Heartache. Being married I still love my first love.

Do men forget their first love?

Or do they remember her?
Does it remain in your memory for the rest of your life? I haven’t forgotten, although I tell everyone that I forgot.

If you don't suffer from amnesia, you should remember

I know a lot of men who haven’t forgotten, but I don’t just mean school love, etc., but the first serious relationship. It all depends on the circumstances, who in that couple loved more, why they broke up, etc. If you were in love, and the girl broke off the relationship, there is a good chance that you haven’t forgotten.

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I had a bad experience with the greenness of the years. As for the garlic, I'm glad I left.

I was the first love of two men. Both say that they remember that they still have feelings and that they can’t feel that way for anyone else.

This is a very important idea. I'm a soldier. There is nothing higher than this. I'm protecting you. You live thanks to me, I created you and raised you. What difference does it make if someone doesn't know something? We don’t even know how this world works. The only thing that matters is what I know, and I know, I saw it, I know the truth on the one hand.

It makes no difference whether it is a man or a woman. No one ever forgets their first love. It remains a trail of childhood excitement and tender trepidation. But not more. Just warm memories without a hint of deep feelings and love.

I was the first love of two men. Both say that they remember that they still have feelings and that they can’t feel that way for anyone else.

I'm not saying because I ran into a sheep. I successfully handed it over to good hands, I admit that.

Women tend to exaggerate the significance of their first relationship and generalize. the trepidation quickly merged with that unease. experience. I admit, I’m glad we ran away. It was *****. gone.

Or do they remember her? Does it remain in your memory for the rest of your life?

A man does not forget the one with whom he had no relationship, but really wanted to. And it doesn’t matter what kind of love it is)

I thought a boy at school had a crush on me. One day he gave me flowers, looked at me all the time, etc. Once I was surfing social networks in search of former classmates. I added many, including him. I didn’t write anything to anyone, someone later wrote it themselves, someone just silently added. I was amazed by his reaction - at first he couldn’t understand who I was (well, that’s right, we were 10-11 years old then, everyone had changed), and when I answered that we went to school together, he asked: “Why, I your first love, or what?” I was left in a daze. Then I was in love with someone else completely. I thought he remembered something, but he forgot. For some reason I remember my first love at this age. I think men only remember their first serious relationship. But not things like that.

Women tend to exaggerate the significance of their first relationship and generalize. the trepidation quickly merged with that unease. experience. I admit, I’m glad we ran away. It was *****. gone.

Plusan. due to the stupidity of age, I got into a “relationship” with an inadequate woman. Hormones confused. nostalgia for zeros. experience, no more. I admit, people have bad memories, but that’s not my case.

I was the first love of two men. Both say that they remember that they still have feelings and that they can’t feel that way for anyone else.

And so it is for me. And also for two. Plus, my ex, whom I dated for 4 years, still writes. And I remember my first love. I have mixed feelings, but just as I loved him selflessly, I couldn’t do it for anyone else. And I myself asked this question about my husband. Does he remember? I just asked him which relationship besides ours he remembered most. He answered that 1 love. I found her on social networks. He said his full name. So he looked at her photos like that. . I was completely jealous. He then said that he was glad that she was doing well.

If they don’t have sclerosis, then of course they remember. They just don’t “remember” to inflate some significance out of this, well, they remember that they loved Masha Petrova in their first year - and nothing more.

I don't remember. When the current relationship is successful, why remember the affairs of bygone days? I don’t even remember my first husband.

I looked at it out of sport interest. I will say this, when you are young, all flowers are flowers. Now there is an aunt, battered by time, with altered volumes, such a silhouette of a woman from the market, she has grown heavier, there is little interesting.

Women tend to exaggerate the significance of their first relationship and generalize. the trepidation quickly merged with that unease. experience. I admit, I’m glad we ran away. It was *****. gone.

Men tend to think for the bubbs, they probably think that they are such experts, they know better than the bubbs what they are thinking about. To be honest, we are fighting for our first love and I think the same for him.

