Features of runaway bride syndrome
“They meet in order to break up, but they fall in love only to fall out of love. I want to laugh and burst into tears and not live!” This is what the Russian “king of poets” of the early last century Igor Severyanin wrote. Well, laughter and tears, so as not to “live,” we’ll leave on his conscience, although in cases where lovers run away on the porch of the registry office, someone has to cry. More, perhaps, to the relatives of the bride and groom, who spent so much effort and money on the failed wedding.
And if only it ended in tears. I remember an incident when the bride’s family was preparing for the wedding, even vodka had already been purchased for the guests. And at the last moment the groom ran away and drove off to distant lands. The bride's father perceived this act as a shame for the family, drank bitterly and soon died.
Sometimes life turns out to be completely unfriendly. So the lovers decided to get married, and at the most crucial moment, when everything is ready for the solemn wedding, she suddenly turns to her chosen one in a not entirely aesthetic manner. In Ukraine, in the good old days, in such cases, the girl handed the guy a watermelon. It looked more beautiful and somehow smoothed over the offense, but in our mercantile hour, look for a pumpkin, and there’s no time for aesthetics when you’re running away from the crown.
Why would it be that after a passionate relationship, when the question of the wedding has already been decided and preparations for it are in full swing, the bride suddenly bucks? Why did such a metamorphosis, incomprehensible at first glance, happen to her? What's so outlandish happened that she runs away from the crown like hell from incense?
Often such girls justify their extraordinary act with the words that “it’s impossible to get married, no matter how married you are.” This proverb contains the entire psychology of the runaway bride syndrome. This psychological “twist” is inherent in people with an anxious and suspicious character. It is extremely timid girls (sometimes boys) who are most often afraid of registering a relationship.
“Love to death” in a free “flight” is one thing, because no one owes anyone anything special. Life at this time seems like a holiday that you need to drink like drunken wine and enjoy the pleasure received.
After the wedding, everyday life begins, family and work absorb all the time. What kind of holiday is this? “Love has passed and become covered with a haze. Now the family has a stroller with Dimka.” And a child means sleepless nights, the need to tirelessly monitor a capricious baby, change his diapers, and bottle feed him. In a word - grow.
And then there’s still the need to greet hubby, go shopping, and many other far from festive concerns. And not everyone is capable of such a daily “feat.”
And then the runaway bride syndrome kicks in, when someone who is ignorant just before the wedding suddenly runs headlong away from her “evil” lot. Although a woman by her essence is called to motherhood. Her main purpose in life is to raise and educate children. But it turns out that the instinct of a “warm nest” does not always work when it’s heaven with a sweetheart. They dream about it, but not everyone succeeds in creating their own family.
It is necessary to distinguish the runaway bride syndrome from a girl’s fears before the wedding. The latter are simply called “bride syndrome” and characterize an absolutely normal state of excitement before marriage. Absolutely all newlyweds are subject to such anxiety (men are no exception!).
This significant event must be held at the proper level! This is once and for all a lifetime (at least, I think so), and therefore the marriage and the wedding itself should be without any extras. At this time everyone becomes superstitious. It is believed that if something goes wrong, it will affect the family well-being.
Let’s say, when the groom puts a ring on the bride’s finger in the registry office, God forbid that it falls off! This is a bad sign, it promises a quick separation.
There are plenty of such phobias before marriage, but all this is just normal pre-wedding jitters, it does not at all affect the feelings of the newlyweds. The bride or groom has no idea that they need to run headlong from under the aisle.
It is important to know! Statistics show that one in 10 brides may cancel their wedding at the last minute. This is due to a suspicious nature, when the fear of getting married overpowers the desire to live together.
Bride's syndrome: what is it and how to deal with it
A wedding is one of the most long-awaited, exciting, and therefore stressful events in a girl’s life. All brides have worries and fears before the wedding. Some experience such panic that their condition can be described as a mental disorder - “bride syndrome”.
Fear of getting sick
This fear usually comes first. The bride is afraid of catching a cold, a severe cough, a fever, or a stuffy nose.
Pimples may also “pop up” on the face, “critical days” may set in with a bad mood... If the bride often catches colds, it is better to schedule the wedding celebration for the warm period of the year, and also take immunostimulants.
Don't forget about walking and outdoor sports. But if you have caught a cold in the last days before the wedding, do not aggravate the illness with depression, but treat it with a positive attitude and perseverance.
Is my fiance really my soulmate for life?
