In Rus', husbands called their wives differently. And they were not always addressed by their names, but often used various nicknames, for example, the little woman or the big woman. These two words are often found in historical documents, but few people know that they have completely different meanings.
From the moment they were born until marriage, representatives of the fair sex were called wenches, married women were called pullets, and those who had already given birth were called women. Nowadays it doesn’t sound like much, but in those days such expressions were quite common in everyday life. In addition, in some regions they could use local jargon, which sometimes seems quite strange. But if you think about it a little, there is a completely reasonable explanation for them. The most interesting of them will be discussed below.
Voronezh lands
Here wives were most often called wives, which is quite logical. But sometimes you can come across nicknames such as baba (or its more affectionate form - butterfly, vodvorka or friend). You won’t hear this in cities, but in villages they are very common.
And this is where a certain misunderstanding arises. After all, in reality the word groomsman means “best man of the groom.” But they used it for female use. But what does this nickname have to do with his wife? Everything is very simple. After a girl became a wife, she became completely dependent on her husband and was almost completely deprived of any rights. This is how it turns out that she became a friend. As for the vodvorka, this was a married woman who lived in her husband’s house, that is, in the yard.
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Unfortunately, transgender people still face discrimination even in countries and communities where LGBT rights are generally respected. They are victims of transphobic attacks and murders, are at greater risk of contracting HIV and AIDS, and have difficulty finding work and health care. On November 20, Transgender People's Day of Remembrance is celebrated around the world - at ceremonies the names of those who died as victims of transphobia are read out. The rights of trans people are violated even after their death: for example, there are cases when relatives bury trans women under a man’s name.
Transgender Russians must undergo examinations by a psychiatrist and receive a certificate of “transsexualism” in order to change documents and undergo the necessary medical procedures. Now in Russia the process of changing documents is organized much simpler than in many other countries, where in order to change a passport it is necessary to begin body changes. However, to undergo a special psychiatric commission, which is not available in every city, transpeople pay out of their own pockets - which is not accessible to everyone and is quite unfair.
Another problem is the lack of qualified doctors who know how to work with transpeople. “You most likely will not encounter insults, but often the local doctor does not know what to do with a trans person, is afraid to administer hormonal therapy, and does not know the legislative framework,” explains Anton Mackintosh, an activist of the trans initiative group “T-Action”. — Doctors are afraid of some law on propaganda or simply don’t know whether they have the right to provide assistance to such patients (spoiler: they have and are obliged to). They think that there are some special doctors, “transologists,” that transpeople should go to. But there are no such doctors; all doctors must be able to work with transpeople.” To train and enlighten doctors, T-Action organizes special courses.
Inconsistency of documents may not pose a problem, or it may result in a real disaster: you probably remember the recent story with transwoman Michelle, who was accused of distributing child pornography due to manga footage posted on the VKontakte network. For any transgender person, the prospect of being locked up in a prison with inmates of a different gender is practically a death sentence. Fortunately, thanks to the efforts of human rights activists, Michelle did not end up in a men's colony, but was released - perhaps this case will serve as a precedent for future cases involving transpeople.
Pomorie
In this region of Russia, it was customary for wives to be called wives or wives. Elderly married women were called big women. And you don’t need to think that this is because of certain problems with weight or the importance of the position she occupies. This is because the husbands worked, while the wives completely ran the household.
Undoubtedly, a big woman sounds more pleasant than a woman, but it is also important to take into account the fact that in Pomerania since ancient times, representatives of both sexes worked equally, regardless of the type of activity. Simply put, while the men were at sea fishing for several months, the women became full-fledged managers of the house and served as the head of the family. This is where the big one came from. And the most interesting thing here is that Pomeranian women were very proud of this status.
GuruTest
Probably, almost everyone has encountered such injustice: for some reason it is believed that a man having many ladies is good or acceptable, but the opposite situation (that is, when a lady has many gentlemen) for some reason is something out of the ordinary. But is this really so?
We collected information and found that things are not quite as many believe. There is evidence that it is normal for a woman to have many partners. Here's how family psychologists explain it: listen to their arguments.
Why is it believed that a man should have many women?
Those who are outraged by the inequality of men and women are often surprised by the stereotype that has become entrenched in society: for some reason it is believed that a man must be an enviable gentleman, around whom one or another young lady alternately flies.