Guys, social networks are a topic. Recently I was leafing through my former classmates. I saw a familiar face on Ava. Well, I think you look good after a year. I came in and leafed through her photos. A collection of portraits with a typical normal half-profile. I saw her in full growth with another former classmate - there were such mammoths standing there, arms in girth like Poles. Chicks were heard. Yes, Photoshop rules (currently in portraits)

I will say this, when you are young, all flowers are flowers. Now there is an aunt, battered by time, with altered volumes, such a silhouette of a woman from the market, she has grown heavier, there is little interesting.

When I read this, I remember what all the men on the street look like - scary, pot-bellied, jacked-off men. Do you think it’s nice to see you on social networks?) sexy man? Perhaps he hasn't aged? didn't you get fat? ***** without jowls?

For the same reason, I don’t register on social networks and don’t look for any contacts with former loves. I want them to remain young, slim and beautiful in my memory forever. I don’t want to see them as pot-bellied, bald, gray guys, and for them to see me as a withered woman. And whoever remembers whom, let him be shrouded in mystery.

I look at my loves on social networks and for me they are still the same as then - not old, not fat, probably the first loves of old men are getting fat and aging. well, it’s like the old hkreer looked at his first love 30-40 years ago, which was then a striking change on his face, he’s already gotten used to his old fucker and old gray balls. and when only 5-10 years have passed, it is not so noticeable - obesity and wrinkles.

Hey And so do I. And also for two. Plus, my ex, whom I dated for 4 years, still writes. And I remember my first love. I have mixed feelings, but just as I loved him selflessly, I couldn’t do it for anyone else. And I myself asked this question about my husband. Does he remember? I just asked him which relationship besides ours he remembered most. He answered that 1 love. I found her on social networks. He said his full name. So he looked at her photos like that. . I was completely jealous. He then said that he was glad that she was doing well. I looked at it out of sport interest. I will say this, when you are young, all flowers are flowers. Now there is an aunt, battered by time, with altered volumes, such a silhouette of a woman from the market, she has grown heavier, there is little interesting.

In my case, there is a very, very attractive common-law wife of a football player (a club from the Russian Premier League). They have a child. There are few photographs, but high quality. And in general, it turns out that my husband knew that she was with the football player. This means that after their separation he followed her life.

Personally, my ex told me about his first love, how he suffered. Then the husband admitted that it was unrequited. And recently, my husband’s friend touched on this topic and even sent me a link to the VK page of his first love. Among my girlfriends and acquaintances, strangely enough, I don’t remember discussing first love.

Does first love last for men?

Sociologists have found that a person can be truly happy in marriage

only if he married the person he loved for the first time. Therefore, they do not advise falling in love in youth in order to find happiness in later life. Having studied the psychology of relationships between married couples who have lived together for a long time, sociologists have come to the conclusion that first love becomes an unrealistic measure that does not make it possible to see the positive character traits of the person who is now nearby.

Many people perceive the topic of first love with particular reverence.

, for some it is a joy for life, but for others it is eternal pain... Subconsciously, everyone who was in love in their youth wants to go back to the past and meet their first love again. Despite the fact that each of them already has their own family, rarely anyone manages to control their feelings. That is why, even after 20 years, it seems to many that all may not be lost and there is an opportunity to bring back those happy moments of life that remind of themselves through the purity and sincerity of relationships.

First love

- this is a personal test of a person, in it he gains experience and opens up. It is precisely because a person who is in love for the first time feels more and more strongly that memories of his first love excite him all his life. But why then do these feelings rarely stand the test and do not lead to a long, happy life together? This is the fallacy of the judgments of many lovers, who believe that if they were together with their first love, then their reverent feelings could overcome all obstacles and would last forever.

