Women mistakenly think that a loving man can forgive almost everything. But this is a big mistake and this is not the case at all. The patience of the stronger sex is far from endless and has its limits. A man, relatively speaking, writes down, as it were, all the misdeeds of his chosen one in his invisible book, and when the space in the “book” is already filled, he takes it and leaves, seemingly for no reason at all. The Guru's horoscope will help you figure out what men don't forgive, and will also tell you what you shouldn't talk about with your partner, and it's better to trust your friend.
Betrayal
Betrayal is not necessarily treason. If a woman allowed herself to voice in the presence of others something that no one should have known, then the man perceives this as a betrayal and, most likely, wants to break off the relationship.
We also advise you to read about how to properly praise a man in order to make your relationship with him even more harmonious.
Tags: men, non-forgiveness, jealousy, criticism, manipulation, resentment
Aggression towards children and animals
“Animals, children and old people are sacred. And if a man behaves aggressively towards them, run away from him. Aggression is a diagnosis. You could become the next victim,” Kuznetsova warns. She advises not to hush up any situation that shocks you, but to talk to your partner, otherwise it will only get worse.
“I would compare the situation to a stocking unraveling. If one loop has come loose, you can pick it up unnoticed. Yes, there will be a trace, but a small one. But when the “arrow” has already started, you won’t be able to reassemble it, the seam will be too visible,” states the family psychologist.
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A woman, unlike a man, forgives much more than the stronger sex. And why? Because at some point, when there are small children in the family (if we consider an already existing marriage and family in particular), the woman is almost completely dependent on the man. It is extremely rare that, having small children, a woman continues to remain independent from her husband. In addition, a woman by nature always strives to create a family and maintain it. It happens that she is ready to make sacrifices, pushing even her pride into the far corner.
But a man has a completely different worldview in general, an understanding of family and women. Of course, we are all human and in some ways similar to each other. Men can also forgive a woman quite a lot.
But why don’t men forgive women?
There are a number of situations when no matter how loving a man is, he most likely will not be able to forgive a woman:
- The worst thing for a man is female infidelity. Despite the fact that for a man, his relationship on the side is considered almost the norm, but the connection of his woman with someone else is the strictest taboo. A man is powerful, he is a winner, and when someone even just shows signs of attention to his woman, he is already jealous. A man is so possessive that pleasantries with another person are a reason for a serious quarrel.
Even if a man ultimately forgives, it will not happen soon. This will be a very painful and painful stage in the relationship. Moreover, if a woman allows herself this, then the man will be free to walk as he wants.
- The next reason for breaking up with a woman is denial of intimacy. In this case, the man begins to ignore his woman or leaves completely. A woman approaches intimate relationships a little differently, unlike a man. She can easily do without them for quite a long time, she will prefer sleep instead of intimacy, devote the evening to herself instead of paying attention to her husband. But for a man everything is different. When intimacy with a woman occurs rarely or she has not been there at all for a long period, then, firstly, for him it is a humiliation of his dignity, and secondly, he concludes that he is not interested in his woman. For this reason, he quickly finds someone who is interested in him.
- While a man can still forgive small shortcomings, it is very difficult for him to tolerate superiority, and, most likely, he will not do this. Next to a powerful woman, there are most often men who cannot be a leader, are not adapted to anything and are not able to decide anything on their own. But if a man is strong and self-sufficient, then he will not even allow his woman’s leadership in his thoughts. He is the master of the situation, and only he decides what will happen next. Therefore, you shouldn’t even try to somehow manage such a man - nothing will work anyway.
- A man will forgive a lot to the woman he loves, but at some point daily discontent will reach the limit of his patience. When every day a wife expresses a thousand grievances, then at best the husband will find peace and quiet in someone else’s bed, at worst he will simply leave.
Betrayal. But this is not about betrayal. If a woman discusses and laughs at her husband’s secrets or dreams, then he will perceive this as a disregard for his trust, for him as a person. If a woman can no longer be trusted, then how can you continue to be in a relationship with her?
This is just a short list of those cases when a man will sooner or later leave a woman who regularly repeats one of the taboos. Some people will endure this for a long time, but patience will come to an end. Some will forgive only once, while others will not give a second chance at all. So, women, be a little wiser, and then your relationship with the stronger sex will be strong and long.
