Femininity
Men prefer feminine girls. They allow the stronger sex to become truly strong.
To achieve the favorable gaze of the chosen one, to prevent her desires, to protect her, feeling his strength and power next to her - all this awakens in men the desires and instincts inherent in nature.
However, it is important to remember that feigned helplessness, on the contrary, drives men crazy. Therefore, it is not enough to ask to open the door for you. You have to believe that a woman will not grab the doorknob if a man is nearby. She will freeze in front of the door, and if the man does not think to open it (thanks to feminism!), then with her eyes she will express slight bewilderment: they say, who, if not you?
Confidence in your own irresistibility
If a woman is sure that she is amazing, then the whole world agrees with her. This is why men are often more attracted to women with an ordinary appearance, but confident in themselves, than beauties who are focused on their shortcomings. And everyone has shortcomings - but is it worth letting others know?
A self-sufficient woman will never talk bad about herself. Men dream of just such women, exuding confidence and sexuality.
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Men and women's views on sexual attractiveness differ significantly. Women believe that representatives of the stronger sex fall for external characteristics. Men think differently.
Men would be much bolder if they knew what was on women's minds, and women would be much more flirtatious if they knew men better. Alphonse Carr
Some women worry about their appearance - their eyes are small, their nose is not Greek, their hair is sparse, and in general their face is ordinary. But what makes a woman beautiful is not her facial features, but her expression. A woman whose eyes shine with joy and whose face radiates with kindness is beautiful, no matter what her nose, the color and shape of her eyes, or the thickness of her hair. A dull, sad, angry or arrogant facial expression, even if its owner is a beautiful woman, will scare off any man.
As a special survey conducted by the All-Russian Center for the Study of Public Opinion showed, the ideal woman “for every taste” does not exist for men. It turned out that the requirements of men of different ages are different.
Young people (under 25 years of age) value intelligence (!) most in a woman - 55% of those surveyed were such men, sexuality was in second place - 44% (and many young girls believe that sexuality comes first for men...) and only in third place is beauty - 42%.
Older men (from 25 to 40 years old) also put the female mind (!!) in first place - 47% of respondents, caring in second place - 41% (apparently, with age, men become more selfish) and tenderness in third place - 38 %.
And those who are over 45 years old seem to become even greater egoists, and they are not at all interested in female beauty. The first place among attractive female traits in their ranking is caring (apparently, this means caring about their precious person) - 65% (!!!), and the second place is intelligence - 40%.
Judging by the results of this survey, it is quite legitimate to paraphrase the proverb “Don’t be born beautiful, but be born happy” into “Don’t be born beautiful, but become smart” - and then the fiery love of the stronger sex is guaranteed. Or maybe our men are being a little disingenuous? They want to seem better than they are, and they flatter themselves a little - they say, I myself am extremely smart and you must certainly give me a smart girl, otherwise with whom will I have smart conversations! Why then do men shy away from smart women? They say that they value women’s intelligence most highly, but they themselves...
It’s funny that in private advertisements, most men of Balzac’s age (meaning the age of Honore de Balzac himself during the period of his highest creative activity) write that they would like to meet “an attractive blonde (or brunette, brown-haired woman - tastes differ here) with the aim of starting a family... “, and certainly the future life partner must be 15-20 years younger than the one who is most eager to make her happy. And for some reason future candidates for the role of husband do not write about the great female mind... Paradox! The question is, what does the attractiveness of the future wife and her youth matter if a man is looking for a “serious relationship”? Or does a woman’s appearance affect her spiritual qualities? And also on her caring and culinary abilities?
Every man deserves his woman. And vice versa.
A certain positive conclusion can be drawn from the results of this survey: a woman should be so smart that a man believes that she is smart. And the worldly intelligence of the fair sex is higher than that of the so-called strong!
Why don’t we deceive men, dear women? It's very simple! They don’t read smart books, they don’t know about all these new developments of psychologists, but women are aware of everything, because they are invariably driven by a keen interest.
Once you study the weaknesses and strengths of men, seducing them will not be difficult.
French sociologists, in the course of surveys in several European countries, have established a type of superwoman that is significantly different from the one preferred by Russian men. Europeans put appearance first. This is how they imagine a superwoman: tall and slender, with long hair, graceful arms, a flat stomach (the man’s own stomach, of course, does not count), a round butt, rounded hips and a thin waist. And she should also have almond-shaped eyes with curled eyelashes and an upturned, maddening (!) nose. What are foreigners like? For them, a nose is more important than a woman’s soul!
