Betrayal is always pain, suffering, guilt. Adultery, from the point of view of ideal norms and rules, of course, is not the norm. The concept of devotion is directly related to the concept of the individual and the law, which exists only in human society, although this manifestation can also be seen in some animals. A cheater is an immoral person.
Most women ask a number of exciting questions: “How to find a faithful spouse? Are there any faithful men? Do all men cheat? After all, a devoted and caring husband is the dream of any of them.
Every move to the left is accompanied by an acute feeling of guilt, whether we like it or not, which is constantly present in the form of internal punishment. Sometimes it happens that a traitor has a defensive reaction in the form of denial, when he considers himself innocent, free, but behind this there is still an internal feeling of guilt. A person tries to get rid of it, looks for arguments, pretexts to justify himself, but in reality this is not possible. This is just self-deception!
The nature and essence of male infidelity is not particularly different from female infidelity, however, there is some difference. Not always, but most often, the male view of betrayal is a little simpler.
They separate sexual attraction from love feelings.
Women's psychology is a little different, in this sense it is much more difficult for them. For girls, it is necessary to fall in love before having sexual contact with someone.
A man’s fidelity, like a woman’s fidelity, depends on upbringing, honesty, responsibility, education, the degree of unfulfillment, individual characteristics, religious attitudes, family relationships, and so on. That is, whether a partner is endowed with fidelity or not depends on a large number of different factors, and not just on the woman, as is often customary in our society. It is difficult to say for sure who exactly is to blame for the betrayal. Most often this is a reciprocal process, which can occur for several reasons:
1. The desire for a permanent partner has disappeared.
The reasons can be different: love has cooled down, there is no understanding or attention, the partner is too busy with work, children/friends/hobbies, or the other half is simply not receiving something from his wife, etc. To one degree or another, everyone strives to be desired and loved, to be admired. The problem lies in the very nature of desire, which instantly depreciates after receiving it. What a person has very often becomes uninteresting to him. No matter how many women a man has, his need will always be unsatisfied. I want more, something new or something that doesn’t exist.
2. The emergence of an attraction to a new person.
That is, the emergence of new love, interest, passion for a person of the opposite sex. Sometimes it happens that a person in himself is not interesting, but you want to get attention from him: a look, to achieve and conquer an object by any means, often in order to simply prove to himself that he is still capable of something. Or again experience all the delights of love that happen during the candy-bouquet period.
But if we talk roughly about who is to blame, then most of the responsibility lies with the traitor. After all, sometimes, instead of understanding the problem, trying to fix it and find solace within the family, some run to the side because they see no other way out.
Why does cheating happen?
A large number of betrayals occur mainly in youth. There are several reasons for this:
- didn't walk enough
- I want to try a lot
- gain experience, etc.
Another reason for cheating after 40 years may arise due to a midlife crisis. You can read about this in detail in the article with a detailed description of the reasons and ways to solve them. Men do not feel fulfilled; they are consumed by despair and depression. And at such a critical moment, a person begins to look for consolation on the side. But what should a spouse do and not end up cheating?
You need to praise your husband as often as possible, talk to him, love him and take care of him.
Polygamy is also influenced by the hormonal level of testosterone in the blood. Scientists have found out that the higher its level, the more representatives of the strong part of humanity are prone to betrayal.
A man constantly lies for no reason
It won't be difficult for him to lie about anything. And this is really scary, because having caught a man at least once in a lie, it becomes unclear when exactly he is behaving sincerely, and when he is lying about something again.
Men who are scoundrels, unfortunately, are encountered by girls quite often. However, it is not clear why they behave this way. Perhaps it’s a matter of upbringing or the bad example of older relatives, or it’s his personal beliefs. But be that as it may, you really should stay away from such men.
Should betrayal be forgiven?
Whether it makes sense to continue the relationship or not depends on many factors:
- happened once or happened constantly,
- does the person repent?
- is there any reason
- perhaps something prompted this,
- happened against the background of internal experiences, etc.
Only one thing can be said with complete confidence: under no circumstances should any decision be made in a fit of anger, scandal or resentment. Wait, think about it, talk to each other, weigh the pros and cons of your relationship. It's easier to end a marriage than to rebuild it, so don't rush. Cheating is a reason to think about relationships, change something, and listen to your other half. Such a difficult event, on the contrary, creates an opportunity to strengthen relationships with a partner, but with new views and principles.
