The psychologist explained why girls build relationships with adults and older men
Marriage with a wealthy person and the desire for a beautiful life are far from the only reasons why a girl may strive for a relationship with an adult or even an elderly man, said psychologist Maria Merkulova, according to Arguments and Facts.
The psychologist noticed that in Russia girls think about marriage too early, so they see older men as an opportunity to marry a worthy companion. Even if the relationship develops in such a way that the man is in no hurry to get married, the fear of being left alone or losing bonuses from a relationship with an adult man does not allow the girl to leave it.
Bonuses are a beautiful life, which is promoted in the media and through social networks, noted Maria Merkulova. Finding a wealthy man, even if he is older, is the shortest path to material well-being and the opportunity to raise self-esteem through external attributes, although this is the wrong path, the psychologist said.
The girls’ talk about how their middle-aged companion is very interesting is a truth that they themselves believe in, but not the primary reason why they started this relationship, the specialist noted. The psychologist says that such a man, of course, is able to help satisfy the thirst for new information, new acquaintances, travel, but not all girls understand that for this it is not at all necessary to connect their fate with a person three times older than themselves.
According to the specialist, there are girls who choose older men as life partners, because modern young people between the ages of 30 and 40, the seemingly ideal age to start a family, are not ready to change their lives. Maria Merkulova noted that age does not play a significant role in the matter of marriage. It is much more important that people expect the same things from relationships. If a man asserts himself through affairs with young girls, most likely in a few years he will switch his attention to another young lady. If a woman wants children, but her middle-aged boyfriend already has many of his own and doesn’t plan any new ones, such a union will fall apart.
It is not always the case that a young lady looks for in an adult lover the love and care that she did not receive from her father as a child, but the psychologist confirmed that such options also exist. If we are talking about a romance between a teacher and a student, then the status of the teacher’s personality plays a role here, and not selfish interest. The specialist noticed that girls who have already matured have a need for love, and then a nice person enters the audience, says something important to you, shows interest in you, so it’s easy for a young girl to lose her head.
“Plus, sometimes the educational process is so intense that the girl once again cannot go anywhere with her classmates and friends. When you live in a home-study-home schedule, there is no opportunity to make a choice in favor of a peer. And I want to love. You want someone to come and make your life a fairy tale, to color this boring world, and this is how a connection with the teacher appears, which a competent teacher will not allow,” the psychologist noted.
In St. Petersburg, the brutal murder of 24-year-old St. Petersburg State University graduate student Anastasia Eshchenko took place the other day. The girl was in a relationship with a 63-year-old historian; they lived together for several years. On November 11, the court charged St. Petersburg State University associate professor Oleg Sokolov with murder. On the same day it became known that he was fired from the university.
As Channel 360 reports, the court decided to arrest the man for two months. At the court hearing, Sokolov said that he planned to marry Anastasia, but she could not stand his communication with his daughters and even mentions of his children so much that before his eyes she turned from an ideal creature into a “monster from a fairy tale.”
Carlson
For God's sake, don't think that I'm actually encouraging you to make love to Carlson, I'm just talking about "men in their prime." A little over thirty, that's it. Like expensive cognac, well aged.
They have seen a lot, know a lot and are willing to share their experience. Usually the sexual technique is perfected “down to the millimeter”; they know exactly what they want and how they want it and are able to give a woman a lot of pleasure.
Of course, if they are in a good mood, if there are no problems at work, if there is no football or the “Exclusive Cars” program on TV.
Otherwise, you won’t see sex like your ears. When choosing between an abstruse program about the stock market on TV and you, he will, without a doubt, choose the program. After sex, he usually needs enough time to recuperate, and only the next morning can he try to repeat the love session again.
The undoubted disadvantage is that the “Carlsons” are so confident in their sexual merits that sometimes they don’t bother to ask you what you really expect from him in bed. It doesn’t even occur to them that something might not suit you. For example, his favorite position is “69”, from which the previous twenty partners were delighted, but for some reason you feel sick.
He is also unlikely to agree to provocations: because in an unusual place or environment he may “not work one hundred percent,” and for Carlson’s reputation this will be tantamount to death.
Yes, sometimes it gets boring. But you can snuggle your butts against each other and just sleep peacefully until the morning. Especially if both of you have early work tomorrow.