Even after a fairly long relationship with their loved one, many brides before marriage begin to doubt: “is this the right person?” They are trying to convince themselves: “Won’t we divorce him in a few years?” They go through all the negative traits of the future spouse.
But it is worth remembering that shortcomings are a continuation, or the other side of our advantages. You voluntarily decided to start a family, out of love, your chosen one managed to make you happy - take care of this feeling! Believe that everything will be, although not perfect, good.
Moreover, for any problems in marriage, there is now a lot of advice from psychologists and family therapists who can help you.
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I'm not the most beautiful bride
Many girls feel insecure about their attractiveness, especially on such exciting days. What if it starts to rain, the mascara will run, the snow-white dress will get dirty, the extra pounds will be obvious to everyone... To overcome this fear, take care of your appearance before the wedding.
Take time to, without haste, relax, visit a beauty salon (massage, good hairdresser, cosmetologist, manicurist).
Just relax, entrusting the creation of a beautiful image to professionals. Make sure you hire a photographer in advance who can take narrative photos in any weather. Be on the safe side, don’t forget to take your cosmetics bag and perfume with you to the celebration.
Be sure to get enough sleep before your wedding day. And relatives and the groom need to give the bride as many compliments as possible.
Become irresistible, a happy state is the main thing, rejoice at your loved one next to you, and you will truly be one of the most beautiful brides.
Fear of force majeure
Suddenly we get stuck in a traffic jam, or, God forbid, in an accident. We'll be late to the registry office, the groom won't arrive, we'll forget something, we won't make it in time - any trouble can happen. But there is no need to worry on the most beautiful day of your life.
To plan the celebration in detail, take a vacation from work a few days before the wedding. Involve your senior loved ones in preparing the holiday, ask them about their wedding experience, about all the nuances, what and how to do better.
If finances allow, find a professional wedding planner, he will take care of most of your worries. The only serious problem is if the groom changes his mind and doesn’t come. But this, of course, will not happen if he was not dragged to the registry office by force.
And if he is delayed due to unexpected circumstances, this is a completely solvable situation.
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Why is all this needed?
Fear of change, everyday problems, loss of romance, limitation of personal space. The desire at the last moment to become a “runaway” bride from her own wedding.
It is human nature to be afraid of the new, the unknown. But unpredictability is the beauty of life. We have the power to change all circumstances for the better. Preparing a wedding together with your loved one is your first common task.
Both boys and many girls want to pursue a career after marriage. Nobody wants to lose their social circle, interests, hobbies. In order to preserve the personal space of everyone in the family, it is necessary to discuss this with the future spouse before the wedding.
The important thing here is to show respect for each other.
A woman always wants to remain a “princess” who is pampered with flowers and gifts. It's up to you and your spouse to keep the romance alive in your relationship. Although living together destroys the acuteness of sensations, something else comes in return: husband and wife become family, halves for each other.
Young girls are often afraid that they will not cook well and will not cope with the housework. But here – there would be a desire, and experience will come. There is no need to make scandals over trifles - burnt food or dust on furniture.
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Causes of Runaway Bride Syndrome
The roots of the habit of breaking up lie in the character and moral principles that parents instilled in childhood. All this ultimately affects behavior. If before marriage the lovers behaved quite adequately, then when the question of formalizing the relationship arose, one of them suddenly changed their opinion about their partner. Outwardly this is often not visible, but in her (his) soul suddenly something pinched and began... And that’s not the case, and that’s not the case. Why are some young people afraid to get married? The reasons for this can be very different. Let's take a closer look at the psychology of the actions of runaway brides and grooms.
Causes of runaway bride syndrome in women
So why do some girls act so extravagantly before their wedding?
For example, in the Hollywood film “Runaway Bride,” the main character Maggie ran away from the aisle straight from the church. And she did this for the 4th time! What reasons force one to put one’s recently beloved one in such a humiliating position, not to mention one’s own and his loved ones who were preparing for the wedding and invited relatives and friends to it? What happened so extraordinary that it makes the bride not care about public opinion and, lifting up the hem of her wedding dress, run away from her future?
