6 things that attract the eye and create an impression of a person

How to attract a guy (man) with a simple look?

• Hold your gaze on the man you like for more than three seconds

This is necessary to enter his “secret zone” with your eyes. The man will feel a slight “chill” throughout his body and get to know you.

Don’t be surprised: he will say that it was he who took the first step, and that it was he who “hooked” you. Agree with this statement, smiling broadly, expecting a smile in return. If you don’t wait, then don’t retreat!

Make sure that your gazes (when they meet) are strictly at the same level. Try to “adjust” this yourself, because a man will not think and reflect on such trifles as the nuances of views. Don’t drop your gaze at his feet, otherwise he will understand this “throw” of yours completely wrong!

• Do not allow the slightest bitchiness in your gaze!

Tenderness - Yes! Bitchiness – categorical…. No! It is men who are accustomed to undressing women with their eyes. And when a woman looks at him in the same way, the man begins to become wildly embarrassed and indignant (albeit mentally). You will not attract a man with such a look! With his help, you will make him run away, appearing to you as a real coward!

• Play hide and seek with your eyes!

He will look at you - you will look back, smiling. Turn away right now. When “turning away,” do not use harshness or confusion. You need to turn away mysteriously, beautifully and carefully. Your correct movements will help your gaze to attract the attention of someone you really, really need.

By the way, you should not laugh during this game. The man (noticing this) will think that you are just mocking him.

• Forget about shyness!

At least for as long as you attract the attention of a man or guy. If a boy (man) notices a bit of shyness in your gaze, consider that you have lost! He will look for another girl. And he will play with her. Because he doesn’t need shyness! Men already have enough of it (even without female “participation”). Shyness - away!

• Your look should consist of a “drink”!

Its components: warmth, sensuality, femininity, sincerity, poignancy, passion, affection, promises, flirtation, tenderness. Mix these “components” correctly so that the guy is sure to end up in your “safe” captivity. A guy will be next to you if he tries a mixture of these ingredients!

Leave the sharpness

Guys do not accept her either in conversation, or in actions, or in emotionality. And even more so in the looks! Relax, dear “hunters”! If you want to win this or that young man! Can't handle the harshness? Then “lower” its level a little so as not to scare the poor thing! He will still get it from you (in a good way, of course)….

Mascara and eye shadow

Need to buy mascara and eye shadow! Make up your eyes well and carefully before you start attracting the attention of a guy or man.

10.00. Speed

The speed with which a man lets a new woman into his life, according to statistics, is much lower than that of his partner.
Don't rush things and don't do anything too quickly! And on all fronts. If a woman invades personal space too persistently, reveals a lot of information about herself, or simply talks quickly, this causes discomfort for 83% of people. For example, scientists have proven that the most seductive speech rate is 125-150 words per minute. 11/29/2010 Tricks: How to please a man at first sight?
Contrary to existing stereotypes, men very rarely fall in love at first sight. Perhaps only an immature young man can fall in love at first sight. Older men are used to controlling emotions and do not give free rein to their feelings so quickly. However, an experienced man won’t need too much time to determine whether a stranger is his type. One single meeting lasting from an hour to three is enough. It is during this first meeting that everything is usually decided - whether the man wants to be with you or not. It is almost impossible to change a man’s opinion about himself later. This will require a lot of strength, energy, and patience. And even in this case, the matter is unlikely to be crowned with success. Therefore, the easiest way is not to complicate your life, but to do everything to please a man at first sight, or rather, from the first meeting.

The first fifteen minutes of the meeting are very important when meeting. But this does not mean that you need to jump out of your skin to please a man. On the contrary, the less a man notices overt interest on your part in himself, the better. In order for the first fifteen minutes of the meeting to pass in your favor, you do not need to set yourself unrealistic goals - to make a man fall in love with you at first sight, to amaze him to the very heart with your irresistible beauty, and so on. The main task in the first fifteen minutes of the meeting: you need the man to think: “What a nice girl.” That's all. This is quite enough. Do not arouse negative thoughts and emotions in a man. That's all you need to do in those first fifteen minutes.