A man disappears during difficult life situations
In a relationship, partners should always support each other. But if a man is a scoundrel, then in case of any difficulties he will definitely disappear, because he has no interest in solving problems. But as soon as the problems are solved by the girl, he will immediately appear on the horizon.
Even if the partners already live together, in this case the man will constantly stay late at work under any pretext so as not to be at home for a long time. Well, or he’ll just pretend that he doesn’t want to talk about something because he’s in a depressed state.
Reasons for betrayal
Why do they happen? In other articles on the women's website, the site has more than once listed the reasons for infidelity, both male and female. However, you should not think that the reason is often the only one - as soon as it is eliminated, everything will immediately improve. Psychologists usually say that betrayal is a combination of factors that accumulate over the course of a person’s life and ultimately lead to treacherous behavior. If a man cheated once, most likely he will cheat many more times with the same woman and possibly another. Factors that influence whether a person is faithful or unfaithful are:
- Upbringing.
- Education.
- Satisfaction with one's own life.
- Self-satisfaction: both appearance and inner world.
- Satisfaction with your choice of partner.
- Honesty.
- Responsibility.
- Individual characteristics.
- Degree of implementation.
- Religious views.
- Family relationships, etc.
That is why a woman must remember that she can forgive her husband’s betrayal, but this will not stop him if he did not see anything wrong in his action, did not understand what he could lose, did not suffer because of his betrayal and simply does not respect his wife.
Usually people try to find someone to blame when one of the spouses begins to cheat. Psychologists say that both are to blame:
- A woman could be very tired of her man, who constantly asks her for something, needs something from her.
- The man did not dare to break up with the woman who was tired of him or was no longer satisfied with him, so he resorted to deception.
Both are to blame, despite the reasons for male infidelity:
- Tired of a constant partner. And this fatigue occurs in all people. Over the years, people become boring, boring, and uninteresting. Every person accumulates grievances and some resentments towards their partners. Instead of taking a little break from each other or changing something about themselves, people often cheat as a way of introducing something new and fresh into their lives.
- The appeal of novelty. Over time, other women become more beautiful and more interesting than the close and always present wife. Sometimes a man wants something new, unknown, unusual. And this concerns not so much sex as moral satisfaction, gaining new knowledge and curiosity.
People talk about the reasons for male infidelity more often than about female infidelity. It's all about the dual behavior of the gentlemen themselves: on the one hand, they do not leave their wives, on the other, they cannot live without their mistresses. Here we look at various reasons that can lead to cheating. The representatives themselves explain their behavior differently. Let's try to comprehensively understand the problem.
A man’s behavior is largely influenced by his upbringing and the criteria by which his masculinity is assessed. Remember what is usually said as instructions and slogans:
- Men are polygamous; they cannot help but look “to the left.”
- The male dignity is called the sexual organ. In other words, male power is manifested solely in how much and how well the representative was able to satisfy women.
- A man does not cry, that is, he must hide his emotional experiences from loved ones so as not to appear weak. But we are talking about a person who can also experience disturbing and deep emotions.
- The man is a hero. And heroes need admiration! If a person does not receive this admiration in his homeland, then he leaves for other countries where he can show his masculinity. Metaphorically, it says that if a wife does not admire her husband, then another woman will admire him.
These provisions are laid down in every representative of the stronger sex, who, faced with unpleasant situations for themselves, when no one admires or worships their masculinity, looks for various ways to fill the gaps. The solution is a lover who is needed in order to:
How does a man get all this from his mistress? Often, special categories of ladies are chosen for the role of “second woman”: weak, tired of loneliness or victims of male egoism, ugly, poor, etc. Confident women, beautiful, smart, sensible, able to defend their point of view and etc. But from such “snow queens” you may not receive any affection, no warmth, no concessions, no love. Weak women are chosen to play the role of mistresses, who are ready to live for the sake of men, infringe on their interests and desires, and do everything only for the sake of their partners. These are selfless representatives who, somewhere deep down in their souls, have already lost hope that someone will love them. Therefore, a married man is the savior who, at least for a short time, will allow you to become happier.
A flawed woman is an ideal lover.
- A man in her eyes will become a hero, even if he does not give her gifts or solve her problems.
- He will remain strong, despite the fact that he doesn’t like everything, is unable to solve his problems at work, and cannot come to an agreement with his wife at home.
- He will remain a respected person, despite the fact that he abandons his children for his mistress, does not pay attention to his family and behaves immorally.
- The man will be the most loved because she is grateful to him for paying attention to her.