But that is not all. To be considered the crown of creation, a superwoman of the European standard must be tactful, not aggressive in sex (apparently, Europeans also have complexes, although we traditionally consider them sexually literate) and never defame a former lover (this requirement, apparently, is the result of male solidarity or fears: “If she speaks badly about her ex, then someday she’ll make fun of me too”).
The attitude of Europeans towards the female mind was most likely affected by the excessive enthusiasm of foreign women for the ideas of feminism. A stupid woman is repulsive, but a smart woman should not be too intellectual (!) if she wants to be attractive.
Either foreigners are more honest in their answers than Russians, or our men are more spiritual... Still, they value more the spiritual qualities of a woman (for example, tenderness). Or are our fellow citizens more selfish? Let us remember how many men over 25 years of age put the notorious care first - of course, they do not mean a woman’s concern for her own health.
Women's irrepressible passion for dieting and losing weight, especially talking about it, has an irritating and even terrifying effect on men.
Any woman knows that we talk much more about how it wouldn’t be harmful to lose weight than we do on a diet, and if we decide to fast again, then this is a difficult test not only for the woman, but also for her life partner. I know it from myself. I've been on these damn diets a hundred times - almost no use, but I've frayed so many nerves! And my husband too. By the way, at the moment I’m just on another diet (I eat bran and sprouted wheat, damn them!), which does not at all add to my love for humanity. My husband has already lost his mind, looking for low-calorie food for me - after all, it is almost impossible to combine its edibility with low-calorie content. The success is insignificant - in three weeks I lost only three kilograms, but there is so much talk! I feel almost like a martyr. But I train my will (to be honest, from the perspective of psychiatry, in such forced weight loss one can see an element of masochism). My husband treats my heroic efforts with stoic calm and listens to my lamentations with a condescending grin - over the many years of our marriage he has already become accustomed to it, and this does not irritate him. In general, he is an extremely balanced person. The same cannot be said about other men.
So, take into account other people’s negative experiences, dear ladies, and the opinion of most men regarding our passion for diets. Not a word about losing weight! Either lose weight in silence, or don’t lose weight at all. The latter, by the way, is preferable. It’s easier to love yourself as you are, guided by the motto: “There should be a lot of beloved women.” I’m losing weight for pragmatic reasons - I no longer fit into my favorite suits, so I decided that losing weight is cheaper than changing my wardrobe.
Men believe that a woman should be well-groomed and at the same time not spend too much time in the bathroom (apparently, they themselves are vying for this place in the apartment or are they just jealous?).
In their opinion, a woman should be flexible in communication and be able to adapt easily (by the way, men are absolutely loyal to themselves; apparently, they believe that it is the woman who should adapt, and they themselves can be straightforward).
Genuine horror is brought to the representatives of the stronger sex by women who are nervous, restless, frantic, and make a tragedy out of everything (men are very protective of their peace of mind, so they categorically avoid communicating with such women).
Men are no less horrified by women who bite their nails. So it is better to gnaw them only in private, but not in the presence of men. This is, of course, a joke. In fact, the background to this habit is neurotic disorders, so in such cases the help of a psychiatrist is desirable.
Americans, rational people, are accustomed to believing advertising and what they see on advertising posters and on magazine covers. Without further ado, they decided not to strain their brains unnecessarily and preferred to model the portrait of a perfect woman like a mosaic. This process is reminiscent of creating an identikit or what N.V. wrote. Gogol in “Marriage”: “If only Nikanor Ivanovich’s lips could be placed on Ivan Kuzmich’s nose...”. For a portrait of an ideal woman, Americans collected body parts of recognized beauties. The result is this: the violet eyes of Elizabeth Taylor, the chiseled nose of Sharon Stone (the sexy heroine of Basic Instinct must be offended that it’s just a nose!), the plump, sensual lips of Kim Bassinger, the luxurious forms of Cindy Crawford and the legs of Claudia Schiffer. That's all. Venus of the 20th century is ready! The funny thing is that the sculptors did not undertake to predict the character of the ideal woman. Not surprising. It would be absurd to provide this super beauty with such qualities as kindness, responsiveness and caring, as well as love for children, cooking and order in the house.
There are men who become excited at the sight of those “virtues” that nature has awarded a woman. Moreover, some prefer women with beautiful or simply large breasts, others with an elastic, round butt, and others with long legs. Such men are jokingly divided into “breastists”, “assists” and “knifeists”. Or they are called partialists.
