6 phrases that men say to girls that mean something to them

How to understand that a man loves you? Who is and how should a real loving man behave? The article provides three simple rules of male behavior that will help answer such important questions in the life of every woman or girl.

Rule 1. A man delineates boundaries and demonstrates “his”

A loving man is able to create a kind of invisible “magnetic field” around you, which repels other contenders for your attention, for your hand and heart, and even more so for other parts of the body. For us, such applicants are border violators. Our border!

To prevent these intruders from getting too close to the woman, the man demonstrates that this “territory” is already reserved for him. That this is “my girl”, “my Natalie”, etc. He will not only call you his, but also hug you in public for the same purpose or possessively take away all the bags that fit anything heavier than a purse and sunglasses. His message to those around him is this: let everyone see, she’s mine, don’t come near me! Behind this lies the same meaning as behind the road sign, popularly called “brick”. But his actions must be combined with words about “belonging” to him, otherwise hugs in the middle of the subway may simply mean nothing when a week later you or he are hugging someone else.

Listen to how we introduce you at a friendly party, in our get-together, to your mother, and finally, if by chance or not, it has come to this... As a rule, a woman is for a man exactly what he called her when introducing her to his surroundings.

In addition, those around him easily notice his gestures, signs of attention, casual phrases addressed to her. How he looks at her, how he talks to her, whether he helps her fit into the new environment. All this shows how this girl fits into his plans for the future. If you yourself feel that after six months of meetings you are not closer to him socially, then something is wrong. You don’t know his friends, relatives, you haven’t been to a single birthday or just a party, you haven’t relaxed together on a free day, in a conversation with work colleagues he simply calls you “Mary”... It’s worth confronting him - but above all, before ourselves - some questions. What's next, what are the prospects for the development of your relationship, where is your place in it, is there an alternative?

If you have been dating a man for three months and during this time you have not met his friends, at least partially his relatives, you have never been together on a weekend, you have not gone on nature trips or birthday parties, you have not gone to any interesting places , be it a museum, cinema or Christmas market, art exhibition or sporting event, if acquaintances or work colleagues only know you by name, then it is obvious that he does not see you in his future. And it’s the other way around, if you visited places that are significant to him and he assigned you some kind of “title” in front of people that are significant to him - well, at least he said “my girlfriend.”

Rule 2. A man helps financially

If you reciprocate his intentions about a future together, the guy begins to demonstrate the seriousness of these intentions - to work to ensure this very future. You are always interested in descending from heaven to earth on time and bringing down a man who claims rights to you. You women are often practical, unlike us men, and ask us questions in response to the intention to start living together: where, on what and how will we actually live? It often happens that you come across an empty-headed dreamer who is not yet ripe for family life, or simply a chatterbox who promises a lot, but has no idea how to realize his and your dreams in practice. Perhaps you, too, are hovering in such romantic clouds that love keeps you from escaping, and the hope of correcting, teaching, re-educating a dreamer or talker is the last to die and overshadows the eternal female instinct of stability. But know: a man who truly loves you will himself, without reminders, drag everything into the house, into the family.

A man's goal is to be sure that his woman and his children have everything they need: housing, food, clothing, the opportunity to study, funds for entertainment and the most comfortable life possible. Confidence in this gives each of us peace of mind. If a man feels that he cannot properly provide for his loved ones, this makes him insecure and restless. The feeling of our own powerlessness in any matter, when it is impossible to feel like a real breadwinner for our relatives, turns us into notorious neurasthenics.

These are the centuries-old traditions of society: the man is the breadwinner, the woman is the keeper of the hearth. Despite technological progress and the emancipation of women, this remains in men, and nothing has actually changed for us. If his woman suddenly starts earning more than himself, he may be happy for her, but something in him protests.

When a man is forced to accept his secondary role as a breadwinner, male pride suffers. Some men begin to feel like their wife’s big children if they have to rely on her money, plus her connections, talents and organization. By the way, this is where many men’s bad habits stem from. A man feels complete only when he can provide (and not only financially) for his loved ones.

Look at how your man behaves. Does he pay for electricity, water and gas, children’s education, buy and bring food? Does he remember to save money for the next renovation and a joint trip to the sea in the summer? Does he spend money on all sorts of nonsense and does he allow you to spend it on himself? Does he strive to earn more or does he expect this desire from you? If you constantly have to beg him for money, not for what he considers whims and excesses, but for the most necessary things, then it is unlikely that this person really loves you. A loving man will understand the needs of his woman, especially the paramount ones. You don’t forget to express your joy, admiration, and approval to him every time, do you? But each of your praise is extremely important for him as a breadwinner. She warms his male pride - if, of course, he is a real man. In this case, his own needs will fade into the background for him, and the needs of the family will always be in the foreground. If you see that this is not the case and that the situation is not going to improve, my advice to you is to pick up your stuff and run as far as possible from such a potential life partner!

It can be difficult for a modern woman to accept the idea that it is extremely important for a man to provide a woman with the necessary benefits. Men like it when women depend at least a little on men, when men earn, organize, get, find, bring, throw at their feet... Honestly, this feeling of one’s own strength and ability to solve all issues is damn nice for men! But the world has now turned upside down, and women no longer rely on men. If she experiences any difficulties, she will no longer say: “Maybe I should get married?”, but will say: “Maybe I should change jobs?” She herself will grab a ton of products from the store and hammer in the nails herself. Bravo, miss, this is worthy of respect! But she is unlikely to think about the simple idea that her actions may cause an internal protest among the majority of members of the opposite sex.

