Ekaterina Rudometkina
Head of the creative agency "CONSCIENCE Project"
On the eve of the holiday, I conducted a social experiment on my Instagram account, where throughout the day I asked my subscribers, men and women, how to correctly hint at the right gift for a girl on March 8th? Is it necessary to do this at all, and is it true that men do not understand hints, or are these simple excuses?
That's what came out of it. 5 tips that men themselves gave me on how to properly hint at a gift.
No. 3. Conversation
Or you can just sit down and talk. Of course, no guy likes the phrases “we need to talk” and “where will this lead us” (and both in one sentence are generally guard), but if it’s so important to you and you’re sure that he’s the one, then the risk is justified. The main thing is that later you don’t have the annoying feeling that you yourself dragged him to the registry office (you must admit, in childhood we still dream that the prince would look for us throughout all the kingdoms with his shoe at the ready, and not vice versa).
And if you don’t trust online advice, here’s an expert’s opinion.
Ekaterina Fedorova - psychologist, sex trainer, founder and director of the women's center, coach, author of educational books
Every girl dreams of hearing: “Marry me!” However, not every man is able to understand that the time for the long-awaited phrase has come a long time ago. Many people believe that you need to fight for happiness, but this is a wrong option. Happiness must initially be within. The easiest way: tell the man that you are expecting a proposal from him. Then you won’t need to come up with any complicated schemes where he has to be jealous and somehow try to guess what’s going on in your head.
If the direct path is not your thing, you can use little tricks. When a guy believes that you are not going anywhere, then he has no reason to marry you. Therefore, arousing a little jealousy in your partner is never a bad idea. Usually a loving man starts fussing when there is even a slight possibility that he might lose you. The main thing in this matter is not to overdo it.
Learn to create a comfortable and calm environment around you. It is unlikely that any guy will want to marry that girl who constantly throws hysterics and scandals. He should get better around you. Try to always look good. At home, you are not required to wear a floor-length dress, but if you are gathered in society, try to outshine all the women around you.
If a guy doesn’t understand hints, but to a direct question: “When will we get married?” prefers to remain silent or laugh it off, that is, it makes sense to take a short break in the relationship. A little separation is always a good idea. This technique can be called a “soft parting.”
If a guy continues to bullshit you and feed you with promises like “as soon as we finish the renovations, and then I’ll propose to you right away,” then you can hardly count on a happy future together. No hints will help here and the best solution would be separation. Instead of entertaining yourself with vain illusions, it is better to take a closer look at the other partner. And it is likely that he will not even have to hint at the long-awaited proposal.
How to push your loved one to propose if he is hinting at a wedding
, but doesn't talk about it directly?
The guy gave the girl a diamond ring, and she decided to insure it
A girl named Anya was looking forward to meeting the “prince on a white horse” (although today horse means an expensive car). One fine day she met Mikhail. In the midst of the candy-bouquet period, Ani’s lover invited her to a restaurant and finally asked her to marry him.
The girl’s eyes filled with tears of happiness, because this important step on the part of a man is one of the most touching events in the life of any representative of the fair sex. The diamond ring handed to the girl makes the moment especially tender.
Anya was overwhelmed with happiness, because the handsome and wealthy Mikhail was exactly the man she dreamed of. The only thing that embarrassed the girl was that, despite all his capabilities, the guy looked after her too “standardly” - flowers, candy and banal walks under the moon. But all the same, she was pleased with any attention from her lover.
Anya hoped that this was all temporary, and one day her fiancé, the owner of a restaurant chain, gave her such a surprise, calling the girl herself his diamond.
The couple decided to get married in three months, and Mikhail hurried to a business meeting, kissing the girl on the cheek. Anya ran to her friends to share her joy. The girls were delighted with Anya’s ring, and one of them, Valeria, advised the future bride to insure the precious jewelry. Anya liked this idea, and literally the next day she went to the insurance agency.
Company employees explained that ring insurance is a fairly rare and expensive service. The girl agreed, but when the specialist assessed the jewelry, an embarrassment occurred. As it turned out, the stone that was on Anya’s ring is a simple zircon and there is no point in insuring it. Angry, Mikhail's future wife turned for help to another appraiser, who confirmed the unfortunate news.
