second divorce for women
When I read Dmitry’s articles for the first time, I, frankly speaking, did not agree with him on everything; it seemed that he was significantly going too far, despite all the correct points of many. But somehow, the further I go, the more I am convinced that Seleznev is right, if not 100 percent, then definitely 90 percent. I will try to analyze all his theses regarding possible marriage with divorced women who already have children. 1. After all, you like a woman, why should this fact make it necessary to take on the burden of raising someone else’s child? I used to think that a man had to do this. But if you think about it, why? It’s something else if we are talking about a very young child who does not communicate with his biological parent. Then you can still raise the baby as your own. But an older child will never normally perceive his mother’s second husband; jealousy on the part of the child is almost guaranteed. Especially if on weekends there is always a good Sunday dad who will set the child in the right direction. Yes, and there is also a very delicate point, because of pedophile hysteria, many men are already really afraid of being alone with other people’s children, no one knows what will go to the child’s head, and the presumption of innocence in such cases does not apply, unfounded accusations on the part of the child enough for a man to have very serious problems. 2. Marrying a woman with a child is simply unnatural. In the normal order of things, a woman enters a man's house and a new family is formed with a man at the head. In the case of a divorce with children, the man enters an already existing (inferior) family, where the head is a woman. Know: for a divorcee with a child, you will always be in third place: she, the child, you. Only in this sequence. And that's the best case scenario. For very often the role of a surrogate male head of the family is performed by the woman’s mother. She is the unconditional ally of a woman in a previous divorce, and, often, her instigator. I would even say that not on the third, but on the fifth, Dmitry forgot about his girlfriends, and these are usually still those witches. And the woman, in turn, sincerely thinks that now she and her children should become the main thing in life for a man. However, if they become the main thing, then this will also not bring anything good for the man; the vast majority of women are not able to appreciate a good attitude in principle. 3. Very often, a woman with a child, seeking to get married again, is looking, first of all, for a supplier of material resources who will help her get her child (children) back on their feet. In relation to this task, the personality of the man himself takes a back seat. All around. A hybrid of an ATM and a vibrator, it is generally very much appreciated by women. But again, even if a man is a reliable source of raw materials and resources, this is unlikely to bring him happiness. If only because the vast majority of women always have little money. And I have written more than once about the inability to appreciate the good. 4. The fact is that the very fact of a woman’s divorce is a huge disadvantage for her. Let me explain: even if we accept that her “goat ex-husband” is to blame for everything in the world (a very common characteristic of a former spouse presented to a potential new chosen one - by the way, a good indicator, be careful!), then the woman is at least to blame for that that she chose such a husband for herself and such a father for her children. Yes, that is right. The vast majority of divorces occur on the initiative of women. As well as separations before marriage. Men are somehow more inclined to fix things rather than throw them away. 5. “A divorced woman who has a child (this is exactly what we mean by the word divorcee) is no longer as naive and pure as a girl who has no negative life experience (it’s not a matter of virginity). Of course, life experience will not hurt anyone, BUT ONLY IF THE CORRECT CONCLUSIONS ARE MADE FROM IT. Otherwise, the experience is not only not useful, BUT ALSO HARMFUL, since it leads to excessive suspicion, callousness, a mercantile attitude towards men and other nuances of character that will not help, but will harm the divorcee in life.” And again it’s true. However, negative experiences not only harm women, but also men. Sometimes it’s still good to have some illusions so as not to completely turn into a complete cynic. Although cynicism is usually a protective mask of sentimental people. 6. In any undertaking, probable prospects should be taken into account. In the case of marrying a divorced woman with a child, a lot of pitfalls are possible. Pitfalls can arise in any relationship. But, in general, it turns out that Dmitry Seleznev is right in almost everything, even if he slightly exaggerated women’s commercialism and did not particularly highlight women’s mental problems. And I haven’t mentioned a rather important point yet. Many women, regardless of any objective factors, absolutely sincerely consider themselves a super gift for a man, and know how to perfectly turn the situation to the side that the man seems to need the relationship much more than she does. Women are very good at making accusations out of nowhere. Regardless of whether women like it or not, and regardless of isolated examples of successful marriages with the women described above. True, there is one more point. Women who have not given birth after 30, especially those who have never been married, are very often very peculiar people, with a peculiar character and an even stranger psyche. And men whose personal lives have not worked out are, by and large, left with one thing. Live for yourself and how you feel comfortable. Finding sex is not a problem, housekeeping is not a problem either. And clearly understand that the vast majority of unmarried women are the quintessence of selfishness and lies.
