Even if you're the kind of person who doesn't usually remember your dreams when you wake up, during pregnancy you may suddenly find yourself nudging your partner in the middle of the night to share details of your latest stupid dream. Or you may find yourself daydreaming about chubby cheeks in the middle of important meetings.
Your dreams and daydreams can become so rich and vivid that you may wonder upon waking whether it really happened? Although they may make you feel like you're going crazy, pregnancy dreams are healthy and normal, and can even help you stay sane.
Why do we dream about them?
Sleep is one of the vital needs of a person, a manifestation of the natural biological rhythm. During sleep, we get a unique opportunity to restore not only physiological, but also mental balance. Unfortunately, nothing can replace it. It has been proven that the mortality rate for those who sleep little and poorly is 2.5 times higher.
The most interesting phenomenon of sleep is dreams - a bizarre mixture of fragments of daytime impressions and personal problems emerging from the depths of the unconscious. Dreams occupy about 25% of the total sleep time and occur in the so-called REM sleep phase (4-6 times per night). At this time, when our body is almost completely relaxed, brain activity is the same as in the waking state. The content of dreams can be anything: from an inexplicable set of images to very real life situations.
Erotic dreams belong to the so-called involuntary sexual reactions and arise in the same way as ordinary dreams. This is just a type of script that has sex scenes. This will not necessarily be sexual intercourse; you can dream of any other forms of sexual relations.
According to American sexologists, almost all men and about 70% of women have erotic dreams. Erotic dreams accompany us from adolescence until death, until consciousness fades away. They are one of the signs of puberty, when libidinal energy seeks outlet.
“Erotic dreams are normal and indicate sexual health. If we reproduced by budding, then there would be no place for libido in our lives. We wouldn’t even have such dreams,” says sexologist Nikolai Khvoshchinsky.
Young people most often have sexual dreams before the age of 20-25, then less and less often. For women, everything is different: the older they get, the more varied and vivid their dreams will be. By the beginning of sexual activity, only 2% of women indulge in nightly erotic fantasies, and by the age of 45-50 - already 65-70%. Representatives of the fair sex are designed in such a way that their sexuality is revealed a little later. For them, the psychology of relationships is much more important.
Sex of your dreams and erotic dreams: how to attract dreams?
Going to the land of dreams is perhaps easier than you can imagine, because this is where all your dreams, dreams of ideal relationships and intimacy can come true. No one says that everything will work out the first time, but it’s time to develop the skills to correctly transition to the desired theme of sleep, because here your dreams and deepest desires will come true.
Erotic dreams are one of the sexual needs of a man. Think about how many times you have thought about how long ago you had erotic dreams. Was it the case? Plus, scientists have proven that orgasms in sleep are completely conscious, and dreams at the moment of their receipt are nothing more than real reality, but only on the other side of sleep. Orgasm in a dream is accompanied by full-fledged physical reactions, such as muscle reactions, increased heart rate, and changes in vascular tissue.
So it's time to start training your mind and inviting dreams into your bed to realize sinful fantasies and recharge your energy for the whole day after an amazing dream. What is needed for an erotic dream to become a reality (in the sense of come true)? To do this, you should adhere to the rules listed below. So let's begin!
- create a sensual and seductive environment for the emergence of an erotic dream
Do you think you will have an erotic dream if you sleep in stretched out pajamas soaked in sweat? Hardly. Most likely, you should try going to bed on silk underwear completely naked. It is necessary to create a feeling of freedom and direct your mind in a truly sexual direction.
- choose the right pose
A study by scientists described in the journal Dreaming confirmed that you can independently increase the chances of having an erotic dream if you choose the right position while sleeping. The optimal position for the appearance of an erotic dream is the position when you sleep on your stomach with your hands on your head. But you may have your own favorite pose. We only recommend.
- turn off electrical appliances before going to bed
Turn off absolutely all gadgets and electrical appliances before going to bed. Don't watch a movie on your tablet and don't strain your eyes. You should go to sleep with your vision not overloaded, which will not rest from bright spots of light.
- eliminate masturbation from your daily routine
Scientists say that to increase the likelihood of an erotic dream, you will need to pull yourself together and not masturbate. At least a couple of days.
