Psychology of happiness: how male happiness differs from female happiness

Sex at home with husband

Why do men decide to cheat? Maybe because sexual relations with my wife leave much to be desired? Probably. A man may get tired of feeling cold and distant from his wife during sex. It is important for a man to feel the attention of his woman in bed and to receive satisfaction from sex. Of course, if his wife does not evoke such feelings, he will start a relationship with another more open and skillful woman.

It’s a strange fact that, according to numerous studies, 80% of women change dramatically in bed after marriage. What happens to them? Why, just by meeting her man, does a woman allow herself both passion and looseness in bed, agree to variety and even offer to have sex herself? And as soon as the stamp appears in her passport, she suddenly has a constant headache, she is embarrassed and behaves awkwardly in bed with her husband. Maybe just by becoming a wife, a woman realizes that cheeky behavior in bed will lead to her husband considering her a slutty girl? If this is so, then women are making a stupid mistake. It’s worth allowing everything in bed not only to the man, but also to yourself. But what does this “everything” mean? In fact, the concept of “allowing everything in bed” includes several simple rules, by adhering to which you can tie a man to you, and thereby discourage him from going “left”. So how to make a man sexually happy?

How to make a man happy: 10 tips

Have you already found the man of your dreams? Then make him truly happy! 10 useful tips will come in handy.

Show love

The chosen one must understand that you are crazy about him. Don't be afraid to show respect and admiration. Just hug him, press your shoulder while watching a movie together. Don't forget to praise, pat on the head, kiss.

Take care of yourself

Nobody wants a fat bald little thing next to them. The chosen one should look at you and rejoice, be proud, and show off. Don't let yourself go, take care of your body. Never skip waxing. Overgrown women look like old unwashed witches.

Let's have some personal space

The stronger sex values freedom. He can't be happy in a cage. Stop minding your own business. Don’t use your phone, stop asking for a password for your social page. The more freedom you give a man, the more willingly he opens up to you.

Pleasant surprises

Not necessarily expensive. Pamper your other half with pleasures. For example, have a romantic dinner and then a relaxing massage. Or buy a fishing rod with cool bells and whistles. Rest assured, your concern will be appreciated.

Become a friend

A wise woman knows how to turn from an ardent lover into an understanding comrade at the right time. Then they will start to trust you and will not run to their friends’ garage. There is you nearby, smart, reliable and faithful. A man is happy when his chosen one can be entrusted with the most intimate secrets, and then not worry about their safety.

Play fair

Sometimes women go too far. During a quarrel, a secret weapon is used - tears. A little secret: the stronger sex cannot stand snotty, hysterical women who, instead of apologizing, begin to press for pity. Learn to control yourself. A man is happy when he has a balanced person next to him, and not a crybaby.

Listen to your chosen one

He also needs to speak out. In a difficult situation, he looks for support - a person who is able to listen and give practical advice. Do you see that the man’s head is in dark thoughts? Bring into conversation and calmly listen to the stream of consciousness. He will relieve the tension in the conversation and begin to think soberly.

Never humiliate

A man is happy when he is respected. By teasing your chosen one, you are questioning his intelligence. Then don’t be surprised if your loved one flies away. Men hate grumpy women who always find a reason to be sarcastic.

Be a good housewife

Keeping the family hearth is a woman's responsibility. This is, in fact, why a man turns you on. Don't know how to wash, cook, clean? Learn! This is useful not only in family life, but also purely for yourself. Men are happy when the house is cozy, dinner is on the table, everything is clean and beautiful.

Speak well of his family

The stronger sex cannot stand it when a new passion begins to scold the mother-in-law and other relatives. Hold your tongue. Even if your man's parents do not inspire warm feelings, do not show antipathy. Better to remain diplomatically silent. You will not live with them, but you must maintain normal relations. A man is happy when there is peace and tranquility in his family.

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Rule one. Touch your man more often2

The longer a couple lives together, the less often the woman touches her man. But this becomes the first reason why men go “to the left.” They want their penis to be touched and given as much attention as the man himself. But women rarely do this. They have a whole series of excuses in their heads why they avoid touching their man. Why excite him, because then you will have to have more sex. It is not necessary that after “probing” the penis, a man will want sex. Just the fact that a woman pays attention to his “friend” already means a lot.

Rule two. Encourage your man to touch and make him admire.3

A beautiful female body always pleases a man. You need to give your chosen one the opportunity to enjoy small joys. For example, when getting dressed, ask him to fasten his bra. Let him see breasts once again, because it’s not for nothing that they say that men love with their eyes. When going to the shower, you should ask a man to rub his back - let him feel proud that the beautiful body he is rubbing belongs to him.

Rule three. Let the man, during orgasm, choose where he wants to “throw off” the result of his pleasure. Of course, this rule may simply amaze many. Allow a man to cum on his back, stomach or chest? What a horror! In fact, a man should be allowed everything in bed, including choosing the place to “cum.” Men love to see the result of their orgasm on their woman's body. It makes them incredibly excited.

What makes a man truly happy?

My husband and I found ourselves in a difficult situation when we were engaged. I remember asking what would make him happy, and the answer took me by surprise. He said: so that everything is fine with you
At that time I was under a lot of stress. We were moving and planning a wedding, and faced previously unknown challenges. And I was offended by him because he complicated my life, being, therefore, difficult!
I was unhappy, and this resulted in my relationship with my husband. Of course, he was wrong in some situations. But once I changed my attitude and adopted a more positive attitude, everything changed. He was happy and our relationship improved.

All a guy wants is for his woman to be happy. Yes, home-cooked food and a sexy outfit will certainly be appreciated by your man, but this is not the most important thing for happiness. It's not so much what you do, but how you feel with your partner.

Women set the emotional tone of relationships in many ways. We have much more control over the situation than we think. What you put out is what you get back.