In other words, she is many times more stupid, more flawed, weaker, etc. He does this because in the family he cannot relax, cope with his wife’s attacks, or feel like a man not only physically, but also psychologically, morally and emotionally. He must always be a superman - a person who has no flaws or weaknesses.
To be a hero in the eyes of a woman, while having shortcomings and acting immorally, selfishly, it is necessary to choose one who no longer believes in herself, is weak and flawed. She is ready to be with someone who will pay attention to her, even if it is a married gentleman. Low self-esteem and lack of confidence in one’s own beauty and strength are the main qualities of lovers. Otherwise, a man would not be able to satisfy his psycho-emotional desires, which are not embodied in family life, where what is required of him is not weakness and indulgence in his own egoism, but dedication, strength and the absence of shortcomings.
He won't cheat on you, or 15 non-obvious signs of a faithful man
No woman wants to enter into a relationship with a potential cheater. At first, the tendency to change partners is not always easy to recognize. 15 non-obvious signs of a faithful man, which were commented on by practicing psychologist and gestalt therapist Anna Zhulidova, will help with this.
- You both work and earn about the same
If one of the partners earns significantly more, and, as a rule, it is a man, then he has much more temptations and opportunities to go to the left. With equal social status and income, neither partner feels disadvantaged or insecure.
- He is an extrovert
People with this type of temperament are less prone to being pressured by other people's opinions; it is easier for them to say “no.” But Anna also adds that extroverts are more sociable and it is easier for them to make new acquaintances. Therefore, it is worth taking a closer look at them.
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- He is “loved” emotionally
What does it mean? Men often look for entertainment on the side primarily because of a lack of positive emotions and admiration addressed to them. It is important to let your man know that he is important and valuable, otherwise the search for self-worth may lead to a mistress.
- Expensive gifts for no reason - a rare guest in your home
And this is good. Many women admit that sudden expensive gifts make them think of a catch. Often men try to make amends for their guilt without admitting it. But you shouldn’t go to extremes and accuse a man of treason when giving a gift - this is just one of the points that sometimes helps the “puzzle” come together.
- He has brothers or sisters
A man who grew up in a large family is used to trusting and caring for others. It is important to pay attention to the relationship of his parents - whether they had “controversial” issues with betrayal and how they resolved them.
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- When there are quarrels, the man is the first to make peace
If, of course, he is interested in continuing your relationship. A loving and faithful partner will always try to find the right words and compromise. The “reveler” will silently leave to “calm down” on the side.
- He shows interest in your work and hobbies
“Interest is a manifestation of love and care,” Anna Zhulidova is sure. Sincere attention to your partner is one of the signs of fidelity.
- Talking on the phone in front of you
The first “bell” that tells women about cheating is when their man suddenly starts going into another room for an important call. Classics of the genre. If he doesn’t hesitate to talk in front of you and doesn’t put the phone face down, you don’t have to worry.
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- He is true to his habits
This applies to clothing style, perfume and eating habits. If something suddenly changes for no apparent reason, this is a reason to think about it.
- Plans your future
A man who considers himself a free bird will not think about your wedding, children or buying an apartment. Serious intentions, although not a guarantee of their completion, are already a favorable “seed” for the future.
- Does not hide your expressions of love and care from anyone
For example, a loving and faithful man will only be happy with the lunch his companion brings to work. He will not hide his feelings, because he no longer needs to show himself as a lonely brutal macho in the team.
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- Restrained reaction to minor remarks
Socks scattered again or a tube of toothpaste not closed? A faithful man will react with a touch of humor to your reproaches and correct the situation, or with the tenacity of a hippopotamus he will continue to do the same. But the main thing is without aggression. He is not looking for an extra reason to quarrel in order to leave to look for joy on the side.
- He's not jealous
The principle “the thief’s cap is on fire” works here. A person who has never even thought of cheating on his partner will not suspect him of this.
- Calm
When a man does not lead a double life, he has no need to hide his phone and frantically remember in the morning where and with whom he was that night. There is no point in lying and fussing. Calmness in his eyes and actions is also an indicator of his devotion.
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- Respect for your relatives
If a man doesn’t throw hysterics about visiting your parents and is ready to help them with something, it means he doesn’t need an extra reason for conflict. His companion is dear to him, so he does not want to upset her, even if his mother’s visit was not part of his plans.
Should betrayal be forgiven?
When betrayal happens, the other half has only one question left to decide: is it worth forgiving? And here it is not always necessary to forgive the cheater, just as vice versa, not every betrayal should be severely punished. Several factors influence whether you need to forgive betrayal:
- Was it one-time or multiple?