One of my patients, a lean and almost flat lady, complained about her husband. As soon as he saw a woman with a magnificent bust in a company or even on the street, and the larger the size, the better, he would lose his head. He uncontrollably rushed towards the owner of these charms, forgetting about his wife and the upcoming family scandal, which she arranged for him with invariable constancy. The wife was jealous, quick-tempered and did not mince words, reprimanding her husband who had erred.
When visiting, everything ended approximately the same way - an angry woman pulled her husband away by the collar, who was stunned by the busty lady - words had no effect on him. To “bring this idiot to his senses,” she literally “dipped his face into the salad,” while holding him by the hair. Raising his face from the dish with the ingredients stuck to it, the man looked so funny and ridiculous, felt so humiliated that he immediately forgot about the object of his passion. Then he embarrassedly made excuses; his acquaintances naturally laughed at him. And yet, the next time everything was repeated again.
If a husband on the street or in any public place “made a stand” on his “favorite object,” the wife would clutch some part of his body with a death grip, without much ceremony, and only her pressure or painful shock would return him to reality.
All her life, the wife struggled with her husband’s painful addiction to someone else’s magnificent bust. Moreover, all other qualities of a woman did not matter to him. She could be short, with a gnarled figure, an ugly face, bad teeth and other flaws, but if her breast size exceeded number 3-4, the man lost his head.
His wife even thought about getting a silicone bust, but with common sense and my advice, she abandoned this intention - a bust of her own wife, even a size 5, would hardly have attracted her husband as much as the charms of another woman.
In all other respects, he was a completely decent man, the father of two adult daughters.
If, having certain preferences, a man does not ignore other representatives of the fair sex, then this is normal.
But if a man’s sexual satisfaction is associated only with the owners of his chosen “dignity,” then this can already be called fetishism. Fetishism is the cult of a fetish - a certain object or part of the body - and obtaining sexual satisfaction only in the presence of this fetish. This is considered sexual perversion.
Mild fetishism is inherent in many men, but this is not a pathology. They simply go crazy at the sight of women with certain external characteristics, but not only such a woman can become a life partner. With other women, a normal man also does well in bed (unlike fetishists, who can only be aroused by a woman with, for example, luxurious breasts, long hair or a small leg), but for those who are attractive, from the point of view men, traits, he harbors mental weakness.
Of course, men pay attention not only to appearance. Film actor Alexander Abdulov best expressed the male point of view: “Sex appeal exists at the level of smell, touch, subconscious. You touch one woman, and you start to shake, and there seems to be nothing special about her, and the other is just perfect, a cool fashion model, but you are not attracted to her.”
Most men remained conservative in their tastes and preferences. The stronger a woman’s feminine side, the more charm, charm and femininity, the more attractive she is, in their opinion. A woman should be a Woman with a capital W - this is what many of our contemporaries think.
Unfortunately, supporters of women's emancipation often exaggerate the importance of their independence. Nowadays there are few independent, self-confident and even self-confident women; their character has more masculine traits than feminine ones. They are successful in business, earn good money, and lead large teams. They are beautiful and smart. Businesslike and enterprising. Elegant and stylish. Survey a thousand men and find out that they would prefer such women as a business partner, but not as a sexual partner. And they still like feminine and charming representatives of the fair sex.
When men talk about a woman whom they would like to have as a constant life partner, and not just in bed, they put forward a mandatory condition - that she be kind; They never forget to mention this, but legs, figure, eyes, etc. are no longer so important. I have never heard a man say that he would like his chosen one to be evil. There is no worse flaw for a woman than anger.
One of my colleagues, a famous psychiatrist, made the following conclusion: “Women who are hysterical are terrible. But every woman should “play around” a little, then a man will be interested in her.” And I completely agree with him. Any woman who is interesting from the point of view of men has some hysterical traits. They include: emotionality and expressiveness of emotions, the desire and ability to please and attract the attention of a man, imaginativeness and relaxed thinking (which does not exclude fantasy), ease and richness of associations, the ability to feel the audience (even if it consists of only one man) and the audience’s attitude towards yourself, coquetry, the ability to charm anyone, be it a man or a woman, and much more. That is, these are precisely the features that are so attractive to men.
Why does a man fall in love with a seemingly ordinary woman, be happy with her in a long-term marriage, “blow away specks of dust from her,” and he doesn’t even need a perfectly beautiful woman or a sex bomb?! Yes, because their chosen ones have a special biofield, which not everyone is able to feel. When a spark “strikes” between two people, when a person physically cannot live without the other, we can assume that he has found his “half.”
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