The reasons for this behavior lie in personality psychology. The social factor is also important. Let's look at this in more detail:
- Anxious and suspicious character
. The girl is afraid of everything in life. Even her own wedding is an insurmountable, terrible test for her. Essentially, she is an unhappy person who desperately needs help from loved ones or a psychologist. - Family education
. The girl grew up without a father. The mother, exhausted by eternal need, curses the men that “here is a male, he left the child, but does not want to pay child support,” or pays very little. If she has a suspicious character, she “tryes on” her mother’s unsuccessful marriage for herself. This is how a negative attitude towards marriage is developed. Another option is when there is no warm relationship in the family. The father often quarrels with the mother and does not pay due attention to the child. Such negativity is fixed in the subconscious; already becoming an adult, the girl is intuitively opposed to the wedding. “I don’t want a life like this, where there are constant scandals and betrayals! What if my beloved turns into someone like my dad?” The runaway bride syndrome is evident. - "Epiphany"
. When we were together, no attention was paid to the negative traits of our friend. Let’s say we agreed to quit smoking, she forgot about cigarettes, and he smokes secretly from her, or doesn’t know how to do anything around the house. For example, replacing the gasket in a kitchen faucet. For the time being, no attention was paid to this. And when the conversation came up about the wedding, the bad traits of the beloved suddenly acquired universal proportions. It began to seem that it was impossible to live under the same roof with him. Although we should have thought earlier, not kept silent, but talked about it openly. - Financial questions
. Love is good, but sex does not solve family problems. And he earns little. This thought frightens me: “What will I have to live with when I go on maternity leave? He will hardly be able to give me money even for tights. Not to mention when the baby arrives. And therefore, living with him in marriage is more expensive for yourself!” - Various interests
. Love is love, and there is absolutely nothing more to talk about with him. And connect your life with this? - Fear of being the center of attention
. A wedding is a big celebration, there are a lot of people there. And everyone will stare at you, which is simply unbearable. Such thoughts and feelings are characteristic of overly timid individuals, unsure of themselves, who avoid close attention to their person. This is a significant reason for escaping from the aisle. - Independence
. Ah, “this sweet word is freedom!” It’s one thing to live in a civil marriage and feel the celebration of life. It’s quite another to register your relationship. There is no time for fun anymore, everyday life has come. And I so passionately want to not be obligated to anyone. Even to your loved one. I wish I could sing and flutter all my life, like a spring bird. True, more often such a life attitude ends, as in Krylov’s famous fable “The Dragonfly and the Ant.” “Did you sing everything? This is the point: so go and dance!” When youth has passed and sores have overcome, such a “dance” will not seem fun at all. - Unsuccessful marriage
. The first marriage was unsuccessful. Severe stressful situation, psychological breakdown. A good person was found, but the fear of official relations remained. Let it be better if everything is informal. And if he insists on marriage, she seems to agree, but at the most decisive moment she can simply run away. - Force majeure circumstances
. Suddenly, just before the wedding, she met HIM or, say, an old school love. Long-forgotten feelings flared up again. The girl refuses the wedding. - Self-admiration
. Tough, selfish natures take such a step. A sort of Herostratus complex in relation to the situation with marriage. “I’ll refuse him and become famous, they’ll talk about me, saying how cool she is, she wasn’t afraid to refuse her fiancé on the threshold of the registry office.” She doesn’t care about the feelings of her boyfriend and loved ones, such an act gives her pleasure. This is already at the level of psychological “twists” of consciousness, when you want to always be in the center of attention.
If a woman really loves, all doubts about her beloved should not worry her. You need to accept him for what he really is. There are also spots in the sun. And we should remember that she herself is not without “sin.”
Causes of runaway bride syndrome in men
Runaway bride syndrome sometimes happens to men too.
Gogol's comedy "Marriage" is widely known, when the main character escaped from his wedding through the window. Such would-be suitors often say that “the friend turned out to be lazy, she can’t really cook, and then what can we say about the family?” The reasons that force a guy to run away from his girlfriend are similar to those that force a girl to give up marriage. For example, an anxious and suspicious character, fear of a large number of people at a wedding. However, there are those that are dictated by male nature.