This was the introduction, and now we will tell you what you need to do while lying in bed, ready to meet your erotic fantasy in a dream.
- visualization of your partner before you are about to fall asleep
Form in your mind a clear portrait and image of your partner with whom you want to have sex (or partner). Visualize your partner and the surrounding landscape, this will increase the likelihood of a vivid and lucid dream. The best result will be achieved if you begin to visualize the process of sexual intimacy with the partner you are about to dream about. Relax, imagine the smells that may surround you at that moment.
- visualize your correct position in sleep
If you rush and imagine the act of intimacy, then nothing will work out. Surround yourself with real little things, imagine how you open the door, how the leaves rustle, how you turn off the light in the room.
- don't get hung up on foreplay
Imagine a film in which the editor does a lot of work, cutting out unnecessary and boring scenes. In your dream, you are just such an editor. Don’t waste time on the process of undressing, feel free to imagine yourself naked. Remember, sleep time is not limited.
- calmness is the key to success
Take your time, be calm and confident that everything will work out. You create your dream yourself. In your dream it goes according to your scenario, and nothing can stop you.
So we have given you several important theses and techniques, by adhering to which you can catch an erotic dream and form it yourself. Remember that the first time it will be quite difficult for you to attract an erotic dream and immerse yourself in it, so repeat the above exercises periodically, and your sinful fantasies will begin to come true as if at the snap of your fingers, all you have to do is lie down in bed and start dreaming.
What would that mean?
The content of erotic dreams can be explicit. There is no need to interpret them, and everything is clear: sex as it is. For 80% of men, such dreams end in wet dreams. In women, orgasm occurs in 40% of cases.
And there are symbolic dreams in which there are no sexual scenes. However, Sigmund Freud argued: even such dreams have sexual overtones. He believed that since libido is an integral part of life, all our dreams are about sex. Long solid objects - do they remind you of anything? What about soft and warm?
“The interpretation of dreams largely depends on the position of the specialist who deals with it. The psychoanalyst will look for a sexual motive in any dream. There is another opinion, according to which you should not get carried away and find some specific meaning in every dream. Everything is individual. And even an explicit dream about sex may not be directly related to it. Sexuality is given to us not only for procreation. Through intimate relationships, we realize many of our needs: for communication and pleasure, for knowledge and self-affirmation, for manipulating others and compensating for our imperfections. And all these life problems may well be encoded in the sexual themes of the dream,” notes Nikolai Khvoshchinsky.
A dream with approximately the same plot can mean completely different things for different people. So, after this, think about whether to believe the dream books or not.
My husband’s dream is different - to forgive or to be wary?
- That’s good, Nastenka!
- I'm not Nastenka.
- It’s still good...
For such a dialogue, most wives would reward their husband with a resounding slap in the face. What if he mutters someone else's name in his sleep? Kill or forgive? Experts advise not to attach much importance to this.
“If a husband dreams of sex with another woman, this does not mean that he is cheating. Moreover, this does not even mean that he is ready to cheat. Do not rush to pin a feeling of guilt on yourself or your partner if he confessed to you such a “sin.” It could just be his impressions of the day. Perhaps he met a neighbor on the way home, or remembered his first love, or saw a movie star on TV - these images were deposited in his memory. But there is reason to think about the possible dissatisfaction with the routine and dullness of relationships, and not only intimate ones,” says Nikolai Khvoshchinsky.
Erotic dream for pleasant emotions2
Of course, there are erotic dreams that can directly indicate problems of a sexual nature.
A dream about sex with an ex-partner most often occurs if at the moment there is no sex at all or its quality leaves much to be desired. This is how the subconscious wants to “give” pleasant emotions and get rid of accumulated tension. It looks for a familiar image in the memory, with which it was simply wonderful in bed, and offers it as a lover in erotic dreams.
Another symptom of lack of sex can be an orgasm in your sleep. If you managed to reach the peak of pleasure while in a state of sleep, then you should thank your brain for such a gift, but changing the situation with sex in real life should not be put off.
Sexual nightmares
Let's put aside excessive modesty: dreams with a sexual plot are a very pleasant thing. With rare exceptions, when you dream about God knows what and instead of orgasm you get stress. When you wake up in a cold sweat, remember: anyone can have an erotic nightmare. There is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of here, but there is something to think about.
