When a guy likes a girl, he instinctively begins to behave in a certain way to attract her attention. You can read in a man’s behavior the signals he gives to a woman when he wants to get to know her or simply finds her attractive. And such signals really exist.
As a rule, a man’s interest is indicated by several signals at once: the man begins to check whether his clothes are in order, straightens his shoulders, pushes his chest forward, and the like. Just like in the wild, males fluff their tails in front of the female to get noticed. So if a guy shows off in front of a girl, and she also likes him, then perhaps she is very lucky. Here the girl can safely take a step towards him - after all, his behavior eloquently shows her that she is desirable, even if the guy is silent.
If anyone doubts this, just watch the actions of men in the company of their companions somewhere in a cafe. Then you will notice exactly what the man does and how the woman reacts to it. By the way, here you can learn from other people’s mistakes and remember what works and what doesn’t, what turns out to be the most effective. If you learn to recognize these signals, you will definitely not miss your opportunity in such situations.
How does a guy behave if he likes a girl?
If a guy likes a girl, he sends her certain signals. In his behavior you can notice characteristic signs of interest. Let's look at seven behavioral signs that appear if a man likes a girl. No matter how many points you score on the test, you still need to know all the signals that men give to the woman they like. In fact, acquaintance begins long before both speak a word to each other. This means that if you understand the non-verbal signals of the opposite sex, then you are definitely one step ahead of your competitors. If you remain blind to a man's signals for a long time, he will switch to another charming creature.
The more signals you notice, the more confident you will feel when talking to a man, because you will know for sure that he likes you. Everything is much simpler than it seems.
Sign #1 – A man preens in your presence
Men begin to adjust their clothes on an instinctive level. And they themselves don’t even notice it. If you ask your friend if it happens that he does this, then most likely he will deny it. But if you specifically observe, you can be convinced of the opposite. If you don’t believe me, then at your next party, watch how young people behave surrounded by potential girlfriends.
How men preen in the presence of women:
- They begin to smooth and straighten the hair on the head;
- Tighten the tie;
- Straighten the shirt collar;
- They brush imaginary pieces of debris from their shirt or jacket;
- Tuck in your shirt better;
- Pull up your socks and re-tie the bows on the laces.
A man carries out all these activities to straighten his clothes or hairstyle for one single purpose - to look his best and so that the woman he needs will finally pay attention to him. Since men do not even notice their fuss - everything is instinctive - a woman initiated into these rituals can be sure to take the first step herself. So if a man suddenly starts adjusting his clothes in your presence, this is a sure sign that he wants to get to know you. Women should take this as a silent compliment and take action. This is exactly what a man expects from you. The first verbal step on the part of a woman in response to a non-verbal step of a man is to praise his hairstyle, style of clothing, fashionable shoes, branded shirt, fashionable accessories: belt, bag, cell phone. And at this moment the man will be simply happy that he was paid attention to.
Sign #2 – Raising eyebrows
If a man raises his eyebrows in the presence of a woman, this means that a sign has lit up in his mind: I LIKE SER. I wish SHE COULD COME CLOSER TO ME. Again, everything happens at the level of instincts, so the man doesn’t even notice it. So a dedicated woman, seeing a man with raised eyebrows in her presence, will smile to herself and say: “I think this guy has his eye on me.”
Sign #3 – A man puts his hands on his hips
If a man puts his hands on his hips in front of a woman, he signals his readiness to get to know each other, as if saying: I AM WAITING FOR YOU.
When a woman notices such a signal from a man she likes, she should come closer to him and simply say hello, flashing her a smile. At the same time, you can pay attention to what is happening with his hands: as soon as he is convinced that the woman is determined to continue communication, his hands will again stretch along the body.
Sign #4 – A man puts his thumbs in his belt or puts his hands in his pockets
A man who is romantically inclined towards a woman, as a rule, clings to his belt with his thumbs, or hides several fingers in his pockets. This gesture gives two messages to the woman: first, that he noticed her, and second, that he would like to meet her. Often girls do not notice this signal, so you should be more attentive to the men around you. A man tries his best to show his courage so that a woman nearby will pay attention to him.