Husband's second marriage
Advice from lawyers:
1. Please, how can I annul my husband’s second marriage if he got married without divorcing me?
1.1. Good morning! Go to court and declare the marriage invalid!
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1.2. Irina Ilyinichna, this is the basis for declaring a marriage invalid in court.
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1.3. To the court, in a claim procedure: RF IC Article 14. Circumstances preventing the conclusion of a marriage It is not allowed to enter into a marriage between: persons, at least one of whom is already in another registered marriage; Sincerely, lawyer in Moscow - Stepanov Vadim Igorevich.
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2. My sister’s ex-husband wants to file for alimony since their daughter lives with him. My sister is on maternity leave, has a son (8 months old), lives on child benefits, a son from his second marriage, her husband is away for a month. tah imprisonment. How much alimony should be awarded?
2.1. Hello, they will award either 25% of his income monthly, or if he does not have a permanent source of income, you can file a claim for alimony in a fixed amount; the writ of execution will need to be submitted through the bailiffs at the place where he is serving his sentence.
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2.2. Good day, dear visitor Of course in this situation in a fixed amount of money
Good luck to you in resolving your issue.
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2.3. The amount of alimony is established by law. For one child, 25% of the salary and other income of the alimony payer is required to be paid.
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3. My husband died, he had two children from his first and second marriage, my husband’s parents also died, his first stepfather died, less than a year later my mother was left with only grandchildren as heirs, my husband’s mother made a will for one of the children for her share of 1/2 of the apartment when he was her husband is still alive. Does the second grandson have rights to inheritance?
3.1. My husband died, he had two children from his first and second marriage, my husband’s parents also died, his first stepfather died, less than a year later my mother was left with only grandchildren as heirs, my husband’s mother made a will for one of the children for her share of 1/2 of an apartment when he was still alive her husband. Does the second grandson have rights to inheritance? If there is a will, he has no right.
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3.2. Good day. Yes, if these are the grandchildren of the deceased owner, they have the right to the share not bequeathed to them, i.e. 1/2 by right of representation.
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3.3. Yes, in accordance with Article 1142 of the Civil Code of the Russian Federation, if there are no heirs of the first priority (spouses, children, parents), the grandchildren of the testator and their descendants will inherit by right of representation. In addition, minors or disabled people also have a mandatory share in the inheritance, as required by law (Article 1149 of the Civil Code of the Russian Federation), regardless of the will.
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4. My husband pays alimony to a child from his first marriage, for his position. The child is already 21 years old. In a month we will have a child, and in his second marriage he has a three-year-old child, most of the salary goes to pay the alimony debt. We are sorely short of money; in our second marriage, the husband pays alimony unofficially. If it is possible to reduce the amount of alimony debt or get rid of alimony altogether, since the last two marriages have two young children.
4.1. Svetlana, apply to the court for a reduction in alimony.
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4.2. If the adult child himself refuses the debt, then there is such an opportunity.
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4.3. Good afternoon Child support is paid until the age of 18. The debt must be repaid in any case. It will not be possible to reduce its amount, unfortunately. GOOD LUCK TO YOU!
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5. My name is Irina. My first husband died 12 years ago, leaving behind a 16-year-old son. Now in her second marriage, the husband did not adopt the child. My mother-in-law from my first marriage gives me money to buy a car, but on the condition that my husband, in the event of a divorce, cannot claim it. What is the best way to register a car? Thank you in advance.
5.1. According to the gift agreement.
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5.2. Let him give you a car.
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5.3. Only a gift of a car from your mother-in-law to you; it will not be jointly acquired property.
