Women's libido and sexuality are not inferior in strength to men's. The problem lies in the complexes that fill the consciousness of the fair sex regarding their own appearance. This leads to missing body signals that interfere with liberation and a fulfilling sex life.
The author of the Journal of Sexual Medicine study, psychologist Cindy Meston, characterizes her position with the following statement: “When a man approaches orgasm, he doesn’t care what his partner’s breasts look like at that moment, he doesn’t even open his eyes. The woman, on the contrary, is full of thoughts: “Oh, God, in this position my breasts look like spaniel ears, I need to change them urgently!” The man has nothing to do with it, it’s all about women’s self-esteem.”
Uncertainty about one’s external attractiveness is the first on the list of factors that prevent one from fully enjoying intimate intimacy. How to increase a woman's sexuality? Solve the main problem - when consciousness “does not keep up” with physiology.
Several years ago, scientists made an important discovery according to which the physiological and emotional are not interconnected. University of Toronto sexologist Meridith Chivers concluded that when watching videos of erotic content, a man with an erection experiences sexual desire. The woman, feeling a rush of blood to the genitals, did not feel sexual desire.
The longer the ladies watched erotica, the more consistently these two types of arousal manifested themselves. Representatives of the fair sex need more time to “catch up” with their body. For them, foreplay before sexual intercourse is a prerequisite for achieving orgasm.
Origins of the problem
“The vast majority of women do not listen to the signals given by the genitals; it is not in our nature to pay due attention to them,” says Cindy Meston. Intimate organs are invisible, small, and the changes occurring in them are not noticeable in order to send a signal to the consciousness about the desire to satisfy carnal needs. Experiencing a strong erection, a man will not be able to ignore it, hence the active offensive reaction.”
How to increase feminine energy and sexuality? Learn to understand your body! The varying degrees of agreement between physiological and psychological arousal among the sexes, according to Chivers, goes to the root of biology. It has been proven that men understand their bodies better than women. For example, the stronger half has a more developed interoceptive consciousness; they will determine their pulse rate almost accurately. The weaker sex does not have such skills.
Perhaps the harmony of mind and body during physical arousal in men is the result of receiving direct carnal signals from the organs; women are “tuned” to a wider range when personal ideas about their own attractiveness come into play.
How and when to train intimate muscles
So, our goal is to strengthen the vaginal muscles in order to prevent or eliminate the unpleasant consequences described above. Training intimate muscles will certainly have a positive effect: they will help in the prevention and treatment of diseases of the urinary and reproductive system, and improve intimate life. As a result of training, the pelvic tissues become more elastic, blood circulation in them improves, and more female hormones are produced. We emphasize that in serious stages of weakening of the muscles of the vagina and pelvic floor, when pronounced prolapse of organs is already observed, only surgery will help! However, after it, such gymnastics will also be useful to consolidate the achieved effect and prevent exacerbations. In addition, it is useful to train the pelvic muscles in preparation for pregnancy, in the second and third trimesters of pregnancy (if the doctor allows!) - in order to avoid ruptures during childbirth and reduce the likelihood of labor weakness.
“It is especially useful to start training 6 weeks after giving birth in order to avoid pelvic floor prolapse and reduce vaginal volume. However, if there was a caesarean section, you will have to postpone classes for six months.
If when you hear the word “workout” you imagine physical activity “to the point of a sweat,” then in this case you are wrong! On the contrary, if the load on the abdominal muscles is too intense, the condition will most likely worsen - tension in the abdominal muscles leads to increased pressure in the abdominal cavity. For training intimate muscles, there is a special set of exercises called imbuilding (wumbuilding) , which helps strengthen the deep muscles carefully, without “pumping up” the muscles of the thighs and buttocks.
Before we begin to strengthen the muscles of the perineum, we must first learn to feel what exactly we are going to train. This can be done in a simple way: - stop urinating abruptly and remember which muscles worked; - squeeze and relax the muscles in the anus. At the same time, other muscles - the back, buttocks, abdomen - should not work.
With proper regular exercise, a positive result becomes noticeable after a month and a half. If after 3-4 months there is no improvement, or you feel discomfort or pain during exercise, you need to stop training and inform your gynecologist about it!
“Please note that there are also contraindications for such activities – for example, inflammatory diseases of the genital area.
Meditation
Challenge: learn to concentrate your mind and direct it in the right direction every time distracting stimuli arise.
Hindus know how to increase sexuality; it is not without reason that among the masters who have mastered the art of meditation to perfection, there are so many trainers of tantric practices and other erotic directions.