Sign No. 5 – Apollo figure
Women have probably noticed more than once that some man standing next to them, for no apparent reason, suddenly begins to suck in his stomach, slightly pushes his chest forward, straightens his shoulders, straightens his posture and somehow becomes taller?
This is what experts in communication between opposite sexes call the COURTING POSITION. The man tries for her sake. He wants to appear strong, courageous and desirable. There is a stereotype in a man’s mind that women are attracted to athletic-looking bodybuilders. So he tries his best to live up to them. A man wants a woman to notice his masculinity.
A man with such behavior probably wants to get to know the one he is trying to get to know. He gathers his will into a fist to take the first step towards a woman. A forward-thinking woman in such a situation should introduce herself first to give the man a head start. He will definitely appreciate this gesture.
Sign No. 6 – Showing nobility
A woman should understand signs of nobility in a man nearby as the fact that he considers her worthy of his attention. Women should not ignore the following elements in the behavior of their interlocutor:
- The man gives way to the woman.
- Trying to warm the woman, he gives her his jacket.
- He opens the door for the woman and lets her in.
- If a woman is standing in line behind a man, she invites her to go first.
- Offers assistance at a gas station.
If a man illuminates a particular woman with his nobility, she should admire his manners and gentlemanliness. And in return she will definitely not be disappointed.
Sign #7 – Feet shoulder-width apart
If a man places his legs apart in front of a woman, this is an important signal for the woman. It’s like he’s marking his territory and signaling that: THIS IS MY SPACE. I'M THE BOSS HERE. COME TO ME. Just as in the wild, the male’s posture tells his rivals who the leader is, and the females – that he is waiting for them.
Women should know that if they see a man standing in a threatening position, they should not be afraid. You just need to smile or say hello to him. He's not intimidating the woman, but the other guys nearby.
The man became insolent, what should I do? (Part 4)
So, in the previous three parts, I described ten signs of how to determine in the initial stages that a man has begun to become impudent. Read the first part HERE .
In this part I will talk about what to do if a man becomes insolent.
In general, the scheme is general, although it has features depending on the stage of the relationship between a man and a woman. Therefore, decide on the stage and then determine the actions (usually 2-3 mutually reinforcing ones) and move forward.
So, what to do if a man becomes insolent at the stage of the relationship, when the first dates take place?.
At this stage of the relationship, the girl needs to be extremely strict towards any manifestation of the man’s insolence. I repeat for those who have not read the first parts that a man, regardless of his character, must at this stage run after a woman, jump, perform various tricks, get her on the phone, woo her, accompany her home, try to drag her into bed, try to adapt to suit her wishes, try to cheer her up, etc.
A girl, of course, should also give feedback if she likes a man. That is, a man must understand that his jumping and singing under the J balcony is appreciated. (or if you don’t like it and don’t appreciate it, then say it too and don’t torture him)
But a smile, a small kiss in response to your praise and an attempt to press somewhere is, of course, not an initiative. And I repeat that a man’s insolence at this stage is unacceptable.
If a man is already impudent, then what will happen next when he achieves his goal? It is clear that it will be much worse.
The conclusion is clear. At this stage, even if you like the man and you have fallen in love, but if he has become insolent (1-2 points on the insolence scale), then you should postpone sex, you can postpone dates, etc. If the insolence is 3 points or higher (read in the previous parts), then it makes sense to break up before you fall head over heels in love, have no children together, etc. Read about other mistakes that girls make on first dates in the book “23 Mistakes with Men .”
The second thing that beautiful girls often do at this stage is to adjust their self-esteem.
I have already written about this more than once, but I will repeat it. If a girl is very beautiful, then she attracts men from the highest social strata for sex. But such men will never marry or build long-term relationships. (with rare exceptions)
Therefore, it makes sense to adjust your self-esteem and understand what type of men are ready to get married or, at a minimum, invest a lot in a relationship financially, through actions that require time and effort, bending their habits and character to suit you.
And already focus on such men.
Otherwise, the situation when a man begins to get a little impudent after the first 3-4 dates and sooner or later leaves the girl will be repeated systematically.
Correcting self-esteem can be painful and sometimes takes 10-20 years. If you have such a problem, then try to adjust your self-esteem in at least a few months or a year or two.
