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And all because he believes that a cup of coffee with what is on hand is enough, since, in his opinion, he does not have enough for more. In fact, a man can do this far from poverty - most likely, he is simply greedy so as not to do anything and not spend money on you. If during the 2nd or 3rd date he does not open his wallet and spends at a minimum, telling what high-paying job he works at, you should think about it - the man is greedy. And perhaps you are not the only one he has in mind, because if you spend a lot of money on everyone, you can easily go broke.

Not a romantic

Romance is generally not typical for greedy people. Usually a person who has little money tries to give either thoughtful gifts or make leisure time so interesting that more is simply not needed. If a man is incapable of romantic actions and prefers to give practical gifts, and even then rarely, this is a sure sign that he is a greedy man. Usually a romantic man will definitely show romance, tenderness and try to give the lady of his heart a wonderful gift, albeit a sweet, trivial one, but from the heart.

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There are disgusting male habits that you can wean your chosen one from. Greed is not included in these habits, because many psychologists consider it an incurable “disease” that is inherited and does not depend on the conditions of upbringing.

Portrait of a typical greedy

A greedy person should not be confused with a man who wants to save money. Saving is actually good. Such a person does not buy himself unnecessary things, approaches spending wisely and knows how to plan a budget.

The reasons for excessive savings may be different, but they all come down to upbringing or childhood. The reason may be that the man had a difficult childhood - he may have grown up in poverty. He is used to living like this, so there is no need to correct him, although there is such an opportunity. Over time, he himself will become different or begin to listen to your advice.

Greed begins where common sense and kindness end. Greed does not always manifest itself in the handling of money. For example, a typical greedy person never says “thank you” or “please,” or does so insincerely or rarely. Such a person believes that everyone owes him. Such qualities are innate in 95 percent of cases.

The problem is that, on the surface, greed looks a lot like saving. But a greedy person is distinguished by the desire to save on absolutely everything. Even if he owes someone, he still finds it difficult to repay the money. Such a man goes with girls to the cheapest cafes and does not give gifts for no reason. Such men are supporters of a separate budget. This fact does not mean that you are a greedy person, but if there are other signs, it can be considered evidence. People who are in love automatically want to share everything with each other. If a man doesn't want to do this, it doesn't mean he's not in love. This means that he is so greedy that he cannot overcome this feeling.

Another good way to test a man for greed is to evaluate his willingness to change for the sake of a woman. A stingy man will never say: “Okay, I will become different for your sake.” For such men, this is nonsense, an unfulfilled desire. In their opinion, a woman should love them as they are, which is impossible a priori, because life is changeable and dynamic.

How to deal with such a man

Love is a strong feeling, so simply leaving such a man will not work. First piece of advice: don’t rush to get married. You need to take a very good look at it. When falling in love passes, all his negative traits will be revealed. You just need to wait a little. If greed persists, it means he is not ready to change for you.

His insecurity and greed will be a disadvantage of your couple, and not just of him. You can try to shame him for this quality. There is a chance that he will improve. There is also a chance that he will only perceive it in a negative way. This will mean that your marriage or love is doomed to failure.

Many psychologists are of the opinion that pathological male greed cannot be cured. This means that you need to make a choice in advance - tolerate this quality or break off the relationship. Excessive saving can be cured, but trying to change someone who is not used to sharing anything with anyone is a waste of time.

A strong argument against such a relationship would be that this type of man is incredibly jealous. These are typical owners who react violently even to the usual display of politeness on the part of other men, not to mention any acceptable compliments. Stingy people are often also hidden tyrants. Life with them can be very difficult. You shouldn’t test your strength this way.

Be extremely careful when deciding whether to stay with such a man or not. The most dangerous case is when a man saves excessively only on the needs of his family, but does not limit himself in spending. In this case, there is very little chance of a strong and happy relationship.

Cruelty and greed are two almost inseparable character traits of a man. Try to check compatibility at the very beginning of the relationship so as not to waste time.

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Is it possible to get along with him?

If you choose a greedy person, then you can only get along with him by constantly giving in to him. Such a person will control not only his own, but also your finances, and it will not be easy to get along with him. Therefore, stay away from a greedy man, he will not bring anything good into your life, because it is difficult to be happy with a greedy man?

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Why don't women like greedy men?

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They say life is too short to waste it on greedy men! Although we usually call stinginess the unwillingness to part with money, in reality it means much more. Here are some typical stories told by women who were “lucky” to date cheapskates:

On our first date, he invited me to a cafe. Everything was very modest. When we were handed a bill for 550 rubles, he suggested: “Maybe we can split it?” And a week later, returning from a business trip to one of the Central Asian countries, he brought me dried figs as a gift...
My boyfriend doesn't invite me anywhere. Even when I ask to take me to the cinema, he offers to watch the series at home so as not to spend money on a ticket...
One day I asked my boyfriend to buy cookies that I liked and keep them at home since I visited him every weekend. But he said he wouldn't buy a whole box of cookies for someone who only comes once a week...

It’s interesting that this is a mutual dislike: ladies hate stinginess in gentlemen, and men can’t stand spendthrift women. The explanation is simple: men are disgusted by girls who are only interested in their money, and women shy away from men who do not want to spend money on them. It turns out to be a vicious circle.

A recent survey showed that women are not attracted to calculating men, whom they consider narrow-minded. Men, in turn, hate women’s obsession with money, as well as the habit of creating problems out of nothing.

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The terms “greedy” and “lean” are often confused. For thrifty people, money is a means of optimal allocation of resources. For greedy people, the reluctance to part with money comes to the fore, and this prevents them from enjoying life, even if they have enough money.

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Research shows that being greedy or generous is largely a hereditary trait, with men being more likely to be stingy than women.

Since stinginess is a trait that permeates the personality as a whole, it has the saddest impact on relationships. Greedy people save not only on money, but also on attention, kindness, respect and mutual care. In addition, stingy people are more likely to feel insecure. They are jealous, suspicious and try to control everything. Not the best portrait of an ideal man!

At the beginning of a relationship, they may hide their unpleasant traits, but over time they appear with a vengeance, and the girl becomes disappointed and discouraged, even if she herself is stingy by nature.

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In a relationship with a greedy man, a woman feels that she is being used because she only has to give without receiving anything in return. Stingy people always calculate what they will have to give up and what they will gain as a result of the relationship. They rarely make good lovers because they don't like to give.

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Stinginess manifests itself already on the first date. For example, the desire to split the bill indicates a calculating attitude, ignoring the partner and a lack of desire to give. Love is not balancing a balance sheet. Lovers sincerely want to give each other more. Ideally, they are connected by mutual interest, and not by counting investments. Of course, in a restaurant a lady can pay for herself, but romantic relationships are built on trust and kindness. Trying to split the coffee bill is humiliating to your partner and raises legitimate concerns about the future of the relationship.

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In a love relationship, partners want to give and receive care and warmth, support and attention. Why stay in a relationship where this is not and is not expected? It is always difficult for a stingy person to give; he does not part with money or emotions, and is afraid to invest more in a relationship than he expects to receive in return.

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