How to become a femme fatale?
How to become a femme fatale ? And, most importantly, do you need it?
Well, why do you become “ fatal” if by nature you are soft and vulnerable? If you are used to pleasing everyone and it hurts you at the thought that you could offend or offend someone. If so, then give up your dreams of great women's victories. This will give you nothing but guilt and disappointment.
But this is provided that you take everything too personally. For example, to enter into the position of the unfortunate ones who did not have enough for you, to react with wild joy to compliments and courtship. All these manifestations, of course, characterize you as a sweet, sincere person, but... this approach misses the main thing - it is not able to touch the heartstrings .
What's the secret?
Compare: a “beloved” woman and a “good decent” woman. Do you know what the difference is? The fact is that the “beloved” is forgiven much more than just being good and decent. But the “good” one does not have to be a saint - she also makes mistakes. Only these mistakes turn out to be almost fatal ! She just believes that love for her (read: good attitude) rests on her ability to please.
One mother-in-law spoke of her daughter-in-law like this: “Oh, if you only knew how deliciously she cooks!” Every day at the stove, and at the same time she also manages everything around the house, and the children are at it. If she hadn’t been such a good housewife, Vanya probably wouldn’t have lived with her...” That is, Vanya settled down well, having found himself a free cook and a servant all in one, with whom he lives only because he is satisfied with the level of her “qualifications.” " On the other hand, if there is nothing to love a woman for, then this does not prevent anyone from using her.
In fact, in order to become an object of desire and love for a man, it is not at all necessary to stand in the wings. Look for a way to the heart through the stomach and, oddly enough, even through the bed. The most that a “baking master” can hope for is to become his favorite cook, just as a “reliable whore with a heart of gold” will still remain just a whore for him...
Male gaze
One respondent spoke about this as follows: “We men love to have fun and eat delicious food, but love... is a little different level. The fact is that the service personnel, in general, are always easily replaceable: “No? Don't do that! We'll find another one."
You know, women who are ready to do anything for us and always, of course, evoke a strong response in our pants and stomachs. But we compare them to consumer goods; we know we can buy them anytime, anywhere, and they're always at affordable prices.
And then there are high-end goods - they are expensive, and therefore, if sometimes we manage to get them at a discount, we take it as a gift of fate, and not as a matter of course. Because looking at them, we see their real price, which suggests that they are not for everyone.”
Why does she get away with everything?
Deep down, every man dreams of possessing a femme fatale , who is desired by many, but truly belongs to no one. What distinguishes her from others, no less worthy and beautiful?
Self-esteem is the most important difference. All its real and apparent advantages grow from this self-esteem. Self-esteem can compensate for all its shortcomings. And this turns out to be the most terrible and incomprehensible thing for men. It is because of her high self-esteem that she gets away with a lot.
At the same time, outwardly she can be courteous and radiant. Nothing like a cold block of ice. On the contrary, you just want to touch her. But she will never be curried, justified or imposed. Remember the analogy with goods that was given to us. Advertising of luxury goods does not require obsequious explanations. The brand name speaks for itself. One image and a minimum color palette is enough. Now compare with it an advertisement for some yogurt - a detailed list of all the beneficial properties, all the colors of the rainbow and a stupid song to boot. But what could we do without this - after all, the market is flooded with similar products, so in order for people to buy this particular one, they still have to try to persuade them.
And a Luxury woman, with all her appearance, declares that she is a rarity, that if you want her, you will have to rack your brains. You immediately begin to think: if she behaves this way, it means that something gives her the right to do so. But where to start if you can’t do it “that way”? The first thing you need to do is change the wording of the question: from the ingratiating “ How to hook him ?” to the evaluative “How can this man take me?” When you get used to reformulating such questions that arise uncontrollably in your head, not only the expression on your face will change for the better... Then one fine day they will say something like the following about you: “... As if I’m convinced that with just my presence I can create happiness anyone." This and only this will allow you to feel like the mistress of the situation, even without any reason.
For a man to admire you, you must feel a slight superiority over him. And you don’t have to imagine yourself as a crowned person; it’s enough just not to “serve” him. And this is not about the notorious offerings of coffee in bed. A “maid's heart” can be possessed by either a maid or a crown princess. It is important to remember the following: your task is not to please a man, but to share the “pleasure” with him.
