A woman's view of a loser man.
Women's understanding of how things “should be” are straightforward and depressingly unpretentious. In relation to relationships with a man, happiness is depicted to a woman with inexorable progressive simplicity:
acquaintance->courtship of a man->woman’s consent to a “relationship”->candy-flower period->actually the “relationship” and trial period->going to the registry office->birth of a child->family joys.
We will omit the gloomy ending in the form of divorce, division of property and taking away a child from a man, alimony and other not very happy events for men that end 4 out of 5 marriages in this chapter. What is important to us is the idea of most women about proper happiness in the “man-woman” plane.
A “loser” or “unhappy man” is any man who falls outside the framework of a woman’s idea of male happiness. And a man’s happiness, as women understand it, consists of the following:
1. The basis of a man’s happiness, its main component, is the presence next to him of the one and only woman he loves for the rest of his life. (However, in our time, it is rather not a woman next to a man, but, on the contrary, a man as an attachment and servant of a woman).
“One and only” must be recorded in the registry office - a wonderful institution where modern men, along with a marriage registration stamp, should also be presented with a de bi la certificate.
2. The main thing for a man, an indicator of his wealth, compliance with the concept of “real man” is the service of the so-called. "family interests". Not their own, mind you, but “family”, i.e. servicing the needs and wants of the wife and joint offspring, which in fact does not belong to the man.
3. A man’s hobbies, his dreams, his friends, aspirations, creativity - these are insignificant things that have nothing to do with his happiness.
4. A man must earn a lot or strive to earn a lot. He must spend all his income “on his family.”
A man’s different idea of his own happiness, a man’s deviation from the program described above is extremely dangerous for the interests of women. The most effective means of combating male “dissent” and “freethinking” is denigrating behavior or value systems that are disadvantageous to women. And not only denigration, but also the development of a complex in men: men should be afraid of women’s ridicule and the stigma of “loser.”
A “family man” working two jobs, listening every day to scolding, complaints and wishes from his wife, tormented by domestic scandals, pushed around by his mother-in-law, deprived of communication with friends and normal rest, on the verge of a nervous breakdown, the “father of the family” is a “happy” man. For he lives as he should in the understanding of women: serving his mistress, “living for the family.”
A man who managed to marry a divorced lady with a child in need of a new “real man” - a raw material resource - is not such a loser.
But a convinced bachelor who has a well-established life, his own apartment, dacha, car, interesting job, 2-3 beautiful girlfriends - he is a “loser”. Well, of course: he “failed to find his only woman.” The fact that one must definitely look for one is not even discussed: a man without a family, in the understanding of a woman, in principle cannot be happy.
A man who is passionate about his own business: builds rockets, writes books, fights and wins, creates canvases, travels, creates smart programs, or is just an engineer but is not married and does not have a “girlfriend” - “a pathetic loser.” According to the woman’s concepts, he “did not take place”, “was not realized.”
He is not attached to the ONLY woman, his resources are not placed under her control.
By the way, about resources. Women's happiness is directly related to hoarding and consumption. Consequently, the value of a man in the eyes of a woman is directly proportional to his income and existing assets, then all low-income men automatically fall into the category of losers and failures. The so-called are quoted slightly higher. “promising men” are those who do not yet earn much, but show promise and have significant chances to quickly make a career. They are “promising,” but on one condition: they are eager to “build a serious relationship.” Otherwise they are “losers”.
All men who do not live according to women’s interpretation of male happiness are “losers.” Everything that does not fit into the tiny shell of a woman’s worldview, does not fit into the motives of consumerism, enrichment, acquisition, or even childbearing - everything is branded “failure.”
Moreover, a man who is not in the mood for a “serious relationship” in a woman’s understanding is a priori a loser. Anyone who does not seek the company of a woman, does not strive for a serious and permanent connection, “love that grows into something more” - in the understanding of women, cannot be happy, has no right to be happy. And it’s not just about the danger of other male happiness for women - female egocentrism, the entire female nature simply does not allow a woman to understand, realize and accept the very possibility of a OTHER happiness than a paired “relationship” and a family with one woman.
Now a few words about “one”. Once, as a joke, I posted an ad on a dating site with the following content:
“I’d like to meet two or three girls for a serious relationship.” The reaction of the indignant women was not long in coming: “How can you have a SERIOUS relationship with two or three girls?”
Me: “Why not?”
Women: “You can only have a serious relationship with one!”
Why me?"
Women: (inarticulate radio static and angry hissing)
So, the one who changes women or (oh horror!) has several women at the same time is also a “loser”. Because “I’m not capable of love.” As homework, try to find out from women you know why, in fact, “you can only love one?”
The answer here is simple and it does not lie at all in the plane of traditional monogamy in Russia: relationships with several women mean the impossibility of monopolistic control of all a man’s resources by one woman. And this breaks the paradigm of female happiness, therefore, has no right to exist and should be discredited and destroyed by various abusive words addressed to men. The main one is “loser”.
The story about the loser would not have been so successful if it had not been for its active introduction into the mind of a man in childhood. Mothers instill in a boy a complex and a fear of not conforming to the image of a “real man,” and a “real man,” as we remember, must always be at the service of a woman or, at a minimum, live in her interests. Often, a boy not only has no examples of masculine behavior, but there is a clearly defined “minus”: either a weak father under the heel of the dominant mother in the family, or the absence of a father and the demonization of his image, distortion and distortion of the real, masculine that a boy should have received in complete family. One of a mother’s characteristic “low blows” is a devastating reproach: “You’re just like your dad!”
The result of such an upbringing is clear: millions of men living according to the “happiness” prescribed by women, who are deathly afraid of looking like “losers” in women’s eyes.
I appeal to all men: don’t be afraid to be “losers” in women’s eyes! Create, invent, fight, invent, wander, fly into space, expose your face to the salty wind of the ocean - look for your Truth and do your Business! The world is millions of times wider, more interesting and spacious than primitive and mundane female stereotypes about how to live.
The real loser is a female lackey who has spent his entire life serving a woman and her petty-bourgeois consumer interests.
A real loser is someone who does not live by his own mind and his own will, who has not realized the bright masculine destiny given to him by the Creator: creativity, search, transformation of the world.
