establish eye contact with the “object”. Then, as soon as he sees that you are looking at him, sharply look away to the side. It should seem to him that you looked at him purely by chance. Then look at the man again, but longer and more languidly. You can do it shyly, from under your eyelashes. Hold your gaze to let him know that you are interested in him.

Drop an object and pick it up erotically

This method was described in the movie Legally Blonde, where the character of actress Reese Witherspoon taught her friend to drop a pencil beautifully and pick it up sexy. Of course, you don’t need to do this so demonstratively, so as not to put yourself in an awkward position. Do everything as naturally as possible. You can even practice at home. By the way, it is not at all necessary to lift the thing yourself. If you drop something not far from a man, he, like a gallant gentleman, is simply obliged to help you.

Run your finger along the stem of the glass

According to psychologists, in men such an action evokes erotic fantasies at the subconscious level. After all, the glass can be called a phallic symbol. The technique is also very old. But, they should be used as a last resort. Since most often this action looks rather vulgar. Naturally, by stroking a glass, you can only attract a guy sexually. There can be no talk of any “spiritual” connection or other interests. If there are other opportunities to charm the opposite sex, then it is better to take advantage of them.

Share his hobbies

All kinds of hobbies and time spent together are a great bonding experience. This way you can get to know the young man better. But this is suitable for those couples who have already passed the dating stage. How can you charm a stranger in this way? You can safely go to a sports bar for some advertised match and root for the team of the guy you like. But do not forget that he may ask you some question related to football. Therefore, it is better to prepare in advance in order to be savvy and at least minimally support the conversation. In general, if you don't really like football, then this idea won't be the best. Imagine starting a serious relationship with this ardent fan. And then what? Should you admit to cheating or go to the stadium until you are old? It’s better to choose a hobby that you really like and look for a mate in the company of like-minded people.

Eat something erotic

Tip in the “glass stem” style. It can also cause only sexual thoughts or even negativity in your direction. Such flirting is considered too open and vulgar. But, if you decide to resort to this method, then give preference to products such as lollipops, bananas, and ice cream. All this can be eaten as erotically as possible. Don't forget that you need to eat not only sexy, but also neatly. No one has ever liked a stained blouse or dirty cheeks.

Be mysterious

Some girls manage to be so mysterious that even ten years after marriage they remain full of secrets for their chosen one. Of course, this excites the male mind as much as possible. You want to figure out such a woman, finish her off and please her in everything, just to achieve what she wants. It seems to him that he is already at his goal. But she slips through his fingers and he has to start all over again. Surprisingly, men are not at all bothered by such a chase. On the contrary, it prevents them from getting bored.

Play with your hair

Owners of lush, well-groomed and long hair hold all the cards. You can coquettishly twirl a strand of hair around your finger (by the way, this irritates many men), or you can languidly push your hair back with your hand. This way, you will expose your neck, and it is one of the TOP sexiest female body parts, according to men. Just don’t overdo it so that the man doesn’t think there’s something wrong with your head. Don't adjust your hair too often. This already looks like neurosis. And, yes, don’t forget that your hair should be perfectly clean. Just like you don’t twirl dirty curls around your finger, you won’t be able to attract anyone.

Speak with a breath

The timbre of your voice greatly influences your first impression. Very loud, low, squeaky can scare away not only a man, but also all the people around. To hint to a man that you “like” him, make your voice “velvety.” It should sound melodious and quiet enough that the guy wants to listen to your every word. And if he sits far away from you at the table, for example, then your quiet voice will make him sit closer.

Ask for help and praise

Any little thing (which you can do yourself, of course) done for you will make a man feel like a hero. Let them open doors for you, give you a chair, take off your outerwear, give you your jacket if it gets cold. Do not take all these signs of attention for granted, praise your companion or chosen one. Feel free to ask for small favors that will not complicate the young man or put him in an awkward position. It’s not worth asking the first person you meet for money, but figuring out why the car won’t start is very correct.

Don't take the first step if you're not the same age

About 80% of both sexes are ready to take the first step. However, if a man and a woman are not the same age, it is the man who will make the first step at work. A study of relationships between young women and older men found that more than 95% of men made the first move.

A University of California study found that older men prefer to start relationships with younger women, becoming work mentors for them. This type of partnership often moves to a more romantic level.

It's also worth remembering that the average person changes jobs every 18 months. So if you couldn’t find your destiny at one job, you can safely move to another.

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