A vacation is remembered not only by the sea, good weather and sights, but also by a beautiful resort romance, because it is this that gives the most unforgettable impressions. We tell you what to do if your soul demands continuation and you don’t want to be disappointed.
It can disappear into memories or develop into true love and a strong union. No matter what happens, you will definitely get a great experience and bright emotions. Follow the tips on how to behave on vacation and, when starting an affair on the Cote d'Azur, you will be able to act not only with your heart, but also with your mind.
Holiday Romance Rules
Natural course of things
The main rule that applies to all men is that only 20% of them are ready to continue the affair. Your goal is to relax and only then meet a man. If you want to hide it, nonverbal signs will give you away. We are not suggesting that you give up flirting and easy feelings of falling in love, but do not take special actions to stimulate this process. Let everything happen naturally, as if you yourself did not expect such a turn of events.
Be on the lookout
This point should always be kept in mind - you should not give a man a hint that he can fool you around his finger. Let's return to the first rule - 80% of the stronger sex are not going to renew the relationship, much less run to the registry office after an affair at a resort.
Self-control is paramount
The heart and head must remain cool. This is especially true for girls who fall in love very quickly. You will quickly find a handsome guy who will turn your head with his impeccable pumped up body and bottomless blue eyes, and before you even have time to come to your senses, you will lose self-control and fall in love without memory. Keep your mind and soberly assess what is happening.
Be ready to change your life and move
No matter how stunning and beautiful the holiday romance is, sooner or later the vacation will come to an end and you will board different planes.
You must understand that the likelihood that your significant other lives in the same city with you is minimal. The romance will not continue if you are definitely not ready to change location because of a man. In rare cases, a man drops everything and flies after his chosen one; this happens more often in romantic films than in reality. To avoid getting caught in the web of emotional addiction, you must make a decision in advance.
Alena Khmelnitskaya
After her divorce from Tigran Keosayan, Alena did not think about a new relationship, but a vacation trip to Nice made adjustments to the young woman’s life plans. At one of the friendly parties, she met Alexander Sinyushin, who quickly became his own man for Khmelnitskaya and her two daughters from her first marriage. Close communication continued in Moscow, but the lovers are in no hurry to register their relationship. Everyone has a painful divorce behind them, and Alena and Alexander consider the stamp in their passports an empty formality.
How to prolong a romance after returning home
Find out as much as you can about each other
Ask about interests, field of activity, what goals everyone sets for themselves. Every little detail is important, because the more points of contact, the better. This will help to properly build your relationships outside the resort.
Try to get to know him for who he really is.
Feel the man who is in real life.
Do the same on your part - show yourself as you are outside of rest. In a relaxed environment, we behave differently because we are not burdened by anything. We are euphoric and turn into a sweet, sexy girl. Men feel it, so they are ready to carry it in their arms. But the reality is different, in ordinary life you behave differently. Think about it, what kind of man would want to see an iron lady after an affectionate bunny? His idea of you will be destroyed, because he fell in love with a positive and charming creature. With a man, too, in life he may not be so charming, charming and gentle.
What topics should you talk about?
- Job;
- schedule;
- job responsibilities;
- how complex is his field of activity;
- how often stressful situations happen to him;
- how and in what way he conducts his life.
Take off your masks, friend, and behave naturally. Start with yourself, show who you are. Tell us what kind of life you are used to, make it clear that you may not like something. It is very difficult to get out of the image and pretend all your life, so give up this game from the very beginning.
Show interest in his plans for life
Talk about your plans and easily learn about his ideas. You must understand exactly what to expect from a man later. Are your goals the same? If not, you have minimal chances of building a strong and long-lasting relationship.
Always stay in touch even when you're apart
Thanks to modern technology, staying connected is a snap.
You can make a video call, chat in instant messengers, or just talk on the phone. In such communication (by telephone, Internet, correspondence) there are subtleties that are very important to know and understand in order to build truly high-quality and desirable relationships.
It is important to remember that a man loves with his eyes, which means he needs to always look at you - video communication, photo exchange and other benefits of the 21st century will help realize this after returning from vacation. Later you can meet again - he will fly to you or invite you to his place.
Ani Lorak
Lorak's holiday romance began very romantically. The manager of a Turkish hotel, Murat Nalchadzhioglu, began talking to a guest who was relaxing in the park, and a few months later the lovers were already spending time in Paris. According to Anya’s recollections, Murat courted her beautifully and from the first days of their acquaintance he persuaded her to get married. But the wedding took place only after a three-year relationship. The couple had a daughter, Sofia, and from the outside they looked like perfect lovers. But 9 years after the meeting, Lorak filed for divorce. She did not want to put up with her husband’s infidelities.
A holiday romance can ruin a person’s life: tested in Anapa
A saleswoman of children's clothing in a regular store in Anapa sent a letter to the editor in which she told how a passing hobby ruined her life. A holiday romance turned her life into a living hell. She was faced with the question: honestly tell everything to her husband or remain silent? She revealed what she has regretted for over 10 years.
Nadezhda N. sent a letter to the editor with a request to publish it, after changing the name:
- I ask you to publish my letter. Maybe some of the young fools who read it will be able to save their family in a situation similar to mine.