- Does it have a good reason for its occurrence?
- Does the husband repent?
- Is the husband trying to restore the relationship with his wife or is he staying away from the problem?
To make the right decision, you need to abstract yourself from the emotions that are probably raging inside after the news of your husband’s infidelity.
In many love relationships, partners are faced with a stressful situation when there is not just a quarrel between them, but a serious event in the form of betrayal, separation or infidelity. In any person, these three situations cause all sorts of emotions of despair, anger, hatred, etc. There are three possible scenarios for the development of events:
- Partners separate forever.
- Partners change and begin new relationships, completely different from the previous ones.
- Partners continue the relationship they already have.
In the first case, when partners break up, both simply have to go through the period when they wean themselves from past relationships and begin to desire new contacts with other candidates for their love.
In the second case, partners forgive each other for what they did. In doing so, they begin a grand process of changing themselves. Not one, but both partners begin to change so strongly and globally that no trace or memories remain of the previous relationship. A new man and woman appear, who get to know each other again and build completely different relationships, completely different from the previous ones. This requires a colossal amount of time, effort and the desire of both partners to forgive everything that happened, forget and start living in such a way that such serious stressful situations no longer occur.
In the third case, when partners simply continue the same relationship without any changes, forgiveness, etc., further stressful situations are foreseen in the future, and on an increased scale. In other words, if someone cheated, they will cheat again, but now it will be much more sophisticated and painful. If someone betrayed, then they will betray again, but with great losses for people. Spouses in a relationship according to the third scenario will have unequal positions: one will constantly remember what the other has done, and the second will constantly be tormented by a “sense of duty” and guilt for his action. But over time, these feelings dull, which is why the second partner begins to take revenge on the first because he constantly accuses him of something, which is why he commits another “unforgivable” act.
Betrayal, separation, betrayal - how to survive it? Successful people choose either the first or second scenario. If they understand that they can forget what happened and change together with their partner, thus taking the relationship to a new level, then they build a new union. If they understand that they do not want or cannot forgive, then they finally break off the relationship.
People who are used to suffering, torment, being victims or tyrants, infantile personalities, choose the third option for the development of events, because in this case they do not have to fight the fear of loneliness and look for new partners who will agree to suffer with them.
Betrayal cannot be justified
Programmer Olga
states: “I am disgusted by any talk about supposedly natural male polygamy. A person should act not on the basis of animal instincts, but obeying the voice of reason. If a gentleman values and loves his wife, he will not cheat on her.”
Graphic artist Antonina
is also not going to put up with male infidelity: “Betrayal is betrayal. And betrayal can never be justified by anything!”
She has never encountered such problems in her life: “My husband Valery is a bright, attractive man who is liked by many women. And at the same time, during 19 years of marriage, he never gave any reason to doubt his fidelity.”
Bottom line
If women are interested in whether there are faithful men, then the answer will be positive. The question remains: how to find such a man, because there are very few such people? And here you really have to work hard, since a man is faithful not only when he loves, but also when he is simply too lazy to run after someone, or is independent of women in general, so you have to run after him.
In the modern world, it seems that people have ceased to be honest and loyal, that everything is bought and sold, so you cannot trust anyone. But if you love, how can you not trust the person you want to spend your whole life with? Indeed, in this case, it is impossible to talk about real relationships, since the basis of everything has always been trust. Modern women are most frightened by the infidelity of the stronger sex. It’s hard to believe that there are faithful men when there are so many available ladies around who don’t demand anything, but give the guys everything they want.
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There has long been an opinion in society that no man can be completely faithful. They say that guys don’t consider physical intimacy to be real betrayal, so they go for it quite simply. And unfortunately, it is worth noting that most men really hold this opinion, even if they do not admit it. But there are still faithful young people. But there are very few of them left in our world.
Women's fault for infidelity
Speaking about male fidelity, it is probably worth remembering that it was women who made some men unfaithful. For a guy who doesn't cheat, cheating is the worst sin. Such men do not forgive misdeeds. Since for them the woman they love is really the only one, they themselves cannot imagine that the lady of their heart can pay attention to someone else. It’s unfortunate that these guys very often come across flighty women. And after another betrayal, they come to the conclusion that their loyalty is a relic of the past. As a result, guys either completely close themselves off and push away the female sex, or they themselves begin to behave like womanizers. In fact, they do not so much want to offend someone as they want to destroy the offense in themselves. Cheating has always humiliated male dignity, and in cases where the guy himself is incapable of this, such an attitude generally breaks him. So, looking at flighty men, don’t rush to judge them and blame them for ruining women’s destinies. Perhaps their fate was also ruined because of some representative of the fair sex.
