Relationship with a strong man: do you need it?

How to behave with a guy? Surely, any girl who once met the man of her dreams asked a similar question.

How often, having barely met, a woman begins to make a bunch of mistakes, risking losing her happiness. Today we will tell you in detail how to avoid this.

Just don’t say that you have never thought about the issue covered in this article. If you are a girl of course...

Three steps leading to love

Who do you think is the initiator of the acquaintance, the guy or the girl? “Of course, boy!” – you will answer. And you will be wrong. Because a guy, as a rule, chooses the girl who has already chosen him.

What does it mean? There is a so-called “three-signal system”: the girl gives a signal, the guy catches it and answers, after which, finally, the girl decides whether to reciprocate or, as they say, “turn a deaf ear.” One small but decisive condition: the girl’s signal must be non-verbal, unspoken.

Such signals include smiling, playfully shaking hair, flirting with a shoe, and sneaking a glance. Look the guy in the eyes, hold your gaze (and at this time think about something pleasant), and, as if embarrassed, look away to the side.

Then there are two possible options: either the guy will turn away and not react (which means “no,” but this is unlikely), or he will introduce himself to you, ask for your phone number, etc. And it’s up to you to decide whether to continue acquaintance or retreat.

This couple clearly took the right steps...

How to behave with a guy when you are already together?

Next, you need (minimum program) not to disappoint the guy and retain his sympathy, and ideally (maximum program) - charm him so that he loses his head.

There are also a few simple rules here.

Be irresistible

You can be very, very fragile, however, be firmly and iron-clad in your irresistibility! This is the great secret of all girls and women who enjoy great success with men.

Guys love girls who are confident in their own attractiveness! If this is a problem for you, do this exercise: imagine that you are a magnificent gift.

Give him yourself with love, bring positivity! Let him understand that you are a star, you are unique and there is simply no other girl like him. Remember the movie stars! They literally hypnotize with their belief in their own irresistibility and instill these thoughts in the public.

Remember, you are irresistible!

Keep your distance

Don’t be too annoying with your presence, even if you are sure that this is love until the grave. And good things can get boring! This means that a decent girl is simply obliged to miss one evening! Let you go on five dates together, but the next day say that you have a lot of work to do.

Or a sudden trip is brewing. Let him understand that you have a lot more interesting things besides him (here it is, men's favorite game of “hunter and prey!”)

Be sure to take an interest in his affairs

And, preferably, this should not just be an “on-duty” interest. Be unobtrusively curious about what your boyfriend is doing and participate a little in it. For example, your boyfriend is an avid fan of Spartak or Dynamo. Go to football with him, cheer for his favorite team. He will definitely appreciate it! The same goes for fishing and some other male entertainment.

Don't be capricious

Men don't like this at all. Don't ask a guy to sacrifice his passion, hobby or meeting with friends for you! Remember that your loved one is the same person as you, and therefore worthy of respect.

Playing on nerves will not lead to good things. Less whims!

Don't make unreasonable scenes of jealousy

There is no need to make a fuss if your boyfriend, for example, danced with his former classmate at a party of former alumni!

Be sure to respect yourself

Under no circumstances should you sacrifice something very significant for yourself just because Sasha (Petya, Misha, etc.) wants it. Understand correctly: we are not talking about, for example, where to go together today, but about something more significant . For example, about the opportunity to freely communicate with friends, get the desired education, etc.

Never try to make him jealous

Sometimes women flirt desperately in front of their lover, and then suffer. Because the beloved, having seen enough of all this disgrace, thinks to himself: “All of you women...” And leaves disappointed.

Don't slander or gossip

At least in his presence. Men already, for the most part, consider women to be frivolous talkers who love to slander another woman. By not giving in to this temptation, you will be very different from others in your boyfriend's understanding, and he will respect you.

Give your loved one compliments more often

If you have learned this, then the problem of how to behave with a guy will disappear by itself! It is not true that only women “love with their ears.” Any man, even the smartest one, will really like that he is appreciated.

In the presence of a guy - away with the frown!

Become a holiday girl for him who will always support and cheer him up. And when you say goodbye, he will miss you very much. It will be difficult for him without your presence, a warm atmosphere, and the guy will be ready to do anything just to experience positive emotions again.

How to be close to a strong man?

A strong and successful person is not a product of his environment. He himself creates the conditions in which he needs to grow and develop. Orisen Marden

Strong men - who are they?

So, who do you think is a strong man, why do we need him in our lives? A strong man is, first of all, one who has a lot of energy, this is natural. If he is all drained, tortured, and looks unhappy, he is not a strong man. What does it mean to have a lot of energy? In the East it has long been known that a person has energy centers - chakras, and in certain chakras we have energy that helps us in business and career. That is, the energy of activity, business, money.