It is clear that, taught by the bitter experience of their own or other people’s mothers, who experienced tragic divorces and were left without money, and grandmothers who saw years of war, when it was impossible to rely on men, women of the new generation will never count on a man for key things. This is probably correct, because, let’s face it, there is logic in this. This triggers, if you like, your instinct of self-preservation (and procreation, what can I say).

But! All the same, admit the thought that the time will come when you won’t have to drag all this cart yourself. Most of the load from this cart will be taken by someone and put on his cart, and it will not be a friend, mother, kind aunt or someone else like that, but a man. Real and loving to you.

If a man does not make sure that you have shelter, food, everything you need, so that you are, if not in heaven, then at least relatively happy with everything, then do not forget that he will probably someday do all this for some some other woman. This behavior is simply dictated by a man’s nature.

It is clear that not all of us can provide you at the proper level - the way we ideally imagine it ourselves. Some lack knowledge, skills, diplomas, some character traits, some other resources... But there is another category of men - a man who evades. These are gigolos or egoists, and sometimes they are simply not fulfilled as individuals and therefore are not yet quite men. However, we must also admit that there are also simply stupid men who do not understand the significance of their male role. (It is in this case that the riddle is most easily resolved: you have nothing to expect from life with a stupid person.)

So, let’s leave those who are stupid, selfish and who have not matured spiritually enough to become breadwinners. Now let's deal with the rest.

Our attempts to provide for you sometimes fail. If we can't do it the way we think we should, it ultimately leads to a terrible feeling of inadequacy. As we have already mentioned, many bad habits grow from this feeling, the most common of which are drinking, drugs and gambling in casinos. But that’s not all: a sense of inferiority gives rise to crimes, the most “harmless” of which is petty theft. And sometimes things get serious. What happens? He committed to love and provide - instead he became an alcoholic. He undertook to groom and cherish - instead he went to prison. Yes, the picture is not so rare, right? But there is a third possibility of such a collapse of male usefulness: he took up the tug and, feeling that he was not strong, ran away. He took it and made his legs... How many women raise children alone? How many of these children do not see enough food, clothing, books?

Is it that the war has swept through and killed the men, or what? Maybe the devastation in the world after a global catastrophe? No, no, thank God! And God forbid, as they say. The picture is exactly this: men, or rather, part of them, cannot withstand what is traditionally imposed on them by society. And at the same time they experience their inadequacy. This, alas, is true!

We are not talking now about those who consciously, by their own choice, do not want to share their goods with other people, even with loved ones (“loved ones”, I think, does not apply here). A selfish person is most likely not ready for normal outside relationships. I’m not ready yet, and maybe not for life. He is always ready to take, take, take, without giving anything in return. But even in nature there is a cycle of water, energy and substances in living organisms. Relationships are also a kind of system and organism; without the exchange of energies, it dies.

These are men - egoists who came up with the term “extortionist”, not wanting or not having enough wealth to treat a lady to coffee, invite her to a movie or a restaurant. Perhaps the feminist movement played a significant role in this ideology of the new generation - every man for himself. They also welcome this “separate nutrition”.

Let’s not deny that there are also a lot of women who start relationships and enter into arranged marriages. At least they exist and have been at all times. But some men are ready to accuse every woman they meet of extortion! Well, the goal of twirling women and saving your money on a woman is clear. But a woman has every right to expect from a man material compensation for the time spent on him: payment for tickets, trips, movies, gifts, in the end. It is important for a man to feel that you need him. If this is not important to him, this is either not your man, or not a man in the full sense of the word. Be careful with this one!

The easiest way to show that you need us is to give us the opportunity to provide you with something you need. This is exactly how a real man will feel. The fake one will run away or evade. Here's your indicator.

If a man loves you, he will not spend money in an unknown place, and then complain that there is none because he doesn’t get enough. Love presupposes responsibility “for those who have been tamed.” Men love to feel responsible, smart, strong! Don't believe me? But this is true!

He won't burden you with men's problems. If your car breaks down, you don’t have to fix it yourself, and even if he is not a born auto mechanic, and there is no money to pay an auto mechanic, what do you think he needs friends for? Do you need to fix a faucet and he is not a plumber? He will find a way to do it! Have you decided to paint the fence around your house an unimaginable color? Since we are delighted with this, he will ask for a second brush, or even completely remove you from participating in the process, sending you to prepare something to chew. And if you need to thin paint or, God forbid, knock out one picket fence, you don’t have to run around the whole block looking for a hammer, because you had one lying around in the garage somewhere, but you don’t remember where, and you only remember what the hammer is for looks like the letter "T". He will solve such a trivial problem, rest assured!

Rule 3. A man protects you

There are situations when you can immediately draw “conclusions” about whether they love you or not: situations of threat.

It is not necessary that someone will threaten you directly. This could be verbal abuse, an attempt to drag you into something bad, simple pestering, ridicule, or someone's stupid joke. But for a loving man, each of these and similar situations are types of threat against you. He will react accordingly to this.

In the male understanding, no one should encroach on their woman and everything connected with her. Otherwise, the male reaction is one - defense. And if necessary, punish the offender. In other words, touch it and you will pay, villain!