When the lovers had dinner in one of Misha’s restaurants that evening, Anya told about what had happened, to which the groom reacted rather strangely. He replied that there was nothing wrong with that, and that her friends would never guess whether it was a diamond or a zircon. Instead of spending a huge amount on a precious stone, the man suggested that Anya go on a honeymoon with this money.
In response to the girl’s accusations of deception, he justified himself by saying that he simply wanted to please his beloved. Then the indignant Anya got up from the table, took the ring off her finger and put it in front of Mikhail. She explained that an engagement ring is a symbol of love, honesty and devotion, and she does not want to start her married life with deception.
When the girl left, her lover sat, not understanding. what exactly angered Anya. The next day, the girl announced her desire to break off the engagement.
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Take the initiative
Does your man hesitate to voice the words that you have been waiting for him to say for a long time? At the same time, do you feel his love and desire to spend the rest of his life with you? Propose to him yourself! If your feelings are equally strong and you are confident in each other, there is nothing wrong with the girl taking the initiative to get married. Your happiness is in your hands, and if your chosen one is not ready to take a decisive step, you will know about it and will be able to decide whether to stay with him or not.
If you are firmly convinced that you want to be with this person for the rest of your life, you need to be patient, because men take longer to decide to take a responsible step, even if he hints at marriage
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In our life, there are often cases when you meet and meet with a guy, but you never get the coveted proposal from him. Although it seems that the feelings are present and the relationship is beyond praise. So what to do? If this question begins to come to you more and more often, it means that you are really seriously in love. But you need to remember that love is love, and marriage is a serious and responsible step, and your fairy tale does not end where you put on your wedding dress.
How can you hint to a guy about a wedding and get an offer?
The mistake that, unfortunately, many, many girls make is that they think that through marriage they can tie a man to themselves forever. And that man, who before the wedding liked to look in the other direction, will change dramatically after the wedding and will belong only to her.
By artificially driving a person into a corner and forcing him to go to the registry office, instead of love, such a girl receives hatred when her husband simply tries to disappear from the house at every opportunity.
And sometimes, after some period of living together, your husband may openly tell you that he married you only because he is an honest person and nothing more.
Therefore, when deciding how to hint to a guy about marriage, do not create “circumstances” for him, but just try to talk with him on this topic in order to unobtrusively find out what he himself thinks about the possibility of your marriage.
It is possible that the guy really has the most sincere feelings for you, but does not dare to propose marriage only because he believes that he is not yet able to really provide for his family, as this is necessary.
And in general, I must say that somewhere he is right, in this case. Many love boats have crashed on the rocks of everyday difficulties and lack of money. But if this doesn’t bother you, let your loved one understand this without directly asking a question, but simply explain that you are not scared, like some girls, by everyday unsettled conditions. It is possible that such a conversation will be enough for him.
But it also happens that, despite all your love, the guy is simply too childish and is terrified of taking responsibility for the family.
Of course, endlessly proving to him that he is dearer to you than anyone else in the world and that you yourself are quite capable of taking care of your future happiness, if only he were nearby, you can, in the end, bring the matter to the registry office. But think about it, do you need a person who will never turn into a grown man? It will be impossible to remake it, no matter how much you hope for it.
One day, in any relationship that claims to be serious, a moment comes when we have to decide: we are moving forward together or looking for happiness separately.
In the opinion of many men, this moment may not come for a very long time, but women very clearly understand when a couple is approaching this brink.
A year, two, three, five - every couple and every relationship is individual, so turning to statistics in love affairs is absolutely useless. If you already feel that it’s time to make a decision, but your lover has not yet shown you the initiative, you will have to take it upon yourself. Today we will tell you when and how you can subtly hint at difficult circumstances and get the coveted platinum wedding rings.
How to get what you want without asking: the art of hints
We offer 4 of the most effective ways to give veiled hints and deceive a guy for a gift:
- Someone else's example . When you meet a man, say, for example: “Dear, can you imagine, today I saw ___, she had such a necklace on her neck, she couldn’t take her eyes off it all evening. I wonder if it would suit me..." If the boyfriend is an attentive person, then he will understand everything and offer to try on such jewelry himself. You can use any speech structures, the main thing is to respond emotionally to what you want.