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6. I have a daughter from my husband’s second marriage. We divorced three years ago and I receive alimony from him in the amount of 1/6 of my salary, since there is another daughter in my first marriage. On August 23, 2014 she turned 18 years old, but she is studying at a university. Do I have every right to 1/4 of his salary?
6.1. Yes, you have, since alimony is paid until the children reach adulthood, unless, of course, she is provided with alimony after reaching adulthood due to health reasons!
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6.2. Hello. Yes, you can apply for recalculation of alimony.
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6.3. You need to file a claim with the court to change the amount of alimony for your child due to a change in the financial situation of the defendant. Art. 118 RF IC. The bailiff himself does not have the right to collect a larger share than you have by court decision (court order).
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7. My husband and I divorced 2 years ago. After the divorce, he didn’t let me live in peace, he tried to persuade me to return to him. When I realized that I was not going back, I began to scare him by saying that he would sue and take my son. All this time I did not interfere with his communication with the child, I took him when he wanted and as much as he wanted. But as soon as something goes wrong, blackmail by the courts begins again. I’m on my second marriage, my husband works, there’s everything in the house. The child has his own room. Tell me, on what basis can he take his son?
7.1. The rights of mom and dad are equal when choosing, they ask for the child’s opinion and custody, and the court also takes into account other circumstances in the case.
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7.2. Elena, we won’t be able to take your child away from you. Do not worry. All the best.
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7.3. He can, through the court, determine the child’s place of residence with him. He has the same rights to the child. Just like you.
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8. Please, there is a child from his first marriage, in his second marriage the husband adopted him, how can I now cancel the adoption since he is not the natural father?
8.1. If we are talking about adoption, then the fact that the parent is not natural is not a basis for canceling the adoption; on the contrary, a priori, the adoptee and the adoptive parent are not relatives. The grounds for canceling adoption are contained in Art. 141 of the Family Code: RF IC Article 141. Grounds for canceling the adoption of a child 1. The adoption of a child may be canceled in cases where the adoptive parents evade fulfilling the duties of parents assigned to them, abuse parental rights, abuse the adopted child, are sick with chronic alcoholism or drug addiction. 2. The court has the right to cancel the adoption of a child on other grounds based on the interests of the child and taking into account the opinion of the child. Cancellation of adoption is not provided for by law.
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8.2. It can be done in court. The main reason is the failure of the adoptive parent to fulfill his maintenance obligations. And raising an adopted child.
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9. I have three children, two children from my first marriage, the third from my second marriage, my husband divided the children through the court, the eldest lives with him, the middle one with me, the court awarded me alimony, a year later he filed alimony for me, he pays me 3800, I haven’t paid him yet not once, but according to my calculations I will pay 6000, my question is how can I make sure that I don’t pay him alimony, we don’t communicate with him.
9.1. Good afternoon In this case, no way! Because parents with whom their minor children do not live are required to pay child support! I also advise you to file for alimony from your husband and collect it in both fixed and percentage equivalents!
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9.2. Hello, Evgenia! The fact is that parents have equal rights and responsibilities for the maintenance of minor children. Therefore, if a child lives with his father, he has a completely legal basis to demand payment of alimony for his maintenance. See paragraph 2 of Art. 80 of the Family Code of the Russian Federation: If parents do not provide maintenance to their minor children, funds for the maintenance of minor children (alimony) are collected from the parents in court. Another point is that you should proceed from your financial situation, but this is a separate issue.
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10. Can an ex-wife apply for rights to her ex-husband’s living space (the apartment was purchased during her second marriage)? there is her child and a child from her husband’s second marriage.
10.1. If acquired during a second marriage, the second wife can file for division. But the first one doesn't.
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10.2. Hello, Olesya! You asked a question on the topic of “inheritance”, and we will proceed from this. The ex-wife has no rights to inheritance after her ex-husband, but the child is the heir of the first priority according to the law (clause 1 of Article 1142 of the Civil Code of the Russian Federation) along with the testator’s wife and the child from the second marriage. If the residential premises are part of the inherited property (it was the property of the testator at the time of his death), then the heir can also claim the residential premises. Sincerely, A.D. Ruslan.
