What is love
Love is a mysterious feeling that cannot be analyzed structurally. It is impossible to give a clear definition of what true love is. Love has a great many facets. This can be a mother’s love for a child - bright and tender, and love for friends - warm and calm, and unrequited love - quiet and sad.
If a woman has several children, then she loves them all at once. So why do many people think that it is impossible to love, for example, two men at once? Human affections change every day, and if yesterday it seemed to you that he was just your friend, then when you wake up the next day, you may realize that you can no longer live without him.
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In the “We will help you” section on the pages of “1news.az” we will consider the topic “A man sits comfortably between two women.”
Very often women ask the same question: “How can a man love two women at once?” The question still remains up in the air. Most likely, the man is comfortably positioned between two women who love him.
We may be surprised that a man can immediately want not only two, but also more women, but we already perceive double love as something ordinary, since, unfortunately, we encounter such situations in life quite often.
How does this happen?
A man once meets and falls in love with a woman, and it seems to him that this one is the one and only. And he is ready to get a star from the sky for his beloved, to give the Universe. Love intoxicates a man's mind; other beauties do not exist for him.
The feeling of falling in love is the sweetest when you can’t imagine your life without your chosen one, when you want to spend all your time together, breathe the same air, when your heart is ready to jump out of your chest.
God, who among us has not experienced these sweet moments in life?
And the ideal option is when this feeling subsequently ceases to become something more - affection, unity of souls. But time passes and the “splashes of champagne” disappear, and routine, and sometimes even boredom, invades your life, and the fairy tale turns into an everyday story with all the ensuing problems of life.
A person is designed in such a way that he needs a feeling of being in love, and it is not necessarily associated only with gender relations - this includes love for children, passion for work, creativity, science, etc.
But a man, by his nature, is a hunter. And this primitive instinct of his was formed in the course of evolution. A man needs conquests to feel “in the saddle.”
Of course, it is impossible to determine when love will “strike you” around the corner, and it is not always possible to resist this feeling. Man is weak by nature; he can become a prisoner of his addictions.
But then the chemistry of feelings “happened” - and the man fell in love again. And again he is ready to do incredible things for the sake of another woman, he is also again fascinated by his new beloved, and again his soul sings and he wants to fly.
And appealing to common sense during this period is pointless, since the man “baths” in his feelings.
The most interesting thing is that many married men, falling in love, do not even think about destroying their previous life. The family has an established life, they are happy with everything, and perhaps they love their spouse, but this is established “love”, but new feelings... A man values each of his women in his own way. But I can’t guarantee you not to offend. If the legal half is not aware of his “affairs,” it means that there will be peace and quiet in this family. True, a man, at the first stages of his “madness,” may not behave entirely adequately, but if he is a savvy “diplomat,” then all this can go smoothly, without any special “sacrifices.”
Unfortunately, in love triangles, for some, love is joy, for others, it is pain and suffering.
A man loves two women. Not just a heart, but a hostel. And in such a situation, willy-nilly, a man tries to compare his ladies and thereby becomes confused in his own feelings.
To which of your loved ones should you “give” most of your heart?
To part with your old life means that too much physical and mental energy has been devoted to building a family. Letting go of newly visited love hurts your heart. But variety is a kind of adrenaline, and a man doesn’t want to lose it either. Most men do not try to get involved in such wilds and let everything take its course - as it turns out, so it turns out, and this can mainly concern passions, since they are generally at risk because they are in a “suspended” state.
But there are also representatives of the strong half of humanity who, having found themselves in an explosive adultery, when both the wife is in the know and the mistress is constantly “sharpening” you, demanding, finally, to make up your mind, they left both one and the other woman, unable to withstand the pressure, for in order to take a “sip” of freedom.
A man's love for women.
There are a lot of women in the lives of men. Is a man obligated to love everyone? No, I don't have to.
It is believed that any man will not miss a single skirt, just give him free rein.
Although a man has a more developed “animal instinct,” we still won’t qualify them that much.
But... It’s sad to say, but many men have a mistress, and the man cheats because he fell in love.
Then what about the wife whom he met at the dawn of his life and promised to love all his life? Which of the two women is more important and more necessary for a man? And again, the question is, of course, interesting, but unanswerable.
Getting involved in a romantic relationship, a man understands that he is obliged to love his lawful half, since she is not to blame for anything and is the mother of his children, and somewhere he is tormented by his conscience for having given to a “leftist”. And he must love his mistress, since this is the only thing he can offer her, because he is not going to leave the family hearth.
By the way, men cannot stand such words that carry a certain load - must, must. Although, more often, men adhere to these very concepts in their behavior, despite the fact that they do not agree with their forced installation.