You should start with the easiest exercise - pick up a coin or button and slowly study the object: look at it from all sides, touch it, smell it, taste it. If the brain begins to be distracted by extraneous stimuli, it is necessary to return it to the object calmly and carefully. It is enough to devote up to 10 minutes a day to exercise - in the subway, while walking.
Useful exercise: close your eyes, remain silent, abstract yourself, concentrate on your own breathing.
Exploring your own body
Task: during intimacy, ignore thoughts about your weaknesses and strengths.
How to increase sexuality? Accustom yourself to accept yourself as you are, without complexes and embarrassment. When taking a bath or shower, drying yourself with a towel, look at your body. As soon as your consciousness begins to form an assessment of appearance, switch to impartial contemplation. Repeat the procedure with a small mirror, examining each part of the body in detail, paying attention to the genitals. Refrain from value judgments, just contemplate and concentrate on what is in front of your eyes.
How to increase the sensitivity of the head of the penis in men?
In order to increase the sensitivity of the penis, it is necessary to understand the reason that led to the deterioration. If this is associated with a disease, it is necessary to cure the infection, the disease that caused the decrease in sensitivity. Only after this will she recover. There are also special tools and techniques to improve the sensitivity of the penis.
Methods to improve sensitivity in men:
- One of the best and simplest options is to use feathers. You need to purchase special feathers in a sex shop, which differ in their size and softness. It is necessary to alternate harder feathers with soft ones, running them along the head of the penis. It is advisable to carry out the procedure immediately before sexual intercourse. This will help improve sensitivity.
- You can also increase the sensitivity of the penis using special ointments and creams. Nowadays, a decent amount of products are sold in sex shops. They contain L-carnitine, arginine, as well as oils and vitamins. Such substances help improve blood circulation in the penis cells and speed up metabolism. Accordingly, because of this, sensitivity will improve.
- It is also worth normalizing blood circulation in the genital area. This is usually done by avoiding tight jeans and tight panties. Choose sweatpants or looser trousers that do not restrict movement and do not pinch the penis or perineal area.
- Avoid cycling to avoid injury to the perineal area. It is necessary to regularly carry out hygiene procedures with the application of emollient creams and products to normalize sensitivity. We do not recommend taking any pills or medications to increase sensitivity. Such drugs are prescribed only by a doctor, because they can aggravate the situation and lead to irreversible consequences.
During sex
Sexuality in every movement
Men compare graceful ladies to cats. The animal’s movements are smooth, graceful, there is no fuss or haste in them, and it does each with a sense of dignity and superiority. What woman doesn't want to be described like that? People with increased sexuality watch their gestures, facial expressions, and move with a leisurely, attractive gait. Unfortunately, there are only a few of these. There are more people who are always in a hurry, who do not have time to do anything, who are abrupt and fussy. With their behavior, such women scare men away. For example, dressing up in a beautiful dress, doing a stunning hairstyle and makeup, but moving ugly, will not succeed in seducing the object of desire. Have you ever wondered what you look like from the outside? A few simple recommendations will answer the question of how to increase and develop sexuality.
Poor vaginal sensitivity in women: causes
Many women are faced with the problem of decreased vaginal sensitivity during sexual intercourse. The most interesting thing is that not all women know about vaginal orgasm, despite the fact that in 90% of cases they can satisfy themselves on their own during masturbation. Accordingly, a decrease in vaginal sensitivity may have nothing to do with a woman’s health. Although such factors are also not excluded.
Causes:
- Most often, the reason for the lack of sensitivity is the inexperience of the partner. Perhaps there is no foreplay, which is necessary for arousal and lubrication. Accordingly, the walls are dry, or, on the contrary, excessively wet, this leads to the fact that the woman does not feel the penis inside her. You need to talk to your partner and talk about your sexual fantasies.
- In most cases, for a woman to have an orgasm, much more effort is needed than for men. Therefore, do not hesitate to talk to your partner, tell him how you want to have sex. Accordingly, only 10% of cases of decreased sensitivity can be associated with health problems.
- This is usually associated with diseases of the reproductive system. Occurs due to vaginitis, cervicitis, and inflammation of the appendages.
- Decreased sensitivity is associated with endometritis, ovarian cyst, and lack of lubrication.
- Decreased vaginal sensitivity is also associated with diabetes, diseases of the cardiovascular system, menopause, and the use of large amounts of alcohol or drugs.
- The use of antidepressants or oral contraceptives provokes a decrease in libido and pleasure from sex.