Even in early childhood, boys are known to be more attached to their mother than girls. Later, this affection develops into a desire to always defend her if anyone tries to speak ill of her. We can say that the role of a protector in men is inherent in nature itself. Those we love are “ours” for men, which means we are fully responsible for this “ours”. There are women who call this possessiveness of men. We cannot say that they are wrong: yes, men are indeed owners to one degree or another. But men will always protect their property. If you want freedom, and you don’t want to be property in any way, in any form - free will, but... it’s a pity. After all, from now on you will have to defend yourself. There will be no one to say when they hear that you have taken a defensive position on the phone: “Who is this? Come on, give it to me!” — although this may just be your boss calling to give you some guidance that will make your world start to speed up. And you won’t give up the phone so that they don’t break your world’s neck. He can scold the child for not helping his mother around the house, but he will do this not because he does not feel sorry for your sixth-grader - he feels sorry for you! He longs for your release!

Protecting your woman, family, children, property is higher than the ability to provide for you; this is no longer food for pride, but an indicator of respect. And self-respect, which is important. No, there are, of course, men who are indifferent to this, whose pride and self-respect are silent, but such people are especially not respected and loved not only by a woman, but also by no one else. This did not develop over years or dozens of years, but over centuries: a man has always been considered protection, hope and support. Have you ever noticed how your conversation usually happens with a man who loves you, for whom you belong?

If this is your uncle, your husband or a guy you are recently dating, or an old friend, you will subconsciously share with him either the problem of the current moment, or a question that is tormenting you. You can say that you are afraid of something or are afraid that drunk people accosted you at the bus stop yesterday, you can answer his question: “How are you?” blurt out something like: “Oh, the shelf in the bathroom collapsed!” - “Really?” - your uncle, dad, fiance or brother will smile. (You often surprise us with your spontaneity.) And right off the bat - you'll see! - will offer something. Who hung that shelf? When will you be home, when will I come see you? Are there any nails in the house? What about the hammer? If he doesn’t ask, then either he doesn’t really like or value you, or he suspects that you don’t know what a hammer is.

A man can protect you in different ways, sometimes somewhat outside the framework of generally accepted norms. Speaking without embellishment, he can punch someone in the face or give someone a good shake by the collar. Or at least threaten to do so. This formidable determination is often quite enough to make it clear to the offender that they are not joking with him.

But brutality and physical impact are not at all necessary. Much more important is the daily desire to protect your energy, time, mood, health and safety. He sprinkles sand on the paths in the courtyard of your country house, although he is tired after a long journey - he is not indifferent to the prospect of you falling and, God forbid, injury, and he strives to protect you from this. Does he take everything heavy from your hands, walk through a dark neighborhood to the store himself, and at the first opportunity drop you off at work in his car, if you don’t have a car, a license, or the desire to get up early and take the bus? You see, all this is not without reason...

Nowadays, women often sigh and complain that there are no real men left. Every now and then we listen to stories with the conclusion that “without us these men are completely incapable of anything.” The truth is that men have a strong internal reason for not doing things that bring them closer to the standard of being a “real man.” This reason is that women do not require effort in this direction. And no one demands.

The main thing is to understand that men are completely different creatures than WOMEN, and therefore men’s love is not the same as women’s. For the “stronger” sex, love is divided into three components: I declare it, I provide it, and I protect it.

You won't be able to chat with men about new makeup trends. Men will not go with you to choose new shoes and a stunning blouse. But they will happily take you to a social party in this very makeup and in these very shoes that appeared without them, in order to be next to you when everyone, admiring you, will begin to envy them. A real man will not cross-stitch with you, but he will provide you with enough threads and needles and everything you need.

A man claims you, provides for you, and protects you when he loves you. If he doesn't do this, but you act as if his behavior suits you, then it won't last as long as you would like. After all, it is unknown whether a man will remember how a real man should act. He can remember this, but with another woman.

Ladies pay special attention to how their loved one affectionately calls them. Some men prefer the classic “sweetie” or “dear”, others try to be more original by using the names of animals or sweets. A word used incorrectly towards a woman can forever close the path to her heart. Psychologists have long discovered the fact that a man’s attitude can be recognized by the nickname he chose for his lady.

Love nicknames

Many men prefer to use familiar affectionate words. And they are more pleasant for women because they do not cause ambiguous associations.

Darling

This is what self-confident Don Juans call lovely representatives of the fair sex. This is an assertive heart conqueror who will stop at nothing to achieve his goal. He prefers to play, either attracting a woman or pushing her away, as if there was nothing between them.

“Beloved” is called a cunning man, capable of thinking through his actions and the actions of a woman several steps ahead. He can really truly fall in love with his chosen one and experience sincere feelings. But, realizing that the woman needs him, he will most likely leave.

Behavior in relationships

Expensive

Boring in everything and everywhere - this is how you can describe a guy who calls his significant other “darling.” Routine life awaits a woman who chooses such a person. It wouldn’t even occur to him to add something new to their life together. Very often he turns out to be boring not only at home, but also in bed. You shouldn’t expect any innovations or diversity from such a person. Very often he puts a taboo on everything that a woman offers.

About kisses

A guy kisses a girl on the lips and other places - what does this mean?

Darling

The partner’s feelings are so great that he is unable to express them in words. A man is ready to take care of his chosen one for days on end, delighting her with all kinds of gifts.

My love

Men who call their chosen one this way are very easy and relaxed in communication. This is a wonderful boyfriend who puts the interests of the lady above his own. But such partners have a small disadvantage - they are usually very difficult to command. At the very first attempts to start “training” he will feel this and leave.

My soul

A guy who uses this nickname is a wonderful lifelong companion. He becomes attached to a woman very slowly. Such a person is in no hurry to immediately bare his soul. He chooses a measured path, when rapprochement occurs slowly and comfortably. He is also in no hurry to get physically close. Men of this type very often remain faithful to their partners to the end.

