Causes of childhood shyness
Excessive parental guardianship
Parents literally do not let go of their child one step at a time, nor do they give him the slightest chance to show independence. They all think that their child is small, defenseless, that he won’t be able to do anything on his own, that he must definitely help, control, and be there.
As a result, the already grown-up child will be embarrassed to be in society; it will always seem to him that others are looking at him, as in childhood, that everyone is directly watching how and what he does, or condemn him if he does something not that. Such a child will be embarrassed, and over time, afraid to make purchases in a store, to find out from a stranger what time it is or where the nearest pharmacy is.
Lack of communication in a child
There are parents who raise their children in isolation from the outside world. They don’t send him to kindergarten because he has someone at home to be with, and they don’t go with him to playgrounds because there he can catch a virus or get hit in the forehead with a shovel. The child communicates only with his close relatives, who are the first to make contact, ask questions or offer their own model of play.
But it is worth remembering that any child needs communication with other children. After all, it is through communication that he learns to establish contact with others, defend his own interests, and choose a model of behavior in each situation. Therefore, parents should definitely accustom their child to the children’s group and provide freedom of communication on playgrounds. The child must gain experience communicating with other children.
Illness or physical weakness of the child
Due to his illness, the child cannot fully run or jump with his peers or on an equal basis with them. As a result, he feels inferior, different from everyone else, and is embarrassed to be the first to make contact or just come up to chat. It will be easier for such children to communicate with people like themselves (if the children have the same physical illness) or go to clubs in which priority is given to other types of activities (checkers, chess, a young technician’s club, a beadwork club, etc.) .
In any case, shyness in a child is a very serious obstacle to the harmonious, full development of his personality. Parents should only recognize the problem in time in order to direct the child in the right direction, allow him to show independence, and sometimes give him the opportunity to make his own mistakes. Only through the experience gained will the child be able to become stronger and more confident.
Consultation for parents “How to raise a child to be active, dexterous, courageous and resourceful.”
KSU "Taranovskaya Secondary School named after B. Mailina
Department of Education of the Akimat
Taranovsky district"
Consultation for parents
“How to raise a child to be active, dexterous, courageous and resourceful.”
Completed by: Polubinskaya N.P.
2017
Dads and moms! Grandmothers and grandfathers! If you want to see your children and grandchildren clumsy, stooped, frail and undeveloped, do not read this information!
Did you know that a happy child is, first of all, a healthy child. According to pediatricians, “neither the quality nor the quantity of pediatricians can solve children’s health problems, because health depends to a much greater extent on mom and dad than on all pediatricians combined.
How to raise a child to be active and dexterous, courageous and resourceful? How can I help him prepare for school and life among other people? Let's try to figure it out together.
Children's general interest in physical activity can be supported, first of all, by sports toys and equipment available at home: ball, jump ropes, skittles, sleds, hockey sticks, elastic bands for jumping, ring throw, skates. Children deprived of these toys to interact with them, they are less mobile, the children's reaction is slower. The task of adults is to create an environment that will stimulate children's need for movement and awaken a feeling of joy.
There are many ways to ensure the physical development of children: joint outdoor games and physical exercises, hardening, exercises, classes in sports sections, family tourism, etc.
But the most optimal results in a child’s physical development at home can be achieved by combining joint outdoor games with classes at a home health and fitness complex, which includes a variety of sports equipment and exercise equipment. At the same time, the child receives a unique opportunity for self-training and self-education, regardless of weather conditions, the mood of peers, or the availability of free time from parents.
The main purpose of the universal physical education and health complex “Home Stadium” is the development of almost all motor qualities: strength, agility, speed, endurance and flexibility.
Classes at the sports and recreation complex: make the process of everyday physical education more emotional and varied; selectively affect certain muscle groups, thereby accelerating the process of their development; allow you to achieve the desired results in a shorter period of time. How to achieve this?
Tips for adults.
Buy only certified products.
It is not recommended to engage in physical exercise in the kitchen, where the air is saturated with the smells of gas, food, and spices.
When installing the complex, the swing of the swing and the trapezoid crossbar should not be directed towards the window frame.
Make sure that objects that could break and interfere with children’s movements do not fall into the children’s field of activity.
It is advisable to ventilate the premises where the complex is installed before and after classes.
How to provide insurance for your child during classes.
Trust your child. If he refuses to do any of your tasks, do not force or coerce him. Support any of his reasonable initiatives. Insure your child during his first independent attempts to master a new apparatus, especially when getting acquainted with rings and vines. When performing exercises on the crossbar, rings, or vines, the position of the spine should be fixed. To do this, stand on the side of the projectile and place your palms simultaneously on the preschooler’s chest and back. Teach your child to be attentive and careful so that he takes care of his own safety.
Attention parents: hanging only by hand is dangerous for your child. Therefore, replace long hangs on rings and vines with half hangs, in which the child still rests his feet on the floor.
Together with mom and dad.
To start training, it is not necessary to mount all the equipment offered by the manufacturers. For the first time, two or three are enough. And let them become a gymnastic ladder - a horizontal bar, a slide - a ramp and a swing. You can support your child’s desire to engage in physical activity in various ways. I bring to your attention little tricks that will help make home physical education interesting and useful.
Little tricks.
For the activity, you should use as many aids as possible: toys, balloons, rattles, etc. They will help attract attention and encourage children to perform various exercises. To create a joyful mood, turn on music. During class, be sure to talk to your child and smile at him. It is advisable to conduct exercises with children in a playful way. For example, an adult says: “Well done Sveta, you’ve already climbed almost to the very top of the ladder!” etc.