Signs of a faithful man
If a man is truly faithful, then his loyalty is manifested in everything. First of all, his family (his beloved woman) comes first. He will always try to spend more time with the lady of his heart. By the way, this does not mean at all that the guy will refuse his friends. He just wants his beloved to always be with him. And he will always place her feelings a little higher than the feelings of others. A faithful man, first of all, is faithful not in the physical sense, but in the moral sense. It’s not easy for him to not allow himself to look at other women, he really doesn’t want to. Such men are generally uninterested in all girls except that one. Very often this type of man remains bachelor for a long time, although many people like him. It's just that faithful men don't exchange their feelings. If they start dating at a conscious age, it’s not just like that, but to really build a relationship. That's why this type of guy doesn't start relationships with many ladies, although they are ready for almost anything. A faithful guy will consider that it is better to immediately make it clear that he does not see his future wife in this girl than to hurt her later. By the way, it is worth noting that faithful men, when actually starting a relationship, treat their lady of the heart exactly as a potential wife. They don’t have such a concept as “sailed and abandoned.” Such guys can take a long time to decide on some serious steps (for example, sex), but if this happens, it means that he is sure that the girl is the only one for him and he wants to be with her and only with her.
Reasons for loyalty
Many believe that men who are faithful are those who got married early and have no sexual experience, so they are simply afraid of disgracing themselves somewhere on the side. But in reality there is only a grain of truth in this. Men with a fairly rich sexual experience can also be faithful, and faithful even in cases where for some reason they have to abstain from sex for a long time. Whatever sexologists say, there are guys for whom the moral aspect of a relationship is truly much more important than the physical one. They really understand that with their betrayal they can hurt the person they love and, in the end, simply lose him.
The ideal wife for a faithful husband
But no matter how faithful a man is, you still need to always try to be the woman next to whom he simply won’t think about cheating. Because even the most loving, kind and honest person can endure hysterics, claims, and scandals for years. And then it still breaks down. And the worst thing is that he will break down not just physically, he will break down mentally. If a wife is constantly dissatisfied with something, accuses, gets angry, screams, then in the end there is a woman who sees in a man a wonderful, honest knight and gives him the tenderness and affection that a wife cannot give. That's when a faithful man forgets about his fidelity. Although, probably, there’s still no point in talking about loyalty here. In such cases, love simply leaves. And when this feeling disappears, then there is simply no one to be faithful to.
That is why, no matter how kind, gentle and honest a man is, a woman who is lucky with such a treasure should not take it for granted, much less take advantage of his feelings. If a woman sees that a guy is incapable of cheating and will always idolize only her, in no case should you relax, “sit on your head.” Never forget to compliment your man and remind him that he is the best for you. A man should always see that you love him, desire him and want to spend your whole life with him. Also, don't let routine take over you. Even the most faithful, calm man sometimes wants some adventure. And so that he never gets into his head to look for them on the side, create a fairy tale or an adventure novel in your life. Travel, if he loves it, go on some small adventures, be interested in what captivates him. In general, take part in his life, and do not stay on the sidelines.
Faithful men have always been able and know how to love truly. They are truly ready to do everything for their woman and do not want to hurt her. Therefore, try to pay your man “in the same coin.” And then you will definitely live a very long, wonderful, happy life in marriage.
Men who don't cheat always behave this way with their loved ones.
Most of us expect fidelity from our lover, while the number of betrayals is increasing. According to a 2020 study in America, 41% of married couples cheat on their spouses, and half of the men and women surveyed said they had previously had an affair.
But don't worry! If your man’s behavior corresponds to the 15 signs we have listed, then he is definitely faithful to you:
He keeps his word
Your man always keeps his promises. You know for sure that if he promised to do something for you, your family or friends, then he will definitely do everything to fulfill his promise.
He likes your friends
He is not burdened by the company of your friends, but always maintains some distance. He is attached to you, and he has no friends closer than you.
He doesn't hide anything from you
There are no secrets between you, because he is confident in you and knows that he can tell you everything.
He knows the limits of what is permitted
He understands what situations can lead to cheating (for example, a joint business trip with an employee) and avoids everything that could jeopardize your marriage. Sometimes, due to work, he may need to be alone with a woman, but even in this case, he communicates with her strictly according to the rules of business etiquette.