My girl

When a guy calls his chosen one “my girl” or “baby,” this only means one thing: he really experiences tenderness and tremulous feelings. The young man treats her like a child, trying in every possible way to protect her from the evil outside world.

Babe

Perhaps such a person likes specifics and does not want to complicate anything in a relationship. He expects the same from his woman. In a couple, he is used to always being the first, and does not tolerate it when a woman tries to take his place.

Durynda

This nickname, which is not entirely pleasant at first glance, says the opposite: a man is ready to forgive a woman for any mistake and take control of the situation.

Doll

“Doll” is what men who are only superficially interested in their ladies call their ladies. They like easy, non-committal relationships.

My little one or baby

They say those guys who are ready to take care of their girlfriend give all of themselves for this relationship. These are devoted men who can become a reliable wall for their lady.

Miracle

By calling a woman a “miracle,” a man is trying to attract her attention to himself and thus show the significance of this relationship for him.

Perhaps he's just using it?

Well, yes, it's quite possible. If you look globally, we all use each other. In most cases, of course, psychologists do not deny sincere altruism.

But! Agree, when someone “sacrifices himself,” doesn’t he expect some kind of reaction from the outside? Psychologists believe that this is pure manipulation, which implies obtaining one’s own benefit.

Think about it: aren’t you using it too?

Psychologists advise not to lie, at least to yourself. If the honest answer to yourself is positive, then don’t be surprised if the use turns out to be reciprocal. There is an opinion that people around us really are mirrors of ourselves, remember this.

If you are diligently searching the Internet for materials on how to understand whether your husband loves you or not, then:

or there really are some precedents;
or you’re just bored, so you decided to create a problem for yourself out of the blue.

The opinion of psychologists regarding the second option is clear: in this case, you must first of all take care of yourself and your development, and not try to look for a catch in your man’s behavior. So let's talk about the first one.

So how do you understand? If you really want to understand your man, there are approximate signs of his potentially mercantile behavior.

He only turns to you when he needs something.
He is not interested in your personal development, and he will demand that you sacrifice something of your own for his sake.
He doesn’t help you unless you ask him about it a hundred times and, in addition, promise something in return.
If you have any problems that really need to be solved, he doesn't have time.

"Zoo"

These are the most common variations of nicknames in the early stages of a romantic relationship. They are most often used by young couples, but sometimes persist into adulthood.

Bunny or hare

Very often, such men turn out to be insecure and withdrawn people. There is no need to expect dizzying surprises, warm confessions, or serenades under the window from him. He is incapable of serious actions. Because of their insecurity, such men often find themselves in ridiculous and shameful situations.

Martin

If a man says “swallow,” it means he is confident in the feelings of his other half. This relationship is serious for them.

Birdie

A cowardly man calls his lady “Bird”. He wants to show himself as an experienced gentleman who has had more than one woman, and then suddenly turns into a faithful companion. This happens not because of his high moral principles, but because of cowardice. At the slightest hint of a woman’s infidelity, he will want to take revenge on her. Although, with all its disadvantages, there is also a plus: such men are very good at lovemaking.

Sun

Cheerful and unpredictable representatives of the stronger sex call women “Sunshine”. “My sunshine,” a guy says when he experiences tender, sincere feelings for a girl. He wants to get to know her better, and deep down he hopes that she will become a good companion in the future.

Pussy, kitty and kitty

Men who call their women such nicknames do not pay attention to the little things in everyday life. These are very loving suitors. The intimate side of life is very important for them. You shouldn’t expect loud words with confessions or sincere feelings from him. Mutual satisfaction in bed is the only goal of such a relationship.

Toad

Such a man is very assertive and wants to get to know his chosen one faster. Although, with all his enthusiasm, he does not value relationships too much. These are superficial representatives of the stronger sex who only need fun in life.

Chanterelle, little fox, fox

The attention of such a man was completely absorbed by his chosen one. He longs for her company and tries with all his might to keep her. However, he expects the same from her.

Goat

A man feels complete intimacy with his woman, although sometimes he is not averse to teasing her a little. You can expect sharp jokes from him, but the guy does not want to offend his beloved, but is only trying to defuse the situation.

If a man rarely calls and writes

Women
are constantly looking for answers to questions related to their personal lives, because sometimes it can be quite difficult to understand the reason for a certain action of a loved one. Men are less likely to delve into certain nuances, trying to focus only on what is really important. It often happens that a loved one, who just yesterday swore his love and behaved as a full-fledged participant in the relationship, suddenly stopped calling.

This situation

Almost all women who are in relationships are afraid, regardless of age. Sometimes it can be difficult to understand the true reason for this behavior of a loved one, because most often he begins to behave this way completely unexpectedly.

When for a long time a man

does not make itself felt, every woman begins to be at a loss and ask herself and her friends the same question: “Why doesn’t he call me?” This is followed by a desire to understand his plans for the future and the degree of interest in a particular woman. Often such an act is a signal that the relationship is over, and there is no longer any hope for a happy common future. But sometimes there are exceptions to the rule, so let's look at a few reasons for this behavior.

1. Your relationship is just another sexual adventure for him

. Sometimes women cannot understand that the one they mistook for their future husband just wants to have fun and get the most out of sex. Such a man knows how to look after you beautifully: he gives compliments, gives gifts, rents expensive hotel rooms and walks you home. But it is likely that this meeting was his last, although he had no intention of warning you about this.