After the breakup memories

first love is overgrown with a pink veil of sentimentality, a person begins to idealize this love and over time it turns into a good plot for an Indian melodrama. Nostalgia for first love is especially powerful at times when problems arise in your personal life, when the person next to you has offended you in some way. Current relationships seem gray and boring, while those that used to be real and beautiful. After all, in that relationship there were no responsibilities and problems, there was no need to perform household duties and earn a living. At that time the world was full of joy and romance.

Sociological research

showed that men are nostalgic about their first love only if there is a lack of attention from their wife, but women can remain faithful to their teenage feelings for many years, despite the fact that they are surrounded by the care and love of their husband. Because of strong feelings of love, women do not notice their happiness and cannot adequately reciprocate to the one who now truly loves her and is nearby. How a person experiences his first love determines his future well-being and ability to build family relationships.

Advice from psychologists

The psychology of feelings is such that it is difficult to lose love, but it is even more difficult to accept it and move on. Happiness doesn't end after a breakup. There are many opportunities in the world that will help make life brighter and more interesting. The main thing is not to get hung up on one partner.

To make it easier to cope with a breakup, psychologists advise using the following recommendations:

It is necessary to put an end to the relationship, calm down and realize that the couple is no longer there. If it is difficult to realize this on your own, you can consult a psychologist. A specialist will help you get rid of love addiction.
There is no need to suppress your tears. If you want to cry, then you need to give vent to your feelings. For atmosphere, you can turn on a sad film or read dramatic stories. But you need to stop after splashing out negative emotions, otherwise there is a risk of falling into deep depression. 2-3 days are enough for discharge.
A new hobby is a great way to take your mind off worries and bad moods. After a breakup, it's time to start a hobby that you didn't have time for before.
Transformation is a great way to relieve sadness for women. If a girl loses weight, goes in for sports, goes to the spa and hairdresser, then she will blossom again, and not a trace will remain of thoughts about the guy. The former boyfriend will be replaced by new interesting men.
There is no need to immediately rush into the maelstrom of a new relationship, because you will want to see the features of your ex-boyfriend in your chosen one. A man will not be able to live up to expectations, and separation will not be long in coming, so nothing good will come from such a union.
Don't lock yourself at home. Lack of contact with the outside world is the path to depression. You need to meet with friends more often, go to the cinema, roller skate. The more active your social life is, the easier it is to survive a difficult period.
Do not forget that no matter how strong love is, it is not the last.

Don't expect quick results. Relief will come gradually. If there is no improvement, there is no need to hesitate. Psychologists will help you cope with your depressed mood and forget your ex-boyfriend forever.

Does first love last for men?

First love and its meaning in a person’s life

First love. So many books, paintings, poems and songs have been written about her, so many films have been made that it seems that there are no secrets or omissions left. But why does the heart shrink so much at just the memory? Inexplicable.

First love. A sabbath of feelings, tons of adrenaline and a mental coma - the mind simply turned off. Sound familiar? Poems were written even by those who had a vocabulary at the level of Ellochka the cannibal. And let them turn out something like: “the aquarium fish are sleeping, I’m still waiting for your smile.” But these were poems about love.

When we fall in love for the first time, we become so naive, confused, vulnerable and crazy. The first feeling reveals in us a unique gift given by God - the happiness of loving.

Only the first feeling can be so pure. Everything that comes after is more mature, more boring, more rational, more vicious. Yes, the older a person is, the more multifaceted his feeling is, yes, it can be deeper. But it couldn't be more desperate. And more confidently: this is forever. You can’t live without her, don’t smile, don’t breathe.

First love is like the first step. Having done it, you feel the strength to conquer the world. The delight of discovery, the absence of fear and wings behind your back. She remains with us, like a magical gift from heaven, filling the soul with something strong, beautiful, unknown. And pain. “For some reason, in love, which comes at 15, very few people are lucky,” one of the bards sang. And it is true. There are very few examples of happy first love that continued and became a happy life in love. But the fact that it affects the lives of each of us is beyond doubt.

It is later, in the bustle of the world, that we waste it. But some may not be given a second chance in love. What do we know about her?