The next stage of the relationship, when you and the man are already dating relatively constantly . If a man has become insolent at this stage of the relationship, what should he do?
Here the scheme changes a little. A man, by definition, is no longer inclined to bend under a woman as much as during the courtship period. (there are exceptions, but we won’t talk about that) And in principle there are no men who are not impudent at all.
Therefore, at this stage it is impossible to send a man for the slightest mistake. Otherwise, you can be left without men who are, in principle, normal in character and in relation to you.
Next, I will briefly outline the strategies. But I will repeat. The main thing is not strategies on how to behave when a man is insolent. The main thing is how early you notice that a man has begun to become impudent, how timely and adequately you react to the fact that the man has become insolent (not too weakly and not too strongly, so that the man does not consider you an inadequate hysterical woman and a princess and a pea) and the one who you by character and status .
The man's insolence needs to be stopped.
The first is the cessation of communication or even your departure.
If a man has become insolent, then the standard method at this stage is a partial cessation of communication (you are busy) or even a complete cessation of communication.
There is no need to explain anything to a man for a long time. There is no need to argue with him for a long time. There is no need to try to explain to a man for a long time what you want from him. You just stop communicating and that’s it.
As long as you are not a family, this is one of the best options.
You need to raise a man and learn to maintain self-respect now, and not when you have three children. It is clear that later it will be 100 times more difficult.
You need to understand that when using this technique, a man can actually leave you. But if that's the case, then he doesn't need you. And it is not he who seeks you, but you who seek him. In the next 2-3 months, this man will still leave or the relationship will switch to only sexual relations 1-2 times a week.
In this case, it is better to leave on your own. And self-respect will remain and the man’s attitude towards you will be much better. The likelihood that he will return will also be higher.
I have already written about how insolence manifests itself in the first three parts. There is also an article about how a man shows disrespect for a woman. Read the link https://kirranov.ru/psihologiya-muzhchin/muzhchina-ne-uvazhaet-zhenshhinu-priznaki-neuvazheniya-chast-1/
The second is to simply say that you don’t like some behavior..
This technique is usually combined with the first. That is, you say that you don’t like something in his behavior (let’s say he makes fun of you in an ugly way) and if the man doesn’t react, then you distance yourself (be silent, leave, etc.)
When using this technique, it is also advisable not to try to get into arguments. You don’t need to explain to a man 100 times why something is important to you or why his behavior is unacceptable. (More on this below)
There is no need to try to argue with him. That is, when you told him something, and he responded to you with another 100 complaints.
If he doesn’t want to hear and change, that means he doesn’t want to.
Don't expect too much that it will change because you repeated something 100 times.
If he at least verbally agrees with you and you see that the man is trying to change, asking about what he is doing wrong, then, of course, you can repeat what you don’t like or, on the contrary, like in his behavior.
Third. When using any technique, you must be absolutely convinced that the man has become insolent and his behavior is unacceptable to you.
Then arguments will be meaningless for you, and your ability to convince a man will immediately increase by 10 times. Your own conviction that you are right is one of the most important methods of persuading a man.
You are not going to discuss with a man what is unacceptable to you. If, for example, a man’s betrayal is unacceptable to you, then you are not going to argue with him about why betrayal is unacceptable to you, in what cases it may be acceptable, listen to his examples that “Vasya is cheating and his wife accepts it” etc.
Absolutely no. This is never discussed with anyone and under any circumstances . (If this is acceptable to you, there are still other types of insolence that are unacceptable).
And in order to understand what is acceptable for you and what is not, it is extremely advisable to think in advance about examples of insolence, ten types of which I gave in the first parts of the article.
What kind of behavior from a man is acceptable to you, what is not?
What can you forgive a man, what sometimes and on what conditions, and what never? Think about your position in advance! And it will be much easier for you to use any technique.
And it may turn out that you caused a scandal, which, upon closer examination, is just some standard behavior of a man and gives him the impression that you are not reacting quite adequately. And when a man really gets impudent and you need to make a little scandal and leave, then you can’t do anything.
Think in advance about what is acceptable for you, what is not, and such situations will not happen at all or will happen less often.