Striving to be the perfect lover

does not mean at all that in this way he proves his sincere feelings, so you should not regard a stormy night as a step towards a happy personal life. In this case, it is worth analyzing the situation in order to understand exactly who this person is from whom you are waiting for a call.

Is he there when you feel bad?

? Does he try to take part in your life? Maybe just invite you on a date without continuing communication in a more intimate setting? If you answered no to these questions, then rest assured that for him your relationship was only a desire to enjoy sex. Learn to value yourself and do not open your soul to those who seek to take possession of only your body.

2. He believes that regular calls for no reason are stupid

. There are also representatives of the stronger sex who regard a woman’s desire to be in touch all the time as intrusiveness and excess. He will definitely call if there is any important news, notify you of trouble and let you know if he wants to meet again. But such a man will not call several times a day to find out how you are doing or tell you about how he spent his day.

You can consider this the main disadvantage

person, but you are unlikely to be able to change him. In this case, you should either come to terms with such a character trait, or end the relationship, so as not to spoil the nerves of either yourself or him. If you start demanding attention in the form of regular daily calls, you will probably encounter cold misunderstanding and aggression.

It’s better to solve all the nuances

, so that later you don’t shed tears into your beloved friend’s shoulder at night and don’t ask yourself the eternal question “Why doesn’t he call me?” If your loved one does not like calls and talking on the phone, then he will calmly say so and try to explain his behavior. Try not to pay attention to such a nuance, because it is likely that live communication is much more important for him, so such a man will constantly insist on meeting and spend a lot of time with you.

3. Beware: this is an experienced lover

! Some men persistently hone their skills in winning women's hearts throughout their lives, so it is likely that he is simply training on you. Today there are a huge number of books on psychology that describe in detail the methods of “hunting” women.

In fact, representatives

The weaker sex tends to invent some reasons for the behavior of others and build a logical chain that may be far from reality. This is successfully used by men who want to tie their beloved to themselves. He will deliberately wait a few days after the meeting so that the woman gets bored and frays her nerves. Of course, this method is far from decent, but it is very effective, so don’t be surprised if he does this from time to time to let you cool down.

4. A man is simply not interested in you

. This reason is the most popular, because most often men do not want to tell a woman that he does not like her, but simply disappear without a trace. He avoids you at your favorite bar and doesn't call or respond to messages on social media. On the one hand, it’s good that when he broke off your relationship, he didn’t give you a lot of complexes and didn’t accuse you of all the mortal sins, but on the other hand, he didn’t act very decently, leaving you alone with your thoughts and doubts.

In this situation

It’s important to accept everything as it is and not try to save a relationship that no longer actually exists. If he is not interested in you, then he simply will not waste time on you, this applies to both meetings and calls. Representatives of the stronger sex tend to go missing when they realize that the one with whom he spent last night or even several months does not arouse his feelings and is not suitable as a partner. In this case, it is not difficult to determine the true reason, because even after a few days he will not make himself known and will forget about your existence.

5. You are too active

. Sometimes it happens that a man does not call his beloved, because there is simply no need for this. It is likely that she called him an hour ago and is already offended that he did not call back himself. Such activity can be regarded as an encroachment on personal territory, which is very dangerous for relationships. The man will sooner or later simply run away, without calling and without the desire to have anything in common in the future.

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Source: If a man rarely calls and writes In the article we look at the reasons why men stop calling girls and women even in cases where everything seemed to be going very well. https://meduniver.com/Medical/Psixology/mugchina_perestal_zvonit.html

He rarely calls me and we rarely meet. Girls who had the same thing?

I'm dating a man. He is not married. I like him very much, but I don’t like his passivity in relationships. He calls me once every 7-10 days, just to make an appointment. I tried to take the initiative, but I don’t really like it because... Our relationship is still at an early stage. One day he disappeared for 2 weeks, I already thought that he didn’t want to meet with me, but he called and asked why I wasn’t calling him.. I tried to ask him why he was calling me, I said that I would like to hear his voice more often.. He said that I practically don’t call him either and that I needed to write to him that I wanted him to call me and he would call.

I’m beginning to understand that with this behavior I like him less and less because... I don’t see much desire to meet and communicate with me more often. He himself is a very calm person, he doesn’t say any empty words.

Girls, how many of you have been in similar situations? What do you say?

Author, is he definitely not married?

I don't like such men. you decide

He's definitely not married.

Well, what kind of forum is it :) if it doesn’t call = married :) And if you’re not married, then of course I should immediately rush to a meeting with you, because you’re so cool :))))) Author, there are a lot of options :)

1. married/civil marriage;

2. not very interested in you;

3. waits for initiative;

4. He doesn’t need a relationship right now;

5. doesn’t give a damn because you always agree to a meeting whenever he calls;

If you are not satisfied with this attitude, then either take the initiative into your own hands, or forget about it.

author, my older sister had such a strange type. They met once a week, called each other 2 times a week (she did not show any initiative). This disgrace lasted for 4 months; it never came to sex or even petting. They just went to dinner or to the cinema, he saw her off and kissed her on the cheek. She got tired of it and left him. And then he called her and threatened her with suicide, like he loved her so much. So here's a strange story.

Author, watch the movie “Promising Doesn’t Mean Getting Married”, a lot will become clear to you. He is just not that into u.