To do this you must

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1. Have a well-groomed appearance. Note, not super fashionable or overtly sexy, but well-groomed. Neat clothes, clean, styled hair, manicure, white well-groomed teeth, skin that has a radiant, healthy appearance. Some people advise following a natural style and not overdoing it on makeup on the first date. Like, men don't like it. This is all nonsense. A woman should wear cosmetics. She just has to do it so skillfully that a man, looking at her face, doesn’t think how many kilograms of foundation she’s wearing right now or how many kilograms of lipstick he’ll have to taste if he decides to kiss her on the lips now.

2. Behave modestly. Yes exactly. And there is no need to indignantly prove that this is not the eighteenth century, and modesty is not in fashion today. Very much in fashion. Behaving modestly does not mean standing with downcast eyes, blushing and babbling something incomprehensible. A woman behaves modestly, who does not try to be conspicuous with her entire appearance, knows how to listen carefully, without interrupting, and express her opinion without entering into arguments and aggressive discussions.

3. Do not follow some stereotypical advice from women's magazines, which turn out to be not only useless, but also harmful. You've probably heard a million times that men need to smile more often and laugh as much as possible at their jokes. Get it out of your head. You need to radiate goodwill. This is true. But there is absolutely no point in smiling all the time. A girl who is constantly smiling gives the impression of being a simpleton, and this is unacceptable. Smile only when you really want to, and it is desirable that the smile be sly, gentle and mysterious at the same time. It's difficult. You'll have to practice in front of the mirror, but the results are worth it.

If you managed to impress a man in the first fifteen minutes of the meeting, and you will definitely notice and feel this, then consider him in your pocket. Now your task is not to talk too much for the remaining time of the meeting, especially about yourself. Firstly, men themselves are very fond of talking, and secondly, in the first meeting he should learn much less about you than he would like.

Now be careful, this advice is very important. Leave the first meeting when it reaches its climax, that is, when the man’s interest in you has become completely obvious. Leave at any cost, under any pretext, giving the man a sly smile and a promising look in parting. Believe me, he will call you the very next day to set up a new date, and maybe even that very evening.

What woman doesn't dream of love? About that great feeling that can create and destroy at the same time, about the feeling that can lift you to the pinnacle of madness and throw you into the abyss of despair? Perhaps we are ready to wait for this all our lives...

“Love will unexpectedly appear when you least expect it”... This, of course, is encouraging. But who knows how much earlier she could have “arrived” if we had been prepared for her visit? And they waited for her, as they say, fully armed?

Some people believe in love at first sight, others don't. Probably everyone, when claiming this or that, is primarily based on their own experience.

I personally cannot call love the first sympathy that a person evokes in me at first sight, but I do not rule out that this sympathy in the future may develop into a deeper and stronger feeling.

Of course, it is not in our power to make a man fall in love, even if you consider yourself “the very best.” But it is entirely within our power to arouse initial interest.

So, what should you do to please a man at first sight?

1. Look good. And, always. And the less you want it, the better you should look. No man will pay attention to something faceless and gray. Alas, he, as a not very sophisticated reader, first sees only the bright cover of the magazine and the intriguing title, and then looks at what is written in it. And here you should take into account a lot: how you are dressed, how well your hairstyle is chosen, the condition of your manicure, etc. So, if you have decided to wait for a deep, strong feeling, please meet it in full dress!
2. Smile! A smile when meeting a man has a double meaning. Firstly, it shows that you are glad to see him. This is already conducive. And secondly, as well as, to put it mildly, they don’t like problems. Therefore, the prospect of shouldering all the difficulties written on your face is unlikely to make him want to meet you again. So, when meeting men, pretend that everything is OK with you!
3. If you have the opportunity to communicate with him, then this also has its own nuances. Don't talk too much. You may bore him too much with unnecessary details of your personal life when you first meet. Let there always be something that he doesn’t know about you yet. If you tell him all the details right away, he will have no reason to meet with you a second time. But you shouldn’t remain silent like a partisan during an interrogation, limiting yourself to a dry “yes, no, I don’t know.” Otherwise, he may think that your life and you yourself are so uninteresting that you have nothing to even tell him. Or he will decide that you don’t consider it necessary to talk to him at all. It's best to just try to keep the dialogue going. You should become a pleasant and interesting conversationalist for him.
4. Compliment him. Men are no less susceptible to this than women, and maybe even more. Only the compliment should be very subtle. Unlike a woman, a man perceives a compliment as a fact. And if this fact is not obvious to him, he may doubt your sincerity. Therefore, if you have known him for only five minutes, you should not talk about what a wonderful friend he is, it is better to note how well his suit fits on him (what a pleasant conversationalist he is, how great he dances, etc.).
5. It’s no secret that many men believe that a woman is just waiting to drag him to the registry office. Like, for example, many women think that a man only dreams of getting her into bed. Do not be afraid, dear men, and do not be deceived, dear ladies! In my opinion, both opinions are very erroneous and contribute to the most incredible myths about women and men.

