What should you not do during sex?
First, I propose to discuss the most common mistakes made by women. Here they are:
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The first thing that can disrupt an intimate atmosphere is the presence of animals in the bedroom. Surely you have encountered a situation where your beloved cat or dog closely observes what the owner is doing. It is unlikely that you will be able to ignore the animal, so persistently will it follow the process.
Portraits from the past
Many women have the habit of filling their bedrooms with photographs of friends, parents, and ex-boyfriends. For a man, such decor can cause discomfort. Your partner may even get the feeling that everyone you know is watching the act of love. In addition, it will be unpleasant for him to have sex in the bedroom, where there is a photo with his former lover.
Exploding phone
Another point that a girl or woman should not do during sex is to constantly check messengers and social networks. Even if you are a blogger and cannot live without constant communication with subscribers, put your phone down for at least a couple of hours.
And one more thing: don’t be embarrassed! In the article “What to do if the thought of sex makes me blush,” I tell you what most often causes shyness in women in intimacy. Work on liberation - yourself or with the man you love. Believe me, a partner who is in love and passionately desires you will not even pay attention to most of the “fads”.
Excessive psychological pressure
In an effort to fulfill their desires, people sometimes put too much pressure on their loved ones. Under the yoke of such pressure, a partner may agree on small things with his demanding “other half,” but when it comes to something large and serious, he is quite capable of giving up. In this case, he will try to avoid answering under any pretext.
For example, many ladies who passionately want to get married quickly find themselves in an unpleasant situation due to its uncertainty. A man who is literally forced to make such an important and difficult life decision in the shortest possible time may feel an inner urge to cement himself in a secure bond with the woman he loves, but at the same time be deprived of the moment of full awareness of such a desire due to constant pressure from her. In such circumstances, a person simply gets scared, gets lost and postpones the date of his marriage proposal.
In any other case, the partner will not feel comfortable. Nobody likes coercion (direct or indirect) and coercion with lamentations.
Interesting: Loneliness in marriage: why do we put up with it?
Reasons why a woman may no longer want sex with you
We talked about women. Now let's discuss men's mistakes in bed. What should a man not do during sex?
Parental supervision
Many young guys don’t have their own apartment, so they invite girls to their parents’ house for the night. This kind of sex will not bring pleasure to anyone. It’s unlikely that mom and dad know that you invited someone. This means that you will have to constantly listen: have your parents woken up? Is your partner moaning too loudly?
Sparkling humor
Bed is not the best place for jokes. Save funny phrases for later. An inept joke or an inappropriate wit can be misinterpreted by a woman.
Young photographer
Many couples film their sex or take photos during the process. But this is only normal for partners who have been together for a long time and trust each other. If you and the girl don’t know each other so well, then you don’t need to grab your phone and take erotic pictures.
Misinterpretation
There should be no lack of evidence in bed. Tell your partner clearly what you are going to do, do not give hints. At your leisure, read my articles from the “Love and Sex” section, where I tell you how to be more open and honest with each other during intimacy.
Men! If you want to win the fame of an ideal lover, then read the article “15 ways to help a girl if she is embarrassed to have sex.” Combined with the tips above, these techniques will lead to the desired result.
What you can't forgive a man
Dear women, hello!
You all really want to believe that your new acquaintance is the man you have been waiting for so long and with whom you will build a serious relationship. What if you made a mistake, because you have to pay very painfully for such mistakes later. What in a man’s behavior should alert you? What can’t a man be forgiven for? What signs in his behavior should prove to you that it is better to break up with him as soon as possible? This is exactly what our article is about.
What you can't forgive a man
What you can't forgive a man
Below is a list of 10 things that a man should not turn a blind eye to and forgive. These are very alarming signals that require an immediate response from the woman and a reconsideration of her attitude towards her lover. To put it simply, these signs should force a woman to “take off her rose-colored glasses” and look with a sober look at her new partner.
Vigilant control
Don't confuse this with genuine concern for you. It’s one thing if your man accompanies you from home to work, and then back. Makes sure you eat right and remember to wear warm socks in cold weather. That is, he shows attention and care about you.
And it’s completely different if he begins to control your every step, arranging surveillance of where and with whom you were, checking and double-checking all your movements. He begins to control your social circle, restricts your freedom, gets into your computer and phone without asking to check your connections and demands passwords from all your accounts. In addition to all this, they begin to forbid dressing beautifully, believing that this will only harm you. Psychologists call this behavior “psychological violence.”
Devaluation of feelings
Quite often there are men who are accustomed to hiding their feelings. They do not give compliments, rarely say beautiful words and do not openly express their emotions. But they demonstrate feelings for their beloved through their actions. They provide help, give gifts, spend all their free time with her, and delight her with touches.