Activia, what a horror. In general, this is how men behaved before the sexual revolution)))) i.e. they didn’t drag me into bed, they didn’t try to kiss, everything was decorous and noble) and only halfway through the official marriage.

and now on the forum there are topics: we’ve been dating for a month, no sex, he doesn’t take me seriously))))

Oh times, oh morals)

5, I think that he has never had a woman, hence this behavior. Usually such men are very amorous.

I’m just used to the fact that when a man likes me, he won’t give me a pass. And, if a man rarely calls me and he has no desire to see me more often, then he doesn’t particularly like me. Previous young people were really more active in everything, but this MCH was not. He is quiet, passive, lazy (he himself said that he was lazy).

How old is he?

33 years. But he works and has achieved a lot. But it is clear that he really is lazy and passive. There hasn't been sex yet, but everything is moving towards that. I don’t even know if it’s worth it now.

Manya and Fufochka you ask questions in one minute))

“We haven’t had sex yet, but everything is moving towards that.” - Apparently he won’t come.. Author. What keeps you next to him? it's obvious - he's not interested, he's just filling the void

and I thought he was a virgin)

ah. Such a busy man, work is priority number 1? So?

14. I like it very much.

Sweatshirt, no, far from a virgin. No matter how much work there is, there will always be a minute to call a girl. I think so. I asked him at the meeting, if I hadn’t called him myself, I wonder if you would have called me yourself, he said with satisfaction that of course he called. Then, for example, I myself begin to say that let’s go somewhere next time, to which he says, let’s invite me. It’s terrible, I feel like a man next to him.

author, but in general, how does he behave with you? Are you interested in meeting him? Does he talk a lot about himself? what does it say about how you spend your free time? After all, in the remaining 6-9 days, when he doesn’t meet with you, he does something! Did you have meetings on weekends or only on weekdays? Where do you meet, permanently on neutral territory? Do you know where he lives or is he carefully keeping it quiet?

I don't think he's particularly interested in you. In any case, this is NOT a relationship; perhaps he doesn’t need it at all right now.

Author, if you like him and want to be with him, then take the initiative yourself. Who is more interested, then tries?? And see how he behaves: will he always pick up the phone, will he be happy to hear from you, etc. Maybe when you get to know him better, you will stop liking him. Don't rush into sex.

I know where he lives, somehow it happened that we were at his house for about an hour. In front of me, he greeted some neighbors, i.e. his wife was definitely not there. We met on weekends and weekdays.

I’m interested in him, but he and I can just walk or drive in silence for about 5 minutes until I start asking him something. This is what I don’t like sometimes. Although I don’t like men who constantly say something either

Yeah..”I’m just used to the fact that when a man likes me, he won’t give me permission.”

And this is where you got screwed, author. So that you don’t be so incredibly self-confident that everyone likes you and if they meet, then that’s it, love blows the roof off. Stay in the role of someone who is not particularly needed, let the person live. If you don't like it, no one will keep it.

It would be interesting to know if anyone had similar stories.

Yeah..”I’m just used to the fact that when a man likes me, he won’t give me permission.” And this is where you got screwed, author. So that you don’t be so incredibly self-confident that everyone likes you and if they meet, then that’s it, love blows the roof off. Stay in the role of someone who is not particularly needed, let the person live. If you don't like it, no one will keep it.

If I don't like a man, then I will never date him.

Author, well, you decide, do you need this particular man? or do you just need a man?

If I don't like a man, then I will never date him.

There is no need to move the arrows. Apparently, you think too much about yourself, but here the person is not crazy about you, so you are looking for the reason “why isn’t everyone crazy about me?”

Author, well, you decide, do you need this particular man? or do you just need a man?

This one is certainly needed. If I just needed a man, I would have been with someone I didn’t like a long time ago.

Author, do not give in to manipulation. He needs to let him call, if he doesn’t call, it means he’s not very good. necessary

The men are completely crazy!

My friend had something similar. I met a guy on vacation, it turned out that he was from the same city. But they did not communicate for long, because... her vacation was ending. We exchanged phone numbers. Time passed, he did not call. A few months later they meet by chance and begin an affair. The girl herself is very active, athletic, and the guy is the complete opposite: inert, calm, lacking initiative. She constantly tried to get him out of the house, invited him to various events, and organized leisure time together. And he just wanted to lie at home in front of the TV on the weekends. They lived together for some time, but then she left him.

I had the same thing somehow

it simply means that you are a backup option and he does not take you seriously

sometimes it’s useful not to live in illusions, although you would like to think that he is so mysterious and strange

here, read it here

I thought it was written about me :o))))))

Why don't you call him yourself? It is so hard ? Most likely, he just can’t get used to the fact that you showed up. The hermit image leaves its mark on relationships.

I'm in a similar situation now. He rarely calls and writes, we meet a couple of times a week. Really great sex. At first, I perceived this behavior solely as a need for an intimate relationship, but when he revealed that he was dying and wanted a child from me, I fell into a precipitate in which I have now been in for the second week. In short, it turns out that men are different. He explains his infrequent calls by saying that he is simply accustomed to this particular style of behavior, and that I should get used to it right away. Summary: watch him for some more time, then draw conclusions. That's what I'm doing now. Here.

Thanks for answers. Thanks for the link. I'll take a look

Well, I had a similar relationship.. What can I say, it took a lot of my nerves, then he also dumped me himself.

It's creepy with a gun, so you can say whatever you want.

Married people also sometimes tell their mistresses that they want a child from them, but they are not in a hurry to get a divorce. I wouldn’t really listen to what the man SAYS. I would look at the actions. Wagging your tongue is not moving bags.

but he doesn’t look like himself... Just now I looked at him on Odnoklassniki - well, *** schmuck, but I was still worried, ugh!