But nevertheless, at the first meeting, it is better not to discount the generally accepted male opinion and try to reassure the man about your “insidious plans.” Try to make it clear to the man that you are not looking for a husband, but on the contrary, you yourself are so self-sufficient and your life is so interesting that marriage is not in the first place for you. Although, of course, it is not excluded (just don’t even think about talking to him about your feminist views, this will completely exclude his interest in you as a woman). In general, it is better if the initiative to develop your relationship comes from a man. It is much more pleasant for him to think that it was HE who conquered you. Well, let him think so. In any case, in the future, if you develop a serious relationship with him, he will not be able to blame you for marrying him.

In case you don't know: emotions are contagious. Scientists from Ohio State University and the University of Hawaii assure that people can read the feelings of those around them. Moreover, this happens on an unconscious level, and this says something about the effect of the first impression. And it is quite natural that citizens feel much more comfortable in the company of people who exude positive energy and optimism. The conclusion is obvious: if you want those around you to crave continued acquaintance, exude a good mood

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Give compliments

Psychologists warn: the way you speak about others is how people judge you.

. Say thank you to the effect of involuntary transfer of qualities. For example, you carelessly spoke about the boss, whom you sincerely consider a tyrant, or complained about the boorish service in the salon, or shared your impressions about the unreasonable behavior of a friend - new acquaintances will easily attribute all these unattractive qualities to you. But if your stories include smart, talented and charming colleagues, bosses and friends, in the eyes of those around you you yourself will acquire the listed advantages. Still, try not to overdo it with praise - excessive enthusiasm is also alarming.

Be interested in people

Science has found that people are more willing to like those who like them. So, if you need to win over a new acquaintance, show interest in him or her

– give him the opportunity to talk about himself, ask leading questions and listen carefully.
Another trick is mirroring

the chameleon effect
discovered by New York psychologists back in 1999 : scientists have discovered that some citizens begin to involuntarily imitate their interlocutor, copying his gestures, facial expressions and even speed of speech. As a result, these comrades receive much more positive feedback than people who do not observe such behavior.

Brake on red

Dr. Mark Golston, a crisis psychologist and consultant to many large firms (including, by the way, the FBI), suggests observing the “traffic light rule”

. For the first 20 seconds you “go green”: they listen to you attentively and are ready to learn something useful for themselves. The next 20 seconds - the light switches to yellow, which means it's time to slow down. If you don't shut up for more than half a minute, the other person may get bored and begin to lose interest in both the topic and you. After 40 seconds, red flashes desperately - it’s time to shut up and give the right to vote to someone else. There are, of course, exceptions, but in most cases it is better not to take risks if you plan to continue communication in a positive way.

Let's start, attention

OK, you have mastered the basics of behavior and are ready to charm new acquaintances, and even passers-by on the street. But the question remained: “How, exactly, to start a conversation?” To help you, a three-step system from communications expert Dr. Carol Fleming - ARE (Anchor, Reveal, Encourage).

• Stage one: anchor

Share an observation about your shared reality - comment on something that you both see and hear: for example, how witty the birthday boy is or how well the wallpaper matches the color of the curtains. Fleming calls this “friendly noise” - a non-committal little thing, the purpose of which is not to amaze with erudition, but to break the ice and establish contact. In general, to get started, you don’t need to rack your brain in search of highly intellectual topics or witty jokes. You can even enjoy the warm weather. Be more simple.

