10 compliments your wife craves to hear from you

What you should always tell your wife directly

“I love you” or “I’m so glad I have you”

It is known that women love with their ears, therefore, first of all, it is necessary to talk more often about love to your spouse and about your readiness to always support her in any situation.

“You are my most beautiful”

Everyone wants to hear compliments and kind words. The wife will be especially pleased to know that her beloved does not forget to show tender feelings, even if they have lived together for a long time and are accustomed to each other.

“You are a wonderful housewife and mother”

What woman doesn’t dream of such recognition from her man? After all, this is how her husband proves his devotion to her, and she feels unprecedented self-confidence - next to her is the one she has dreamed of all her life.

"I couldn't have done it without you"

Yes, let it be men who are the stronger sex, and, of course, they can do everything themselves: earn money, arrange repairs, and take their child to kindergarten.

But isn’t it so easy to smile at your wife and thank her for her help in even a minor matter? Maybe she was just nearby while he worked hard at the computer. The main thing is that he really couldn’t have done it without her.

"Don't worry, we'll be fine"

No matter what happens in the family, no matter how difficult the situation, these words always inspire. A woman who hears them often will clearly be the happiest in the world.

What should a wife say to her husband leaving the family?

Two family monologues with a suitcase at the doorstep (the wife’s correct speech to her husband leaving the family). I would like to draw your attention to the fact that the title of the text does not contain the familiar concept of “dialogue”. In many women's glossy magazines and even popular science books on the topic of family psychology, it is always written: “If there is a danger of divorce, you should immediately enter into a dialogue with your husband.” I completely agree that dialogue should be entered into. But as a practitioner, I understand that such a conversation cannot be called a dialogue in the full sense of the word. After all, what is dialogue? This is a conversation between two interlocutors in which, firstly, they hear each other, secondly, they want to understand each other’s position and arguments, and thirdly, they are able to change their behavior. In the situation of a husband’s betrayal, his sudden departure from the family for his wife, or her communication with him when the husband is already living with another woman, dialogue, as a rule, does not work out. The wife is in a highly stressed state, and the husband is in a state of aggressive psychosis or depressed. In fact, we are dealing with two temporarily not very sane people. Those who do not so much want to hear their partner as to insult him, hit him (it’s good if only for self-esteem), hurt him (it’s good if only morally), to rise in their own eyes, or at least to be convinced of their own rightness. What kind of dialogue is there?! About the same as between a blind and a deaf person. We are clearly dealing with two monologues here. That is why this article was named that way.

What do I want to say in it, what knowledge do I want to provide you with? Now you will be offered the version of the wife’s monologue that I myself use when counseling a married couple or separately a husband who is either going to leave the family or has already left. Since it is quite problematic to take into account absolutely all the options for the situations that wives face when their husbands leave the family, the wife’s monologue I propose is made more or less universal. This is a kind of “skeleton” on which you can hang something else. Just not very much: the possibilities of any skeleton, even the most durable and flexible, are not limitless. Now to the text. It can and should be used in three cases:

- when the husband has just announced his readiness to leave the family;

- when he began to behave like a “shuttle”: having left the family, he nevertheless sometimes expresses a desire to spend the night at his wife’s house, or tries to build friendly communication with her and restore intimate relationships;

— when the time approaches for a magistrate’s court hearing regarding divorce.

The text itself, as mentioned above, is a monologue of a family psychologist or wife. You can ask your husband leading questions, or you don’t have to ask them, or you don’t have to wait for an answer. At the end of the monologue, an immediate final response, decision or comment from the husband is also not required. In his stressed or depressed state, he still won’t give it to you or will change his point of view in the future. Therefore, your task is to first sow a small seed of intelligence into your husband’s consciousness, and then wait some time for it to sprout and bear fruit. According to my observations, in seven out of ten cases this dialogue works and helps bring the husband home. But of course, only if the wife also follows all the other recommendations from this book. So:

Monologue of a wife in front of her husband leaving the family: “Darling, before you leave or do something irreparable, I need to tell you something. At the same time, I don’t demand any answer or reaction from you, you don’t even have to prepare an objection to me... How do I see our family life? I see it as complex, difficult at times, but still quite effective. What does effective mean? This means that every couple starting a family sets simple goals for themselves: to buy their own home, car, dacha, have healthy and smart children, raise them and bring them into adulthood. At the same time, so that the husband and wife can always turn to each other for help and advice, do not shout at each other, avoid mutual insults, do not resort to assault, and communicate more or less smoothly with each other’s relatives. And the family should also have regular sex, some kind of cultural program, pride in each other, help in career and educational growth, spending leisure time and vacations together, the feeling that in this family we are all someone: we are valued here, respected, they give in return no less, and maybe even more, than we ourselves. This is family.