It also happened to me that I rarely called and rarely saw each other, in the end I just gave up, because I think yes, yes, no, no. I didn’t waste time and now I don’t regret at all that I gave up on it, although I liked it a lot too.

Author, who was the initiator of your relationship?

I forgot to say that the sex was awesome, that’s the only thing that kept me with him for so long

Fake@, I was the initiator of the relationship

I already thought it was written about me :o)))))) Why don’t you call him yourself? It is so hard ? Most likely, he just can’t get used to the fact that you showed up. The hermit image leaves its mark on relationships.

How is this possible? They say that if you want to see a woman, you try to see her and call her more often. no matter what lifestyle you led before.

Although, there are men for whom work is always their number one priority. And he will work, work, work, such people always achieve success in their business, and the woman is always in the background. And at all stages of communication with a woman.

By the way, this does not show his lack of interest, it’s just the way he is. And he might marry you, and then work and work again. And one of the qualities that a woman should have is patience with his nature.

Do you see yourself this way too? And why? Please tell me more details?

I don't think he's particularly interested in you. In any case, this is NOT a relationship; perhaps he doesn’t need it at all right now.

If I were you (if you like him), I would take the initiative, and if you see that these are not character traits, but something else, then quit?? Figure it out

Hey, thanks for the opinion. I asked him on the phone when I’ll see you, he said when you tell me. I chose the day, he happily agreed. I just won’t constantly take the initiative, I’m not a man.

author, isn’t your martyr a Virgo by chance according to his zodiac sign?))

Skirt, girl. And what?

and you give him a certain probationary period. Be gentle. And look, look for yourself. so that he doesn’t suddenly get a ring ;). But if he continues to be such a runaway hare, then decide whether you want to waste time on such games.

How is this possible? They say that if you want to see a woman, you try to see her and call her more often. no matter what lifestyle you led before.

Well, don't tell me. The guy just won't let you get close. Or he’s afraid of losing his freedom, he thinks that she will tighten the screws, or he simply doesn’t like her.

I don’t get upset when a girl doesn’t take the initiative. I’ll call a couple of times, if I don’t see any response, then goodbye!! Otherwise, it's a one-sided game. And here it turns out that she is trying to force it on him, so that the initiative comes from him. Maybe you should at least strike a finger and do something for yourself, and only then feel free to tell him!

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Sweets

Some men want to be more original and use the names of confectionery products in their nicknames.

Sweetie

Men who can take on the role of a father call their women “sweetie.” He will look after the lady for a long time, cherishing her in every possible way. Such men are faithful in married life and very rarely cheat on their chosen ones.

Sweetie

Guys who have nothing behind their souls. With such a man, no woman will feel protected. Such gentlemen completely irritate serious and confident ladies and make them angry. They inappropriately begin to quote the book they just read, and arrange duels to show their mental abilities. But all their actions are in vain.

Royally

Every girl dreams of being a princess, who will soon turn into a beautiful queen.

Princess

Such men have a hypnotic effect on women, and they know it very well. Charming gentlemen, gallant and well-mannered, who are always surrounded by the attention of women. You can’t relax with such men, because you feel the weakness of your chosen one, he will immediately leave for another. Great in bed.

Queen

A guy obsessed only with sex, and exclusively with his own feelings. He doesn't care about his partner's feelings. When such a man is truly in love, he is ready to put the whole world at her feet (though only in words), but with the fading of feelings, the promises will come to naught.

On you

A man who wants to produce a cheap effect on a woman. He is very loving and does not try to hide it. Such guys do their best to make a false impression on the lady. Usually, they like everything bright and expensive. Nothing good will come out of this novel.

Gold, darling

A man in this way shows the importance of relationships and how much he values them. When choosing such a nickname, his feelings prevail over reason.

Madam

This is a witty and charming partner. A woman is very lucky if she meets such a gentleman on her way. But she shouldn’t relax: at the first possible opportunity, such a man could be taken away by her rivals.

Actions instead of words

A woman should not focus her attention on the words a man says, especially when it comes to nicknames.

You need to take time and think about how to:

the man behaves with her;
whether he introduces her to his friends and family;
does he respect her as a person;
what actions he does;
is he always honest with her;
whether he keeps his word to her.

Sometimes, the actions a man does for the woman he loves have more meaning than words.

Do you know how limitless men's cunning is? It would seem that intrigue, understatement and secrecy are the lot of women, while the male half of humanity is accustomed to thinking and acting clumsily. In fact, if a guy doesn’t want you to know about his true attitude towards you, he will resort to all sorts of tricks and tricks that his brain is capable of.

But the trouble is that girls have long been able to solve all the charades, and they do not need words of love and confessions, because everything can be seen from the behavior of their opponent and his accidentally dropped phrases.

By showing a small amount of observation and attentiveness, you can understand exactly what feelings a man has for you, and how it will all end. We bring to your attention 9 signs that you have a new fan.

"Don't be dramatic"

Drama is present in any relationship, since we are talking about the interaction of two people with completely different characters. And if any problem arises, we need to try to solve it together. But it happens that a guy categorically does not want to listen to your feelings and experiences. He is tuned in to what will be comfortable for him. And he either takes it with hostility or ignores all your conversations about what he doesn’t like. For example, you explain how painful or unpleasant it is for you to experience a particular situation, and in response you only hear: “Don’t panic, don’t be dramatic, nothing happened.” A loving person who plans to connect his future with you will never dismiss your worldviews. He will try to listen, provide assistance and draw conclusions. In extreme cases, it will simply reassure you and instill hope for a successful outcome (sometimes this is the best help). And if he doesn’t want to delve into your problem, he’s not your person. Just don't confuse the situation with excessive emotionality. This is not about panicking over every little thing. But if there is a reason for this, you should voice it and receive an equivalent and adequate reaction from your partner.

