If you and your girlfriend are locked down during self-isolation, this can be a real challenge for your relationship. Being alone with each other around the clock without the opportunity to relax with friends is not easy.
Moreover, after a few days in such an environment it becomes almost impossible to think about romance. And just at such a moment, both of you should take a break from everyday worries and anxious thoughts and go on a date. Without leaving the apartment, of course. Here's how to do it.
Warnings
- “Romantic” does not mean “obsessive.” You understand, it’s one thing to express sympathy and quite another to expect that the other person’s entire time will be devoted to you. You are an individual, not just your other half in a relationship, so don't get lost in the romance. You can be romantic while being yourself.
- Don't let romance cloud your vision. If everything seems too perfect to be true, there is a reason to slow down and use your head. However, only time can show the truth...
Almost all women want to see a romantic man nearby. Why? What is behind this desire? When does romanticism begin and where does it end? How can a man be romantic, and most importantly, for how long? The questions are not easy, since there is no clear and unambiguous definition of what romance is. Let's try to figure it out.
Romance is a state imbued with the idealization of reality and dreamy contemplation, an escape from reality, the desire to create your own, comfortable, fabulous, conditioned by personal needs. It can be a way of perceiving the world in which the leading role is played by lyrical and dramatic emotions, dreams, ideals and spiritual elation, a kind of superstructure over reality.
I’ll say right away that this is not an ideal definition, but others are even worse. For example: “Romance is a way of life that emphasizes positive emotions, altruism, exalted attitude towards a person of the opposite sex (usually a man towards a woman) and other values, and contrasts them with material values, including pragmatism, as well as political activity and others.” serious pursuits." Romance is usually associated with assessing the situation from the perspective of ideal images of relationships.”
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There are many other definitions, but one thing unites them: romance is a break from reality, a conscious withdrawal, which can be called neurosis, actively advertised on TV, radio, and in romance novels. The consumers of “teleneurosis” and other related products are mainly young ladies, so adherents of logic, reason, and reality are not popular with women.
Neurosis, a state of mental illness, can be an easy descent into negativity and getting stuck in it. It happens in the form of a state of strong dissatisfaction, when everything is bad, life has failed, there are only scoundrels around, then a desire appears to run away from this state, to get rid of it. This is natural, since neurosis can be accompanied by dissatisfaction with oneself and a decrease in self-esteem, irritability, dependence on others, indecisiveness and at the same time a tendency to impulsive reactions, so a person wants to get rid of neurosis.
Often a vicious circle arises, romanticism is an escape from reality, leading to neurosis, from which one manages to get out by idealizing reality and returning to romantic experiences. But as soon as life shows that it can be very different, and hits the “face on the table,” neurosis begins again. So many people run in this circle, women are always ahead.
Estrogen is a female hormone that makes a woman feel satisfied with life, relationships, and herself. Many studies have been conducted that have found that romance, light touches, melodramas, TV series, and romance novels contribute to the release of estrogen into the blood. If there are babies in romantic films and books, then at the same time progesterone is released into the blood - a hormone responsible for the desire to nurse, care, and cry. Yes, men practically do not have this hormone.
Young people must accept that women are biologically addicted to romance.
For men, everything is simpler; the hormone testosterone, which is responsible for sexual desire and also causes romantic behavior, is produced so that a man begins to want a woman and behave accordingly. How? As written in magazines, shown on TV, movies are romantic if you want to actually have sex with a woman. After fulfilling the function of owning a girl, romance becomes unnecessary until the next contender appears. With age, as the secretion of testosterone decreases, all romanticism disappears, and “an old soldier who does not know the words of love” appears, as in the movie “Hello, I am your aunt!”
In other words, romanticism is not very characteristic of men, that is, it is not biologically determined. So what? If a man is mentally rich, then, of course, he should not, but he can be romantic. After all, he doesn’t feel sorry, but she is pleased. There are many advantages, for example, girls will be interested more often, family relationships will be easier to maintain, and life together will become better. To do this, it is useful to follow the “Code of a Romantic Man”
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Article 1.
You are not right.
You are wrong if you think that you can convince a woman with logic, reasoning, you can only persuade her, and only using images, feelings, beautiful words. Learn this.
Article 2.
Romance needs to be studied, studied and studied, because men are callous, rude, straightforward, preoccupied creatures.
And only romantic experiences in the brains of women can present these hairy animals as courageous heroes of beautiful love adventures. To do this, everyone simply has to make a list of romantic words and actions. For motivation, use the rule: you don’t feel sorry, she’s pleased.
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Women are different.
It is important to understand what will be romantic for this girl and act in accordance with her ideas.
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They are all the same.
Despite all the diversity, all women are the same. For example, cats come in different colors, different habits, characters, but they are still cats: they have a mustache, a tail, four paws on which they walk. From this point of view, it is easier to be romantic, cats are greedy for mice, women are greedy for words of love, showing and emphasizing advantages and superiority over other young ladies. General meta-message: you are the only one and loved, there are no others like you. Add colorful adjectives, it will turn out romantic, for almost all women.
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You are a verbiage.
If you just talk and do nothing. Words must accompany actions. Moreover, the actions should also be romantic, show that this is only for her, since she is the best (add the correct adjective). A standard set of actions that you shouldn’t dwell on, but it’ll do for a start. Restaurant, candles, slow music, a walk under the moon (holding your hands, not your chest, as you want), with words, words, words... See article 3, 4.