A man can forgive a woman everything - betrayal, stupidity, even betrayal. The only thing that a Man will never forgive a Woman is superiority over himself...”
Alexandr Duma. "Queen Margo "
Women sometimes naively believe that men are much weaker than them in terms of controllability. This is partly true. However, once you bring your beloved man to the point of white heat, his actions can become extremely unpredictable.
Advice to all women - behave with your man the way you want him to behave with you. When trying to offend your partner, put yourself in his place. How do you feel? Shouldn't you think a few times before saying or doing something?
Male answers Translation into female language
1. Excellence 1. Life is life. Our same-sex co-planets - feminists - have achieved some success in their struggle to abandon traditional female privileges. Today it is not uncommon for a woman to earn no less, and sometimes even more, than her man. Believe me, smart men not only forgive this, but also use it wisely. Superiority, which is clearly demonstrated to a man, is not forgiven, and in our (women’s) way this is already called stupidity.
2. And a man does not forgive a woman if, in his opinion, she is, in essence, a greater man than himself.
2. Stupidity It turns out that men don’t like stupid people. The stupidity of a stupid woman is not forgiven. If we are talking about a stupid act of an intelligent woman, according to men, this cutie deserves leniency.
3. Comparisons with others
A self-confident man will be reluctant to compare himself to others, but will tolerate it. Even women do not forgive comparisons that are not in their favor. In fact, most men don’t like it when we ask them to act, to behave “like everyone else.” We just have to remember that my man is the only one (at least at the current moment in time) and unique (therefore he should not be “like everyone else”).
4. Treason It turns out that there are as many versions of betrayal in men’s heads as there are men’s heads. There are several versions (choose according to your taste), and this gives us room for maneuver:
1. A man can forgive a woman for cheating, but he will not forgive her if she forces him to cheat on his business.
2. Cheating is exactly what a man most often forgives.
3. They forgive if they do not profess a double morality: “What is allowed to Jupiter is not allowed to a bull.” Moreover, if a man tries to divide family members (including himself) into Jupiters and bulls, then he himself is a complete bull.
5. Betrayal
But a strong man will not forgive betrayal - real, not in body, but in soul.
6. Dislike You can not forgive anything, even over-salted mashed potatoes, just as you can forgive anything if this “anything” does not reach a critical mass... Without forgiving a woman, a man does not forgive HIMSELF his own disappointment in her .
7. An act that needs to be forgiven It’s not a man’s business to give out forgiveness. To forgive is to show weakness. And no one needs a weak man, not even a woman. Consequently, a man cannot forgive a woman for what he had to forgive her. As one “macho” confessed in his hearts: “I will cry bitterly and suffer very much, I will probably eat and drink a lot, from great shock. And I’ll give her the biggest, most beautiful wreath, all covered in white roses and chrysanthemums, but forgive me, excuse me, God will forgive!”
8. Forgiveness is a sign of generosity. The ability to forgive is a sign of only a very strong and self-confident person. Many men sincerely want to be strong and self-confident, like Mel Gibson or Harrison Ford in their nobility... and therefore they act in the way that a strong and confident person seems to be supposed to do. Of course, there is a considerable amount of self-admiration here, like, I’m so confident in myself, I can forgive...
9. Passion for TV series Many men are much more irritated than we think by our passion for endless “Brazilian” TV series. For some of them, this is such a strong irritant that we should think about what (a man or a series) we would choose if something happened...
10. If he loves, he will forgive everything. This is a fairly common, but dangerous cliche...
In essence, it legitimizes a woman to “allow herself EVERYTHING.” But by playing on this feeling of love, we ourselves can kill this love: what if one day he doesn’t forgive? - “Darling, you love me, don’t you?” - “...Uh... you know... not really..”
Women rarely forgive men for jealousy, but they never forgive its absence. / Gabrielle Colette
A man who does not know how to forgive a woman for her small shortcomings will never fully enjoy her great virtues. / Kahlil Gibran
AND IN YOUR opinion, WHAT IS THE HARDEST THING TO FORGIVE? (YOUR OPINION) YOU CAN VOTE ON SEVERAL POINTS.