- A direct gift to your loved one . If you have been wanting to get something from your husband or boyfriend for a long time, then buy a cheaper version of it yourself or an alternative. Let's take a closer look: if you dream of some branded watches, buy an inexpensive replica. When a man asks what it is, answer: “I’ve been wanting to have this model for a long time, but I can’t buy the original one yet, so I’ll wear this one.” This way you can beat anything.
- Show him . If we are talking about some thing, then while wandering around the shops together, constantly go into the desired salon and admire your “object”. Accompany your contemplation with words of admiration: “how beautiful, this is simply magnificent, I have never seen such beauty.” Don't forget to roll your eyes, sigh and gasp.
- Gift from a fan . This is the most dangerous topic, but also the most effective. Do you want flowers? Come home with a bouquet and claim that you received it from a stranger or colleague. Then say unobtrusively: “How nice it is to receive such beautiful flowers, even from a stranger...”
How to hint to a guy about a gift?
Probably, the beginning of a relationship is the most favorable period for gradually and unobtrusively teaching your boyfriend to give gifts with pleasure and love. If such a tradition is established, then it will be easier to maintain it. Naturally, we are not talking about expensive jewelry or a mink coat if your boyfriend is an ordinary student. But small and inexpensive signs of attention are also very valuable, and a gift for no reason says a lot about a person.
A gift for no reason
If an internal decision about a hint of a gift has been made, then you need to have a certain sense of tact and theatrical talents so that the process of “asking” leads to the desired result and does not push the guy away. The best way is to go shopping together . Quietly, under the elbow, lead your young man to the desired counter or display window, make your eyes wide: “God, this is exactly the kind of handbag I’ve dreamed of all my life! I dreamed about her! My wardrobe is nothing without it! And how did I even live without her before!” and stuff like that. Ask the consultant to look at the model you like, sincerely admire the clasps and pockets, and turn around with your handbag in the mirror. You'd have to be completely stupid not to realize that for a friend's birthday, this is exactly the kind of handbag (jewelry, annual spa membership, new digital gadget or phone) that should be in the gift box. Well, what if after this performance the guy gives not a branded handbag, but a tourist backpack – maybe that’s not bad either? Tents, fire, stars and mosquitoes are extremely romantic.
Shopping trip together
Often young people do not give gifts for two simple reasons: they have no idea how much a beautiful surprise awaits the girl, or they are afraid of getting into trouble with an unsuccessful gift. In such cases, it is recommended to give flowers - a win-win option, and a bouquet can be purchased to suit every taste and financial capabilities. Girls should understand that 2 thousand rubles for a gift for a young businessman and 2 thousand rubles for a gift from the pocket of a simple worker are two different concepts. Evaluate a gift not by its cost, but by how much a particular person, given his income, invested in such a gift.
Beautiful bouquet of flowers
It’s easy to go overboard with hints about a gift, especially if you’re dealing with a wealthy man. Such people, as a rule, are calculating, even cunning, and are quite good psychologists: naive attempts to receive expensive gifts from them can be nipped in the bud. Any man wants sincere feelings and affection, and not a kept woman living at his expense. There is another aspect: if a man does not love and does not value relationships, he definitely will not invest in gifts for such a woman .
And don't be modest. If a man’s financial capabilities allow it, then do not hesitate to hint to him that you want to receive a new pair of shoes, a phone or a trip to the resort as a gift on March 8 or Valentine’s Day. This way, in many cases, it will be easier for him (no need to guess and worry whether he will like the gift), and you are more likely to get what you want, and not a set of frying pans. However, remember that such an unpleasant human quality as greed has not been canceled.
If a man is greedy, then he is greedy in everything: in love, in attention, in gifts.
How to get your husband to give gifts?
The husband has long ceased to be a stranger, so the topic of gifts is the easiest to discuss with this type of man. If tender feelings are preserved in the family, and a man values his chosen one, he himself will try to pamper her with unexpected surprises from time to time. With such a warm, trusting relationship, you can safely talk about your wishes in terms of a gift for the next holiday. Sensitivity and attention to each other will not allow a man to offend his wife with an unsuccessful gift or not give anything at all.