He doesn't talk to his exes
He doesn't think it's right to communicate and spend time with his exes. He completely broke ties with them.
He knows that he is not only the love of your life, but also your best friend.
Friendship is the basis of strong and tender relationships.
He draws clear boundaries of what is permitted in relations with employees.
He doesn't allow himself to get too close to the women he works with. He does not hide his marriage and always keeps his employees a little at a distance so that they do not confuse his politeness with flirting.
He knows you appreciate him
One of the possible reasons for infidelity is a lack of attention on the part of the wife towards her husband, as family psychologist Harry Newman says. Indeed, his research shows that 48% of men committed infidelity because they no longer felt an emotional connection with their spouses. In a relationship, it is very important to show your husband how grateful you are and how much you appreciate him.
He doesn't indulge in narcissism
Narcissistic men are much more prone to infidelity because their self-love is off the charts. They resort to affairs in order to stroke their pride.
He enjoys being close to you
Your man values the emotional and physical connection that exists between you. According to statistics, 52% of couples who were not satisfied with their intimate life in marriage found someone on the side, while among those who were completely satisfied with their spouse, this figure was 17%. If you have any problems in your intimate life, then tell your spouse about them. Work together to resolve them, or consult a doctor.
He doesn't need your constant approval in order to be in a normal mood.
Even without your compliments, he knows that you are dear to him, but this does not mean that he does not want to hear about how you feel about him. Boost his self-esteem by complimenting his appearance, or tell him once again that you love him very much.
He doesn't try to control the family budget
He does not hide his earnings from you. He is not against planning a budget together and distributing money for purchases.
He doesn't flirt with other women
He loves you, so there is no need for him to act freely with other women.
He admits his mistakes
He knows that he is not a perfect person and is not afraid to admit that he was wrong. He believes that you can help him cope with his shortcomings, which he already works on every day.
He says "we" not "I"
For him, you are a single whole and he cannot imagine his future without you. He doesn't make important decisions without consulting you because he knows that marriage involves working together.
They say that all men, regardless of age, appearance and personal preferences, regularly walk to the left. This is their nature, and nothing can be done about it. To be fair, it should be noted that some males really cannot miss a single girl. It is they who benefit from rumors about the irresistible force of male polygamy. Well, a normal man is quite capable of remaining faithful to his beloved even in provocative situations. At the same time, his behavior will not be considered a feat. To determine whether you have come across such a treasure, check your partner for compliance with the following criteria:
1. A man does not make his attraction the center of your communication.
. Much more interesting topics and incentives for interaction constantly circulate in the head of a normal man. Well, if all a lover can talk about is “the same thing,” then in the absence of his beloved, he most likely continues his passionate communication with someone else.
2. Age
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partner is not significantly different from yours
. When a man is looking for a woman to spend the rest of his life with, he chooses someone his own age. Five years is the limit, the achievement of which does not prevent lovers from having common interests and similar life experiences. A large difference in age in either direction may indicate mercantile interest or the perception of a partner as a status accessory.
3. He takes care of his appearance, but in moderation
. Men are required to dress neatly, cleanly and in a consistent style. All additional tricks most likely have nothing to do with the social code. A girl can wear makeup and style her hair because that’s what she needs for work and that’s what everyone around her does. A preening man is usually planning to seduce someone.
4. He is a reliable person
who always tries to keep his promises. Responsibility, openness, honesty: these qualities characterize a man for whom remaining faithful will not be a burdensome task. A decent person is decent in everything. Well, if a lover often lies about small things, then he can lie about more important issues.
5. He prefers to buy quality things
and keep them in good condition. Human psychology works simply, no matter how much psychologists try to complicate it. A man who takes care of his things understands that connections are worth a lot. The one who rushes after every new product behaves the same way in his personal life.
6. He values his family
. Even the youngest relationships are already the possibility of a future family unit. Anyone who understands the value of family relationships will not risk existing relationships for the sake of a casual affair.
7. He doesn't need to be the center of attention all the time.
. The people who run the biggest parties usually don't have stable relationships. Why, if the whole world is already at their feet? Noisy gatherings give a false sense of success. Constant communication with new people, casual relationships as a way of socialization... A man focused on strong relationships will not strive for this.
8. He likes to do things with you
. Nothing reveals relationships like teamwork. If a man trusts you in business matters, then he will not risk betraying this trust by ending up in bed with another woman.
