How to understand that a man does not value relationships?
Dear ladies, I greet you!
Today this article is exclusively for you. So shhhhh, not a word to the men. And today we will talk about how to understand that a man does not value relationships and abuses female attention. After all, you always want to believe in the “big and pure”, but if you are tormented by vague doubts, then I suggest you look into it. So, before you conduct your own small investigation, you need to make sure that the suspicions are not groundless and that there is no banal self-inflation. To do this, do the following. Write down point by point what facts do not suit you. They must be systematic, unambiguous and must clearly indicate that you are being used. Don't take into account situations that were episodic.
Differences in behavior between the sexes
In most cases, a man and a woman may experience the same feelings, but their behavior will be different. A man will be able to maintain prudence and external equanimity, but the girl will most likely react brightly and violently in the current situation. In this case, she will be alarmed and concerned about the man’s external indifference. It is precisely due to the differences in individual behavioral characteristics between the sexes that a woman may feel that a man is indifferent to her.
Despite the fact that the level of emotional intelligence between men and women does not differ greatly, women experience certain events more vividly than men. The female sex is characterized by empathy: they can easily understand the feelings of another person, support him and sympathize with him.
Girls are more impressionable, they openly share feelings and express emotions, their mood is easy to “read”. Often, women's actions are dictated by momentary emotions. They have better developed intuition. The female sex more often talks about relationships, analyzes their development, drawing men into conversation. The female half is characterized by anxiety and worry for minor reasons.
Men, in turn, are slower to decide on serious relationships and rarely act on impulse. On the contrary, the stronger sex is characterized by self-control, resistance to stress, and prudence.
Life situations require a man to have high responsibility, calmness, and inner strength. Emotionality and worries prevent a man from thinking logically, analyzing a problem and making adequate decisions in difficult situations. Emotional differences between the sexes are also explained by upbringing. Most parents teach boys to hide their emotions as children, suppressing their tearfulness. At the same time, girls are allowed to show emotions, so they grow up more sensitive and affectionate.
In general, prolonged strong emotions are stressful for the human body, forcing it to work harder. A man strives to conserve energy and strength to solve problems, so men's emotionality is lower than women's. It is difficult to meet a man who is nervous or panics over a trifle. Therefore, women and men behave differently in relationships and react to certain situations.
A man and a woman are polarities, between which there is a constant spark, so indifference in the psychology of a man’s relationship with a woman is essentially impossible. Yin and Yang, active and passive, obvious and hidden, logic and intuition, restraint and passion - between these opposite poles there is always tension, an energetic current. It can be different in appearance - a man next to a woman can feel a surge of energy and strength, or vice versa, the relationship drains both.
It all depends on the goal. If a woman intends to use a man for physical and material pleasures, his potential will quickly dry up without receiving anything in return. If she strives to fill her chosen one with care, attention and love, a man is unlikely to leave such a cozy space, of course, if he has not completely sunk and does not care about anything other than satisfying animal instincts.
Indifference in the psychology of relationships is common. Both women and men can be indifferent. Although, in truth, the stronger sex is more guilty of this. Why? A man is a player by nature, a passionate nature. Therefore, his interest should be constantly warmed up. For a man’s attention there should always be a point of application - and this “point” is in a woman - something that awakens in him excitement and a desire to get to know you further!
Questions to help you
If you find it difficult or the list seems incomplete to you, then try the following statements for your relationship:
- Periodically, after spending time together, he disappears for some time, from several days to a month.
- He only calls when it’s convenient for him or when he needs something from you. He's avoiding your calls.
- At the moment when you need help, you don’t get it and you are left alone with your problem, or they help, but in a very limited way.
- In sexual relationships, he thinks only about himself, strives to get pleasure and ignores your needs.
- You never discuss future plans or the possibilities of living together. Meetings and spending time together depend on him. Your suggestions are taken into account minimally.
- Constantly complains about something, looking for sympathy.
- It is expressed offensively regarding your actions and words. Makes fun of you both privately and publicly.
- The meetings are hidden. You are not introduced to friends, colleagues, or relatives. Doesn't invite you home.
If you don't recognize your relationship in these statements, then relax. Most likely, you have created these fears for yourself. Relationships cannot be in constant tension. They naturally cool down, but thanks to the efforts of the vapor, they flare up again. A sort of sine wave of love. I also recommend reading my article “How to stop beating yourself up.” As for the situation when the statements clearly fit the description of your relationship, then, as they say, the beast runs to the hunter. So read on and I’ll tell you a few secrets.