Hinting at the right gift can be made interesting and even creative. Draw a rebus or arrange a quest with clues located in unexpected places in the apartment. It will be great if you can temporarily send the children to their grandparents, and figuring out your wife’s gift wishes will smoothly turn into a delightful romantic evening. When a man is satisfied with his life, with the harmony, peace and happiness that his wife gives him, then he will give pleasure to his woman completely sincerely and will not skimp on gifts.
Quest with hints
But if the relationship is not going well, alas, most likely nothing can be done. And the holiday is not a holiday, and you can’t expect gifts from your husband. And are they really necessary if in everyday life he says nasty things, can humiliate her in public, and doesn’t value her care for him at all? You can teach a man to give interesting and memorable gifts at the very beginning of a relationship, but if this tradition is suddenly interrupted, then this is a serious reason to think about problems in the family.
And choose the right moment to talk about a gift: if a man is tired or irritated, such requests are doomed to failure
How to get your lover to give gifts?
Lovers are a separate topic. On the one hand, psychology claims that such relationships are much brighter and more emotional than family ones, on the other hand, women usually want too much from them. For some reason, there is an opinion that male lovers must be grateful to the woman and shower her with luxurious gifts, literally taking her into custody. Alas, despite the fact that glamor magazines and Internet blogs are full of advice on how to cheat a lover with money and gifts, in reality everything turns out to be much more complicated. Men, after all, are also not stupid and see commercialism from afar: begging a gift from such a person or forcing him to give flowers is a whole adventure.
You can try to manipulate your lover: moderate indifference, refusal to date, looking offended - some men are ready to correct this situation with a good gift
This will happen if the man is, as they say, hooked. Otherwise, he will turn around and leave you not only without a gift, but also without himself. A woman should inspire a man for career growth, self-education and self-realization. There is nothing wrong with receiving something in return - any relationship should be mutual and bring pleasure to both parties.
A man needs to be loved and inspired
How to ask your lover for money if necessary? The advice of a psychologist usually boils down to the fact that it’s not worth fussing about in difficult life situations that require financial investments: it’s better to tell your lover everything as it is and ask for help. A serious-minded man will help out without question, but a wandering idiot will most likely dissolve with ridiculous excuses.
Be that as it may, the desire to receive an expensive gift from a man can end in one of the results - either positive and you with the gift, or negative. In the second case, the man will not only not give you anything worthwhile, but will also accuse you of commercialism and the desire to sell himself at a higher price. Simply asking does not always work; a man may either not understand transparent hints or pretend that he does not understand. Only a person with serious intentions will be able to promote him for gifts, and he won’t even have to: love and tender feelings will themselves lead him to store windows, because it’s really nice to please your beloved with a good gift!
Why doesn't a man propose marriage?
Adequate assessment of the situation
Unfortunately, you can only talk about successful wedding hints if you are absolutely sure of two things:
- you truly love
this person and are ready to live with him, perhaps for more years than you currently have; - you are sure that
your feelings are reciprocated.
If a man has never confessed his love to you (this is his character) and you are not sure of his feelings, it is better to ask the question directly. A hint is not the best tool in communicating with a man. If, when asked directly about the seriousness of his intentions, a man begins to evade and say: “You see, I’m probably not ready for a serious relationship right now.”
, we will have to upset you, such an answer will not lead to anything good. It means that the man either hasn’t decided yet or doesn’t see you as a wife, and that’s why he’s not ready for a serious relationship now. It's not a matter of the right time, but the right partner.
We love each other, but there is still no marriage proposal from a man
If you ask yourself the question “why doesn’t a man propose” but are sure that the feelings are mutual, but there has still been no proposal, it is quite possible that the man either thinks that everything is fine, or he is tormented by some fears. Men's fears are no less than women's: will he support his family financially? But what about his freedom? what if children? Not to mention the fact that often a modern man does not even understand the meaning of the fundamental costs for such a one-time event as a wedding.
What should you do with fears? That's right - fight!
All methods of pushing a man to take the decisive step can be divided into soft and hard.
How to hint at a relationship with a gift?
Sometimes a man is in no hurry to take the first step. You communicate, often meet in company, and like each other. But the situation does not develop beyond friendly relations. Try to help the young man by making a small gift with meaning.