In situations where a representative of the stronger half of humanity has affairs with two or even three beauties at the same time, many people also do not see anything special or out of the ordinary, taking what is happening for granted. But why does this happen?
The reason for such a strange stereotype may actually be hidden in things that many people do not think about. In past centuries, for example, the region of residence and cultural characteristics, as well as the religion accompanying and associated with it, were of decisive importance.
In some eastern regions, as many people know, polygamy was more popular, but in Slavic areas, although such a tradition also took place, people still preferred traditional marriages, which excluded the possibility of having multiple partners.
In addition, the very historical image of a male conqueror, a strongman and a hunter does not seem to suggest that an already exhausted breadwinner will care about morality. And although today we don’t need to chase mammoths in order to survive, such “ancient” stereotypes about men, as you can see, still work: as you know, even a lie repeated a thousand times becomes the truth.
Why is it normal for a woman to have a large number of partners?
So, we figured out why many people think that a man should have many women. Now it is time to understand why a woman having a large number of partners is also the norm. Here's what psychologists, logic and common sense say about this.
In some situations, having a large number of partners is a healthy approach. This idea may surprise you, but it certainly won’t diminish its relevance: at the moment, some psychologists believe that having a large number of partners in some situations can be a much more reasonable choice than imaginary “stability” and practically living with one person for life.
Psychologists believe: for a healthy person, relationships end when they can no longer give him anything, and when the person somehow does not see the point in rehabilitating them. Staying in an unpromising relationship that is more likely to cause harm than benefit is, to say the least, stupid: you should not do this with your life, even if you are afraid of being judged in the eyes of those around you. No matter what they think of you, no matter what reputation they ascribe to you, remember: life is yours alone, and it would not be too smart to live it not the way you want, but the way other people want it.
Women have the same right as men to choose a partner . Glorifying a model of behavior in which a woman remains faithful to her partner all her life, no matter what he does, many for some reason do not pay attention to the blatant injustice. Why, pray tell, is it that the fair sex is given the role of sufferer and martyr, while a man can be forgiven for a certain number of mistakes? Why is it that a lady is deprived of the right to choose the best partner for herself, at a time when a man is not forbidden to do so?
Women have the same right as men to choose a partner. If a lady believes that she deserves the best, there is nothing wrong for her in breaking up with someone who is not suitable for her and going in search of her ideal man.
As you can see, a large number of partners for women is an absolutely normal phenomenon: there is nothing strange in the fact that a lady is picky, perhaps not at all. Nevertheless, you should not get too carried away: if a man is counting on a serious relationship, and you know about it, it is better to honestly tell him that at the moment this format of relationship does not suit you, and part with the world, than to deceive for years, giving empty promises and false hope.
However, if you break up over and over again and cannot meet the right man, perhaps you should stop looking: there is nothing abnormal about being alone, and, moreover, for some people it can bring much more benefit and benefit than suffering. We've previously told stories of people who are deliberately single: find out why some people give up relationships for the rest of their lives.
Tell us what you think about this: do you think it’s normal for a woman to have many men, or not? Why?
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17.01.2019 05:36
Perm region
In this region of Rus', representatives of the fairer sex were called in a very strange way - mezheumki. This word is masculine, but it was applied specifically to women. But not to everyone, but only to those who left their husbands. This was extremely rare, but betrayal did happen.
Today, equality reigns between representatives of both sexes, and women are particularly decisive, but in those distant times, the head of the family was always a man, and his life partner was deprived of almost all rights, so she had to obey and obey her husband in everything.
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It is worth noting that not only a woman could be called mezheumkom. This nickname is applicable to any person, regardless of age, gender and status, who commits not entirely logical actions.
Amur region
People have always valued cleanliness and order in the house, as well as neatness. And it was these qualities that were key when choosing a wife. If a girl was sloppy, then she was called a baldhead, and if she was neat and thrifty, then she was called an everyday worker. These nicknames do not seem too strange, since the relationship between them and their meanings is quite clear. So, for example, an everyday worker is a woman who always keeps her house in order, washes her clothes and prepares food. But if she is lazy and knows practically nothing, then she is a baldhead, that is, creating problems for her husband.