Now let's look at you and me. During that journey, those five (three, ten, fifteen, etc.) years that you and I went through as a family, we solved most of these problems. We got an education, advanced in our careers, bought an apartment. Even if it’s a mortgage, or a small one, but still your own. (Someone got a big house.) We have a normal car (or two). There is a dacha. Every year we go on vacation to the sea/lake. After all the difficulties of the first period, we communicate more or less normally with our parents. We have a child/children who is doing great: he studies, tries, and achieves his results. Our social status has grown: we met as students (ordinary managers, state employees, civil servants, etc.), now we are deputies or bosses (directors, businessmen), recognized authorities in our fields of activity. Looking back at the path we have traveled, it is obvious: we are growing in life in general, plus each of us has made great progress as a Personality. This became possible because we always supported each other, helped with advice and action, were happy for each other, and correctly divided responsibilities among ourselves.

But, the most important thing now is not even our successes in life. The main thing is that throughout all these years of our life together, you were the Master in our family home! You worked not only for the benefit of the family as a whole, but also for yourself, improving your own life. We loved and supported you, guided and accepted you for who you are. Of course, I criticized and scolded you, but you grew in life thanks to this too! It is impossible not to see and not to recognize it! Now, when you are going to start living with another girl, it is important that you understand that from now on you are going to work not for yourself, but for another person. Now you will serve not your own interests, but those of others. You could be deceiving me about something, you could be hiding some of your income from me, you could be brushing me off, you could be presenting me with a fait accompli. This will not happen in your new family: there you will report to your new wife in everything. Live without delays, without lies, without fake business trips, financially transparent and so on. Otherwise, they will quickly put you in your place or even kick you back with your things. Do you need all this? The big question is... Can you live like this for many years? I doubt it very much.

Here, even though we could swear and argue, the main thing in the family was still you. In the new family, the main one will obviously be your girlfriend, who has already managed to impose her will on you, carefully leading you to a result that, when starting a relationship with her, you might not have even thought about. You will curry favor with her, you will be the first to ask for forgiveness, you will try not to aggravate the situation. In general, you will be forced to behave in a way that you could not even imagine while living with me, in our common family. You will behave in a way that you have always considered shameful for yourself; you ridiculed this behavior of the “henpecked” of your friends. So your path as an independent and proud Macho in a new family will end. There you will be a humble worker, working for the benefit of another woman and her environment. If you think about this thoughtfully, you will immediately understand that I am right. Although, of course, this can be unpleasant for your pride.

Again, let's ask: were there many people who wanted to live with you, have children from you in your youth, when we were just starting family life with you? I think no. As time passes, I even wonder how I decided to do all this myself. There was no calculation in our love with you, there were real feelings. You weren't successful or rich yet, you were just one of many guys. And I didn’t love you for an expensive car, a luxurious apartment or a high position. I fell in love with you for the high personal qualities that you had then. I trusted you with everything. Of course, having matured, established yourself in life, achieved something, you have become a tasty morsel for many smart girls. Of course, you appreciate their attention. Only you must understand that they do not need you yourself as an individual, but only your social position, your money, your connections, your apartment, your fashionable car for which the two of us are still paying off loans. They are not at all interested in how you and I earned all this, how much health it all cost us. Yours and mine. They will not know how we limited our children to expensive toys and beautiful clothes when we saved everything for it. They limited it, hoping to live on a broader scale later together: you, me and our children. These girls don't want to take risks, they want to come prepared. Whether your current girlfriend will be there when you suddenly have a heart attack or stroke is still a big question. Or they will say: let this man in a wheelchair be looked after by his family and children. And they will roll you to the threshold of our apartment. Or they won’t take you home from the hospital. But whether your children will need you after abandoning them is still a big question.