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11. I am married, on my second marriage, my husband is a military man. There is a son from his first marriage. The husband recognized his son as a member of the serviceman's family. Question: Can my spouse take custody of my minor child if his biological father is not deprived of parental rights (he does not pay child support, they practically do not communicate, we live with our ex-husband in different places)?
11.1. Good afternoon No, your spouse cannot obtain custody. The child has parents.
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11.2. My husband can take custody of my minor child if his biological father is not deprived of parental rights - he cannot because... a child has a mother and a father.
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12. The mother-in-law has a house registered in her name. Now for her second marriage, the second husband is registered with her. her children from her first marriage live separately from them. The mother-in-law wants to bequeath the house to her children. But if her husband survives her, he will receive an obligatory share from his wife, regardless of the will, and will bequeath it to his children.
12.1. Yes, it is quite possible that this will happen. What is your question? The mother-in-law can dispose of her property at will, since she is the owner.
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12.2. If her husband survives her, the heirs after her will not get the whole house, but less than half, if the husband has the right to an obligatory share.
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13. Municipal apartment. I am the main tenant, but my ex-husband’s 2 minor children are registered in the apartment to a second marriage, my husband died. I would like to register my 18 year old son. All children have the same father. For this, you need the consent of the mother of the children from another marriage. She is not registered there. Registered.
13.1. Hello! Yes, such consent will need to be obtained.
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13.2. No not required. When registering for municipal housing, the consent of only adult family members is required. Good luck!
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14. I have 3 children, the eldest child (7 years old) from my first civil marriage. It was registered in my last name. We separated, he doesn’t help her. Now I am in my second marriage, my husband officially adopted my child and gave me his last and patronymic names. Can I apply for child support for her biological father?
14.1. No, after a child is adopted by another person, child support is not collected from the biological father.
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14.2. Good evening! If the child is adopted, then you have no right to demand child support from the biological father. Get a divorce, cancel the adoption if possible, and only then apply for alimony. But you can make a claim for child support against the person who adopted the child.
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15. I am in my second marriage, my husband wants to adopt my son (10 years old) from his first marriage. Where should we start?
15.1. Without the consent of the father he will not be able to adopt.:sm_bus:
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15.2. You need to start by collecting documents. And, first of all, the consent of the child’s father is necessary. Otherwise you will be refused. It is better to contact the guardianship authority for a list of documents. After collecting documents, your husband needs to go to court with a claim for adoption.
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16. How to correctly write an application for divorce from my husband’s second marriage (I am the first wife). I annulled our divorce, now he is a bigamist! How to dissolve his second marriage?
16.1. Let him go to the magistrate’s court at the place of residence of BZ,
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16.2. How did you cancel it?
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17. Daughter from first marriage, now second marriage, husband adopted daughter, court decision will be issued on May 6-7, 2013. I was told that I need to go to the bailiffs to write a refusal of alimony, please tell me, should I go immediately after receiving a court decision to write a refusal or is the refusal written after new documents for the child are drawn up? And tell me, if I write a refusal of alimony in mid-May, will I receive alimony for May? Thank you.
17.1. The termination of alimony payments must occur after the court decision on adoption enters into force.
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17.2. Tell me, after a court decision, alimony payments automatically stop or do you still have to write a refusal to the bailiffs? And if the decision is issued after the May holidays, will alimony for May still be accrued? Nothing will happen automatically. I know of a case where the father of a child paid child support for more than a year after adoption until he went to court. Therefore, in order to avoid further proceedings, immediately after the court decision comes into force, you should contact the bailiffs. Alimony will be collected on the day the decision enters into legal force. I don’t know if it’s April or May for you.
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18. I’m going to sell my apartment (premarital property in shared ownership with my adult son), my son invests his small funds, I take out a consumer loan. We are buying another apartment (I am in my second marriage, my husband does not invest any funds, but does not want to give up the apartment) We will register the new Apartment as shared ownership with our son (the purchase and sale transaction will be on the same day) In case of divorce, which part of the apartment will be claim my husband?
18.1. All property acquired during a joint marriage, in the event of divorce, is subject to division between the spouses in half, unless otherwise provided, for example, by a prenuptial agreement (contract).
