Hello, dear friends! Tatyana Panyushkina is here again! My column “How to become a wife?” today will tell you how to find the answer to this question.
We often come across paradoxes. A woman who dreams of a caring and generous man marries his complete opposite - greedy, inattentive, indifferent to his lady. The one who most wants to meet a faithful chosen one comes across only womanizers. And a conservative woman, for whom a reserved and aristocratic type is important, constantly comes across boors and insolent people.
What is the Universe hinting to us with such situations? Or maybe this is just a coincidence? Where does the man of your dreams go? And where is the reason for the failures?
How to find the man of your dreams. Three rules
A man is an important object from the point of view of both nature and psychology. 2
Firstly, without a man, reproduction is impossible. Therefore, it will not be possible to realize the maternal instinct without male participation. Even the virgin birth is a lie. Well, it wasn’t the wind that blew it! The genetic pool of each individual individual is strictly individual. Therefore, the choice is huge and varied: who likes what.
Secondly, the amount of testosterone, the hormone responsible for strength and endurance, is much greater in males. A woman, of course, can also drag a log. But life is not a communist subbotnik, and feminists, no matter how they puff themselves up, can hide and remain silent. By the way, an amazing moment: in the gym, a fragile lady presses a heavy barbell and enjoys life, but when she goes to the store to buy potatoes, she is a “delicate flower” with fragile petals.
You don’t have to stutter at all about the “crystal” nature of the shoulders. Based on the amount of strength and endurance, the palm belongs to men. Whatever one may say, you can’t really roam around without them. The drill will fall out of your hands, the chainsaw is basically equipment from a horror movie, and pushing out a stuck car is unrealistic.
Thirdly, mental potential. Men, whatever one may say, are smarter than women. Well, not in the sense that women are fools. No. In the sense that men have a reduced emotional background. They are able to reason more pragmatically. Men only indulge in nannies in the sandbox in early childhood. And then, after cracking the opponent with a spatula. Therefore, if you need to make an important decision, then in most cases it is better to turn to a man.
Fourthly, protective instinct. Men are owners. And everything that is on their territory belongs only to them. Any opponent will be destroyed on the outskirts of the citadel. This also benefits women. You can safely keep your home, engage in hoarding and give birth to heirs. The man will selflessly protect and feed all this.
How to program yourself to meet your loved one
To speed up the long-awaited meeting with the man of your dreams, it’s worth making an effort. First, draw up a portrait of the expected chosen one, describe the desired appearance, and be sure to indicate the negative traits that you are willing to put up with in real life. This exercise will help you not to overlook the right person in the daily bustle and pay attention to him.
The next step is to announce your desire out loud. Of course, your friends already know that you are actively searching, so you shouldn’t be ashamed of this circumstance. They offer to introduce you to a new gentleman - no need to refuse and be afraid of seeming intrusive.
Show interest in new acquaintances and contacts, go to them with joy, be natural and friendly. As soon as full awareness comes, and not an internal denial of one’s “I want”, it will immediately begin to be realized in all possible ways.
It is worth working to fulfill your desire. Of course, you can’t escape fate, but you shouldn’t sit idly by either. Move in the right direction - register on a dating site, attend speed dating evenings, join a gym, walk more often and visit public places. Who knows what surprise fate will bring, and where you will meet the man whom you will call “your own” in the future.
Love yourself and learn to comfortably spend time alone with yourself. It is worth realizing that loneliness is not permanent and that everything will change soon, so enjoy this fleeting period. Don’t put off your dreams until later; when the right man comes along, start making them come true and a worthy chosen one will be nearby in no time.
It is also difficult for men to meet and interest a woman with whom they are ready to start a family. Therefore, show patience and tact, if not everything goes smoothly at the first meeting, give a second chance, who knows, maybe it will become a turning point in life.
“The princess gave birth in the night, either a son or a daughter.”3
Now, having examined the characteristics of the original individual, we can consider the male subclass “IT”.
Representatives of this intermediate link have all the gender characteristics of the original. They may have a great genetic set: height, appearance, health. They have only one difference: their inability to exist independently and their meager mental reserves.
IT-nists, and that’s what it’s easier to call them, cannot do basic things. Economics is not their strong point. They are terrified of hammers and nails, a running faucet drives them into prostration, and a slight financial crisis simply deprives them of strength and puts them to bed with the mark of the Great Depression on their foreheads. Their psychology is very close to women’s, so they perfectly manipulate women, and they, in turn, nod towards the Decembrists and proudly carry this banner, completely replacing the concept of partnership in a couple. ONO-nists are capricious and hysterical.
They easily create scenes of stomping feet, spitting spittle, and slamming doors. Often IT-nists run away to their mother or mistress. Because there they will be received and warmed, without making absolutely any demands. The parasitic lifestyle that such individuals lead helps them live a very long and quite happy life. It all depends on the level of camouflage and experience.