Men, remembering their first love, are often surprised: “What a fool I was!” But stubborn statistics insist: they often choose the one who resembles their first love as a wife. Features, hair, figure.

And women, sometimes, cannot come to terms with the fact that the one who once loved has become a stranger. For them, he is always a boy in love, and the thought that he is somewhere warms the soul and even turns a forty-year-old, even for a moment, into that girl who blushed awkwardly and covered the diary with hearts.

“Arthur Capel’s first love reciprocated his feelings. And he was her first and only love. Until there was a job. It was Arthur who helped her get up and lent her the initial capital to organize her own business - by that time their relationship had lasted a good ten years. Arthur Capel proposed to Coco Chanel (and it was she), and was refused. Not because he was not good enough for her, but because she could not leave things and kept repeating: “I am not suitable for the role of a wife.” Arthur Capel married an English aristocrat, but was never able to leave Chanel. And for her, he forever remained that young and loving boy with an enthusiastic look.”

By and large, first love can be called a school of humanity. Relationship lessons. And no matter how these relationships end, they are priceless, because they teach you to be human, for the first time they discover the unselfish depth and nobility of spiritual impulses.

And we must admit that the fundamental difference between first love and all the other stories of our lives is precisely that we can surrender to feelings entirely and completely only when we fall in love for the first time. And in the future, no matter how much we want it, we are not able to overcome rationalism. And it is no longer love that comes first, but reason.

It is those who love with reason who came up with the division of love into first and real. But how can you call something unreal that fills your heart with sunshine, smells like lilacs and makes you see pink clouds?

Anyone who remembers his first love will never say to his first and unrequitedly in love child: “You will have many more like him. " Because he knows: there won’t be “such people” anymore.

Share your memories of your first love and the role it played in your life!

Why can't I forget?

One of the main difficulties of first love is that this feeling can emerge in memory even years after separation. Such echoes of the past prevent you from enjoying life and forming serious relationships. There are 3 main reasons why you can’t get past love out of your head.

There are feelings

It is difficult to forget love if it is still warm in the heart. This occurs more often with non-reciprocal feelings. When the couple was dating, everyone was happy, but one partner decided that they needed to break up.

If little time has passed since the breakup, constant thoughts about your ex-passion are normal. It takes about 6 months for a person to realize and accept a breakup.

But when bright feelings prevent you from enjoying life for many years, the problem may be psychological in nature. Fixation on a former relationship can drive you crazy. If there is a negative expression of love, it is better to seek help from a psychologist.

Painful separation

A bad breakup is one of the reasons that doesn’t allow you to put an end to your first love. The most acute sensations arise in cases where the separation was influenced by external circumstances:

Moving to another city;
censure of public opinion;
pressure from mom and dad.

Painful separation in such cases is accompanied by a feeling of incompleteness and understatement. It is these feelings that push a person to find past love and close the gestalt.

Lots of pleasant emotions

Youthful experiences, romantic encounters and tender confessions that a person encounters during his first love will never be repeated. Many people cannot forget not the chosen ones themselves, but the feelings associated with them.

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According to statistics, about 55% of women and 30% of men try to return their first lovers. Dreams of a wonderful future with these partners help to distance oneself from everyday worries and gray everyday life.

With age, people become more cynical and callous, deprive themselves of youthful enthusiasm, and stop enjoying little things. Memories of their first kiss, a walk under the moon, or a date in the park remind them of who they were in the past. Missing those times, a person is sad that he has changed, lost his youthful enthusiasm and carefreeness.

Falling in love: what is it?

There is no exact answer to how long it takes for couples to fall in love, as well as what this concept includes. However, every person has encountered it at least once in their life. In psychology, falling in love means a positive feeling that arises in relation to the object of sympathy. Thanks to it, you will get to know yourself, see new perspectives and opportunities. Falling in love appears as an obsession. She intoxicates people, driving them crazy, but they continue to idolize her and look forward to her.