But if a man can easily shame you, ridicule you (and even in public!), does not hesitate to insult and humiliate you, such behavior indicates a desire to manipulate you, but certainly not love.
Vulgar humor
Not all men have a subtle sense of humor. They can joke flatly (sometimes even vulgarly), blurt out some obscene language that can offend you. This needs to be stopped immediately and explained why it bothers you.
But what you cannot forgive a man is when he deliberately ridicules your mental abilities, your habits, character traits and appearance. In this case, we are talking about a direct insult and belittlement of your self-esteem. You shouldn’t forgive this and make yourself a victim.
Parasitizing on you
Everyone experiences difficult financial situations. A normal man tries to quickly figure out what happened, reorganize and change goals and plans, and then “rush into battle” again. 2-3 months is enough for him to change everything. This is fine.
But when a man, first for months and then for years, does nothing, explaining his behavior either by a global crisis, or by another depression, or by his subtle mental organization not understood by his superiors, this is not normal. Well, unless you yourself want to carry on your whole life a parasite and a lover of living at the expense of others.
Stinginess
Again, do not confuse male stinginess with reasonable prudence (saving). You should not be offended by a man if he objects to buying a third car for a family of two or if he is against daily dinners at a prestigious restaurant, each of which “eats up” a round sum in your budget.
Stinginess is when a man completely devalues the basic needs of his woman. This is also one of the types of controlling a woman and subjugating her to oneself.
Consumer attitude towards women
If a man believes that a woman, by definition, should simply carry out all the household chores (washing, cleaning, cooking, taking care of children, etc.) and at the same time not count on his help (after all, his favorite football team is playing on TV in this is the time!), then there can be no talk of any love in such a couple. A woman in the eyes of such a man is just a convenient tool for solving all everyday problems and satisfying (on demand, of course!) his sexual needs.
Sexual promiscuity
Having accidentally looked into your lover’s phone, you are surprised to discover dozens (or maybe hundreds!) of phone numbers of strangers. To the fair question “Who are they?” he naively replies that he is just friends with them all. But he categorically refuses to introduce me to at least one from this list, immediately taking the conversation in a different direction. He reacts irritably and aggressively to more detailed questions.
Remember - friendship between a man and a woman does not exist, a man ALWAYS views any “girlfriend” solely as a sexual object in the present or in the future. I have already written about this in more detail in a separate article (read it here). The worst thing is that the man doesn’t even let his surroundings know about your existence...
Indifference
What else can a man not forgive? An indifferent attitude towards you and the absence of any reaction to your feelings. And one should not confuse a man’s natural modesty with indifference. What's good about the fact that you are active in a relationship, but the man never called first, didn't invite you on a date, he's not interested in your affairs and problems. And I don’t really want to see you more often. You should not continue such a relationship and humiliate yourself in front of him.
Touchiness
It is common for all people to be offended. We were hurt - we were offended. This reaction is quite normal for humans.
But when a man is offended by literally everything and for any reason, and after that demands that you literally beg for his forgiveness on your knees, then you should think hard about whether he is trying to manipulate you in this way, playing on your feelings of guilt? This is a kind of vampirism on the part of a man. He is ready to punish for the smallest mistakes and force you to react emotionally to his reproaches. Do you need it?...
Physical violence
Probably, you can (albeit with a stretch) turn a blind eye to some things if you have strong feelings for a man. But what a man can never forgive is physical violence. Assault, accompanied by male explanations: “It’s your own fault that I couldn’t restrain myself!” has no excuses. This can never be forgiven under any circumstances. Having forgiven once, you will encounter this more and more often, until, God forbid, it ends in serious injuries and hospitalization... Nipping it right away, in the bud and immediately breaking up is the only advice from psychologists for such a case.
Conclusion
Do not allow yourself to be treated rudely, do not allow a man to humiliate you in any way. Maintain your dignity and self-respect. If you don’t respect yourself, then a man is unlikely to do the same. Without regret, break up with men who allow themselves what is listed above. Be sure to later meet a person who will appreciate you and will truly love you.
Wish you happiness!
Now smile:
“Doctor: - Woman, you just gave birth and are registered again? Do you go straight to bed after the maternity hospital? - Well, what are you saying, doctor? Of course not! First I cooked borscht..."
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Bad tips to make sex end quickly
And finally, some bad advice for everyone. Do you want to know what can leave sex and the desire for it? Then check out the points below:
- Biting earlobes. Bite your partner's ear during friction - and you will gain fame as an ideal lover (immediately as soon as you visit the trauma clinic with her).
