It is customary to speak about Russian wives in the most enthusiastic tone and using the most flattering epithets. Of course: they are beautiful, feminine and patriarchal. It was these qualities that were so popular among foreigners who were tired of feminism in the early 2000s. But the next 20 years showed that the virtues of Russian wives are just vices turned inside out. And brides from Russia began to rapidly go out of fashion. If you still want to catch an elusive trend by the tail and seek your fortune abroad, read our rating and never do that!
We have deciphered a list of misconceptions that, upon closer examination, turn out to be very annoying features of Russian wives. By the way, they can alienate not only foreigners.
A Russian woman respects men = a Russian woman painfully wants to get married and is ready to do a lot for this
Girls in Russian families still begin to be told at about the age of five that the best thing they can do in life is to get married. Therefore, by the age of 18, the girl is firmly convinced: she, of course, can conquer space, invent a cure for cancer, save the planet from an environmental disaster, but all this is worth nothing and interests no one until she has a wedding ring on her finger and a stamp in her passport . And if so, there is no need to waste time on trifles, you must immediately realize your main purpose. The status of a married lady is something like a sign of quality for her. And if the husband is a citizen of another country, then this is not just quality, this is already the highest grade. For this reason, you can respect a man a little. And even forgive him all his shortcomings, including alcoholism and impotence. But exactly until he becomes her husband. One thing is bad: there are fewer and fewer men in the world who agree to be a free addition to their status.
A Russian woman does not compete with a man = a Russian woman is not capable of partnership
It’s true, Russian wives really don’t compete with their husbands. What for? It’s much more convenient if he has a strong shoulder or a stone wall, and she successfully asked to come into his arms. Let the man think about where to live and how to earn money, and she will indicate where to go on vacation and what fur coat she should buy this season. And just try to object! She already knows her rights: a man owes her, simply because he is a man.
Russian woman is selfless = Russian woman is convinced that money is not her problem
She generally has a peculiar relationship with finances: “Darling, your salary is our money, and mine is only mine!” A man simply has no right to earn little. Moreover, what is “little” or “enough” is not for her husband to decide, but for her. She will not try to earn money herself; it will be better to “educate” a man. That is, whining and scandals encourage him to climb the career ladder or get a fourth job. In short, see point 2.
A Russian woman is wise and patient = a Russian woman is a manipulator
“The husband is the head, the wife is the neck” - no nation in the world seems to have a similar saying. A Russian woman would rather die than say directly and honestly what she is dissatisfied with and what she needs. She will sigh sadly, roll her eyes, and let this husband, who is the husband, jump around, lost in conjecture. Didn't you guess? We begin to beautifully shed bitter tears onto our trembling chests. Have you guessed it, but are in no hurry to implement it? We look into the distance with misty eyes and make it clear that in such a tragic situation intimacy is in no way possible, and so on. In a word, “you can do whatever you want, but if you don’t do what I need, then I will die of boredom and a heart attack!” Direct and honest relationships are not for a Russian wife, because these men are so insidious that you cannot play with him openly. By the way, it works great with Russian men.
A Russian woman respects family values = a Russian woman gets married with her entire family
Okay, parents, but brothers and sisters, cousins and nephews - all these are now your problems too, dear, even if you have never seen these people in your life. They consider it completely normal to show up to you for a couple of weeks and demand attention, understanding, food and gifts. And they don’t care that it’s not accepted in your country.
A Russian woman is a wonderful mother = a Russian woman believes that she is performing a daily feat
The Russian woman is a mother-heroine. Not in the sense that she wants and is ready to raise many children. She simply perceives motherhood as a daily feat. For her, pregnancy is a unique condition, the birth of a child is a heroic act, and raising him is a high mission. At the same time, she will let the father know that he is a secondary creature and not so important in the child’s life. The Russian wife is horrified by the concept of “father on parental leave.” This is impossible! Only she should be on this leave - and until the child graduates from primary school. By this time, by the way, you can give birth to a second one, thus extending your vacation for another decade. Russian men are quite happy with this state of affairs. But only Russians.
A Russian woman is capable of sacrifice and compassion = a Russian woman is prone to codependency and masochism
Well, yes, a Russian will never leave an alcoholic, a lazy person, a domestic tyrant, or even a crazy person. She will carry her cross, because he will be lost without her! Most “crusaders” don’t even think that psychologists around the world have long called this behavior codependency. The more doubtful a man is, the easier it is to seem like an ideal woman next to him. The Russian woman has been reveling in these painful relationships for decades, instead of taking care of her own life. So a Russian woman does not save an addicted man - she drowns him in addiction, grooms him and cherishes other people’s problems. The husbands of such wives will never stop being alcoholics or unemployed, because their faithful simply don’t need them like that!
A Russian woman endures all the hardships of life = a Russian woman does not want and does not know how to be happy
Happiness is not our tradition. A Russian woman is “sharpened” to overcome difficulties, fight against circumstances and make other sacrifices. Absolutely everything requires sacrifice: beauty, family, relationships. Otherwise, how can you then say: “I spent my best years on you!” And if you decide to tell a Russian woman. that life is given for happiness and pleasure, then you deeply traumatize it. Just imagine: she overcomes and struggles all her life, but someone else does nothing like that and gets approximately the same result. What if there are no objective difficulties? Don't worry, she will definitely find them.