A small remark in defense of the IT-nists. This men's podcast can be a direct source of women's happiness. This is explained by the fact that for women with a strong and strong-willed character, the original individual may not be interesting. As a rule, they do not want to break themselves in order to be a “gentle fluffy” for a strong man. But the men’s “blank” will be to your liking. Ononists are obedient and weak-willed, therefore, you can mold them into whatever your heart desires. Therefore, they too can become someone’s dream.
Search and plan to capture a real man.4
Before organizing a search operation, a woman must clearly set priorities, set the parameters of the desired individual, and organize a capture group consisting of her girlfriends and mother. Acting alone is stupid: your eyes become blurry. And IT-nists are not asleep. Only a support group can identify them at the initial stage.
In general, finding the man of your dreams is not difficult. You just need to give your dream shape, boundaries and understand “what I want.” Here the flight of imagination is unlimited, each dreamer has her own requirements, which means that everyone’s “victims” are different.
In general, men come in two categories: “with hands” and “with money.” The “with your hands” category will solve all economic problems yourself and immediately. Anyone with “money” can snort contemptuously towards the outlet and invite specially trained people. This is their main difference from the ONO-nists, for they are “armless beggars”: neither pay nor do. This parameter defines the boundaries of the dream. By the way, it is useless to look for the category “with both hands and money.” It, of course, exists, but in a parallel universe.
Then the dream is given shape. These are external characteristics: height, weight, color. By the way, there are no comrades according to taste and color. When determining the form, you should not listen to the support group.
“What I want” is such a streamlined parameter that it’s difficult to put everything together. Here the entire capture group is necessarily invited to help. Otherwise, fantasies can take over so much that you will have to look not for a man, but for a unicorn with a golden mane and a silver hoof. It should be clearly stated here: character, emotional background, the presence of an internal core and life positions.
When the internal meeting with your cockroaches is over, you can announce the results to your assistants and draw up a search plan.
To find the man of your dreams, you don’t have to go on an expedition into the unknown. It is enough to go through your friends. Even ringed individuals can be analyzed. But if he reacts, then he is an IT-nist. There is no need for such goodness for nothing, let it sit where it is. And an individual without a reaction is already someone else’s dream come true. It is strictly forbidden to touch her!
So, having chosen more or less suitable specimens, you can begin to consider them in more detail. With some amendments, of course. Let’s say if a man meets all the given parameters, but is blond and not brunette, then saying “fi” in his direction is stupid. After this, you can launch your scouts. His interests, food preferences and life position are revealed. Then it's a matter of technology.
Am I ready for marriage?
No matter how wonderful a man you find, it is important to understand whether you are ready for a serious and long-term relationship? After all, if you have the wrong attitude, then the relationship will not bring joy and happiness to both parties. It is worth paying attention to the following areas of your life:
Mood for life. How quickly do you recover from a stressful situation? Do you have a tendency to show aggression? Do you like to win in all controversial issues, completely disregarding the other person's opinion? As you understand, your readiness for a serious relationship and marriage directly depends on the answer to all these questions.
Remember that all your problems in marriage will not be solved; on the contrary, the shortcomings of women and men in family life appear even more clearly.
Relationships with people around you. An indicator of your position in life is your relationship with your parents and friends. Do you show respect to loved ones? Do you have patience? Do you like to show care and love to those people who especially need it? It would be good to think about what opinion they have of you? Money. It is especially difficult at the first stage of life together to learn how to properly manage your money. That is why it would be wise to find a worthwhile job even before marriage, to show yourself as a responsible employee. At the same time, make every effort not to borrow money from anyone for living expenses.
If you have no problems in these areas of your life, then you are ready for a more serious relationship. Without careful preparation, even an ideal life partner can have problems. Therefore, do not relax until you have found your soulmate, work on yourself, and then you will be able to build strong relationships in marriage!
Tactics and strategy of capture.5
We will have to act on all fronts at once.
Example: an individual loves hockey, prefers apple pie with tea for lunch, and is an animal advocate at heart.
Action plan (individual from the immediate environment):
The begining of the work day. When entering the office, you should throw out a slightly irritated phrase: “Again, Metallurg blew away Ak Bars!” We staged a ballet on ice!” Plop down on a chair and tell the victim about the forecast for the next game. During lunch, offer tea and unwrap the Charlotte, inviting you to taste it. You can even press lightly, saying that you baked it yourself. The original individual will never refuse. As plans for the evening, a request for help to carry a bag of food to an animal shelter is voiced. The victim will definitely volunteer to help. All! The trap slammed shut. Well, what follows is a repetition of actions, with variety, of course.
You need to act carefully, with the tact and delicacy inherent in the feminine essence. The original, as a rule, is an integral and self-sufficient person. He values his freedom highly. Moreover, a strong male can choose his own female for the evening, and he can easily solve everyday issues without the presence of the latter. So you should be as careful as possible in your actions.