Now about the children, about our lives in general. You and I have lived together for many years! We resolved the main issues, had children, and everything stabilized and became clear for us. It’s like a farmer or a tiller: he plowed a field, planted grains, they hatched, and ears of corn began to grow. Now you just need to wait for full ripening, harvest and enjoy life in abundance. How will people appreciate the farmer who took and abandoned everything at the harvest stage, gave up and left to cultivate and plant a new field? They will probably consider his actions strange and illogical. Meanwhile, your actions are exactly like that! Your life has stabilized, we have just begun to live, not counting the last money in our pockets, we have surpluses and plans for the future, children are growing up, then grandchildren will come... And are you ready to lose all this just like that, overnight? That is, you are leaving us just when the time has come to receive well-deserved joint dividends? Then, when we went through the hardest part, raised children, adjusted our daily life, learned how to manage a family budget? Do you really have ten lives, so that every five (ten, fifteen, etc.) years you start all over again? Will the builder who starts digging a new pit every year build a high-rise building? Hardly. This will be done only by those who patiently rush upward, without running back and forth. Of course, this is your business, but it’s still worth thinking about what your life will look like in ten to fifteen years: how will you live, will anyone need you in your old age? Now from the outside it looks like all the past years you have been working not for yourself or for our family, but to fulfill the dreams of someone who appeared in your life not so long ago.

Why are you giving yourself and all your life’s baggage to a new person? Why are you going to serve your current lady of your heart? Sex, appearance, youth - this is understandable and pleasant... But you and I once had this too! Over time, this loses its priority. You, apparently, simply do not realize that when your girlfriend gives birth, she will become exactly the same mother as me. He will also ask you to help feed, walk and bathe the baby. Also, for the first few years you will go to bed with your child, leaving you alone in a cold bed. Or coming to you only at night, tired and sleepy, who clearly won’t have time for sex. Are you ready to pay such a high price just for the next year of sexual paradise and having a good body? What will you do in two or three? Will you go for divorce and create a new family again and again? Like a breeding male, will you produce abandoned children in two or three families?

Remember: this is where your own children/child are! Of course, I am sure that you are already dreaming about the new children that will be born to you. God grant that it will be so! Our child and I are not enemies of your future baby, not enemies of your girlfriend. Just reminding you that giving birth and raising a child is a complex process. Here you have already born a healthy child. A wife who has already successfully proven her maternal qualities, her dedication in treating a child with every flu, is absolutely capable of giving birth to another. Are you sure you're ready to experiment on yourself in the future? Are you absolutely convinced that she is worth me in this matter? It’s not for nothing that they say: an old friend is better than two new ones...

Here's another question for you. How do you see our future relationship? If a divorce really happens, I don’t intend to wait for you with tears in my eyes for the rest of my days. I am a completely modern woman and far from an old woman. As soon as I no longer need to waste my time cooking dinners for you, washing and ironing, I will quickly get into good physical shape. Men are still interested in me. And if up to this moment I had rejected everyone, now I will be ready to start a family again. How comfortable will you be when your child is raised by a stepfather, and he has another brother or sister from a different father? How will your parents, who once supported your decision to throw in your lot with me, feel about this? Will you be pleased to come into our apartment when you are no longer a stranger here? Or maybe my new husband will order you not to be allowed on the threshold at all? And I will be forced to follow his instructions, because I always obey whoever my husband is.

Apparently, you don’t yet understand that you will have to come to us to communicate with your child! Personally, there is simply no need for me to come to you. If you think that I will obey you after the divorce for the sake of some kind of financial help from you, immediately forget about it. You can pay child support through the court directly to my card. Or I won’t demand alimony from you at all, I’ll refuse your financial assistance, and I won’t stop accepting money from your parents. In this case, you and your parents will have no right to come to me at all! At this point our paths will completely diverge. The child will be raised primarily by me. Will he/she feel good about you if he/she sees you a couple of times a month? Will he then invite you to his wedding? Will it allow you to communicate with those grandchildren whom it will be difficult for you to call your own? The answers to these and other questions may not be very pleasant for you.