The older you are, the more difficult it will be for you to survive the state of falling in love and the more ways you have for self-improvement. A person in love concentrates all his attention on his partner. He worries about his condition much more than about his own, and begins to put his own interests in the background. Loving is hard and complex work.

It happens that people become psychologically broken because they were not ready to devote most of their time to another person. Falling in love changes consciousness, idealizing the object, which leads to ignoring the partner’s shortcomings. At the same time, a person often experiences feelings not for a real person, but for a fictitious image.

The most dangerous condition arises against the background of non-reciprocal love. Without receiving reciprocal feelings, a person becomes depressed and often falls into depression. Psychologists console us by saying that the feeling of unrequited love is necessary for normal personality development. It often occurs in people with low self-esteem. How many months love will last, as well as its appearance, does not depend on the person himself, but is part of the process of forming his personality.

How to get your first love back

Wanting to return their first love, people hope to once again plunge into that romantic intoxication that a man and woman who are truly in love with each other usually experience. After all, in youth, a person’s heart, which has not yet encountered betrayal, jealousy, or deception, is capable of truly opening up to meet another person. At the same time, for the first time, a person in love experiences truly deep and serious feelings. It is not surprising that first love is considered to be true, the purest and most selfless. But you need to consider one thing. Even if you can bring back the feelings that connected you and the person you once loved, will you be able to live up to this “new old” relationship yourself? After all, you won’t argue that life experience leaves its mark on a person. People change, along with their desires and needs.

Therefore, before you get ready to enter the fight for your first lover, think about who exactly you want to return? That young man, passionately in love, or an already matured man with his own outlook on life? Keep in mind that these can be completely different people. You will fight for a romantic ideal, but you will only get disappointment.

If you are convinced that your loved one has not changed, just as your desire to be with him remains unchanged, then act. Maintain your self-esteem; do not try to get your loved one back by persuasion or, especially, blackmail. Respect yourself.

Be honest. If you separated for a long time, then you should openly tell the person about your feelings. About the fact that you remembered him and involuntarily compared all the men who were with you after (if this is true) with him. This will flatter your chosen one. Just don't go overboard with details when describing your past relationships with someone. A man is unlikely to like listening to this.

You must be sure that your lover also (maybe unconsciously or in the depths of his soul) remembered you and missed you. After all, true love never leaves completely. Passion may pass, people may be separated by circumstances, but the memory of the heart is long lasting.

Take care of yourself and take more care of your inner state. Only a full-fledged and harmonious personality can attract attention. You are unlikely to achieve anything with hysterics, intrigue and anger. Become for your lover the same desired object that he is for you. Then everything will work out.

Differences from love

Quite often people confuse love and infatuation. The two conditions are very similar, but there are a few important differences. The main ones:

Duration. Falling in love lasts from several hours to several years. The longer a person feels this feeling, the stronger the attachment will become, which subsequently turns into love.
Development. Falling in love is formed from just one glance at an object. You don't need to know a person to start feeling intensely attracted to them. Love, on the contrary, arises only after people have communicated for a long time.
Consistency. Love is a constant feeling, and being in love tends to fade and reappear. You may periodically lose interest in your partner, but within a day he will return.
Parting. Love will remain with you, even if the object of your adoration leaves for a long period of time. Falling in love tends to end quickly once a large distance is created between the couple.
The basis of the condition. When falling in love, a person unintentionally tries to benefit from communication with a partner. He wants to be happy, so he strives to get what he likes. If you feel love, then you want to make the other person happy, even if it means sacrificing yourself.

Duration of feeling

Psychologists say that feelings of euphoria and passion dull over time. Girls should know how long a man's love can actually last in order to be emotionally prepared for future changes in the relationship. When communicating with a loved one, your palms sweat, your heartbeat quickens and excitement arises, which indicates the development of feelings. However, over time, these sensations go away. For men, this happens after 2-4 years of relationship.

Falling in love lasts longer, but at the same time it has an exhausting effect. In other words, a person begins to experience severe fatigue. He may change in character and even become aggressive. Scientists also calculated how many years it takes for women to fall in love. A girl can be in love with a guy for 3 years and not experience much mental stress.