9. He has a clear life plan
. Uncontrolled connections are the lot of those who live one day at a time. Lovelaces who plan to seduce victims by consulting diagrams in organizers are found only in American sitcoms. In reality, a man’s organizer will most likely contain business contacts and addresses of stores with household appliances for a new family.
10. You live according to one regime
. If your periods of activity occur at the opposite time of day, then it will be difficult to satisfy your natural passion. In this case, a man may start looking for someone on the side, prudently “forgetting” to notify his significant other about this.
Although public opinion believes otherwise, there are many more faithful men than it seems. Do not trust outright womanizers, focus on balance and stability. This will help you find a person to whom you can give your love without fear.
We are looking for a faithful man
Finding a faithful and devoted life partner who will not only walk, but even look to the left - this is what each of us dreams of. However, hearing every now and then that all men are polygamous by nature, you sadly begin to understand that your dream comes from the realm of fantasy.Of course, we won’t sin, there are exceptions, but this is such a rarity. Just like in that song, “there are few princes, and there aren’t enough for them all”... How to find a faithful man? The magazine for girls Krasulya gives advice - krasulya.ru.
By the way, psychologists, in tandem with sexologists, claim that among the representatives of the stronger half of humanity it is possible to identify a potential faithful man. This is what you and I will do now.
To begin with, however, as always, let’s pay attention to how it looks. It turns out that even by a man’s appearance one can determine his predisposition to cheating. For example, let’s take a well-fed and puny applicant. According to statistics, overweight men are three times less likely to walk to the left than their thin brothers. It's all about the level of testosterone, which is several times lower in fat people, which is why they are not driven with frantic force into all serious things.
Let's move on to the distinctive features. Take a closer look at the moles, it’s not for nothing that they show off on the body. A pretty girl with a mole on her cheek is a seductive object. He is cheerful, sociable, gallant: he will make you laugh, support the conversation, and will not skimp on gifts. But, unfortunately, not only for you alone. Alluring spots on the face are a clear sign of a womanizer. Well, nature did its best, it noted for us. We are looking for an applicant with moles on the hands, in the wrist area. This one, nature tells us, will be a thrifty family man, a faithful and reliable life partner.
Now let's listen to the chosen one. No, you don’t need to listen to his fairy tales - he can say anything. But the man’s voice will reveal to us the secret of fidelity. Know that male sex hormones affect the timbre of the voice. Accordingly, the more there are, the lower the voice. But you and I have already found out that high testosterone levels will constantly lead a man astray. Therefore, it is best to opt for a man with a high-pitched voice - this is what sexologists advise.
Let's get to know each other better. Who does he work for? Profession and occupation leaves a fairly significant imprint on the character, habits and behavior of a man, including his susceptibility to infidelity. So, you are unlikely to be able to find the chosen one of your dreams among athletes, dancers, massage therapists, cooks, bartenders, taxi drivers and representatives of other professions, where a lot of temptations open up and obvious opportunities for flirting and affairs are provided.
Here we also include gentlemen of creative professions, and creative people in general. Musicians, artists, writers are people who are constantly in search of their muse. Such a companion, by its nature, will not be able to live in a quiet family haven. He is constantly in search of new types, fresh impressions; a change in surroundings and emotional atmosphere is vital for him.
But representatives of mental work, as psychologists say, are extremely faithful partners. Accountants, programmers, engineers, mathematicians - that's exactly what we need. And this also includes doctors, unless he is a dentist or a therapist, with such a person you practically won’t have to worry about cheating.
It's time to check your chosen one's IQ. Experts unanimously say that smart men are less prone to infidelity. This fact once again confirms that betrayal is complete stupidity, which is the prerogative of the stupid. And a high level of IQ, in turn, simply suppresses the hunting instinct in a person, which guarantees loyalty. Moreover, an intelligent person will always find something to show off, a way to prove himself. And the stupid womanizer can only assert himself through love affairs.
Be sure to pay attention to his lifestyle. A gentleman who scrupulously cares about his appearance, zealously monitors his health and is very picky in his social circle is very suitable for the role of the desired candidate. He is too careful to commit rash acts and is not ready for risky adventures. Such a person will think a thousand times before turning left, especially without a certificate of health from the “left” object - his own health and safety are more important.
And here's another thing. Where does he live? The housing issue is undoubtedly important, but that’s not what we’re talking about now. Studies have shown that the male population in small towns is more prone to cheating than residents of megacities. Here the law of the relationship between desires and possibilities comes into play, akin to when “there is no opportunity - there is a desire, there is an opportunity - there is no desire.” Those. A resident of a big city has more opportunities for love affairs, which on a subconscious level dulls the desire to take advantage of them. From a lack, the opposite process is observed.