- During oral sex we spell out the alphabet. Sex gurus won't teach you anything bad. And no, no, your loved one is not ticklish, this excitement makes itself felt.
- Mouth with hot tea. Are you sure that your partner is screaming not from passion, but because the boiling water burned his genitals?
- High "jumps" in the cowgirl position. Well, porn actors certainly won’t lie. And the fact that you were exhausted in a minute and “landed” unsuccessfully... that’s just a lack of practice.
- Shout. Let all the neighbors hear you having sex! And the man will probably understand that he is wow! (Especially if he has just begun active actions).
- Scratch your back. Show him all your passion! Let the man know how passionate you are (Even if the sex itself was a C grade).
I am sure that many smiled while reading this article. Or maybe they became thoughtful. In any case, if you want more, then go to Pavel Rakov’s official website and sign up for the “Secrets of Women’s Happiness” and “Summer Camp” trainings. There I teach women and men to liberate themselves, listen to their bodies, reveal sensuality, trust their partner, remove emotional barriers, and enjoy communication with each other and sex.
Tell me, were my recommendations useful to you? What do you agree with, and what made you think seriously?
Betrayal
Perfidy does not only include treason, as most believe. Betrayal can be determined by a variety of situations. For example, when one of the partners, in difficult times, abandons his passion to the mercy of fate instead of helping her and providing support. Or, in secret from the chosen one, he carries out certain plans, knowing that the loved one would be categorically against such events.
All this is not only stress for relationships, but also poison that poisons the tender essence of love.
Accept the fact that he has someone.
This means that the woman will simply accept the fact that her boyfriend is a womanizer. As a rule, such men are justified by heredity, hormones or something else. They are trying to find an excuse that their significant other will believe.
If a girl agrees with this, it means that she will accept the fact that the man walks to the left. Think carefully, can you really close your eyes to this? There are concepts of loyalty and honesty.
And the fact that a man is trying to convince a woman of the correctness of his actions is nothing more than simply leaving her a fool. If the partner understands that he managed to do this, then he will continue to walk to the left and further with a clear conscience.
What to do if it is impossible to forgive a person?
There are things for which it is not possible to forgive a person. It is very easy to talk about how to let a traitor or foul-mouthed person go in peace, but there are offenses that are very difficult to forget. We are talking about accidents, accidents, negligence, not to mention an even greater evil - deliberate crimes. How can you forgive a guilty person if a fiend of hell is hidden behind the person’s appearance?
Let's be honest: this is a complex topic. You may not be ready to read what we have to say next, but it is true nonetheless. Hating someone eats away at your soul. If you have been seriously hurt, you have only two options: bury yourself in this misfortune, experiencing it again and again, or allow yourself to move on by letting go of the situation. It’s up to you to decide what to choose, since you are the master of your life.
Learning to forgive
Not being able to forgive is like adding heavy cobblestones to your already heavy burden in life. Have you noticed what happens in the mind with “unforgiven” and therefore unresolved situations? Many people “drag” from kindergarten memories of how they were offended and teased. Further in life - even more grievances. They accumulate and increase in size, at the same time giving rise to complexes and negative expectations from others. “I’ve been bullied so many times, which means I’m a loser. Weak person. If I were good, I wouldn't have been betrayed so many times."
Believe (and check) that forgiveness is the simplest and most natural thing you can do in response to an offense. This is what the Bible and the Church teach us. What can't be forgiven? From the point of view of Christianity, there are no such acts. Everything can be forgiven!
Accept the imperfection of the offender. Understand that he is only human. He has his own fears, views on life, complexes. Perhaps, by hurting you, he just wants to get out of his quagmire, to become higher, albeit dishonestly, at your expense. Forgive him. Wish him happiness, because a satisfied and happy person will not cause or wish anything bad to another. And you will see that the situation will be resolved, that a burden will fall off you, it will become easy for you! And the offender will leave your life or apologize if it is your loved one.
What you can't forgive in a relationship
For example, you found out that your beloved girl cheated on you. It hurts you, but you love her very much and therefore forgive her and decide to continue to be with her. A year passes, and you again learn about infidelity. So, did you forgive her in vain?
Let's clarify something. Forgiveness does not mean allowing a person to commit a dirty trick against you again. Forgiveness means accepting the situation: “You are wrong, but I forgive you. You are only human, and therefore you have the right to make mistakes.” That's what you should think if you've been hurt. But continuing to live with someone who beats you, calls you names or cheats on you is another matter. Most likely, the person treats life and you personally in a completely different way than you think is right. If you were betrayed once, there is a high probability that it will happen again. However, it is quite possible that this will not happen again. In general, what to do next is up to you, but you must forgive!