Again, you can tell me that you are determined to be a good father and communicate with our joint child three or four times a week so as not to lose touch with him. As a wife and mother, I may not be at all against this scenario. But think for yourself: how will your new wife look at your behavior? Does she need this?! Do you think that some woman will calmly look at the fact that her man spends all his free time communicating with his ex-wife and their common child? I’ll tell you right away: there are no such women in nature! No, for one simple reason: she will either plan to give birth to your common child, or she will want to raise her own child for your money. When you have another child, will you be able to give equal attention to all your children at the same time?! At the same time, still earn money and live for your own pleasure? I doubt it very much. Just as I doubt that your new wife will even want to give birth to you in such uncertain conditions, with your behavior being dependent on the children from your previous marriage. Are you really leaving your family only to sneak here all your life? Agree: this is a strange approach!

You could be offended by me because I forbade you to drink alcohol a lot and often. It was a scandal when you wanted to go fishing or hunting with friends for two or three days. In general, I often didn’t accept your friends, especially those who were alcoholics, womanizers, or those with criminal tendencies. Your current girlfriend can allow you all this, indulge you in every possible way in all this. It may even seem to you that in this she differs very favorably from me... Just ask yourself the question: Why did I do this? The answer will be obvious: Yes, because I loved you, because I cared! Because I wanted to see you alive and free, so that the children could grow up with their father. There they can afford you anything in exchange for your money. But will such indulgence in bad behavior increase your lifespan? Hardly! And then you will get drunk and die ahead of time, leaving her as an inheritance all that we earned together. If they really love you there, then have no doubt: after a couple of months you will be squeezed into an even greater disciplinary vise. After all, we already have a more or less adult child; in the event of your absurd death, it will not be so difficult for me to raise him/her. And that girl still has to give birth and raise a very young child. So they will squeeze you even tighter than mine.

So it turns out that a few months after leaving our family you will quickly understand: No matter where you turn, in absolutely all aspects of your new family life you will end up exactly where you left. But there will also be big disadvantages:

- you will get older, your health will deteriorate, divorce will obviously not improve it for you;

- here you will have abandoned children growing up, you risk ruining your relationship with them forever;

- you will be ashamed to meet my relatives and friends on the street;

- you will create difficulties in communicating with grandchildren for your own parents;

- you will ruin your reputation in society;

- if you delay in officially registering your new marriage, you risk worsening your relationship with your new woman’s parents, even with herself;

- from a divorce you will become poorer, your material and financial situation will become noticeably more complicated, because you will already have to feed two families;

- your new life may turn out to be less comfortable than in our family;

- you may find yourself financially dependent on your new wife, which is very unpleasant for a man’s pride;

- you will be jealous when you find out that I got married again;

- you will be doubly jealous if my new husband turns out to be more successful than you and I give birth to another child for him;

— with one decision you will lose freedom in your life, you will cease to be the Master of your own Destiny, you will become a hostage to other people’s decisions, you will turn into a Genie out of a bottle, a Slave who will serve other people’s young whims for the rest of your life.

And if you have a conflict with your new wife, it may turn out that you simply have nowhere to go... If we don’t accept you, you will have to go to your parents, look for a third wife, get into big debts, live in a car or in an office.

That's all I wanted to tell you before you leave or we get divorced. You are a man, the final decision is yours alone. I also want to tell you one more thing. It seems to me that you have simply become a hostage to your own promises and falsely understood responsibility. Apparently, at the beginning of your relationship, your desire for sex turned out to be stronger than the voice of reason. To ensure rapprochement with your lady, you told her that everything is bad in our family, it exists only formally: there is no intimacy, no spiritual comfort, no joint prospects, you live with me supposedly only because of the love for your child. It is quite possible that by telling a stranger about this, you yourself believed it all. This happens often. Accordingly, you took on a male obligation, promised your girlfriend that as soon as your child grows up or your financial situation improves, or you receive a higher position, you will immediately leave us for her. And you will begin to build a new family there. It must have been hard for you, but you said it. Having said this, you then found yourself hostage to your own words. You actually had to go for it. Maybe it even motivated you in some way to become more successful, but it also squeezed you a lot inside. I understand perfectly well that living next to that woman and that child, from whom you have already vowed to leave another woman, is morally very difficult. Living next to those who love you and value you, and for you they are already Former, is very difficult. Because of this, you actually had to deliberately and for a long time worsen our relationship: spend less time at home, ignore the child on weekends, not show tenderness to me, formally communicate with my relatives. Having assured your friend that our divorce was only a matter of time, you began to deliberately cool relations in the family, as if tailoring the solution to the problem to the correct answer that is contained at the end of the textbook. If you told someone “we’ll get a divorce,” it means “we need to get a divorce”! You can also say this: having said “A”, you were forced to say “B”. Of course, this behavior of yours has actually started to have a negative impact on us. So what you have, or rather what your mistress wants, began to gradually become reality...