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18.2. Ksenia, he will claim your share unless you prove that it was purchased with money from the sale of the first apartment. The part of the apartment that you bought with a loan will be joint property. Sincerely, Tatyana Strokova, Director of LLC ".
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19. Second marriage, my military husband is planning to move to another city.. I have a child from my first marriage, can I not inform my ex-spouse about moving to another city?
19.1. I believe that they are obliged, a parent living separately from the child has the right to communicate with the child, participate in his upbringing and resolve issues regarding the child’s education, in accordance with Part 1 of Art. 66 RF IC.
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19.2. The law does not impose such an obligation on you.
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20. Sorry, I’m asking the question again, but in a different wording. I have a second marriage, my husband pays alimony to his first wife in the amount of 25%, I also want to apply for alimony, how much% will be paid to my child? Thank you!
20.1. Hello Svetlana! 16.5% for your child and 16.5% for another child. Overall 33%.
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20.2. Yours will also be assigned 25%, it is the husband who must demand that they assign 2 33% at 16.5 each.
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Is it possible to divide a personal account in an apartment with a total area of 45 square meters? m. Rooms 9 and 17 sq.
There are 2 children from the first marriage, and 3 will soon be born from the second marriage, the husband took out a mortgage and bought a house,
Please, my husband and I are in our second marriage, my husband receives a survivor’s pension. Tell me if we officially sign he will receive a pension.
My husband took out a mortgage on the house before his second marriage. We are now married and expecting a child together.
My sister has a child in her first marriage, gave birth to a second child in her second marriage,
This one, divorced for five years, has a son from his first marriage, wants to live with his father,
I have a child from my first marriage. Now I am in my second marriage, my husband wants to give my son his last name and patronymic, what do we need to do for this procedure?
The question is, from the first marriage the spouse still has an apartment acquired in a modern marriage,
How Yuri Firsov is fighting for Legkostupova’s inheritance
Initially, it seemed that Yuri was heartbroken and did not need anything. He cried at his wife's funeral and shouted "I'm sorry." And he lamented so loudly that he had to be taken out of the ceremony. At the same time, the daughter of the deceased and her fans have a negative attitude towards him. The latter consider him directly responsible for the singer’s death, but his daughter saw an indirect connection.
The more time passes, the more details become clear. It all started with the man demanding the return of valuables, in particular money. We are talking about an amount of approximately 30 thousand euros. The yachtsman wants to get his own, according to him, but Anetta does not agree with this. She hired a lawyer to protect her rights. She is increasingly opposed to the widower, but if earlier she did not make loud statements, now she is less and less silent.
There is a version that the artist started drinking in recent months because of her husband, who loved this activity. It is even suggested that Yuri carried out such a policy on purpose, but it will be very difficult to prove this. The fact remains that the woman began to drink, which ultimately led to her downfall and death.
At the same time, Firsov claims some part of the inheritance, but the main share will go to the children of the deceased and her mother, who, by the way, ended up in the hospital after the funeral. They will have to share an expensive apartment, a Spanish house and copyrights to the work of the deceased singer.
What is known about Firsov and other husbands of Valentina Legkostupova
Yuri appeared in Valentina’s life 5 years before her death. At first they simply communicated via the Internet, and later the yachtsman invited her to the yacht with the company. The woman loved the sea very much, but she felt bad on yachts. In the end, she accepted the offer and went to sea with her future husband. This is how their closer relationship began.
It is interesting that Yuri entered into his last marriage on the same day when he was divorced from his ex-wife. As you know, the couple decided to get married in a church, but it turned out that the church did not divorce Yuri from his previous wife. The wedding took place a month before all the tragic events.
As for the relationship between spouses, they say different things. Some people report that the husband and wife loved each other very much and treated each other with tenderness. Someone says that Yuri raised his hand to her. It’s difficult to agree with the latter, because Legkostupova was a very strong person and would not have tolerated this. But why the couple began to abuse alcohol is difficult to say, but the fact is obvious - they drank together.
Valentina lived with her first husband for only a few years and gave birth to a daughter from him. He “walked”, and then tried to keep his wife close at the expense of his imaginary illnesses. The main man in the singer’s life was Alexey. She lived with him for almost 20 years and gave birth to a son from him. But problems with alcohol and Alexei’s difficult relationship with his wife’s daughter led to the breakup of the family.