Rule five. Intimate caresses in front of a man.5

Do you want something new in your relationship? Great! You can surprise and please your man if you start playing with yourself right in front of him.

Men love to watch, and watching their beloved masturbate herself is just a delight for them! It’s better to look at your woman than to admire girls masturbating in hot porn videos.

Men's happiness. What is it like?

Dear women, thank you for your answers about how you understand male happiness.

I will try to answer this question both as a man and as a specialist psychologist, that is, I will share my personal feelings and, so to speak, theoretical reasoning...

For me, this concept is, first of all, associated with work, the work that I once chose (quite many years ago), I work as a doctor, and I like this work. To the best of my ability, I improved my knowledge and skills, and seemed to have achieved some success... BUT the satisfaction from this would not be complete if I did not have my own family...

For example, I like it when I support my wife both morally and financially (without bragging, it’s really true, I feel satisfaction inside when I see that she is grateful to me and feels protected with me).

As for sex, yes, it should be there too, and if there is not enough of it, then something seems to be missing in life, well, just like when you eat food that is not very tasty, that is, life becomes insipid...

Children and grandchildren are also needed for life, well, it’s like everyone else... after all, in the end, you need to pass on your life experience and accumulated knowledge to someone, how could you do without it...

As for purely male strength, physical, so to speak, I have a slight deficiency in this, and on this side I am not completely satisfied, but this is fixable...

And also, in order to be happy, it seems to me that you need to have great patience and strive to achieve your goal (everyone can have their own goal) at all costs...

To briefly , how I imagine male happiness is the following: the main thing is that your family and friends believe in you , love you, feel protected with you, know that you are reliable and will not let you down under any circumstances.

...And if you look back at your past life , it seems to me that the more people you love, and the more people love you, the happier you are.

In connection with the topic we are discussing, I remembered the story of my Psychology Teacher (he worked in a colony among prisoners as an expert psychologist for more than a quarter of a century) about what criminals think and feel before death. So, the Teacher told us (and I think that he had good reasons for this) that before his death a criminal tries to remember, to remember what good he did in his life, what good deed, what deed he did in his life...

When a person before the line, any person, remembers only good deeds and deeds, he hopes that after his death at least someone will remember him with a good feeling...

Rule seven. Morning sex is mandatory.7

Morning sex is great. And men, by their nature, feel an unbearable erection in the morning and they want to have sex. And a woman must satisfy a man in the morning, especially since she herself will feel good. And the result will be excellent. Not only will the man be satisfied with the morning release, but he will also leave home with “empty balls.”

We have collected proven methods for satisfying a man in bed in the article at the link.

A few simple rules and your sex life with your beloved man will be filled with vivid emotions and deep feelings. Therefore, you definitely need to allow everything in bed, both for yourself and for your chosen one.

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Modern society is constantly changing, and with it the lifestyle of men and women is changing. Modern representatives of the fair sex are becoming more independent and strong than before. However, according to psychologists, the concept of happiness among people still remains traditional and unchanged.

Basic principles of male happiness

According to research by psychologists, most representatives of the stronger sex strive to obtain approximately similar benefits in their lives. Traditionally, it is the man who is entrusted with the role of breadwinner, who must feed his family and provide his relatives with a safe and comfortable life. Therefore, for many men, work plays an important role, where they can express themselves, move up the career ladder, and also earn a decent amount.

It is equally important for a man to be influential and strong. He doesn't want to be a weak person who can be easily defeated or humiliated. After all, if he allows another to do this, this will mean an infringement of his authority.

Victories on the love front also play an important role in a man’s life. Traditionally, there is an opinion that rich experience in communicating with women is more likely to be welcomed among the stronger sex, while a woman’s abundance of lovers is condemned.

Successful communication with ladies is often a confirmation for men of their own uniqueness and popularity. However, this does not mean that men are looking exclusively for short-term romances: they, just like women, want the sincere love of a permanent partner.

Basic principles of female happiness

The basic principles of female happiness are usually associated with the presence of a beloved and loving partner, family and children. It is believed that it is in such conditions that ladies blossom and become the most charming and beautiful. According to psychologists, a strong relationship with a man is really important for women and helps them feel much more comfortable.

For many women, creativity, art and self-expression also play a special role. As a rule, the desire for beauty is much more pronounced in women than in men. It is likely that this is due to the emotions that the fair sex receives from music, dance or works of art. Labor and work play an important role in a woman’s life, in which ladies also try to succeed.

It’s hard to imagine a happy lady who won’t laugh merrily in the company of her friends or discuss something for a long time with a friend on the phone. Communication is an important part of a woman's happiness. Usually, representatives of the fair sex understand well that girlfriends are very valuable people, because you can’t talk to a man about all the topics of interest.

Male and female happiness: main similarities and differences

Basically, the principles of male and female happiness are the same. Representatives of both sexes want to love and be loved, express themselves and look for themselves, communicate with people around them. The only thing that can differ is people’s inclination towards a certain resource in life. For example, it is important for women to have a permanent partner; many of them sincerely want to get married, even if they have not yet met their chosen one.

Men view marriage a little more simply: it is more important for them to realize themselves in work and earn the desired authority. However, this does not mean that family is not important for a man - he is simply more focused on other achievements in life.

It is a mistake to believe that work is not so important for women: according to psychologists, it is also important for women to work and achieve professional success.

A man and a woman almost equally strive for harmonious communication with others, for friendship with different people. According to experts in the field of psychology, such communication is still more important for women than for men. This is likely due to the fact that ladies are more prone to social activity.

It should also be noted that the concept of happiness is completely different for each person. Family, love, work or hobbies are the main components of our life. We tend to pay more attention to some of them, and to some less.

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01.05.2019 00:43