I understand everything: you don’t want to look like a talker and a talker in front of your girlfriend. Like: “A man said, a man did!” I just ask that you ask yourself: Who do you really owe more to? To whom in your life have you made more commitments? In front of the one you have known for only a few months (a year, two, etc.), or in front of us: your legal wife and child/children, with whom you have lived quite comfortably all these years? Probably, it’s still in front of us! Are you ashamed in front of your lady for not keeping your promises to her? But once in the registry office you also promised me to be with me all my life, in sorrow and in joy... It seems to me that what was said there, in the presence of parents and friends, will be more important than hot whispers in someone else’s bed or drunken revelations in the night club. And in general: if you had told me before the wedding that you were taking me as your wife for just a few years, do you think I would have walked down the aisle with you and given birth to those children that I would still have to raise myself? ! Yes, of course not!

From the outside, your leaving your family looks not like a man, but a very childish act! It’s as if you were taken “weakly” in elementary school. Like, is it weak for you to divorce your wife, abandon your child, start all over again?! Yes, not weak! And you went forward, as confidently as bulls go to the slaughter. Only “weakly” in this case you took yourself. He said, the word flew out of his mouth, you yourself are uncomfortable with everything that is happening, but what to do: you still move forward. Therefore, personally, it seems to me that your current step - leaving the family, this action is very strange. It is not in my interests, not in the interests of our child/children, and most importantly - not even in the interests of you! It is only in the interests of your current girlfriend. And even then, it seems to me that instead of the current you - a healthy, strong, successful man, in the end she will get a morally and physically exhausted, missing children, impoverished and irritated aging sufferer. Not at all the one with whom she built her romantic relationship.

Therefore, it seems to me that if you stay at home, in your own family, which you yourself once created, you will not commit any shameful act at all. In no case will it be a shame that a man raised his children himself, lived his life with his one and only wife, sincerely cared for them, and they cared for him! On the contrary, the shame is precisely leaving the family, losing contact with your children and relatives. If you stay with your family, it will not be stupidity, but a manifestation of real masculine intelligence. Judge for yourself: in front of whom should you be more ashamed: in front of your wife and child/children, with whom you have been together for many years, who are honest with you? Or before the one who once decided that she has the right to determine other people's Fates, to take husbands from their wives, children from their fathers, grandchildren from their grandparents? In addition: in the event of our divorce, you will still have to communicate with us for the rest of your days, look us in the eyes. With her, everything is less painful: if you break up with her, you just stop visiting her and change your phone number! Or you will leave your job if you work together with her. Maybe she will leave on her own. This will all end happily for you. And for you and me and the children, everything will continue and improve.

For my part, I assure you that I will not tell about this whole story either to my parents, or your parents, or our friends. And our child doesn’t need to know all this yet either! I also promise that I will not remind you of this situation in the future. We have overcome a lot together, we will overcome this too! If only you wanted it. In the future, we can take on certain obligations in order to eliminate mutual claims regarding appearance, intimacy, everyday life, relationships with parents, etc. Agree: it is much more correct and easier to repair a ship that has a small leak than to build a new one from scratch. If you're ready to make a decision right now, stay home and we'll forget what happened. If you leave, like in a fairy tale, I give you three days and three nights so that you come to a final decision. If you return home within this time frame, everything will be restored as if nothing had happened. If you stay with someone else or, for the sake of decency, you decide to live with your parents for some time (at the dacha, in a second apartment, etc.), then then I personally will also think about how I can further decide in life. My decision is firm, I will not change it. Thank you for listening to me, now it’s up to you!”

This is the monologue I offer you on your behalf. You can see for yourself: he is honest and sincere. Everything in it is called by its proper name, but no one is insulted in it: neither the husband nor his mistress. I'm sure you'll like it too. You can safely use it in difficult times for your family.

I do not advise you to enter into an open discussion with your husband. First of all, he is clearly not himself. Secondly, many men, many months before leaving the family, rehearse their speech in advance, prepare the most compelling arguments and offensive claims against their wife. It may be very difficult for you to respond to your husband correctly right off the bat. It is for this same reason that I do not recommend repenting to your departing husband and listing the numerous problems in your behavior and appearance that you are immediately ready to correct. After all, by doing so you only confirm that your outgoing husband is right and give him additional arguments for his most difficult dialogue in life - dialogue with himself.