Fourth - be careful with what you do for a man.
Often in consultations (information HERE ) I hear a complaint from women that the more they do for a man, the more impudent they become.
But this is a wrong impression. I repeat that this does not happen and cause and effect are confused.
You cannot do something good for a man and a relationship and thereby ruin him and the relationship.
For example, you do everything for the man at home. First you take on one responsibility, then another, a third, a fourth, and now you’re working around the house 24 hours a day. But does a man need this freebie?
On the one hand, it’s rare that any man can refuse a freebie. But on the other hand, is such behavior really beneficial?
Of course not! Freebies are harmful for both children and men . There is no need to turn an already half-infantile man into an even more infantile one. He won't be grateful to you for this.
Or, for example, a man’s study or work.
It’s one thing if you ask a man a little about his studies, about his successes, sometimes remind him to go to training or study something necessary for his career at work, and occasionally praise him.
And it’s completely different that you do everything for him yourself. You do tests for him, write a diploma, drag his business to the detriment of yourself and your hobbies. Of course, the man feels that as a result of your actions he does not become a MAN with a capital M, but again gets a freebie and turns into an infantile boy.
Another example.
You share your most intimate things with a man. In your opinion (as happens with your friends), such behavior is a sign of your trust in the man and you also need to share and share your experiences and emotions.
But, in fact, this is certainly not the case. For a man who is not really in love, such information is not needed. She stresses him out, does not allow him to relax and fall in love with you. A man doesn't need too much of your emotions. They said that you love him a couple of times after he himself told you many times and that’s enough.
Same with sex, gifts, praise, etc.
All this can be stressful if you give it all to a man in too large a volume, inadequate to the man’s capabilities, his real achievements. (undeserved praise, for example)
So I’ll repeat it again. Too much is always bad. You don’t have to do anything bad for your man or yourself. That is, the first glass of water after desert is class. But when you try to push a fifth liter of water into a man, he will not be happy.
I repeat that it’s the same for everything.
A little care is great. A lot of worrying is nauseating.
A little love and a man flies on wings. Every hour, send an SMS with a declaration of love and the man will hide from you in a couple of days.
Sex after a week of intense courtship is great. Trying every day to please a man with sex (preferably several times) and the man will soon think with horror about meeting a girl.
That is, do good things for a man. This almost always improves the relationship. The only good thing is to sometimes send him away because he has become insolent. It's good to sometimes do nothing for a man. Good things often mean causing a little scandal .
And the most useful thing for a man will be if you don’t let him get impudent. This will keep him interested in you for many years. If you allow him to become impudent, then interest, love, etc. will disappear.
The next stage of the relationship is marriage.
If a man has become insolent in marriage, then this is already a complex case and I will not describe it in detail here, since there are several different typical cases and to analyze each one you need a minimum of an article. I will write a separate series of articles about this.
So, the topic of when a man becomes insolent and what to do about it is very broad, and I touched on about 1% in the article. But for women who often don’t even understand that a man is starting to become impudent and push his way through, this, in my opinion, is very valuable information. I repeat, the earlier you stop infatuation, the easier it is.
Read the next part, “A man became insolent after the birth of a child, what should I do?”
Best regards, Rashid Kirranov.
A case from one's life. How to meet a guy in a cafe
One day Lena was going to have coffee with her friends. She arrived at the cafe earlier than the others, sat down at a table and began browsing her blog on her smartphone. Accidentally, she looked up and saw a guy smiling at her. He suddenly pulled his shirt down slightly and straightened his hair. Lena noticed these movements, but did not attach any importance to it. She went back to the Internet. When she looked up again, he was standing with his chest out and his hands in his pockets.
Lena rose from the table, said hello and introduced herself. Andrey offered her a cup of coffee and said that he was very glad that she came up and spoke to him. Because I thought about it myself, but didn’t know where to start. Lena smiled and told him about the nonverbal signals that came from him. Andrei blushed and said that there was nothing like that, although he himself was very glad to meet him. When Lena's friends arrived, she gave him her phone number. Five years later, Lena and Andrey are still laughing about this story, although Andrey still denies everything.