- Psychological reasons are of great importance. This is stress, depression, guilt.
- Sexual traumas that are associated with rape, perverted sexual acts, sexual violence. Because of this experience, a woman cannot normally experience arousal and orgasm.
Poor sensitivity during sex in women
The gait of a tigress, ready to jump at any moment
How wide do you spread your legs when walking? Spread some newspapers on the floor and wet your feet. Take measurements using fresh footprints - measure the distance between the footprints with a ruler. The optimal width between the legs is 7-10 centimeters. If you have more and you are not pregnant, work on your gait!
You can measure your stride length in a similar way. The permissible figure for women is up to 65 centimeters. Even if you are late for an important meeting, you should not run like a marathon runner after a trolleybus and jump over a step on the stairs - you still won’t be able to gain much time, and you will definitely lose “face”.
Beautiful shoes. Properly selected comfortable shoes can change your gait, and heels can increase the length of your legs. The rule is simple: a rise of up to 7 centimeters visually lengthens it, from 7 centimeters and above shortens it.
How to increase the sexuality of a woman at 48 years old? Let's reveal the secret! Men prefer stiletto heels that fit the leg; the toe should be pointed or open.
Correct postures are an important step towards perfection. When practicing the correct gait, do not forget about taking beautiful poses. Try to sit sideways on a chair, starting a smooth movement from the hip - this looks attractive. Do not stand with your back to the chair, the result of such a landing will be a flabby “plop”. To avoid causing ridicule from others, practice sitting on a chair “from the hip” at home in front of a mirror.
Laughter increases sexuality. Cheerfulness and healthy irony are constant companions of attractiveness. Appropriate, ringing laughter, without extraneous sounds, a radiant smile is guaranteed to add “points” to a woman in a man’s eyes. Agree, few people would like to contemplate a gloomy person opposite them, ready to cry in the next second.
The presence of a man who evokes unbridled desire and passion puts you in a stupor, don’t be too tight. Relax (take a deep breath of fresh air, splash your face with cold water, pat yourself on the cheeks). Don't fuss - it won't increase a woman's sexuality, gesticulate as little as possible, don't laugh with your mouth wide open, don't stumble, don't fly into objects like a whirlwind. All these actions will work against you, and the man will be left with a bad impression.
Don't write off the game elements either. Got an awkward pause in the conversation? Fill it with playful manipulation of your hair (winding a curl around your finger, throwing a strand back), rocking a shoe, fingering a glass of wine. It's important not to overdo it here. Otherwise, the interlocutor may interpret your gestures as outright boredom, when you are ready to do anything to take your mind off his stories.
Causes of sexual pathology
A number of factors of different nature and different intensity of influence on the body can lead to decreased sensitivity of the penis. Let's look at the main ones.
Lifestyle
Sedentary work, and especially sedentary work, creates the ground for deterioration of blood circulation in the pelvic organs, which leads to a number of pathologies, including sexual dysfunction and decreased sensitivity of the head.- Smoking, alcohol abuse and drug addiction, in addition to the general negative impact on the body, can also lead to similar problems in sexual life.
- On the other hand, people involved in certain sports are also at risk.
For example, sports doctors have confirmed that professional cyclists are more likely to experience reduced sensitivity in the penis than other athletes. If you are a professional cyclist or just enjoy cycling, try to alternate cycling with other types of physical activity, and avoid long rides.
Psychological factor
No matter how important the physical and physiological factors are, psychological problems and a negative emotional state remain the most important and most important factor that can deprive a man of the fullness of sexual sensations. Deterioration of tactile sensations most often results from:
- Psychological problems in relationships with the opposite sex.
- Sexual complexes, severe stiffness, tightness (you are not liberated at all).
- Psychological and mental disorders - neuroses, depression, etc.
When treating decreased sensitivity of the penis, you should first take time to identify and eliminate possible psychological problems.
Important! Often the root of the problem lies precisely in the patient’s head, and a visit to a sexologist can sometimes help better than any therapy.
Diseases
Reduced sensitivity can result from various infectious diseases. This is especially true for venereal and urological diseases. For example, prolonged inflammation of the glans penis and foreskin with balanoposthitis can lead to the appearance of small scars on the epithelium, which negatively affects tactile perception.
General diseases not related to the genitourinary system also sometimes affect the sensitivity of the penis. In addition, they may be an indirect cause of the problem. Some medications can cause a temporary decrease in sensitivity, which goes away soon after you stop taking them.
