Practice2
Practical techniques of sex are much easier to describe, fortunately, the thousand-year history of writing such books has already prepared an excellent basis. Below is a list of books about sex that will not only tell and show you how to have more fun, but also give advice on behavior in relationships.
- Kamasutra
Without her, this top would not be complete enough. For those who are not in the know, the Kama Sutra is a kind of instruction manual. Like, for example, when assembling a cabinet. Only in this case does she talk about how to have sex more correctly, more conveniently and more pleasantly. And even in pictures. The Kama Sutra was written around the 3rd-4th century AD, and was published in 1883 in England.
Interestingly, the Kama Sutra is not only a colorful instruction about sex. Its chapters describe how to behave with women, what love is, how to communicate with married women and how to seduce them, as well as how a woman should behave in marriage. There are a total of 64 poses in this book, many of which are named after different animal species. It was believed that these animals should be imitated during sex and make the same sounds that they make.
- "Everything you wanted to know about sex but were afraid to ask" by David Ruben
This guide to sex was written over 50 years ago. The author claims that he still receives letters of gratitude from his readers. A psychiatrist by training and a sex expert by vocation, in his book he describes not only the technique of sex, but also what psychological state should be during lovemaking.
- The Sex Bible, Paul Joanides
This book is worth reading for everyone. No seriously. For those who have not had sexual experience or the desire to masturbate appeared for the first time. For those who have small children asking awkward questions. For those who want to expand their vocabulary with erotic words from other countries. This book will also be of interest to those who want to learn historical or scientific facts about sex. In general, this is a desktop manual on sex.
Psychology and sexology in books about sex4
In addition to books of general content, there are also those that tell their readers about behavioral patterns in sex and psychological context. Sex is one of the most important natural human needs. In order for both partners to be satisfied with their sex life, it is necessary not only to take into account many nuances, but also to understand what exactly the partner wants and how to please him. Sometimes you have to deal with intimate problems and learn to be open to each other. For those who are interested in the topic of sex from a theoretical perspective, this list of books from famous psychologists, sexologists and sexual gymnastics instructors has been compiled:
- 7 intimate secrets. Psychology of sexuality", Andrey Kurpatov
A popular psychotherapist from Russia was once extremely dissatisfied with what had been written about sex over the past 50 years. So he wrote his book about sex. From a psychological point of view, the author examines the issues of intimate problems, impotence and achieving orgasm, as well as getting rid of complexes in bed.
- "Sex. From the neurobiology of libido to virtual porn,” Daria Varlamova and Elena Foer
This book is intended for those who have heard a lot about the benefits and harms of sex, and do not know what to believe. Does acne affect sex, weight, varicose veins, potency and headaches? Many myths are debunked in this book, and those that are true are supported by real research.
- "Men on My Couch" by Bradley Engler
An American psychologist, having entered into private practice, discovered a gold mine. Mostly men came to her sessions with questions about sexual problems. Everyone shared their thoughts, emotions, problems. Having found out what a man wants, the author released her book, lifting the curtain on this mysterious world for society.
You can read more about the psychology of sexuality in our article here.
Elena Foer and Daria Varlamova “Sex: from neurobiology to virtual porn. Popular science guide"
First, about the authors. Elena Foer is a journalist who maintains a blog about sexuality and writes popular science articles on sexology for Glamor, Marie Claire, SNC, Theories and Practitioners. And Daria Varlamova is the ex-editor of the “Theories and Practices” portal and co-author of the book “Go Crazy! A Guide to Mental Disorders for a Big City Resident.”
“We tried to approach working with sources as carefully as possible - we are journalists by profession, and not at all specialized experts in sexology, and therefore we meticulously studied the most relevant and convincing scientific research... If you want to understand how your sexuality works, this book will not give you all answers. But we hope it will help you ask the right questions.”
In seven chapters, the girls go through the mechanisms of libido and the phenomenon of asexuality and find out why we choose a specific person to satisfy our desires. They help to understand the psychology of betrayal with the help of reasoning about the influence of emotions to the arguments “this is how nature works.” They delve into the study of sexual fantasies and explain the boundaries between normality and paraphilia. They also tell us what happens to our body during sexual intercourse. Elena and Daria end their work very philosophically - with fantasies about the future of sex and its appearance in virtual reality.
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Autobiographyi
It may seem that the easiest thing to do is write an autobiography. However, it's not that simple. It is difficult to honestly describe everything that happened, revealing yourself from both the positive and negative sides. Especially when it comes to sexual experience. However, there are authors who have not hesitated to let a wide audience into their bed.
- "Dangerous Liaisons" by Choderlos de Lako
The only work of a French officer at one time received wide resonance and was criticized for immorality. The novel in letters tells us about two aristocrats from Paris planning to seduce a graduate of a convent school. According to the author himself, the letters published in the book are genuine, and he himself acts only as an editor.
- Tropic of Cancer, Henry Miller
The book is mostly autobiographical. The author describes his sexual adventures. Due to the large number of novels, critics believe that some of these stories are fictional. However, some of them suggest that the sex stories are not fictional, but they appeared only due to the author’s fame, because he wrote quite a few novels about sex. It is quite interesting to read due to some dissonance between the characters and their stories. For example, here is a quote from the book: “...This woman, apparently, really was a real princess. By all indications. True, she was diagnosed with clap.”
- "Diary of a Thief", Jean Genet
We can say that this book is one of the most frank among all autobiographies. Once in prison, the author begins to write a book about how he became a homosexual. Smugglers, prostitutes, bandits - these are the main characters of his work. The book caused a public outcry and was banned in America, as were many of his other works.
- “Saint Porno. A story about cinema and the body,” Bogdan Logvinenko
This book was written by Ukrainian journalists and tells its readers about the porn industry. After talking with a porn actress, the author learned all the secrets and nuances of filming porn. The nuances, awkwardness, hackwork, myths and stereotypes in porn films are described in this book.
Laurie Mintz "The point of pleasure. The key to female orgasm"
“Hi, I want you to experience an orgasm,” this is how psychologist Laurie Mintz begins her acquaintance with readers. She explains that the inspiration for writing the book came from her experiences with students. At the University of Florida, Laurie teaches a course on sexuality. The main motivation for working on “The Point of Pleasure” was the bewilderment of the students who had not experienced orgasm before attending Lori’s lectures.
“They [students] say that I’m eccentric because I can say something like: “I had an orgasm before you were born!”... The main thing is that I am sure that this book will lead you to an orgasm,” this has already happened to many students who took my course.”
Five parts of the book help to gradually open up a world of new sensations:
- finding out the reasons for the lack of orgasms - analysis of the main myths inspired by cinema and incorrect sexual communication;
- an educational program about the clitoris, which Lori calls an essential element for achieving maximum pleasure;
- an explanation of the process of female orgasm and the subtleties of intimate training;
- a philosophical part with discussions about the need for basic knowledge about your body and constant dialogue with your partner.
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