This was more than 10 years ago. I worked in one of the restaurants as an administrator. There were a lot of visitors during the season; I couldn’t even remember the faces of the visitors. But I still singled out one person from this mass of people. Chance helped and we met. It turned out that he was a retired diplomat who had traveled half the world, fluently speaking 7 languages, including Farsi. A well-read, intelligent man with amazing charisma.
He dined at our restaurant every day. During my duty, we usually exchanged a few words, greeting each other. But one day he invited me to sit over a cup of coffee in the evening after my shift. As a result, we sat until late, and then went for a walk around Anapa at night. To be honest, my new acquaintance turned out to be an excellent conversationalist and I got so carried away that I forgot that I had a husband and two children at home. The phone died and died, and I lost track of time. As a result, we parted only in the morning.
Considering that in our restaurant (at the hotel) some kind of force majeure constantly arose, my husband somehow didn’t particularly inquire why I was late. After that evening, I began to stay late quite often. The husband, again, was understanding, especially since he is a truck driver and soon left to travel around central Russia. The children didn’t really care about me either. They are adults, independent.
My new acquaintance charmed me so much that I quickly and without unnecessary persuasion began to visit his apartment. somehow, word by word, it got to the point that he invited me to move to Moscow with him. Autumn has arrived and two honeymoons are behind us. And then I realized that I wanted to leave my husband. My husband arrived after another business trip, and I decided to tell him everything. The very state of living a lie these two months was terrible for me.
After our conversation, my husband started drinking. He drank without drying out. On the one hand, I felt sorry for him, but on the other hand, I understood that I wanted to live with another person. My mother-in-law, having learned about our breakup with my husband, called me all sorts of names. Meanwhile, my new acquaintance left for Moscow at the end of the season, saying that he was waiting for me to divorce my husband.
And I filed for divorce. While I was resolving my issues and preparing for a trip to Moscow, my new beloved man began to behave strangely: he began to call less often, and when talking about our future, he began to somehow avoid the conversation. And soon his mobile phone was blocked. I didn’t even bother to ask for the address, because he said he would meet me at the airport. I even left money for the ticket.
And here the worst thing began. I realized that I was simply abandoned like a dog, having played enough. The relationship with my husband is ruined. And I started looking for an apartment to rent. But the season was over, we were asked to leave work. I haven't saved a lot of money. After two months of wandering, I came home and found myself in a real hell. My husband didn't beat me, no. But he drank and humiliated me with words. Mother-in-law too! The children turned their backs on me!
Time passed. I changed jobs and tried to be at home less often. Work, then spent the evenings with a friend. Over time, the children began to feel sorry for me and treated me as before. My husband still drinks, although not as often anymore. Health doesn't allow it. But we have been living as neighbors for 10 years now. We have some family issues, we solve them. But there is no family as such. Neither my husband nor I have a new relationship. This is how a holiday romance ruined my life!
So women, before you give in to a hobby, think carefully about whether it’s worth it. And if something happens, you better keep your mouth shut!”
Previously, Anapa Notebook wrote about flying in the skies over Anapa.
How “oriental princes” prey on Russian single women
I once read that every second Russian woman who vacationed in exotic countries started a holiday romance there. I don’t know how true this information is, I think that everything is quite conditional. What I read still stuck in my mind. And I remembered this now, when on First they air a simple series for housewives, “Sultan of My Heart.” I’m just sure that many single ladies immediately began to dream of such a handsome man. And even a harem is not scary for them. But this is so, a fairy tale for the poor, and we are about a harsh life.
In purely everyday terms, without notations about the “shape of morality,” it is clear that not only women, but also men are driven to “leftist” novels by the simple human desire to love and be loved. There are short holiday novels. So bright that they warm the soul on long, dark and cold winter evenings, and it happens that they have a continuation. For some, it’s like in the movie “Love and Doves,” while for others (well, very rarely), it’s like in the fairy tale “and they lived happily ever after.”
An interesting fact, again from the stories of friends and numerous women’s stories from forums on the Internet, is that the victims of holiday romances are often ladies of Balzac’s age. The classic Frenchman was the first to explain to ordinary people in an accessible language the vulnerability of a fading woman in the desire, before inevitable old age, to experience the thrill of the heart and the sweet languor of love for the last time, as happens in youth. And no matter how much they say that women should be wiser in such circumstances (age obliges them), few can rely on common sense when in front of you is the sea, the stars and a sultry macho, and the body, supported by rest and increased nutrition, asks for sex. And, if resort love is not regarded as a small gift of fate for a short time, resort girls will face disappointment, resentment, bewilderment, financial losses, and sometimes tragedy.
Galina Danilova
I met my future husband on vacation in Turkey. Her chosen one drove a tourist boat and quickly won the heart of the comic actress, known for the “6 Frames” project. Galina immediately after the luxurious wedding began building a family nest: she bought land, organized the construction of a house, and dreamed of a carefree life in a corner of paradise. But her husband, Seyhun Ezber, was not faithful and often cheated on his new wife. In addition, he tried to register real estate and cars in his name, and during the first serious conflicts with Danilova, he sold the land and house. After a painful breakup, Galina focused on creativity and raising her daughter. By her own admission, she doesn’t even think about new relationships: her fourth divorce was so hard for her.
Despite the skepticism about holiday romances, many manage to find their destiny during a carefree vacation. But you shouldn’t completely “turn off your head” during the holidays: this can lead to bitter disappointments.