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It was not possible to wash the double glass in the oven. My husband came up and easily took it off

Talks about your future together

If a man not only says that he adores you, but also clearly imagines you living together, then it’s time to prepare for serious changes in your life.

Remember that it is extremely difficult for the strong half of humanity to transfer their “den” into careful female hands, and he thinks about a lot before speaking out about its joint improvement. Do not underestimate this sign of falling in love, since you have been appreciated as a person capable of creating coziness, warmth and comfort in the home.

Appearance is no longer important

Like a true male, the guy first loves with his eyes, and the “big-eyed” period can last quite a long time. But at one fine moment a man says that he doesn’t just love you for your size 4 breasts or slender legs, but for your ability to listen, advise and support.

And when they make it clear to you that your warmth is very highly valued, then you can be sure that they love you.

Soul wide open

If a man says that he misses you and shares his doubts, concerns, fears and problems with you without fear, he is definitely in love with you, and sincerely and for a long time.

If your candidacy seems worthy to a guy, he will dedicate you to the most painful and pitiful moments of his childhood, will not hesitate to divulge his romantic dreams and will not be afraid to be clumsy or funny.

It's boring without you

More recently, a man tried with all his might to demonstrate his independence, self-reliance and disinterest. Now your ICQ simply cannot accommodate his compliments, he often calls and openly declares that he is unbearably bored without your company. And if you like all this, then another couple has matched.

Your mistakes become invisible

Remember how, when going on your first date, you tried to look as chic, extravagant, cute, elegant, and so on as possible. A guy in love stops idealizing his chosen one, since only natural feelings give him the strength to come to terms with flaws.

He will never reproach you for having too much cake or wearing too provocative an outfit, he will not smirk if you had to twist your ankle in an unbearably high stiletto heel, and he will criticize your position regarding a particular political party.

They started listening to you carefully

When a guy really adores you, he stops spouting witty thoughts, telling jokes and amusing you with funny incidents from his own life. He begins to understand that he needs to listen to you, even if the facts you present have long been known to everyone and are uninteresting.

If a guy really loves, he doesn’t just listen, he hears, gives good advice, doesn’t interrupt, gives the opportunity to speak out to the end and shares his thoughts.

Help and surprises

You can understand whether a man loves you in one simple way: ask him to take you to the airport or train station during rush hour or the height of the workday. A true chosen one will definitely find a way to help you and share your worries, anxieties and difficulties.

Remember, if a guy appears nearby only in moments of joy or abundance, then he will not make a reliable life partner. is a person capable of a multi-step and top-secret operation, the main goal of which is to give you a surprise.

Moreover, this can manifest itself in a completely unusual form: a shelf will appear in the refrigerator filled with your favorite diet yogurt, tickets to a concert will appear on the table, or freshly cooked chicken soup will appear on the stove. Only those who sincerely love and want to be loved can provide all these signs of attention.

How to answer?

We are all accustomed to the fact that we have to pay for everything in this life. For one - with your health, for another - with money, for the third - with personal time.

Therefore, it is not at all surprising that even the most loving man will not last long without your response and, preferably, a positive reaction, and therefore:

Learning to give compliments. Yes, yes, men simply adore them, although they don’t show it. But before you compliment your man, try to choose words that will not offend or offend him in any way. It is best to admire courage, reliability, strength, gallantry and everything like that;
You can’t be silent in bed, just enjoying the process or waiting for it to end. Be sure to respond to kind words, even if you have no idea what to say to your man in bed. If you don’t have much imagination, call him by name, say exciting phrases and ask him what he would like at the moment. It is clear that sex cannot be turned into a full-fledged kitchen dialogue;
If your goal is to maintain and enhance your existing relationship, it is important to remember that you should never tell your man. We advise you not to talk about previous relationships, not to compare him with other suitors, not to ask for a fur coat instead of a new car, and not to invite him to tea with his friends if there is a football match on TV;
Excessive protectiveness in public is also an example of what you should not say to your men. You should not reproach them for drinking or eating too much, clumsy dancing or unnoticed curbs. All this can be said when you get home, if until then it continues to seem important and worthy of a quarrel.

Of course, a woman’s life would become much easier if there were a visual list of what words she should say to her man, and which words it would be better to remove from her vocabulary altogether. But in this case, the opportunity to get to know each other better and test the relationship for strength and endurance would be lost.

Lady takes matters into her own hands

When a family drama unfolds according to a similar scenario, the wife must decide what to do next. The presence of children, shared living space and other property “acquired by back-breaking labor” should not frighten or stop us. The main thing in a situation, if a man does not love and does not let go, is to let him understand that his wife is not his property, like his children, and everything else must be divided by law. It’s not worth putting up with your husband’s antics in the hope that he will come to his senses and understand what an invaluable gift his wife gave him in the form of taking him back. This could go on forever and you will waste your life waiting for a miracle. In addition, men are designed in such a way that few of them voluntarily leave a good woman.

They look at life together, especially as they age, in a very practical way. If the housewife and clever woman are in the house, then the beautiful artist can be found on the side. This is usually called a vent.