The hardest thing is to talk to your own conscience.

Of course, if it exists.

Therefore, after delivering this monologue, you should stop and stop the conversation. If your husband has already done his monologue first, and you have spoken second, after the closing words, just leave him alone, sit on the sofa, or lie on the bed with your face covered with your hands. You can even cry if you want. If after your speech your husband begins a monologue in response, do as your instincts tell you. If his speech turns out to be constructive, communicate. If in response you only hear insults and attacks, stop communicating and go to another room. Let me remind you once again: the husband makes his decision only himself, but he has limited time for this decision.

That's all. Miracles do occur in our lives, but they are rare. Therefore, after this monologue, no more than a quarter of all husbands leaving home immediately unpack their bags and stay at home. Which, however, is also a lot! Another quarter may return within a period of several hours to several days. Husbands can, as a matter of principle, come on the fourth or fifth day, as if to show that they were not afraid of the three-day ultimatum. There's nothing wrong with that. If your husband comes in four or ten days, but with a firm decision to restore the relationship, pretend that you never gave any time limit. To put up - so put up! In this case, it is important that the example monologue of the wife I gave is quite complex inside. It may take time for a man to analyze all its points and provisions. And the more self-confident or stupid he is, the more time he will need to decipher and comprehend them. Here, as in boxing, when a fighter can sometimes hit very successfully, but the opponent does not immediately fall into a knockout: for the blow, as the athletes say, to “go through”, to be absorbed by the body, to give the necessary negative consequences for health, it takes a certain time. It’s the same with men when their wife’s monologue is correctly structured: they need to comprehend everything on their own, try to mentally object to their wife, understand that she is right in many respects. This may take more than one day.

Another quarter of husbands return to their wives within three months to a year. At the time, they did not comprehend this wife’s monologue, but life itself, according to the scheme of “emotions, discomfort and time,” put everything in its place and forced them to retreat to their native land. The fourth part is still not coming back. The reasons for this have already been discussed by me in other chapters, I will not repeat them.

In conclusion, I will tell you that this monologue is a very powerful weapon, since when constructing it, the author most seriously took into account the specific thinking of men leaving their wives and the stories of many hundreds of them, what had a particularly strong impact on them in the monologues of their own wives. So this monologue is not a product of the theoretical studies of an abstract philosopher from family psychology, but a really working text by a practicing family scientist. Use it and it will help you a lot. And it may even save your husband’s life.

Remarque

At its core, the author is a very stern psychologist and person. However, my work has long led me to the conclusion that:

The world of people rests not so much on love as on mercy.

Love is shown only to individuals whom you know personally.

Mercy can be shown to millions at once.

So in this case, I advise you to show mercy towards those men who are lost in their own head and conscience. No matter how much it hurts you, you need to give a chance to those grown-up boys whose trouble is that from childhood, in their cruel games of war, they learn to hurt themselves. And when they become adults, they don’t always have time to understand that childhood is over and their actions hurt others. Including his wife and children. Especially to my wife and children. However, it is still worth forgiving them once. Sometimes even two...

You can read about all this in my book “If your husband cheated or left, and you want to return him back to the family.” Most of this text is taken from it.

Sincerely, family psychologist, Doctor of Science, Professor Andrey Zberovsky.

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What you should never tell your wife - 10 life-changing phrases

“Leave me alone, go away, I have no time for you”

We all have moments when we want to be alone. But this is not at all a reason to offend your loved one.

“Was it difficult to do it yourself?

The wife, of course, is worse at some activities than the man. And for some things it is not created at all. For example, the spouse will clearly finish the shelf faster. And it is absolutely not necessary to reprimand her for every mistake.

Well, yes, she didn’t have time to pick up the child from kindergarten today, and she had to go get the baby herself. What's so scary about that? After all, the child is loved. And my wife is the best in the world.

“Shut up” or “There are too many of you”

Women, as a rule, are emotional people. It is vital for them to express themselves brightly and expressively.

It is common for men to “withdraw into themselves sometimes” in order to solve some important issue, think, analyze. And the wife can talk for a long time about how her day went, simultaneously managing to do a lot of things. And even if this conversation, in the husband’s opinion, is empty, you should not be rude to her.