Plus, life in a big city takes up too much effort and time, so there simply aren’t enough men to spend time on the left. Constant bustle, running around from morning to night, colossal workload - where is there any sexual exploits, at least not to lose face in the marital bed.
But the most win-win and reliable option for a faithful man is a man in love. For him, overflowing with passion and reverent feelings, there are certainly no other women on earth except the lady of his heart. And it doesn’t matter at all who he works for and where he lives, the level of his intelligence and the timbre of his voice are unimportant - he is in love, which means he is devoted to both soul and body.
So, instead of trying to find a clean, plump mathematician with a falsetto from the world of fantasy in the capital's research institutes, do everything possible to ensure that your real gentleman invariably falls in love with you day after day. And then you can breathe a sigh of relief: there are few princes, but your faithful and devoted one has been found!
Churakova Olga (Ljuljak) especially for Krasulya magazine - krasulya.ru.
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A faithful husband as the basis of a strong marriage: 5 signs that you got just such a husband
The question of whether a husband remains faithful to his wife is controversial. The statistics are disappointing: 70% of men have had extramarital affairs at least once. And yet, everyone has an individual concept of the family and their responsibilities. Maybe dry statistics are not so accurate? We will discuss these points in the article.
A faithful husband: 5 signs
Any wife dreams of having a decent, faithful husband who does not cheat and sees in his wife the woman with whom he is ready to live his whole life. Since women are observant, they are always calm when they see that:
- The husband never looks at his friends or acquaintances.
- He does not “hang out” on social networks, hiding his correspondence.
- There are no numbers of “leftist” women in his phone.
- There are no lies in his words. He sincerely talks about communicating with the opposite sex at work, on business trips, etc.;
- The husband is selfless, a true friend. Everything that worries his wife worries him too. He supports his wife in every possible way, never shying away from a conversation or discussion of issues. Not only is it easy to communicate with him, you can rely on him, knowing that your spouse will not let you down, if he said it, he did it;
- The husband does not hide his income level. Moreover, he trusts his wife to completely manage the family budget;
- Your chosen one is absolutely satisfied with intimate relationships. The fact that the husband is not cheating is visible even to outsiders. He always takes care of his wife, dreams of having children in the family, and when they exist, he loves them;
- If the conversation turns to family, he does not say “I”, he always says “we”.
He trusts you
Personal relationships are built on trust. In principle, there cannot be a strong family without him. A faithful husband is completely open and trusts his wife. He understands that mistrust is a step towards divorce. He never listens to the “well-meaning” gossip of random people or the advice of acquaintances. He is not jealous of those who “like” his wife’s photos and write comments. The husband simply trusts her, just as she trusts him, seeing in his wife a devoted, loving life partner.
In his company it is customary to be faithful
When a man is loyal to his family, he tries to be friends with those who share his views. Loyalty to your wife begins with the ability to keep your word everywhere. A person is simply true to his convictions, his principles. He tries never to be late for a meeting with friends, because being late for no reason is infidelity. Lies are always the companion of infidelity. A man who does not respect deceitful people will not communicate with those who openly deceive friends, relatives and wives. All betrayals begin with deception. If a spouse tends to hide something, this will gradually turn into betrayal. He knows the principle of “whoever you get along with…”, he is honest and open, his friends are the same.
He tells you about his life
A husband's fidelity is reinforced by his deeds. He always shares his thoughts about his work and talks about everything that happens there. When he is in trouble, the first person to know is his wife. My husband always tries to share his achievements and his past. He does not hide the relationships with women that took place in his life before meeting his wife. And that's okay. Who else but she should know everything, because the husband remains faithful to his wife, and this is the main thing.
He is selfless
Loyal, reliable and selfless - when a woman speaks like this about her husband, it means the family is strong. In such a family, both persons involved communicate on a disinterested basis. This means that the husband understands that the more he gives without demanding anything in return, the deeper the relationship in the family will be. This, in turn, will fill him with new energy. A spouse, like any person, is happier when he gives than when he takes. He understands that he has a special purpose, which means that such a family will be stable and prosperous.
He's passionate
Each family member, in addition to the common one, should have his own individual, personal hobby. A normal situation would be when a man is interested in fishing or hunting. But, if the husband goes fishing or hunting, and the wife is cleaning at home, this is not correct. A faithful husband will first take care of helping his wife, and then begin to enjoy his favorite pastime, his hobby.