The entire life of the stronger sex is associated with continuous competition. They should be protectors, providers and those who are respected by others. The list of qualities that are valued in a real man has never included the ability to forgive. Although this quality is no less important than responsibility and the ability to empathize. Because there are no perfect people, and any person is capable of making mistakes and causing pain to another. That’s why it’s so important that not only women, but also men can forgive. But whether they can do this is a very interesting question.
So is it a pause or a period?
Today, not all women strive to take a pause instead of a full stop in relationships. Personal freedom, equal rights, self-realization and conquering career heights have made the modern representative of the fair sex independent, decisive and independent. Yes, women today are no longer afraid of being alone and do not hold on to men with all their might. That’s why they break off relationships with their loved ones so easily and without much thought, believing that a new relationship will be a fresh breath, that there is no need to be afraid to change something in life, and that you cannot forgive men - this is weakness.
But representatives of the stronger sex actually have a rather difficult time experiencing a break in a relationship with a woman who has become close to them, and with whom they planned to live their future lives together. This is the male psyche - more susceptible to stress and less durable. Yes, they can drown out their pain in alcohol, they can plunge headlong into work... But is it possible to guarantee that a man who was abandoned would not one day become a wonderful husband and a good father? And can you be sure that the next gentleman will be much more attentive and generous with love?
If you observe famous pop divas, successful business women and simply beautiful but lonely women over forty, in 90% of cases it will turn out that there were really worthwhile men in their lives, but they broke up with them because they couldn’t forgive something. Is it insult, betrayal, misunderstanding? That’s not the point, the main thing is that they all regret the breakup and remember them all the time. And their loved ones at this time, having coped with mental pain, have already started another family, live a different life... And their beloved is now alone, albeit surrounded by fans. As the world-famous Marilyn Monroe, the woman about whom all men dreamed, said: “A career is a wonderful thing, but it cannot warm you on a cold night.”
Humiliation
Here is another offense that women are not ready to forgive. This includes verbal abuse or mean teasing of your girlfriend in the company of friends. It often happens that a man is friendly and gentle when you are alone, but as soon as you get into general company, you have to endure unflattering expressions addressed to you and listen to boorish jokes from your partner. This means that your man is asserting himself by humiliating you. Most likely, he is a complex person and does not know how to do otherwise. Forgive a man
Such behavior is unacceptable under no circumstances.
Can a man forgive
Forgiveness is one of the most important and beautiful actions a person can do. It heals and gives hope, makes you believe in yourself and helps you overcome the most difficult obstacles in life. His power is immeasurable. But at the same time, only a small number of people are able to sincerely forgive others. It is impossible to explain to a person that this will bring him relief and allow him to at least slightly reduce the pain when very difficult events have occurred in his life due to the fault of another.
At such moments, most people allow grief, resentment, anger and rage to take over in order to survive the peak of suffering. Only after some time, many continue to experience the same feelings, not wanting to realize that this path leads to nowhere. After all, forgiveness is needed not by the one who offended or hurt another, but by the one who suffered from it. In order not to aggravate the pain, but to find the strength to survive what happened. The great power of forgiveness lies precisely in ridding a person of the emotions that destroy him and showing that he always has a choice: to continue to inflict wounds on himself, constantly thinking about the offender, or to forgive and leave this sin to the one who committed it , because this is his cross and he has to live with it.
It is especially difficult to achieve forgiveness from representatives of the stronger sex. Because of their lifestyle and the demands placed on them by society, their ego is too vulnerable and instantly reacts to what, in their opinion, is wrong. They are not ready to forgive some things even to their loved ones. They believe that a loved one does not have the right to commit them.
It is impossible to convince them otherwise, since they are, and often absolutely rightly, convinced that in certain situations it is not only possible, but necessary to control oneself. They admit that the fair sex is not always able to show courage and steely will, but it is impossible to justify treason or betrayal by this. Therefore, often, after some time, they can leave without saying a word.
The feeling of a rear behind their back, which only true friends and their beloved can create, is too important for them. If he is in love, his feeling becomes stronger not thanks to external beauty and figure, he has already appreciated them, but thanks to care, attention and self-confidence, which is now fueled not only by himself, but also by the one who won his heart. If a man does not feel this, any strongest passion will disappear, leaving no memories behind, and there can be no talk of love in such a relationship.