“Your mother will come to us again!”

It's no secret that men sometimes have difficult relationships with their mother-in-law. But a wise husband will always show tact and respect for his wife’s mother and try to establish contact with her, even if this is not easy for him. This way he will protect the feelings of his beloved and once again prove his love to her.

“My mother thinks that you should definitely...”

Of course, you need to respect your parents. But there is no need for a wife to always imitate her mother-in-law in everything. Even if for a husband his mother is an ideal in all respects.

“I won’t give you any more money - again you’ll spend it all on nonsense.”

The woman runs the household and her husband provides for her financially. In many families, roles are distributed this way. But the wife also gives a lot of strength and energy to the family, even if she is only a housewife. If she bought herself some new thing, she fully deserved it.

The desire to save, of course, is useful for the family budget, but it should not turn into stinginess.

“Are you sure you salted the borscht?”

You may not like your wife’s cooking, this happens often, but it’s best to hint about it somehow delicately, without hurting her: “I want something salty today. Please give me a salt shaker,” or even “Maybe we can order pizza at home today? I’d like something like that.” Or: It’s been so long since you and I have been to a restaurant! Get ready, the table has already been reserved.”

“I’m so tired of your friends!”

Wife's friends are usually noisy and loud, yes. And they also openly discuss men in the kitchen, giggling sweetly.

And yet, before saying something like that, the husband should think carefully. What if she, too, was tired of his weekly Friday get-togethers with his colleagues at the bar? And the friend with whom my husband so often went to football games will be barred from going home.

“But Alena once...”

No one will tolerate comparisons with former partners. And a married man should even more so throw out of his head any thoughts about Sveta, Katya and Alena - in general, about all those lovely women with whom he “once had something.”

And if a careless comparison has escaped, all that remains is to flee.

“Aren’t these jeans too small for you?”

Deadly number... It is unlikely that any woman will forgive her husband even the slightest hint that she has recovered.

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26. Visit all continents; 27. Traveling in a motor home; 28. Skydiving; 29. Race abroad; 30. Go Baikal; 31. Go Africa; 32. Sleep in nature; 33. To the forest to pick mushrooms and berries; 34. Sit at night with a telescope; 35. Meet the dawn; 36. Picnic in the forest; 37. Go on an excursion to an eco-farm; 38. Ride a horse. 39. Learn to ski; 40. See a UFO; 41. Preparations for the winter; 42. Prepare a complex dish; 43. Cooking courses; 44. Give away, sell, throw away everything unnecessary from the house; 45. Regular contributions to charity; 47. Organize an eco-club; 48. Do something big; 49. Organize an event; 50. Take part in a big flash mob; 51. Learn English; 52. Paint a picture; 53. Write a book; 54. Film a social media video; 55. Publish an article in a popular magazine; 56. Write a note, put it in a bottle and release it into the sea; 57. Be a donor; 58. Live a day without electricity; 59. Lie in a bubble bath; 60. Time to meet with friends; 61. Run barefoot in the rain; 62. Extreme driving course; 63. Sing karaoke; 64. Sign up for a photo shoot; 65. Master the guitar; 66. Ride a sports motorcycle; 67. Get a tattoo; 68. Master magic; 69. Visit a music festival; 70. Volunteer; 71. Take a course in public speaking skills; 72. Give a speech in front of a large audience; 73. Teach a child languages; 74. Teach your child sports; 75. Collect commemorative coins; 76. Free yourself from negative emotions; 77. Let go of feelings of inferiority; 78. Learn not to take to heart what others do and say; 79. Learn to say “no” to feelings of guilt; 80. Learn to maintain a positive attitude; 81. Learn to perceive criticism correctly; 82. Learn to accept compliments; 83. Learn to establish contact with other people; 84. Develop a sense of confidence; 85. Start leading a creative life; 86. Take make-up lessons; 87. Get a second higher education; 88. Win the lottery; 89. Become a millionaire; 90. Create a financial start for the child; 91. See grandchildren; 92. Start blogging; 93. Get your astrological forecast; 94. Start a hobby; 95. Try yourself in politics; 96. Help an unfamiliar sick child; 97. Forgive your offenders; 98. Provide support to unfamiliar old people; 99. Support your parents morally and financially; 100. Make a geneological tree of your family; 101. Treat a stranger to coffee; 102. Help a friend

Why do words hurt women so much?