A strong man cannot exist without money. A strong man is one who has energy, including money. Because a man's purpose is to earn money, and a woman's purpose is to inspire him. She is like a muse for him, who can guide him somewhere and support him. All this, in fact, is what a man expects from a woman. A strong, worthy man will never humiliate a woman or reproach her with anything.

We described a type of man who, when doing something for a woman, said: “Well, you’re stupid, nothing always works out for you, etc.” As a result, she breaks up with this man because it was simply impossible to communicate. She will ask you to do some small thing, but so much negative energy is poured out on her that there is simply nowhere to go. A decent and strong man will not insult a woman. A strong man, if you ask him to do something, he will simply do it. Of course, actions like jumping off a roof don't count. But if you ask to do something normal, useful, he will do or help.

Of course, a strong man is also generous. Because he doesn’t hold on to some little things.

Many worthy people with whom I communicate say this: “God will see and give more.” For example, when he gives a girl a gift, he says so to himself and does not cling to these three pennies. And she doesn’t whine that she’s somehow mercantile. This is not a strong man. A real man wouldn't do that. He is always calm. He is completely confident in himself. Even if something happens in this person’s life, anything can happen.

For example, one respectable person had a huge factory throughout Russia. One day he was attacked by competitors and ended up in the hospital. They took away part of his business, he is a strong man and did not give up. And now he is moving the business again - this time it’s different. This person, so confident and strong, reasons like this: “Well, it’s okay, anything can happen in life. There are arms and legs, the head can think.”

Naturally, we cannot imagine a strong man who drinks, is a drug addict, etc.

A strong man will never complain. If suddenly he began to reveal something personal and secret to you, it means that he feels trust in you. But he won’t complain to just anyone. If he says something like that to you, it means he feels you are an emotionally close person - and this is your big plus.

A woman for a strong man

We specifically interviewed our friend, the director of a very popular group, on this topic. We can say that he is an example of a worthy man: rich, smart, intelligent, creative. Based on his answers to our questions, we compiled a portrait of the woman he is attracted to.

What type of women is he attracted to?

1. She has a well-groomed, non-vulgar appearance.
2. If a woman smokes, he will never communicate with her.
3. A woman should be able to entertain a man with a joke. Preferably intellectual. She must have subtle humor. Humor, in his opinion, is something a woman should definitely develop.
4. If a man jokes, I would like her to laugh. I supported him.
5. It's not good when a woman gets offended. Resentment is different from whim. It’s okay for a woman to be capricious and pout. But it is unacceptable to be wildly offended.
6. Before a woman starts complaining about her problems, let her feel the condition of the man next to her. Maybe she shouldn't do this at this particular moment. (That is, first a woman must feel the inner state of a man, establish contact with him, and then pour out her problems.)
7. In general, our interlocutor does not like people who constantly complain and carry negative energy. A woman should be joyful.
8. A woman must understand that a man loves when there are many women around him. And that's okay. She must understand that a man may have fans around him, women he likes. And there is no need to throw hysterics at him about this. If she doesn’t understand this, then he won’t communicate with her.
9. It’s great if a woman is sociable and talkative. Of course, a man wants to be entertained.

Why do relationships break down?

1. If a woman has bad habits - she smokes or drinks.
2. If she looks bad in the morning.
3. If she pays little attention to a man, does not listen to him carefully, but is constantly in her thoughts.
4. If a girl has no energy, she is lethargic and he is bored with her.
5. If she does not support his creative ideas, she does not inspire him. Creative people generally want constant support. They often ask, for example: “What’s better to sing: this way or that way?”

What does a strong man expect from a woman?