To be honest, no one is obliged to anyone, much less should. Anything can happen if the motivating reason is good will, that is, the desire to do something towards a partner...
I hate the phrase - “We are responsible for those we have tamed” - it seems that we are directly related to “our smaller brothers” (pets). Each person must be responsible for himself, and he has no right to force another person to do anything, much less feel. We are not called upon to tame someone in a relationship. Feeling is freedom of choice - it either exists or it doesn’t.
Neither man nor woman is immune from love. Both one and the other fall in love. This does not mean that I am trampling on the foundations of the family, no. I just want each person to determine for themselves the degree of their responsibility. As for condemnation or criticism, this is mainly done by those whose stigmas are most in the cannon. And this is an axiom.
In the “We will help you” section on the pages of “1news.az” we will continue to answer letters from readers.
Is it possible to love two men at the same time?
Before tearing your hair out from the inability to make a choice, it is worth understanding the origins of the attachments that have arisen. For some reason, you may feel that you have fallen in love with someone else, although you have a completely strong relationship that suits you.
You can consider several reasons that can lead to falling in love with another person:
- The routine of everyday life can easily leave you feeling dissatisfied with your own life. Simply put, you lack vivid emotions. This situation is the best because it can be easily dealt with. It is enough, for example, to go on a trip or start a new hobby. Unwind, relax, in extreme cases you can even jump with a parachute. Vivid emotions and a frantic surge of adrenaline can help you make sure that this love is just a desire to diversify your life. Then just wave your hand and put the “item of interest” out of your head. Basically, you won't lose anything.
- Stagnation of relationships. The candy-bouquet period is long behind you; your relationship has long grown into the mainstream of ordinary everyday life. And now on a subconscious level you are trying to let a stream of fresh air into your life. In this case, you should first of all try to revive the relationship with your loved one, and not rush headlong into a hitherto unknown pool. Sometimes a bird in the hands is still better. But not all girls are ready to put effort into developing their own relationships; there are often cases when a woman behaves like a real magpie, greedy for everything shiny. Of course, you can fall into the whirlpool of “sinful passion,” thereby destroying your previous relationships with your own hands. But where are the guarantees that you haven’t traded an awl for soap or made it even worse? That's right, no one can give you guarantees that the new gentleman was worth everything that has been accomplished.
- Boundless pride and selfish greed. There are women who are simply greedy for external image. I don’t even want to sympathize with such women; their unhealthy selfishness will ultimately harm them. They love to be surrounded by men who admire them, and to accept various signs of attention. These are “dogs in the manger”, unwilling to make decisions, draw conclusions and soberly assess the situation. Perhaps they drew for themselves a template of an ideal man who was able to realize himself in such an incorrect way. For example, a regular partner has an ideal character and manners, and a new subject of interest has, in their opinion, an ideal appearance and “he has such a cute dimple on his cheek... perfection itself!”
Love for two men at once
It happens that life throws ambiguous surprises at us, and it is impossible to immediately understand whether the circumstances have developed in your favor.
If you can't choose between two men, you may love them both differently.
Let's look at tips in our article that will help you decide which of the men is your soulmate and you can make the right choice.
In such a confusing situation with the main criterion for choosing a partner being love, psychologists advise weighing the pros and cons and making a final decision.
1. Think about which of the two men you have common interests, values and views with. With whom you have common views on life, life, giving birth and raising children, attitudes towards finances, work. This is all very important, it is important to look with your soulmate in the same direction in life.
2. It is also worth paying attention to the family, to his relationships with the relatives of each of the applicants. This is usually an indicator of the principle of your relationship. It is worth considering whether you see his parents as your father-in-law and mother-in-law, grandparents for your children.
3. Think about which of the applicants is closer to your level: social, cultural, intellectual, material. Unequal marriages are good in books and TV series, but in real life it is quite questionable. The more you have in common, the more likely you are to get along well together.
4. Think about which of the two you feel most comfortable with. Since the concept of psychological comfort is different for everyone: it is difficult for some to live without new impressions, a change of place and noisy companies. And some people like comfort, silence, lack of news. Think about who is closer to you in this regard?
5. You can also use the visualization method. Turn to your subconscious for help. Close your eyes and imagine which man you can see yourself with in a few years.
When you make your final decision, you should focus all your energy and feelings on your relationship with this man, and in the future, never regret your choice.
There is no need to doubt and mentally return to the second chosen one. When arguing, never say that you made the wrong choice. You create your life yourself, and uncertainty and doubt will only deprive your love of energy. Try to put all of yourself into this relationship, and everything will be fine.
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