These include:
- Passion for wild life
. As in Vysotsky’s song: “Walk, flaw, from a ruble and above...”. Why not take a walk? After all, we only live once, and we need to live in such a way that there is nothing to regret later. When in old age you can say: “Wow, how I lived, how much was given to me in my destiny!” And the family only burdens. - Sex
. Akin to dissolute living, only the emphasis here is on relationships with women. There should be as many of them as possible. Some experts on women's souls even keep diaries in which they note their many victories on the love front. This type will promise his next girlfriend anything, for example, he is ready to register a marriage. But at the last moment, when his chosen one is already preparing for the wedding, she suddenly disappears. And he might even grab some of her things or “borrow” a large sum of money. Among these there are many gigolos who love to live at the expense of their mistress. - Picky groom
. The guy has been dating for a long time, he likes the girl. And when the question of a wedding arises, he suddenly thinks: “She’s good, but maybe I’ll find something more beautiful. And I haven’t had my fill yet!” - Greed for money
. Women are good, but money is better! Especially when it weighs down your wallet so nicely. Such men, even with greenbacks in their pockets, are very stingy with gifts for their girlfriends. For them, family means waste, which means the collapse of financial well-being. - Reluctance to start a family
. First of all, because such a “rash” step limits personal freedom when you need to look at your other half in order, say, to sit with friends over a glass of beer or go to a restaurant. And some of these “freedom lovers” do not like children, and therefore believe that they do not need a family and children. - Chronic diseases
. A person has a chronic illness, he knows about it, but hides the fact that he is sick. He has a long, serious relationship with a woman, she wants to legitimize it. He seems to agree, but at the last moment he leaves the marriage. - Homosexual
. He dates a woman, but gravitates more towards men. Such bipolar relationships do not involve marriage.
It is important to know! If a guy is tormented by worries and doubts about the wedding, he needs to share them with his friend. Sincerity in a relationship is the guarantee that he will get married and not run away from his beloved at the decisive moment.
Pre-wedding depression in the bride: causes, how to cope
Preparing for a wedding is often accompanied by a huge amount of hassle, which only a professional wedding ceremony organizer can handle.
However, the fuss and worry of solving current problems are trivial experiences compared to a more difficult problem. Pre-wedding depression. It destroys faith in the future happiness of even those brides who have spent a long time with their chosen one in a civil marriage and are planning to register their relationship in connection with the expectation of a baby.
Psychologists offer several recommendations for women who are in a healthy relationship with their fiancé, but are unable to cope with psychological problems on the eve of the wedding.
In what cases should you reconsider your decision to get married?
Your doubts are justified, and you shouldn’t rush into getting married if your potential spouse is inclined to:
- to betrayal,
- physical violence
- psychological pressure.
Also, you should not get married if the groom:
- subject to uncontrollable attacks of anger;
- accustomed to solving their own problems, including financial ones, at your expense;
- constantly conflicts with your relatives and friends;
- abuses alcohol or drugs;
- lazy, and capable, being healthy, of living without work for more than six months.
If none of the listed reasons for ending a relationship are the source of your worries, then you are able to independently overcome internal anxiety and cope with negative feelings.
What causes pre-wedding depression in a bride?
Let's figure out how the human brain works, in particular, the limbic system - a functional association of brain structures that are involved in organizing emotional and motivational behavior, including activating defensive instincts during any changes in a person’s lifestyle, even positive ones.
That is, the emotional process of anxiety or panic starts even when joyful events happen in your life - you graduated from school and entered a good institute, moved from a rented apartment to your own, quit a bad job and found the one you dreamed of.
This is especially true for personal relationships, when instead of being close to your parents or being alone, life with your future husband awaits you.
The same applies to changing social roles. If you were a mistress or cohabitant, and will soon become an official wife, unfortunately, you cannot avoid a panic reaction to a change in status.
However, you should not give in to despondency. The reaction to positive changes lasts 2-3 weeks, then addiction sets in. And during this period, your consciousness will try in every possible way to justify the negative emotions imposed on you by the proper functioning of the limbic system of the brain.
How to destroy negativity and get rid of a depressive mood
The most popular thoughts justifying your doubts about the wedding, causing depression and pre-wedding panic:
- this is not my person;
- We won’t succeed;
- I'm not ready for family life;
- I will meet the one I dreamed of;
- my ex-lover remembers me and is waiting for an opportunity to make me happy.
Subject every thought to a rigorous logical assessment:
1). The concept of “my man” is used, as a rule, in romance novels and feature films.
2). How your family relationships will develop will become known only over time.
3). You can’t be unprepared for family life; you can only either want to have a family or not.
4). You are unlikely to meet the one you once dreamed of, because time has passed and you still have not met him.
5). Your ex-lover may occasionally remember you, but if he still hasn’t made any real attempts to find you and bring you back, you shouldn’t count on him. And here and now next to you, a man who has earned your sympathy and trust expresses love and care every day in the hope of becoming a good husband to you.
After all, why not compare your future spouse with the characters of your dreams, whose images are dictated by popular culture, highlighting his best features, and not with imposed examples of male perfection, especially when it comes to appearance.