Polina Gagarina spoke for the first time about divorcing her second husband
Polina Gagarina. Photo from social networks. Polina Gagarina spoke for the first time about divorce from her second husband Dmitry Iskhakov.
On the air of one of the shows on YouTube, she confirmed her separation from the photographer.
Gagarina noted that she tried not to advertise their breakup and did not write anything about it on her social networks.
“I have never been famous for PR of my personal life. I am for everything to remain in the family, because this is my rear, my love,” the singer added.
According to the artist, she is absolutely not a pragmatic person and does not try to “build some kind of strategy” at the beginning of a relationship. The performer is sure: in Russia, women believe in the decency of men, so they do not want to enter into a marriage contract.
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Can she ask for a divorce if her husband decides to marry a second time?
In the name of Allah, the Gracious, the Merciful
Praise be to Allah, the Lord of the worlds, peace and blessings of Allah be upon our prophet Muhammad, members of his family and all his companions!
And then:
Question: Can I divorce my husband if he is trying to marry another woman, although he cannot even support me and our children?
Answer: Praise be to Allah
Firstly , a woman has no right to declare a divorce on her husband; on the contrary, the right of divorce is in the hands of the man, since the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Verily, divorce is in the hands of the one who took the foot . Narrated by Ibn Majah, 2081; Sheikh al-Albani called the hadith good in Sahih Ibn Majah.
By "leg" we mean the wife's leg, and it is a euphemism used for intimacy, because the right to divorce is the one who has the right to intimacy with that woman, i.e. her husband.
The scholars of the Standing Committee on Fatwas were asked: “If a wife declares a divorce to her husband, is she obliged to atone for this and what is the atonement for this?” They answered: “If a wife declares a divorce to her husband, then the divorce is not considered valid and she is not obliged to make any atonement.” , but asks Allah for forgiveness and repents before Him, because declaring a divorce to one’s husband is contrary to the principles of Sharia, which indicate that the right to divorce lies in the hands of the spouse or his legal representative.” See Fatwa of al-Lajna ad-Daim, vol. 1, 11/20.
Secondly , a man is not obliged to ask his wife's permission or receive her satisfaction if he wants to marry a second one, but he will treat her well if he discusses it with her in a way that will ease the pain that is natural for a woman in such a situation. situations.
We advise a woman whose husband has married a second woman to be patient, ask Allah for a reward (for the difficulties she endures) and be content with what Allah has prescribed for her, because man does not know where good is. Allah says: “Perhaps what is good for you is distasteful to you. And perhaps you love what is evil for you. Allah knows, but you do not know" (Cow 2:216)
But if we assume that the woman cannot bear this and is afraid that she will not be able to fulfill her obligations towards her husband if he marries a second wife, then she can demand a divorce-khula, returning the mahr to her husband. The proof is the hadith of al-Bukhari (4867) from Ibn Abbas, may Allah be pleased with them, which says that the wife of Thabit ibn Qais came to the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, and said: “ O Messenger of Allah, I do not blame him in morals and religion, but I do not want disbelief in Islam.” Then the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: “Will you return his garden to him?” She said, "Yes." The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said (to Thabit): “Accept the garden and divorce her.”
Ibn Hajar, may Allah have mercy on him, said: “Her words “But I do not want disbelief in Islam” mean: I do not want, if I stay with him, to fall into something that will lead to disbelief, ... she seems to indicate that that a strong dislike for him could lead her to show disbelief, so that her marriage with him would be dissolved. She knew that this was forbidden, but she was afraid that strong hatred would force her to do it. It is also possible that unbelief refers to unbelief in relation to the spouse, since it is a woman’s omission of obligations to her husband.” See Fath al-Bari, 399/9.
If the husband is unable to support his wife and cannot fulfill his obligations towards her, then she has the right to turn to a Sharia judge and demand a divorce.
And Allah knows best
Sheikh Muhammad Salih al-Munajjid
And in conclusion, praise be to Allah, the Lord of the worlds!
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