Victims and hunters
So, you understand that the man does not value his relationship with you. What will you do next? As a rule, all the heroes of such relationships are not accidental. And, as practice shows, it is not possible to immediately break unnecessary ties. A woman willingly creates the illusion that a man may be in love, but hides her feelings. No, that's not true. If a man is in a relationship with you, then he will not hide anything. He may be stingy with affection, attention, untalkative and little romantic, but he will show care at the right time. And it's reinforced concrete. So look at yourself and your partner through the eyes of an outsider. As a rule, a woman in a relationship with a man who does not value her has the following qualities:
- low self-esteem
- gullibility
- responsiveness
- immaturity
- fear of loneliness
Yes, even good human qualities can play a cruel joke on us. Since it is precisely such women who easily fall for the bait, for example, of married men. Or building relationships based on various manipulations. Such representatives of the stronger sex are different:
- selfishness
- cynicism
- pragmatism
- ruthlessness
But such people have the same problem with self-esteem. Because a man with adequate self-esteem, who really loves you, wants a healthy, open, honest relationship. And he does not assert himself at the expense of a woman dependent on him. Moreover, he will never like such a woman and the style of such a relationship will be disgusting to him. That is, a certain type of woman attracts men with certain characteristics of a manipulator. And then everything goes according to the script. Unconscious or intentional.
If a man really loves you, then...
He will make future plans for life together with you.
Thoughts about a future together are the clearest sign that your loved one is serious about you and intends to spend the rest of their life with you.
Therefore, if a man shares with you his dreams about the future, imagines what it will be like when you have children, be sure that this man really loves you.
If there is no talk about a common future, then perhaps you won’t have one or the right moment for such a conversation has not yet arrived.
Advice. Don’t be afraid to initiate a conversation about the future; perhaps your partner also dreams of living side by side with you for the rest of his life, but doesn’t know how to tell you about it.
He will introduce you to everyone as his beloved woman.
Another proof of a man’s love is that he recognizes you as his soulmate. If your partner really loves you, then of course he will position your relationship as serious and will introduce you as his beloved woman to all his friends.
If your loved one behaves differently when alone with you and among friends, as if changing masks, then most likely he has not yet decided on his feelings and intentions.
Advice. Of course, it’s unpleasant to say the word “I love” and not hear it in response, to see how your loved one moves away from you when friends or acquaintances meet.
Seeing this behavior of a man, do not be upset; most likely, he needs a little more time to realize what is happening between you.
Talk to him, if he is indifferent to you or is satisfied with everything in such a “relationship” - let him go. Such a person is unlikely to make you happy.
How to get off the hook
I will give an example of how this happens. One of the frequent situations when the “beloved” is made to wait. After a wonderful time, the faithful disappeared for unknown reasons. For the first few days, the girl reasonably believes that some things have happened and is completely calm.
Then, when a week or two passes, she sadly realizes that that meeting was the last and in fact the end of this acquaintance has come... But after some time, when she is already exhausted by waiting, he appears again. Of course, the guy explains everything, but sometimes no explanation is required. The woman is so pleasantly surprised that she considers the second meeting a gift of fate! She felt so bad, but now she feels so good...
This is the moment when everything needs to stop. And understand that no, it’s not good, but bad. And you waited for your partner only to put an end to your communication. The same goes for his calls, lack of help, and selfish actions. Do not cherish the necessary hopes, but directly state that such behavior towards you is categorically unacceptable. That you value yourself and your time. However, if you take care of your own self-esteem and self-respect, then the right words, actions and emotions will appear automatically. Because a woman who respects herself will never allow herself to be with a man who does not value her. Love and be loved! Kisses, your June... PS: subscribe and share the news with your friends
How to find out if a man still loves you or not
If a man truly loves, then the girl will not have to win his love and respect, and there is no need to prove anything, because the evidence is already stored in his heart. A loving man will never hit his woman in any situation or cause her physical or mental pain.
If you are wondering whether a man loves or not, then you should know that a loving man always wants a child from his woman. He is not afraid of either family life or fatherly responsibilities. He will take off his last shirt, sell his beloved car, work several jobs from dawn to dusk, but will make sure that his other half is happy and does not need anything. A loving man will make any sacrifice for the sake of his woman - from refusing to communicate with certain people to agreeing to an offer to go shopping.
If true love lives in a man’s heart, then the man is ready to forgive his chosen one for any shortcomings. He will strive to spend evenings and weekends with her. He will also not be afraid to look ridiculous in the eyes of his beloved and others around him; he will be ready to do anything to achieve her reciprocity.
It is difficult to say why a particular man is in love with a particular woman. Many believe that this love is based on his love for his mother, if it is real, or on the unavailability of a certain girl, if this is not real love, but only a kind of addiction.
To test whether a man loves you, deny him sex. A loving man is ready to wait for the first intimacy with his beloved for many months, the main thing is that she is nearby, present in his life and does not refuse his advances. He will not look at other women in search of love affairs. He will move any mountains, build a career, start a business - and radically change his life.
A woman can always rely on a loving man. In any difficult or controversial situation, he is ready to take the side of his beloved, even if she is suddenly wrong.
And the most important thing is that a woman simply feels it and will never doubt its sincerity. And if he does not love, but plays and manipulates a woman, this brings her great suffering and pain. Be a little psychologist, don’t allow this situation to happen, feel for men.