Sex with your boss is a fairly common plot. He may not dream about it out of a desire to make love with his boss. Although this option is not excluded.
“Such a dream can symbolize a reaction to the real behavior of your boss: he scolded you, and in this way you take revenge on him. The theme here is “submission - power”. But the options may be different. It all depends not so much on the content of the dream, but on your specific life situation,” says our expert.
Both men and women can dream about masturbation Here it is worth thinking about your uncertainty, low self-esteem, suppressed desire and feelings of dissatisfaction.
A person can see himself in the image of a different gender. And this also does not need to be interpreted literally. Men, think about it, do you really want to be a woman? If the answer is yes, then this is a topic for another article. Swapping roles in a dream does not mean that you want to change your gender in reality. And, of course, it does not speak unequivocally about homosexual inclinations.
“Perhaps this is how some traits of a person are trying to appear that he has to hide. If a man sees himself as a woman, maybe in real life he is required to be tough, but his essence does not accept this. He wants to be more delicate, sensual. If a woman sees herself as a man, she may want to be more decisive, assertive and confident. Or maybe she wants to see these traits in her partner,” reflects Nikolai Khvoshchinsky.
about sex with a relative look even more frightening Under no circumstances should this be taken as incest. Our expert sexologist advises looking for an explanation in relationships.
Seeing someone else's sex is perhaps a manifestation of interest in knowledge. How else to discover something new in intimate relationships? Or is it a secret passion for voyeurism, especially if there is personal sexual dissatisfaction. It has been proven that vicious fantasies are more often dreamed by those who lack this in their lives.
You should start to worry when addiction appears and voyeurism replaces traditional ways of obtaining pleasure. The name of this disease is voyeurism.
If you dream that someone is spying on you or you indulge in unbridled passion right on the street, you probably just want to be more significant to society. But it is also a signal of a state of internal restlessness and anxiety.
Sometimes a dream is just a dream
The appearance of erotic images in a dream is due to the fact that sex is a powerful driving force for almost any person and it is not surprising that almost all people have such dreams. But often, if you make love in a dream, the piquant content of your dreams will have absolutely nothing to do with sexual desire.
The human brain works around the clock. During the day, it receives new information, helps build logical connections and make decisions, is responsible for many important functions, and at night it processes the data received during the day and tries to get rid of stress. Particularly disturbing events, obsessive fears and severe shocks can appear in dreams and take on rather bizarre forms.
Scientists - somnologists from the Laboratory of Dreams and Nightmares (University of Montreal) have found that about 10% of dreams have erotic overtones and are completely unrelated to sex.
For example, sex with an unfamiliar man can mean a signal from the subconscious about the need to begin to show “masculine” qualities in reality: determination, openness of judgment, independence from other people’s opinions. And sex with your boss means the need to become the leader of your own life and career.
Thoughts about sex in reality can push the subconscious to form images of an erotic dream. Moreover, these thoughts can be completely fleeting, based on a phrase heard by chance, a long series of associations from an advertising poster, or a second of looking at a girl in a short skirt.
The thought appeared and disappeared, seemingly without a trace, but it remained in the brain and at night found its way out in the form of an erotic dream. The occurrence of these fleeting thoughts has nothing to do with a lack of sex, just as the dreams caused by these thoughts do not in any way reflect the state of the intimate life of the person seeing them.
Therefore, when asking the question “Why do you have erotic dreams?”, you need to understand that sometimes a dream is just a dream. Even if it is very pleasant.
What to do with nightmares and intrusive dreams?
First, let go of the shame. No one saw this dream except you. Don’t even think about running away and repenting. Don't take everything you see literally. If you dream about your ex, it doesn't mean you need to get back together. You are not an exhibitionist if you see yourself naked in your dreams. It's all just a set of images.
But if the dream repeats itself, it’s worth thinking about it. The same erotic dream (especially a nightmare) will not just happen. We need to dig. Dreams can reflect unrealized and hidden sexual desires on the verge of normality and pathology. Or your life situation is so tense (conflicts, grievances, etc.) that urgent intervention is required.
Nikolai Khvoshchinsky advises: “If a person does not get enough sleep after such dreams, this worries him throughout the day, he needs to see a psychotherapist. You may even need drug therapy. I'm not talking about the dreams of a mentally ill person, that's a different story. If dreams disrupt your normal life, it is better to deal with it with the help of a specialist.”