Women, for the most part, are emotional and vulnerable creatures. They are very sensitive and have a tendency to repeatedly “replay” in their heads the words and situations that affected them. They trust their husband and want him to serve as support and protection for them.

The more they rely on their spouse, the more painful it is for them to be disappointed in him.

The husband should be proud that such an honorable mission is entrusted to him. “Comrade man, yet your position is tempting,” - this is how Bulat Okudzhava, beloved by the people, sang.

A woman is a delicate flower that needs to be nurtured and cherished. And it is important for the husband to always remember this, not skimping on affection, care and attention.

Confessions on various occasions

It is not customary to find a specific time for warm words. However, the event can be a good background for a frank and touching declaration of love.

For birthday

Name days are always a day of fun and gifts. It is logical to complement the gift to your wife with a touching congratulation:

1. Men say that a wife is good at one thing: either a beauty, or a smart woman, or a housewife, or a queen. Looks like I'm the lucky one! I got a woman who has it all. I love you! Happy birthday!
2. With every passing year, I am convinced that the best woman in the world is with me. She is becoming more and more beautiful and attractive. She is a wonderful mother and my closest friend. Darling, I wish you health, reaching new heights, fulfillment of all your desires. Remain my muse. I love you! Happy birthday!
3. My other half, congratulations to you!

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Although the years fly by, you are forever

My tender little baby.

I promise that I will keep it carefully

Your heart and faith in miracles.

I will never stop loving you

As long as my legs will walk.

As an apology

The time after a quarrel is not the best time for revelations. The girl may perceive this as a way to make peace, so you need to pronounce important words very delicately and carefully:

1. Baby, forgive me, I was wrong. I curse myself with the last words for offending the treasure that I love madly.
2. I am very guilty, I am ashamed now to even look you in the eye. I apologize and want to say that now I love you even more and will protect you from my stupidity and character.

1. Sunny, let's leave all the nasty words and sadness in the past. I promise that I will never offend you, because I realized how dear you are to me, I realized how much I love you only when I almost lost you. I'm sorry.

Like gratitude

Such a short confession will be a pleasant spark in the routine of days and will please your spouse when she does not expect it. There is no need to wait for a favorable moment; it is enough to thank you for banal things: a delicious dinner, an ironed shirt, a little help. Examples of thanks:

1. Thank you my chef. I love you and your golden hands!
2. My you are smart. How happy I am that the world gave me the chance to be with you. Thank you, my love, for everything you do for me.
3. Do you know why I love you, kitten? For being who you are!
4. Thank you for coming into my life. You are a ray of goodness and light in a cloudy sky. I love you very much and thank you for choosing to share your life with me.

Or maybe the bitter truth is better than a sweet lie?

Of course, there are situations when spouses should talk: honestly, openly, without embarrassment, expressing everything that has accumulated. For example, if her close and dear people suffer from the wife’s behavior: children, husband, parents.

For example, my second cousin tried to involve the whole family in a financial pyramid. Only her husband's sensible behavior prevented this.

But you need to speak with love, trying not to hurt the feelings of your loved one. When expressing your thoughts and emotions, you should be guided by the rule adopted by doctors: “Do no harm!” After all, any action within the family should lead to its prosperity.

What kind of compliments do women like?

1. Girls like it when their looks are complimented.

• You look beautiful;
• You look amazing;
• This dress suits you so well;
• I just can't take my eyes off you.

Have you ever said these words to your wife? I'm afraid not. Or, if you did say them, you are unlikely to remember the last time you said them. This is very bad of you. Because complimenting your wife about her beauty should be the most natural thing in a marital relationship.

Your wife really wants you to express your love, see her beauty, and appreciate the effort you put into yourself. A woman craves your compliments about her beauty. So say them as often as possible.

2. Compliment your wife about cooking

• Wow! This is delicious;
• Thank you dear! I haven't eaten such delicious food for a long time;
• This is the best dish I have ever eaten;
• Darling, you cook better than anyone.

A woman will love you even more when you compliment her on her cooking. My husband always compliments my cooking, and this gives me the desire and inspiration to cook even more delicious food for him. After all, we women know well that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. And we really constantly try to prepare healthy and tasty food for you.