Home is his fortress, where he should feel safe, have the opportunity to speak out, regain strength and feel that here he, no matter what happens, has always been, is and will be the best. If he doesn't get it, he won't forgive it. After all, why does he need a woman who does not want to give him what he needs, like air.
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Of course, this applies exclusively to adequate representatives of the stronger sex, whom women usually call real men who have grown up and become adults. And not to those who, having remained in adolescence with a vulnerable psyche, need not a woman, but a mother. They get offended with or without reason, and it is not difficult for them to place all the responsibility for their own mistakes on their beloved. Without unnecessary remorse, they will not forget to pour out all the bitterness and criticize in order to feel better, let alone tyrants in whom everyone around is to blame for his insults, especially those who are weaker. Such people not only do not know how to forgive, they are not even going to do it, it is much easier for them to manipulate those who depend on them, whether they are guilty or not.
A real man knows his own worth, so he will not take out his complexes, resentments and bitterness on his beloved, but will solve them on his own. He will not refuse moral support and advice, but only in very difficult situations that affect not only him, but also his loved ones.
He is used to protecting those who are dear to him from all adversity as long as he has the strength. It is difficult for him to forgive, because he can only be offended by serious offenses that cause severe pain and inflict unhealed wounds. In addition to love, he needs support, respect and care from his chosen one.
He will not understand if, under any pretext, she begins to refer to a constant headache or fatigue, business and a meeting with her parents, from which she may return in a bad mood. He will never forgive a neglectful attitude towards himself, no matter how it is justified. There are moments that cannot be explained by anything, and this must be remembered if a man is loved and needed. It’s easier not to make mistakes than to ask for forgiveness later. Moreover, if you do this constantly, apologies will be perceived as ridicule.
What a man will never forgive
- Most of them will not forgive betrayal. Whether he is guilty or not. His feelings are hurt, especially his vulnerable pride. After all, they know very well that women are not as greedy for the opposite sex as they are. Therefore, their interest in another is not just physical attraction, but a signal that she is missing something in the relationship. It is in their blood to be winners, and whoever tries to challenge this turns into the main irritant. When looking at his beloved, who preferred someone else, he will constantly remember that he is not so good. Because of this, it is much easier for him to leave than to stay and work on himself.
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- They will not tolerate the slightest comparison with former gentlemen. Even if he does not show dissatisfaction too strongly, such information will remain with him like a thorn in his memory. And such resentment is unlikely to contribute to the establishment of strong and happy relationships. Since you are with him, he believes that he must be the best for you. But such memories or reproaches indicate that he was mistaken. And this is so difficult for men to come to terms with.
- Discussion of his financial situation in a negative way, reproaches, tears, hysterics and complaints that he is a poor loser from the rank of his beloved instantly transfers the woman to the camp of his male rivals. He does not allow the thought that his chosen one has the right to humiliate him so cruelly and use prohibited methods. Having succumbed to persuasion to buy a fur coat, if he has such an opportunity, very soon he will erase the lady from his life, no matter who she is to him: his beloved wife or passionate mistress. The most beautiful feelings can be easily destroyed if you openly use another. The stronger sex really doesn’t like it when women take them for idiots and try to suppress them with tears, threats or screams.
- He will also stand up for his family. He himself knows very well what his mother is like at times. But this is his mother, and no one, not even his beloved, is allowed to discuss her, much less blame him for not meeting someone’s expectations. Because in most families, mothers are the ones who will not turn away and betray. She is the dearest and closest person, and when trying to demonstrate that this is not so, a real man will show displeasure and remember this at the first opportunity. There are no people who do everything right.
- Criticism, constant reproaches that he is doing everything wrong, ridicule of his plans, attempts to always be better than him, a dissatisfied face - all this is difficult for them to forgive and accept; it is easier to find someone else.
For a relationship to be strong and bring joy, not only the woman must try to do the right thing, but the man must also be not just real, but also softer. This does not mean that he should demonstrate only the traits inherent in the fair sex, then he will not be able to be called a man, it means that, as a person, he must be able to be lenient and forgive if his beloved realizes a mistake and asks for forgiveness. But it is impossible to force another person to do as someone wants without violence against him. Therefore, the best option would be to understand that you must, to the best of your ability, try not to offend your loved one if he does not deserve it, so that you do not have to suffer later because of his intransigence.