If by bringing joy to a man, you feel a surge of energy and strength, you are observing the principle of reasonable hedonism. Then in his eyes you become truly beautiful. If, during his “holiday”, you feel tired and do something through “I don’t want”, you are engaged in banal servility and all your actions are devalued.
Two wives are waiting for their beloved husbands from a long voyage. The first polished the floors, washed the windows, hung new curtains in the kitchen, and prepared an assortment of gourmet dishes. Barely able to stand, she opened the door to her beloved. After the usual hugs and kisses, she escorted him to the lushly laid table.
“Thank you, my clever girl, you just fed me!” - the satiated husband said, yawning sweetly, - Well? We've eaten, and now it's time for a treat! How tired I am...
Sighing wearily in unison with her falling asleep husband, the wonderful wife trudged off to straighten the sofa.
The second wife did not particularly strain herself. Having moderately tidied up the rooms, she took a relaxing bath, put on her favorite silk robe, and... turning on relaxation music, she fell onto the bed with a smart book. When she, with sparkling eyes and a refreshed face, met her dear husband, he immediately, without hesitation, threw her onto the bed. “How tired I am!” – she said after dizzying sex, “With what strength should I now stand behind the stove?” Let's go to the restaurant! – she heard in response.
The one who knows how to extract HER own pleasure from communication with a man automatically becomes the source of his pleasure too. And so, when, one fine day, She turns into his main and greatest joy, he can no longer restrain himself and makes her the very proposal that is expected of him (and even if they are not expected, then it is still an offer will).
Settings in her head
Do you want to become his joy not just in words, but in life? Do you want to seduce easily and not worry about anything? Then, no matter how smart you really are, do not hesitate to sometimes imagine yourself as an empty doll - look, nod and... certainly feel like a gift from fate.
If you deeply understand this, you will stop waiting for the cherished “approval” from men - you will easily and openly verbalize your desires. Instead of cautious: Are you dancing? Take him by the hand and say: I want to dance with you!
Instead of being unsure: Maybe you can walk me home? Come accompany me! Instead of: Maybe you can come in for a cup... You can come in.
Instead of a confused declaration of love, you take him by the tie and kiss him on the lips first. Don't make excuses, don't beg or ask, just say and do what you want.
When a woman is so flirtatiously self-confident, she captivates her in such a way that the man she is talking to does not have time to switch to his thoughts. When she is “here and now” and demands the same from him, she can evoke his desire as if by chance. She doesn't ask him with her eyes, she hypnotizes him with them! Don't ask, don't beg - just lead. The more you “push” your line, the more your positivity is affirmed and the sooner you will attract others to your side.
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The difference between a fatal woman and a bitch
There are quite a lot of bitchy women. Bookstore shelves sell collections of recommendations on how to become a bitch, but this concept is a little narrower than the type of female we are studying.
The fact is that a bitch is a beautiful girl who knows how to dress and do her hair, has knowledge of male psychology, but the basis of her relationship with a man is a disrespectful attitude in the absence of emotional intimacy. Men, as a rule, quickly recognize falsehood and easily break off relationships with such girls.
The situation with the femme fatale is much more complicated. She captures the heart and thoughts without doing anything special for this. In addition, thanks to her honesty, she always remains emotionally close to her chosen one, while constantly pushing the boundaries of his own worldview. Such girls inspire men and charge them with energy to take action.
Meeting such a girl and selfless love or affection can be really dangerous. Therefore, intuitively, guys are afraid of such relationships, but they always dream about them and look for the one among the girls who can win his heart.
Don't neglect perfume
“At various moments in my life, I am accompanied by the aromas of my perfume... I would rather forget any things at home than leave the house without an attractive aroma,” said Catherine Deneuve. Use perfumes with spicy, elegant and mysterious aromas, as if deliberately with the goal of crushing men's hearts once and for all. Do not acquire a smell that is at the top of fashion - the smell should relate only to you and no one else. Use niche scents, remembering the scent a man will remember you.
Self-love as the basis of high self-esteem
This confidence stems from unconditional self-love. Often, femme fatales are those ladies whom both parents loved very much in childhood. Her mother's love allowed her to learn to accept herself for who she is. Therefore, the femme fatale will never experience difficulties expressing her own femininity. She has no rejection or irritation either towards herself or towards other women around her. This trait makes her incredibly charming.