What and why do pregnant women dream?
Most scientists who, to one degree or another, study sleep problems are confident that sleep is one of the ways of processing information. Dreams simply reflect our most intense experiences and do not predict the future.
Often expectant mothers have dreams about their unborn child. In a dream, it may be a child of a certain gender or an animal associated with that gender. Many women find out about pregnancy itself in their dreams. This is quite natural, because the brain receives information about the sex of the child and its appearance, focusing on hormonal levels.
Children usually dream of being quite grown up. Most often this happens because the woman simply has a poor idea of what newborns look like. If an adult baby is dreamed of by a mother who is already giving birth again, this is often associated with her desire to quickly “skip” the difficult months of caring for the baby.
Scary dreams, as a rule, are associated with certain experiences and anxieties, especially those hidden deep in the subconscious.
Sometimes I have dreams in which the baby appears in the form of a monster, a freak. This is also just a reflection of concerns about the child’s health. If a mother fears for her own health, in a dream the child may look dangerous and threatening to her. A woman who is unsure of her abilities may dream of a completely healthy, but unhappy baby. In such cases, you need to bring the problem to a conscious level and convince yourself that nothing will happen to both of you.
Some women dream of painful childbirth, sometimes even with an unfavorable outcome. Such dreams are explained by simple fear of an unfamiliar event, since the psyche usually paints the unknown in gloomy tones. Some psychologists believe that these are memories of their own painful birth.
In a dream, a mother may lose her baby or it may be stolen. If the theft is committed by someone close to you, it means that you are afraid that this person will become a greater authority for the child than you yourself. In other cases, the loss of a child is explained by your lack of confidence in your abilities.
At different stages of pregnancy, you may have erotic dreams, sometimes very vivid ones. They can be caused by various reasons.
for some women, pregnancy is the trigger for the growth of female sexuality; the subconscious of some women screams that soon their whole life will depend on the child and on the love front everything will be sad, and erotic dreams are a kind of protest; sometimes a paradox works: now you don’t have to use protection (!), after which many women become more sexual in life.
If intimate life is limited due to pregnancy, the desire goes to the subconscious level and manifests itself in dreams. There is nothing shameful or dangerous in any erotic dreams. You should treat them calmly and get maximum pleasure!
As you can see, most dreams are connected with the surrounding reality, so before considering a dream prophetic, think carefully about what could have caused it.
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How to induce an erotic dream?
Theoretically, an erotic dream can be “ordered.” To do this you need to create a pleasant romantic atmosphere. Throw away all thoughts about work and pressing problems. Put on pleasant music, light candles with an exciting scent. Let your imagination run wild. If your own imagination is not enough, watch a movie. Just don't eat heavy food before bed, otherwise you'll be guaranteed a nightmare.
Have a nice sleep. But do not forget that real love is much more pleasant than even the most vivid fantasies.
Olga Vetrova
We thank Nikolai Khvoshchinsky, a sexologist at the Minsk City Psychoneurological Dispensary, for his help in preparing the material.
An erotic dream warns of problems3
Various erotic dream scenarios may reflect problems that exist in everyday life:
- if a person sleeping in a dream turns out to be a victim of violence, then in real life there is strong discomfort from communicating with others. Most likely, the environment is too oppressive with its edifications, and there is no one to talk about what worries you;
- when a person who has an erotic dream himself acts as a rapist, this indicates severe boredom and routine, which need to be urgently gotten rid of before depression sets in;
- masturbation in a dream means low self-esteem and fear of real relationships;
- sex in a dream with a famous person may indicate a desire to be in luxury and comfort, as well as the fact that the sleeper is not satisfied with the current financial situation and social status;
- Seeing yourself naked in a public place is a fairly common scenario for erotic visions. This dream indicates remorse from a wrong decision, bad deed or insult caused to a loved one;
- an erotic dream about sexual relations with parents speaks of a desire to have an influential patron;
- A group orgy in a dream is a bad signal. This dream can mean a great danger of being drawn into financial fraud and losing a large amount of money due to scammers.
But why you dream about your husband’s betrayal, you can find out in our article further on the link.