• Stage two: revelation

Don’t be afraid, no one suggests immediately posting intimate details of your life - after all, you are not planning to scare away the person, but quite the opposite. Reveal the topic you started with - something personal but innocuous, for example: “I was really looking forward to starting my morning runs in the park again” or “I recently finished renovating my kitchen, and finding a beautiful sofa was the most difficult task.” .

• Stage Three: Encouragement

Now all that’s left to do is to engage your friend in a conversation. The best way to do this is to ask a question. Of course, it is advisable to formulate it in such a way that it is not just a modest “yes” or “no.” Experts advise starting with the words “how” and “why,” but at this stage you can get by with something simpler, for example: “Do you run in the morning?” And only then continue with more detailed questions. But don’t overdo it - it’s unlikely that interrogation with bias will make anyone happy. Repeat the steps one by one until the conversation flows naturally. And don’t forget to maintain a balance: speak yourself (remember the 20-second rule?) and let the other person speak.

Master class from Elena Siluyanova, host of “Moscow FM” and “Moscow 24”

1. Someone who follows his beliefs is interesting.

People love good wording. Therefore, acquire a reasoned position on issues where you are an expert, and on topics that interest many (food, sex, health, sports).

2. Decide who you are and what you represent.

It is advisable to do this in writing: describe what you value most in life, what you dream about and what you have already achieved. Better yet, create your own manifesto - you will kill two birds with one stone: you will define yourself and be able to present yourself to other people.

3. Learn to just listen.

Without interrupting, without going off topic. Try to understand your interlocutor (even if you don’t agree with him on everything).

4. Get rid of bad habits and gain useful ones instead.

People tend not to leave their comfort zone, so they are actively interested in those who have done this and, thanks to working on themselves, have become healthier and more successful.

5. Are you nervous before public speaking or important negotiations?

There is a great exercise. Find a place where no one can see you. Slowly take a deep breath and rise onto your toes, then exhale and roll onto your heels. Repeat several times until you feel slightly dizzy and the tension will go away.

6.

In a stressful situation (a report, an interview, meeting your boyfriend’s parents or a new team),
focus on the essence of the process and your functions, and not on who thought what.
Imagine how successfully you performed and what feelings you experienced - give your brain a ready-made model and go ahead.

7. Try not to worry about what impression you make, but rather evaluate your interlocutors yourself.

If you have completed the first two points, then you have clear personal assessment criteria. Can you like these people and are you interested in winning their favor? It may be better to remain within the framework of formal communication.

How to effectively attract the attention of a male friend with your gaze?

1. Meet a man by choosing a great and pleasant place to meet. It is best to choose your favorite place (that is, both yours and his).
2. Talk a little on abstract topics. Up to the topic of the weather or traffic incidents.
3. Look at him with a “non-intense” gaze (to just look, without pursuing a single goal).

Analyze and act

Start catching looks. Take action and watch the man’s (or boy’s) reaction.

Here are the actions you need to take:

- Ask for a “hot” compliment

When he decides to say it, wait for that “spark.”

— Ask a man to name his favorite drink

To do this, offer several options to choose from (kefir, whiskey, water). He will give you some immediate answer, which may (ninety-nine percent) turn out to be untrue. Ask another simple question: “do you always say this when you lie?” This question will attract the guy's attention because he (at that very moment) notices your gaze.

- Say just one phrase: “look into my eyes, please!”

The young man will definitely do it. Wink at him and smile as if you see the sun in the window.

Sense of humor

A man must have a sense of humor. Surely you have heard about this more than once. However, everyone understands this expression differently. Undoubtedly, jokes, anecdotes and funny stories will add advantages to you in the eyes of a girl. However, we are more likely talking about an optimistic approach to life, when in any situation it is possible.

The sense of humor must be adequate. A common mistake guys make is that they joke without even paying attention to how girls react to their jokes. The interlocutors can sit with a boring face, and the guys don’t even notice it.

Another erroneous behavior is not changing your jokes when the girl does not react to them. The guy jokes, but the girl is not funny. The guy continues to joke in the same direction, and the girl continues to sit with a puzzled look. What's the guy's mistake? The fact is that he does not stop joking in order to move on to another type of humor.