Diseases of the endocrine and cardiovascular systems, that is, diseases that cause pathological conditions of the blood vessels, can have a strong impact on men's health. During the clinical examination of a patient with low sensitivity of the head, tests are often prescribed to detect diabetes mellitus.
Injuries
Various injuries can also cause a decrease in sensory sensitivity of the glans penis. The most common injuries are:
- Mechanical injuries to the penis and perineum most often occur during falls, blows, and fights. Sometimes the cause of injury is non-compliance with safety precautions at work. Damage can also be caused unknowingly by children or pets while playing.
- Chemical injuries occur as a result of exposure of the penile mucosa to aggressive chemicals. Thus, the most common are burns caused by household chemicals. This category also includes thermal burns and frostbite.
The main danger of injury is that the traumatic effect can damage the nerve endings of the head or even the nerves themselves. In this case, it will be much more difficult to restore sensitivity, especially if the situation is aggravated by the appearance of a scar.
Other reasons
Other reasons for low sensitivity of the penis include too frequent and active masturbation. For men who have a full sex life, it is no secret that masturbation and sexual intercourse bring completely different sensations.
Attention! During masturbation, the penis is subjected to a much stronger impact.
The habit of receiving pleasure in this way can cause decreased sensitivity due to two accompanying factors:
- Microtraumas of the head and frenulum of the penis.
- Psychological problems.
Also, the cause can sometimes be tight, incorrectly selected underwear, pinching the perineum and preventing normal blood supply to the genitals.
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Products to help
In war, all means are good, therefore, having studied and worked out the methods of physical attractiveness, you should move on to gastronomic attractiveness. We are talking about aphrodisiacs - products that enhance sexuality. When planning to cook dinner, use the ingredients described below as the basis of your dishes and you are guaranteed an unforgettable evening!
Oysters. They contain the enzyme dopamine, which can increase desire in both sexes. Seafood is rich in zinc, which is responsible for the growth of the hormone testosterone and stimulates sperm production.
How to increase feminine energy and sexuality? Eat more bananas! Bromelain contained in fruits increases sexual activity. High concentrations of potassium and vitamin B stimulate the production of sex hormones. Banana is a generator of sexual energy.
Dark chocolate is a well-known aphrodisiac that has repeatedly proven its effectiveness. Intense production of endorphins - hormones of happiness, improves mood and stimulates the pleasure center in the brain. This is a good answer to the question, how to increase sexuality in men? Phenylethylamine increases sexual arousal in the stronger sex; it is also called the “substance of love.”
How to increase vaginal sensitivity in women?
In order to increase sensitivity, it is necessary to cure diseases of the reproductive system, cope with stress, irritability and talk with your sexual partner. If decreased sensitivity is associated with different tastes in sex, you need to talk to your partner. Explain how you would like to experiment and talk about your sexual fantasies. Only in this case will you be able to regain sensitivity and get satisfaction from sexual intercourse.
Ways to improve sensitivity in women:
- If decreased sensitivity is due to stretching of the vaginal muscles after childbirth, it is best to do Kegel exercises, which restore muscle elasticity and restore sensitivity. You also need to learn more about your erogenous zones. Feel free to purchase a dildo and explore your body.
- Pay attention to which areas of the body provoke the strongest arousal. Perhaps you don't know yourself enough. Try stimulating the G-spot, which is located in the vagina, at a distance of 4 cm from the entrance, from above. To do this, just insert two fingers bent with a hook and stimulate in a circle or from side to side. After stimulating this point, you will feel the release of a large amount of lubricant.
- You can also stimulate the clitoris during intercourse. Many women use stimulation through the anus. To do this, you can purchase special dildos called “bunnies.” They resemble ears of different sizes, one thinner, the other thicker.
- Chat with your partner, try using such a dildo and deal with sensitivity. Ask your partner to do the same during intercourse.
Bunny dildo
Woman and man are two sides of the same coin
The nature of male and female sexuality is different. It is hardly possible to call two people of different sexes who have identical character traits and personal qualities attractive. An analogy can be drawn with the concepts of masculinity and femininity - what we consider feminine and masculine.
Increased female sexuality is determined by her ability to be fragile, meek, tender, mysterious, sensitive and emotional. A woman who is open to everyone and everyone, just as she is rude like a soldier, cannot arouse desire. Masculinity is completely different: the sexuality of the stronger sex is perseverance, toughness, the desire for dominance, independence and self-confidence.
It is necessary for both sexes to take care of their appearance within reason. Pedantic men, fixated on their appearance, cause antipathy.