This time is enough to form strong relationships, which will subsequently move to a new level. Of course, falling in love can be carried throughout your entire life if you constantly develop and warm up your feelings.

How not to remember the past

Getting thoughts of your ex-love out of your head is not an easy task. You will have to take all your will into your fist to achieve a positive outcome. Don't expect everything to work out quickly and the first time. The main thing is not to give up, then pleasant emotions will not keep you waiting.

Stop communication

Often, former lovers offer to remain friends after the relationship. They do not understand that such actions not only give a person hope for restoring relationships, but also torment him. To forget love, you need to stop contact with your ex-passion:

You should not write to your beloved on social networks, instant messengers, or call on the phone for any reason.
It is necessary to distance yourself as much as possible from the life of this person. You should not try to find out through your friends about the affairs and new relationships of your beloved passion.
If friends mention your lover in a conversation, you need to let the information fall on deaf ears. If you have a trusting relationship with your friends, it is better to ask them not to raise such topics.
If the former chosen one makes contact on his own, then you need to openly talk to him about it and explain that communication brings pain, so it is better to stop it.

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The less your ex-love appears in your life, the faster peace will come.

Delete correspondence and photos

Having parted with a loved one, many people love to torment themselves with memories by looking through photographs and correspondence. You shouldn’t do this if you don’t want to be in constant mourning for a faded relationship.

The best way to forget your favorite passion is to get rid of everything that reminds you of her.

There is no need to hold on to the past. New photos will appear in place of old photos, and on social networks another person will wish you good morning. The faster you can get rid of old things, the sooner the doors will open for mutual feelings.

Don't meet

It is difficult to forget a person if you encounter him every day at work, at college or at a sports club. If possible, you need to minimize meetings with your ex-boyfriend as much as possible. You can do this in the following ways:

You should not communicate with your lover without a good reason. If it is possible to avoid dialogue, then it is better to do so.
In order not to cross paths again when moving around the building of a company or institute, you need to take other paths.
If a guy or girl has a favorite vacation spot, you shouldn’t choose it for a hike with friends. It's better to choose another option for entertainment.

When true love begins

How long falling in love will last, and when love begins, directly depends on the couple. These are individual indicators. Over time, a strong attachment arises, a trusting relationship is formed, but falling in love begins to subside. You will see flaws in your partner that you had not noticed before, and you will stop idealizing him.

If at the beginning of the relationship you were attracted to a person’s physical characteristics, now the basis of attraction will be the person’s personal positions and his spiritual world. At this time, feelings should develop into love, but it happens that the couple separates. Not everyone can cope with changes in relationships. If love has nevertheless formed, then people in love begin to care about each other even more, and shortcomings cease to be the causes of conflict situations. This strong feeling can be carried throughout your life, then over time it will only become stronger.

Three year hypothesis

There is a theory that falling in love usually lasts 3 months or 3 years. There is a deal of truth in it. This hypothesis is connected with the fact that during the first three years the couple feels euphoria, happiness and strong passion. Relationships are accompanied by joyful and vibrant feelings that strengthen the affection between people. Gradually, falling in love passes, but it is difficult for people to separate, since they have lived together for a long time and have become accustomed to each other.

If during this period a person accepts the shortcomings of his partner and tries to understand him, then the feelings will only intensify. A love connection is formed between people. In this case, love will not pass in 3 years or 3 months, but will only begin. Only selfishness and daydreaming, which are often found in a person in love, will disappear.

First love in psychology in adolescence

Teenage love is characterized by the first impulse of sincere, pure feelings, experiencing which young people begin to look at the world in a new way.

They think this is the best thing that could have happened to them. This is the time when studies and parents fade into the background.

Video: advice from a psychologist - how to help survive first love?

During this period, the teenager considers himself an independent, adult person. This feeling often occurs during puberty, when serious hormonal surges occur in the body.