A man should be able to joke in different ways. All girls are different, so they understand jokes differently. There are serious girls who only understand life's jokes. There are girls who are “easy”; anything makes them laugh. If a guy notices his partner’s reaction and quickly changes the topic of his jokes in order to finally find one when the girl will find it funny (and not just the guy), then he will become attractive in the woman’s eyes.

How to conquer a man at first sight

Who hasn’t dreamed of conquering a man at first sight, falling into his soul, remaining in his memory after meeting? Indeed, to make an impression, you need to stand out in order to be remembered. Any search engine will return a dozen pages of specific recommendations for the query “make an impression”: “If you want to evoke positive emotions, be inspiring, positive, optimistic. Seduce? Turn on the fatal beauty with the appropriate make-up.” In practice, advice does not always work, and for men you go unnoticed. The author of Lady Mail.Ru and psychoanalytic psychologist Dmitry Basov decided to unravel the phenomenon of first impression.

Miss Perfect

Attempts to make a first impression may suggest falsehood. Seduction courses, books, the beauty and fashion industry work on appearance. There are no second chances for a first impression, which adds to our desire to be liked on the first try. Appearance is the first thing that catches your eye. What is important is neatness, appropriateness to the situation, good taste, that is, an understanding of what is correct, appropriate, what suits and what does not. Taste, of course, is an elusive substance, it is difficult to define, but it is no longer about what to do, but about what not to do. The picture can be tempting, but the laurels often go to the gray mice. Why is that?

“The ideal is the enemy of the individual. It’s important not to try to look perfect from all angles if we don’t want to be chosen as a doll,” says Dmitry Basov. — In order for others to perceive you as a person, you need to accept yourself. We truly love another for his characteristics, which many may consider shortcomings. For example, sweaty palms - a woman may be embarrassed by this, but a man takes her hand and likes it, he thinks it’s cute. The same can be said about stooping, disheveledness, and timidity.”

In addition to appearance, the impression is also made from non-verbal behavior - facial expressions, gaze, manner of movement, how relaxed the woman is, how tense she is, how naturally she behaves. Appearance is the reflected self of a person. The overall picture, the entire image, is remembered. Scientists have proven: 7% of information is transmitted through words, 38% is transmitted through the sound of the voice, intonation, and 55% of information is received through non-verbal communication - gestures, posture, gait, smile, movements. It's not just what we say that matters, but how we say it. Posture indicates a person’s confidence, gestures reveal temperament and state of mind.

“Nervousness and fussiness are revealed by fears and apprehensions, which are manifested in looks, gestures, postures, and movements,” explains Dmitry Basov. “Tension and an excessive desire to please are also repulsive, since unnatural behavior and theatricality appear.”

Be, not seem to be

The success of the first contact depends on the internal state. The principle of congruence operates here - the coincidence of external manifestations with the internal state. If a person is relaxed and friendly, the impression will be appropriate - open, positive. If you strive to create an impression, but your internal state does not correspond, the result will be the opposite, repulsive.

First impression effect

It all depends on the tasks that the woman sets when getting acquainted and what her goal is. If you have sex or receive a gift, it’s easier to be honest about it. “I like you, do you like me too, to you or to me?”

“We are talking about types of behavior,” comments Dmitry Basov. “When we conform to types, we deny ourselves. It's fake. It is impossible to build relationships based on type. I am impressed by naturalness, friendliness, calmness, openness to people, honesty, sincerity.”

Interest and attentiveness to the interlocutor, to his words - a manifestation of care on the part of the woman. This includes accuracy, attention to detail, clarifying questions, and attempts to say something nice. But the main thing is sincerity, real interest, and not the appearance of interest, interest that is supported by respect, some degree of admiration.

“Before you try to please or impress, ask yourself: do I really like this person? You can’t evaluate it according to the criteria: status, wealth, well-mannered, educated, suitable, but how much it responds at the level of bodily sensations, recommends Dmitry Basov. — Try to understand how pleasant it is to be next to him, to fantasize about whether it will be comfortable to grow old with him in 30 years? And if warmth responds in the soul, then the question of how to make an impression is no longer necessary.”

Seconds that decide for us

The first impression is formed in seconds, consolidated within a minute, and remains in the mind for a long time. The effect lasts until the person is truly recognized. The first seconds, if you are honest with yourself, determine the future fate of your acquaintance.