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Rejoice.
What she admires. It could be snotty children in the sandbox, or a flower in a flower bed, some hairy fruit in a store window, a tearful film with a tear-stained main character and a scoundrel lover. All these are her romantic experiences, support her, talk about it, develop the plot, just don’t twist your face, be honest, because, let me remind you, you don’t feel sorry for her, but she’s pleased.
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Listen.
Romantic and other delusions are called by girls feelings and experiences that must be talked about. If she sits at home sad, it means she simply doesn’t have a phone at hand. You should listen to her, nod your head, admire and exclaim emotionally: how great, cool, amazing! Even if it’s a heartfelt story about buying a new skirt.
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Little pleasant accidents.
Small spontaneous gifts, simply from the bottom of my heart, are perceived as romantic! For example: you were walking down the street and saw a hairy monster stuffed with sawdust on the counter, in her interpretation “a cute, fluffy bear”, buy it now and give it as a gift. She will sleep with it or put it in a prominent place and will remember your romantic gift with emotion.
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Change.
There should not be the same romantic actions and words all the time; repetition stops them being so. Variety is the key to romance. If completely new ideas do not come to you, use the principle: the same thing, but in a different setting. If you read poems in the park, read them on the roof of a skyscraper - romantic.
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Touch it.
Gentle touches and “hugs” can be very romantic. Remember the rule: if your words don’t touch her, then your hands shouldn’t touch her either. This is exactly the sequence. The rule “grab your chest - say something” does not quite suit a romantic man, although anything can happen...
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If you don’t want to, you still have to.
Create a habit of being romantic. When I was a child, I also didn’t want to brush my teeth, but it’s okay, I got used to it. The habit is created in about a month or two, subject to daily exercise. Even if you don’t want to at first, there is such a word - you have to
. Not for you, but for her. Whatever you will do for the woman you love! After all, you can, and she wants, if you can, then you will do it. Remember, some effort on your part will pay off many times over.
The human psyche is structured in such a way that men are by nature more reasonable, practical and realistic, while women are susceptible to emotions and experiences. In this regard, both of them have complaints against each other - girls want romance, bright and lush love, and men often simply cannot understand why all this feigned decoration is needed. Everywhere has its exceptions, but if a young man wants to surprise his beloved, it will be useful for him to read the tips below.
1. Don't be afraid to express your thoughts. If you admire your girlfriend, say out loud how much you like her, what beautiful hair, eyes she has, etc., just don’t make things up, but tell the truth. Fake compliments are funny and unpleasant. But words spoken from the heart will instantly improve the mood of your beloved. “Women love with their ears” is a banality, but true.
2. Flowers, small souvenirs, touching gifts, your own poems in postcards - all this makes you at least a sublime romantic in the eyes of your passion. At most, a prince on a white horse (with a rich imagination).
3. Yes, this cafe is close to her house, yes, the food there is tasty and filling, yes, prices are low and your classmate works as a cook there, and half of the dishes are given to you at a discount. Yes, you can come there in jeans, spill coffee on the tablecloth without hindrance - everyone does it. At least there. But I bet you anything: the sparkle in your girlfriend’s eyes that appeared after the phrase “put on your evening dress, we’re going to restaurant N, remember, the one where Philip Kirkorov (Johnny Depp, Vladimir Volfovich - underline as appropriate) went,” so here’s , that very sparkle in her eyes will drive you crazy. And imagine her in this very evening dress. Like? Go for the mines!
4. Walking under the moon, looking at Venus through field binoculars, night city, champagne, strawberries and cream... “Snot,” you state, gallantly wrinkling your nose. Not at all. And if you get the taste yourself (which is most likely), there will be no price for your courtship. Then definitely a prince. Horse (color to taste) included.
5. Yes, yes, think in the right direction. It would be nice to earn money for all this and more. So be a smart boy, and a generous employer will definitely pay attention to you. If you can't provide for yourself, how will you take care of your princess? And there is no need to hope for the emancipation of modern women, they say, they will earn money themselves. If you want the girl to pay for herself, fill out the documents and get out of here, to the USA for permanent residence.
6. If she likes you in a suit and tie, wear them more often. Rest assured, she will only take off the blouse you like for washing. And if a girl just squeals at your R’n”B image, then rest assured that you are stunning in it. What prevents you from being irresistible always and everywhere? And anyway, where have you seen a knight in rusty armor?
7. Don’t forget about SMS with wishes of good morning and good night, emergency sessions before her test in higher mathematics, carrying packages from the market and resuscitating her computer. Moreover: in every SMS there must be at least one rose, the test must be passed the first time, in a bag of potatoes she (or even better if her mother) will certainly find another poetic declaration of love, and at work on the table after you leave, a postcard made by Photoshop with your own hands will shine with all the colors of the rainbow. Actually, this point can be combined with the second - the main thing is not to forget about the essence. Which is that due to the excessive realism of our world, relationships and even love, it is sometimes worth bringing at least a drop of beauty, romance and sublimity into the space around us, albeit not in such an exaggerated form as the author of this article suggested to you.
Girls love romance, and that's a fact! Most often, your girlfriend hopes that you will prepare her a real romantic date.