Boys and girls become subject to mood swings and experience the most contradictory emotions.

Teenage love rarely develops into a serious relationship, but if this happens, then this period will play a big role in the formation of personality.

First love overshadows the whole world and is important in the spiritual development of every person.

That is why she always leaves her mark on the heart for the rest of her life. This is a wonderful time of madness that fills life with meaning.

When the passion subsides

Passion is a dominant feeling that arises in both men and women. It is accompanied by a strong attraction to the object. Passion makes people's bonds stronger, but such relationships will not last forever. Their duration depends on how the lovers behave. Qualified psychologists have stated that this feeling lasts from two weeks to one year.

If there is no love in a relationship, then passion disappears quite quickly. This often happens when a couple starts living together. When experiencing passion, a person extols and idealizes his partner. Cohabitation shows people from a new side. The partner may be disappointed that an ordinary and simple person with shortcomings lives with him.

However, passion also develops into something more if people know how to listen, work on their shortcomings and begin to accept each other. When a relationship moves to a new level, it develops into care and love.

The reason for the fading of passion is considered to be psychological barriers that one of the partners builds. The main ones:

transferring past emotional turmoil into new relationships;
fear of trusting a partner;
inaction and unwillingness to improve relationships;
lack of visual and physical contact;
lack of dialogue with a partner.

What is falling in love: definition

Falling in love is a set of positively colored emotions, a strong attraction to another person, the need to constantly see, communicate, obsessive fixation on the object of desire, according to psychologists - this is to some extent a disease.

The object of attention is endowed with exclusively positive qualities; often, character traits or appearance that are unusual in reality are attributed to him. A lover has not only a platonic feeling, but also a need for physical intimacy.

Falling in love can manifest itself as intense passions or emotions, or it can subside for a while when the object of passion is removed. Usually the feeling is of a high degree, quickly moving from the phase of infatuation to disappointment. When a strong passion turns into love, this is rather an exception than a pattern.

Did you know? Thanks to the release of the hormone dopamine into the blood, a person in love experiences the same euphoria as when using cocaine.

Do feelings go away over time and what can you do to maintain them?

Passion pushes people to start a family. However, when faced with home life and family problems, love leaves. People stop feeling attracted to each other and decide to separate. This happens if there are a lot of routine matters and quarrels in family relationships that are not discussed further. Without communication, resentment and anger accumulate, which only intensifies scandals over time.

However, there are couples who, after going through many obstacles and difficulties, were able to preserve their love. Often the reason for the disappearance of passion is a change in tastes and preferences. A person changes his worldview, develops and begins to notice that his partner does not share his opinion. Against this backdrop, disagreements emerge. To maintain a relationship, you need to discuss life situations with your partner and try to look at the world through his eyes. Understanding and concessions will help save love.

Even couples who have lived a long life together have encountered difficult situations and quarrels. However, they were able to understand their partners and compromise, which became a decisive step in their relationship. Dating and traveling can help you escape your routine. They will allow you to distract yourself and take a breath, but you need to continue to work, develop relationships, strengthening them.

Statistics say that more than 40% of couples break up after 3 years, as falling in love passes. This shows that many people cannot cope with such difficulties. However, an equally sad picture emerges with relationships lasting more than 7 years. According to statistics, they are destroyed in 60-70% of cases. This happens because couples stop working on their relationship and focus on their partner's shortcomings.

Professional psychologists advise communicating with each other more often. You need to be sincere about your plans and goals. You need to learn to admit your own mistakes and listen to your partner. It is important to understand that he wants to help you become better than you are, and not to reproach you for any action.

Falling in love appears and disappears suddenly. It is necessary to rebuild in time to be ready to move the relationship to the next level. As a rule, falling in love lasts from 7 days to 3 years, after which it develops into love. However, this does not always happen. Some couples are not ready for such a load. Not wanting to understand each other and make concessions, they break up. Relationships will help preserve understanding. You need to learn to hear your partner and compromise.