Gradually, joint physical education classes will become happy events of the day, and the child will look forward to them with impatience and joy. The average duration of classes is 20 - 30 minutes.
What to do if a child “grows out” of the complex?
In order for the physical education and health complex to “grow” with the child, there are several simple techniques.
Add new projectiles, for example, a “bungee” (flexible hanging cord - rope)
Change the mobility of the support. By attaching freely suspended ladders on a rope base to a crossbar, you will get a new version of climbing frames and swings at the same time.
How to help your child become bolder?
There are several psychological tips on how to help a timid, shy child become more courageous.
Ways to build courage in a child:
Don't do everything for the child himself
You should not decide for your child who to be friends with and play with, how to get out of a conflict situation, how to resolve a dispute that arises. If on the playground a baby runs up to his mother with tears in his eyes, complaining that his favorite toy was taken away from him and thereby offended, then the mother should not immediately run up to the offenders and take this thing away. It would be better if the mother told him what to do in this situation, how he should ask him to give up his toy or offer to exchange it with another child. Let the baby try to come to an agreement with other children himself, and let the mother only gently and a little persistently guide him to this step.
Don't set the bar too high for your child
Often, parents, trying to teach their child something, take drastic measures: they will either throw him into the water so that he learns to swim faster, or roll him down a steep hill to overcome the feeling of fear, or hang him on a horizontal bar so that he can learn to pull himself up. But often parents with such actions only aggravate the situation, and fears and anxieties received in childhood often break the delicate child’s psyche and accompany him throughout his adult life.
Therefore, parents should be extremely careful in setting tasks for their children, and set only those tasks that correspond to their age and capabilities. It is better to gradually introduce the child to things that are difficult and scary for him, giving him more and more time to become familiar with and get used to them. You can swim in the water next to your child, choose a not very large slide and secure your baby, let him hang on the horizontal bar little by little, getting used to this type of load and showing by your own example what else can be done on it.
Choose the right words
Often parents themselves do not notice how, when addressing their child, they do not choose their words quite correctly. And sometimes, instead of regretting or encouraging, they manage to say it with a completely different meaning. For example, if a baby runs up to his mother and cries, and instead of figuring it out and finding the right words, she says: “Why did you let loose like a little boy, but another boy, no matter how you cried, was able to stand up for himself.” These words can greatly hurt the soul of a small child, instead of instilling confidence and courage in him.
How to raise a brave child
How to teach a child courage
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Bravery, courage, readiness to calmly accept and overcome difficulties - all these qualities are rightly admired by most children. How to cultivate these qualities in a child so that he is not afraid of hooligans in the yard, or angry dogs, or other possible dangers?
Fear is natural, but...
Fear is a completely normal feeling. It is the body’s natural defense mechanism against the emergence of potentially dangerous situations that can cause some damage to human health and life. It’s dark outside – what if there are predators lurking there? There's a spider crawling nearby - could it bite? What these situations have in common is that fear motivates us to look for a way out, a solution to such a crisis. You can go around a dark alley along the illuminated road, brushing the spider aside. This is the great significance of fear. But people's reactions vary: fear of danger forces us to change behavior in order to avoid possible risks. And it’s completely different: if fear paralyzes a person, deprives him of his will, and turns into cowardice. And it is precisely these manifestations in the child’s character that need to be eradicated, courage, willpower and self-confidence must be instilled so that the baby can grow up to be a healthy, psychologically strong person. Then he will calmly perceive the challenges of the world around him - and instead of panic, look for a way out of a difficult situation.
You should not put pressure on a child if you see that he is sincerely afraid of something. It is you, the adult, who knows that the dog will not bite because he walks on a leash and muzzle. Are you aware that monsters under the bed only live in horror films? And you understand that meeting new children in kindergarten can bring a lot of positive emotions. But the baby is still afraid, all this is new, unknown, unusual for him - and therefore something that can be fraught with a certain danger. And if you decide to laugh at him, you will not push him to resolve his internal conflict. You shouldn’t think that hearing “coward, what are you afraid of”, the child will say “no, I’m not like that, I’m not afraid, I can handle it!” Of course, he can say something just to justify himself, but this will not change his feelings. And instead of really fighting fear, he will simply conclude: being afraid is shameful. And if so, I will continue to be afraid, but secretly (especially typical for introverts). There is a similar reaction to comparing the baby with other children. “Look, your friend is not afraid of vaccinations, what about you?”, “What a smart girl on the playground: she was not afraid to climb on the swing without her mother’s help - not like you...” - these phrases only aggravate the problem. After all, they make the baby feel bad, which can lead to the development of complexes and even neuroses.
Support and teach independence
The best policy in teaching courage is to help overcome childhood fears. First, tell your child everything described above: fear is a normal feeling that all people experience. And you should not be ashamed, but fight it. You can show your baby how his body helps him with this! When a person is afraid, his heart beat and breathing increase to speed up the movement of blood and oxygen to the organs. And thanks to this, the brain is more actively looking for ways out of the crisis, and the muscles are gathering strength in order to cope with the task set by the brain as quickly as possible: run, speed up, fight back. Of course, physiology is difficult for a 2-3 year old child to understand. But he will remember the main thing: his body will come to his aid if he learns to control his fear - not to panic and freeze in the face of danger, but to find the willpower to eliminate it. Although, of course, there is little talk. And the most important thing you can do is to develop your child’s self-confidence. Find feasible tasks in other areas, praise him for significant achievements, develop his erudition through educational books or films, send him to some sports and creative section, play out various conflict situations in a quiet home environment in roles, encourage meeting other people - the more he will have accumulated successful experience in communicating with the outside world, the calmer he will perceive those moments that can cause fear.