Try to act carefully, choosing the most harmless thing.
For your birthday, bake a heart-shaped cake, pick up a figurine with a pair of swans, dancing figures, two tickets to the concert of your favorite artist.
On Valentine's Day the following would be appropriate:
- Flash drive in the shape of a heart.
- Puzzle of the same shape.
- Tree of happiness. A small log will eventually turn into a dracaena, a flower symbolizing love.
You can give a gift for no reason.
A small but useful trinket related to the hobby or work of the chosen one.
It is important not to shower the young man with gifts and not to be intrusive.
If after the presentation his attitude towards you remains the same, there may be a rival. You will have to either retreat or change your tactics.
A gift hinting at sex
Usually men don't need any hints. It is their sacred duty to lure their beloved into bed. If you meet an indecisive, timid person, and you feel that you are both ready for intimacy, try hinting about it. Gift options:
- Table for breakfast in bed.
- Twister strip game.
- Mug with your photo. Under the influence of hot water, the clothes in the photo disappear.
If you want to diversify your sex life, a hint gift to help:
- Erotic cubes. One shows the poses, the other shows the names of the rooms.
- Magic ball "sex bomb". Shake it and one of 20 piquant poses will appear on the screen.
- Set of chocolates XXXL.
How to push a guy to propose by giving a gift
You have been dating for a long time, dream of a white dress, but the man is in no hurry to give you a ring?
Try to get him thinking about marriage. A gift with meaning:
- A mug with a handle shaped like a wedding ring.
- Identical bracelets with engraved names. One for you, the other for the chosen one.
- Key holder in the shape of a house.
- Certificate for ownership of your heart.
- A romantic quest, at the end of which you receive a comic certificate from a faithful couple.
Gift hint for a child
You want to give birth to a baby from your loved one, tell him about it directly. If you are afraid, expressing your desire without words will help:
- Angel figurine.
- A set of plates and mugs for 3 persons.
- A photo frame with space for the baby's image.
Would you like to inform your loved one about your pregnancy in an original way:
- Order a cake in the shape of baby booties, strollers, etc.
- Give a T-shirt with a print: “to the future father.”
- Play the song “Daddy Can” on the radio.
When making such a surprise, you should be sure that the man wants a child from you.
How to hint to a guy about a wedding: soft methods
A woman needs to help her partner overcome her fears and concerns, convince him that marriage is not the end of life, but the beginning of a new one, even more interesting, unpredictable, full of borscht and other goodies.
Cultivating self-confidence
How confident a man is in himself directly depends on the woman. So, girls, let’s help our heroes feel like superheroes! When a loving man sees your helplessness in simple life situations, he wants to surround you with care and take you under his wing. After all, you simply cannot survive in this harsh world without him, and he loves you so much...
We create comfort
For a man, a wife is the archetype of a mother. What did the mother do? That's right, she fed. Where they feed is home in a man’s mind. So even if you have always consciously tried to avoid the kitchen and eat in restaurants, you will have to overcome yourself and approach the stove at an unsafe distance. Believe me, even the dish will not turn out like the chef, he will still appreciate your efforts, and perhaps you will open up to him from a new unknown side.
“I give you a beacon”
Whether you're attending friends' weddings, married couples' homes, or watching movies with happy endings, you'll probably want to talk about what you saw. Be sure to take advantage of this opportunity. Give free rein to your imagination, dream a little - your man should clearly understand what you dream about. Otherwise, how can he make you happy?
In everyday life you can find a lot of situations where having a stamp in your passport makes it easier to obtain visas or other documents. This is also your great chance. Use it in the subjunctive mood: “If only we were married...”
5th place
In fifth place is a gold ring with a natural deep blue sapphire surrounded by diamonds (price - 6,990 rubles). The jewelry looks great paired with a ring-rim, which holds the first place in the rating.
SL rings with diamonds and sapphires, rose gold; White gold;
6th place
In sixth place is a ring that is somewhat reminiscent of the previous model: also an elegant gold bezel and also a large inset stone. But this jewelry is crowned not by a dark sapphire, but by a light blue topaz. The price of the ring is 6,990 rubles.
SL gold ring with diamonds and topaz