What to do in this situation
Here are some tips that will help you get rid of pre-wedding depression, save your wedding and maintain good relationships with your parents and groom.
Don't tell your fiance everything that's bothering you.
If possible, spend as little time with your fiancé as possible. You will want to talk, a lot, for a long time and with sobs. However, it is not his fault that your limbic system is working perfectly. If you tell him your thoughts in detail, no one guarantees that his proposal will remain valid.
Don’t let your loved ones know about your experiences
In an attack of melancholy or anger, provoked by depression, you can exaggerate the minor shortcomings of the groom, and mom and dad will be unable to give up their beloved daughter for such a monster.
Focus on your breathing more often
For example, every day for five minutes. And let only two thoughts wander through your charming head at this time: inhalation and exhalation. Melancholy, anxiety and doubts will turn to dust before the all-powerful breath of life - a simple life in which a wedding is a joyful holiday that opens up a happy future for you and your chosen one.
Positive exercise
Do a simple writing exercise for ten days. Every day, for 15 minutes, write down happy memories of your relationship on paper in detail. One memory for every day.
This could be an acquaintance, the first kiss or the first night, a party with friends, going to a club, a date in a cafe or drinking tea while watching a movie. The main thing is to remember and write about all the circumstances. Time of year, time of day, setting, what clothes you were wearing, what you were thinking about, what emotions you were experiencing.
This writing practice is a very popular means of psychological self-help; it will start the process of positive thinking and help overcome the defensive reaction of your psyche.
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How to deal with runaway bride syndrome
If he or she wants to get rid of his syndrome, he or she can learn techniques that are quite successful in combating phobias. This could be a set of health-improving gymnastics exercises, such as yoga. Various asanas will help relieve stress and set you up to overcome your bad habit of breaking up. When this does not help, you should consult a psychologist. Having familiarized himself with the problem, he will choose a technique that will be effective in the fight against the fear that eats away at the soul before the wedding.
Self-Care for Runaway Bride Syndrome
When, for various reasons, it is not possible to do recreational gymnastics, you should listen to useful advice.
If you adhere to them, the fear of getting married will certainly go away. Here are a few wishes when the habit of breaking up overcomes you:
- Look at yourself from the outside
. Let's say a timid person is afraid of a wedding. There are a lot of people, everyone meticulously examines the outfit of the bride and groom. You feel uncomfortable under the cross glances. What if something goes wrong or, God forbid, I faint! So that the pre-wedding jitters do not plunge you into stress, when it comes to abandoning the marriage, imagine that this is happening not to you, but to someone else. Such a “distraction” will reassure you, everything will go well. - Don't isolate yourself
. You need to share your problem with your loved one and loved ones. It’s good to have pre-wedding gatherings with friends - saying goodbye to your maiden (bachelor) life. Such an event will distract you from stupid thoughts and help you gain self-confidence. - “I’m no worse than others!”
. There is no need to indulge your fears. Only courage and self-confidence! Are you really worse than millions of people who get married without any complexes about it? Pre-wedding excitement is common to everyone, but not everyone runs away from their wedding. - Don't get hung up on little things
. Marriage is a serious step in life. No everyday troubles should influence such an important decision. If you have doubts that he (she) has bad habits, for example, smoking a lot or randomly throwing things around the room, you need to talk about it frankly. Should such trifles really affect relationships? What about love then? - Expectations from marriage
. Sensual love is wonderful! However, family everyday life leaves its mark on life together. You need to be prepared for this. And then there will be no feeling of fear when you think, “Is it worth getting married? Maybe I should wait?” - Critical attitude towards yourself
. You can’t change your character, but you need to know your weaknesses and try to fight them. If you are overcome by anxiety about your relationship with your lover, you need to analyze your and his actions in a special diary. A critical analysis of the “flights” will help you make the right decision when it comes to the wedding.
If a guy or girl showed cowardice at an important moment in their life, it’s hard to justify. Such an act can ruin the rest of your life. And the excuse that he (she) turned out to be the wrong person at all is just verbiage, behind which there is spiritual emptiness. In this case, one would like to ask: “Where did you look before?”
Bride syndrome, how to help yourself
The famous film “The Runaway Bride” has been seen by many people and perceives it as a comedy, but it, although in an exaggerated form, shows real problems associated with the emotional state of a girl getting married. This is the so-called bride syndrome.
Let's look at its essence in more detail. This name was given to a mental disorder associated with the emotional state on the eve of the wedding. It is associated with a number of fears and experiences that can haunt a girl before an exciting event in her life.