My father’s love allowed me to learn how to communicate with men and not have fears or complexes in front of them. Therefore, the femme fatale communicates with members of the opposite sex on equal terms - there is no place for hypocrisy or prejudice in her character.
Use decorative cosmetics
Decorating eco-cosmetics is the main tool in experienced ladies' hands. Don't ignore the opportunities that the beauty industry offers you, but don't overdo it either. Impeccable color tone, a little blush, eyeliner, eyebrow pencil, mascara and the most basic thing - scarlet lipstick. There are so many different shades of red in the world, a woman who thinks that this tone is not for her will find her own perfect one. If you are in a hurry, a hint of fragrant perfume and scarlet lipstick - and without a doubt, the image of a femme fatale is created.
Fall in love with yourself for real
A femme fatale is not obliged to meet the standards of beauty established in the world. Stop getting upset about the standards of magazines and covers, because femme fatales turn out to be completely different from those on the glossy with cute faces. And don’t forget about Coco Chanel’s phrases about beauty: “There are no ugly women, only lazy ones.” It is unreasonable to expect that society will accept you as you are - any woman, being a fatal one, is obliged to take care of herself. Without exception, your appearance should be impeccable from your well-groomed hands right down to your stylish shoes.
Working on yourself to gain confidence
Is it possible to become a femme fatale, given these features? In fact, if a girl did not receive enough love in childhood and for this reason did not become self-confident, this does not mean that this deficiency cannot be corrected. If desired, every woman can become self-confident by cultivating this quality. For one girl, this will require diligent independent work, while another cannot do without the assistance of a professional psychologist.
How do you become a femme fatale - overnight or does it require months and years of work on yourself? If we talk about such an integral quality of heartbreakers as self-confidence, then the timing here will be individual. To conquer the submissive and modest lady who fulfills all the whims of a man, it often takes a very long time. But proper efforts will sooner or later give results, and the woman will begin to love and respect herself more and more.
To develop the self-confidence characteristic of a femme fatale, it is useful to use the following recommendations:
- Dress nicely. How to become a femme fatale for a man if her appearance suggests that the lady does not really pay attention to her clothes, makeup, and hairstyle? A girl should allow herself to look much better than usual in order to gain a reputation as a fatal beauty. Also, the appearance must match the surrounding environment. It is unlikely that a femme fatale would wear a hippie outfit to a formal party, no matter how individualistic she may be. But she completely styles the outfit that is appropriate for this event, so she cannot go unnoticed.
- Control over movements. Often insecure people try to take a more comfortable body position when they are nervous. Or they don’t know where to put their hands and start fiddling with something, scratching their nose or rubbing their ears. In such situations, you need to train yourself to relax. After all, unnecessary body movements will immediately reveal to others that this is not a femme fatale, but an insecure person.
- To learn to control your movements, make them smooth and graceful, it is useful to pay attention to your body. For example, this could be going to the pool to relax your muscles. Or stretching classes that will make your gait smooth and your posture royal.
- Be confident in your words. How can a lady whose word is worth nothing become a femme fatale? Chatterboxes who engage in idle chatter every minute in the presence of a man will not be able to gain the reputation of a femme fatale. Such a woman always knows the value of her word. If she decides to promise something, you can be one hundred percent sure that the promise will be fulfilled. If she calls, it means something really important happened, and she didn’t just want to talk to a man about nothing.
Also, the femme fatale is always confident in her words that she pronounces in conversation. On the one hand, she knows how to admit her mistakes, but on the other, if her opinion is correct, she will choose the right argument and prove that she is right.
Don't be afraid to show your mind
Let other women think about the idea that men's opinion prefers stupid girls, but we are talking about fatal ones. A sensible and graceful woman is doubly interesting, as she is pleasant to look at and has something to talk about. Take books, read magazines and useful information, go to the opera, theater performances and even to the cinema - expand your range of interests. Do not hesitate to express your own opinion even if your opinion is contrary to the opinion of other people. Stories about wonderful birds in the garden and adored lipstick in a man's world can't get you anywhere.
The most important thing is to think about yourself
One of the great people said, if you do what interests you, then one person in the world will be happy. Don't let any person - your comrades, your lover, or your boss - determine how you should live. Live in this way, just as your soul orders, do what brings you pleasure and do not do anything that does not bring you joy. Do not allow those around you to control you, give you advice, teachings and goals, relegating your circle of interests to the background. They can tell others, but not you.