Everyone has a need for relationships, and there is a certain image of these relationships, formed in childhood: what a woman should be, what a man should be. When people meet, in the first 15-20 seconds there is an assessment of “mine - not mine”, “suitable - not suitable”. This image was already in the unconscious, during these 15 seconds a certain template is superimposed, glasses are put on - I want to see this image in this person, he fits this image. In the process of living together, getting to know each other, people see a real person, and not the image they created when they met. It often turns out that the reality is completely different than the first impression. Falling in love passes, and nothing that connects remains - love does not arise, the person turns out to be unsuitable.

Therefore, it is important not to deceive yourself. If you are honest with yourself, a person feels what will come of this or that acquaintance. These are not conscious thoughts, but certain expectations, a deja vu effect. It is important to realize how much you like a man and why you need him. If a woman thinks that it would be nice to have a whirlwind romance now (and her mother asks when the grandchildren are), emotions are needed, and she begins to tell the man not about her desires, but to present her mother’s, father’s, society’s - what they require - this pushes the man away . If her desire is her own, it is sincere - say, to start a family - there is no need to talk about it, this is clear from how she builds relationships, how she cares. It can be seen and felt. If the other person is also ready for this, the goals coincide - communication succeeds.

All the same rake

Have you noticed that sometimes women date a certain type of man? At the same time, a man can behave differently with each woman.

Many women have a distorted idea about men, one that has been imposed, for example: “all men only want sex or all men are greedy.” When communicating, a woman experiences unconscious fears: low self-esteem, on the one hand, and fantasies about the object, on the other. She consciously wants to be with a generous man, but she doesn’t know how to behave with him or help him become one, because she doesn’t know that a man can be generous.

In fact, it provokes him to greed, aggression, and rejection. A certain attitude about himself and about others, something that a person does not accept, he unconsciously puts into another in the form of a projection. If a woman says: “How generous you are, you paid for the coffee,” a man wants to do more. Did you bring one rose? “Oh, this is a flower for me, thank you, it’s so nice, you took such good care of me,” he wants to bring an armful. If a woman thinks: “I came with one rose - this, of course, is a minus,” next time he won’t even want to pay for coffee. Unconscious fears are important here, and it is precisely excessive expectations and devaluations that force a man to succumb and conform to this unconscious image.

Top don'ts on the first date

Don't devalue men and don't devalue yourself. Women often say: “Oh, I can’t do that,” and give a compliment: “Oh, that’s not true.” On the contrary, it is important to calmly accept if a man compliments, admires or praises. And don’t devalue men: avoid making value judgments in conversation, like, all men are the same, they go to the left, no one wants to get married, and the like.

Voice and have high expectations. “I would like a man to support me, or “I would like to get married,” or “I want an ideal family.” Excessive internal expectations, when a person wants a lot, are repulsive and spoil the impression.

Talk about problematic relatives, unhappy, unsuccessful acquaintances with a difficult fate. Even when talking about someone, we still talk about ourselves, about some aspects of our personality, some unfavorable aspect of our unconscious, the interlocutor reads it, one way or another, at an unconscious level, correlates this with the speaker.

What do you need

Create space for conversation and respect certain boundaries of this space. If there is sympathy, do not invite third parties to join, it is advisable to stay alone, move away together, and move to another table.

Put away or turn off your phone for a while if the conversation is important. Do not talk, do not write, do not read text messages. But don’t ignore it when the phone rings off - this will alert the interlocutor, he puts himself in the place of the caller: “Yeah, she can ignore me too.” At a symbolic level, the phone can be considered as a symbol of mom: the extent to which a girl or woman is attached to her phone or does not let it out of her hands can tell about an unconscious connection with her mother, even if she does not communicate with her or lives in another city. This may indicate excessive attachment to mother, lack of independence.

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Neckline and slits

If you love neckline, then you need to listen to the recommendations of stylists. They argue that in the new season it is best to refuse such things or try to reduce them to a minimum in your wardrobe.

It is better to give preference to trendy outfits with dropped shoulders. Such clothes can make any girl feminine and sweet. In addition, it is no less sexy than a deep neckline.

Cuts are also not something that should be preferred in the new season. They can not only ruin the image, but also make it vulgar.