It would seem that what could cause unrest? The date of the celebration has been set, the dress has been purchased, accessories have been selected, and very soon your loved one will become your spouse... It turns out that an anxious state can be caused by all sorts of far-fetched fears, doubts and worries about little things that seem very important. Experienced psychologists share their advice in the video:
Signs of the syndrome
If, on the eve of the wedding, the bride looks depressed, suffers from mood swings, shows irritation over small things, and “withdraws into herself,” then these are sure signs that she is beginning to develop bride syndrome.
During this period, relatives and especially girlfriends should show patience and care. Their task is to calm the girl down, put her in a positive mood, try to find out in a conversation the reason for this state and help change her attitude towards this problem.
What fears haunt brides?
Fear of getting sick
This is the most common fear before a wedding. What if on the most important day I come down with a fever, my head will hurt, my nose will swell from congestion, a rash will appear on my face and much more... In fact, catching a cold is quite possible and can happen to anyone.
To avoid this possibility, it is better, firstly, to think carefully about the timing of the wedding. The greatest likelihood of becoming a victim of the flu or cold occurs during the off-season and winter period. According to statistics, from the end of January to March, ARVI attacks people more often.
Therefore, if you know that the slightest breeze can give you a cold, schedule your wedding for the summer or early autumn, when the weather is comfortable and viruses are not rampant. Secondly, take immune stimulants in advance - vitamins, preventive medications.
Be in the fresh air more often, try to get more positive emotions. They greatly influence the protective properties of the body. But if the inevitable has already happened, this is not a reason to hang your nose. In this case, there are emergency treatment methods. You can get back on your feet in a couple of days.
The main thing is to have the right attitude and willpower. Diseases take hold of us when we allow them to do so.
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I'm not good enough
This kind of self-critical attitude is common to many girls. Even a super beauty may consider herself not attractive enough: a pimple on her nose, extra centimeters on her waist, unattractive skin tone, etc. Close people should help cope with such worries.
Praise the bride more often, give her compliments. This will help restore healthy self-esteem.
Instead of whining about flaws in your appearance, it’s better to prepare well to look your best on the big day! Proper nutrition, exercise, healthy sleep will make you dazzling.
A visit to a beauty salon, a relaxing massage and a good mood are the key to external attractiveness. And, in the end, your future spouse loved you just like that! This means that you are the most charming and attractive to him. You just need to remember this.
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What if something goes wrong?
It seems that everything is thought out to the smallest detail and calculated down to the seconds, but... Anything can happen. The motorcade may get stuck in a traffic jam, it may rain, and contrary to the forecast, the temperature will be unsuitable.
You never know! All this is not excluded. And the main thing here is your attitude to unforeseen circumstances. A positive attitude will help you overcome all obstacles. Any trouble can be turned into a joke.
And in case of rain, an umbrella will help!
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Did I choose the right person to be my life partner?
Oddly enough, even after several years of relationship, a girl on the eve of her wedding tends to doubt the correctness of her choice. The reason for this doubt may be the fear of breaking up the relationship after a while. The bride begins to go through the shortcomings of her chosen one, and beat herself up.
This is the wrong approach. In the modern world, almost all couples, when getting married, already have experience living together and are well acquainted with each other's strengths and weaknesses.
If before the decision was made to legalize the relationship you did not experience discomfort in the company of your lover, then there is no reason to think bad. After all, you get married of your own free will and, most importantly, out of love! Every person is not perfect. Everyone has shortcomings. The question is how to treat them.
Don't let negative thoughts develop fears and doubts. You and this person felt happy, keep this state within yourself! And all will be well!
I'm afraid of change
Fear of changing the course of your life, fear of the unknown, of everyday life, fear of losing personal space, in general, fear of change. This is also a typical state before the wedding. Change is always disturbing, it is our nature.
No one knows what awaits us ahead, that’s why life is wonderful! Without going into the river, it is impossible to know whether there is a ford in it. Approach this philosophically. Let all changes be only for the better. We can create our own destiny. And now you have a very real chance to influence what your independent life will be like.
Make joint plans, translate them into reality, see the result, strive for the best - this should become your motto!
If you are aware of your fears, then you are already halfway to overcoming them. Share them with your friends, parents and future husband. Close, loving people will help you get rid of doubts and worries. You love and are loved, and this is the guarantee that you can survive any adversity together! And the runaway bride syndrome will remain just the plot of the film.
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