1. The most important thing is that such people think a lot about business, about business, they are constantly tense and often tired. Even in the appearance of such a person, tension is visible. Therefore, if you see that he has come tense, you need to help him relax, that is, start some interesting conversation. A woman should be sociable, cheerful, have a sense of humor, that is, create a pleasant atmosphere around a man. Especially when you just started communicating. And, of course, you don’t need to tell him about any problems straight away. First, just talk, let him be in a good mood, and then you can talk about some of your affairs...
2. A strong man wants to see a self-sufficient, confident woman next to him. A woman should try on different images - a flirt, a girl you want to take care of, etc. You need to be different, but at the same time self-sufficient. What is self-sufficiency? This means not clinging to him, not looking into his eyes like a dog, with a look that says: “Well, take me on the mat, put me in the hallway, feed me twice a day, and I don’t need anything else. Well, please pet me." There is no need for such a state - it is disgusting and unpleasant for him. Of course, you can show that you are glad to see him, but you don’t need to stoop to that extent.
3. Also, if you are nearby in a crowded place, you don’t need to pet him or pester him too much. One oligarch complained: “You go out with a girl, and she seems to be stroking you in a private dance. I'm sitting and don't know where to go. You won’t fight her off in front of everyone. The cheeks are all crimson, but it’s not clear what to do.” He never went out with her into a crowded place again. I went once to an uncrowded place, but only once and never saw him again. You need to behave with restraint, dignity, but kindly, naturally, sexually - make beautiful gestures that we teach. If a strong man wants to hold your hand, there is no need to pull away - let him hold you, light touches are acceptable.
4. Your body also speaks about your condition and energy level. If you sit beautifully, with a straight back, slightly raised chin, smile openly, make beautiful and graceful gestures from a state of dignity, you immediately get the feeling that you value yourself. And if something is wrong with a girl, the man may not say it in words, but he will feel it intuitively. Because a strong man wants to have the most gorgeous woman possible next to him. Because he goes out with her, wants to show her to his friends, he is pleased that such a woman is next to him. You are the standard of his level, because like a woman, like a man. A strong man always understands that the woman who is next to him will appreciate him. Therefore, it is very important to always think about how you will look, what your makeup will be, your hairstyle, what you will wear. After all, you are going with a worthy person to a worthy place. But the most important thing! You shouldn't spend your last money on outfits. If you have nothing to wear, tell the man about it, and if he is a really worthy man, he himself will buy something suitable for you. Also remember the rule - the more a man invests in you, the more he values ​​you and is afraid of losing you!
5. As for clothes, it is important that you do not look vulgar. There is no need to wear outfits that are too revealing. If you are wearing a neckline, then let it be in an ensemble with trousers or a longer skirt; if you are wearing a short skirt, let it be something more closed on top. Everything should be in moderation.
6. It often happens that when you arrive, his friends are already sitting in the cafe. How to show your best side? You must introduce yourself in a very dignified manner: say your name and smile. It was as if the Queen of England had come to them - this should be their internal state. If it’s a man, you can offer a nice hand; if it’s a woman, you can simply greet her. But very friendly.
7. If there is a dispute in a company, it is very important to always support your man’s side. It happens that during some conversation, your man says one thing, and his friend says another. Even if you really don’t support your man’s point of view, you should still definitely support his side. He will be very pleased. This is the first thing, and the second is that he will think that you think alike, that you are on the same wavelength. It all comes down to the fact that both sexually and emotionally, you are like two halves. A man subconsciously looks for a person who will support him. And if this is a worthy woman, that’s just wonderful. He expresses his point of view, his opponent expresses his, and you say: “But I also think that...” and give an example that supports your man’s point of view. Or: “I recently heard, just on this topic, that ...,” and you say something like that to confirm the topic. Think a little so that what you say is adequate to the situation, but be sure to emotionally support your man.

What not to do?

1. There is no need to behave strangely and inappropriately. If you are sitting in a restaurant, quiet, calm music is playing, do not talk loudly or laugh. To behave adequately means that it is appropriate for the situation in which you find yourself. If you are in a noisy company and everyone is talking loudly, of course you talk loudly too. If this is a quiet company, and you make the whole restaurant laugh loudly, this is repulsive and frightening. Once, business women from Moscow came to us for training. One of them is very worthy - a deputy, a socialite, a plump and very pleasant woman. Harmonious energy emanated from her, and everything was fine, but when she started laughing, it was some kind of nightmare. At first we tactfully tried to explain that there was no need to laugh like that. Then they realized that this would not help, and they said it directly. “Then it’s better not to laugh at all,” we advised her. Imagine - she goes to high-profile meetings, serious events, and then there’s such wild laughter. Later she admitted that she could not find a man - adequacy still matters. When she began to follow our advice, her personal life improved, and now she is married.
2. It is advisable to know in advance where you will go with your man. And choose clothes according to the place you are going to. If you go to a bowling alley, you need to wear one thing, to a club - something else (don’t forget that different clubs have different directions), to a restaurant - a third, to a theater - a fourth.
3. You don’t need to call and send SMS all the time. Businessmen are irritated by this. They are busy all the time, and questions like: “Darling, do you miss me?” cause them irritation.
4. There is no need to ask questions over the phone like: “When will you be there? Where are you, dear? What are you doing now? And do you miss? Tell me that You Love Me". At this time, perhaps, he is sitting between two respectable clients - and turns red, pale and covered in spots. Real stories I have been present in such situations more than once. Imagine, we are sitting in a car with a man, his wife calls. They have a normal, good relationship. She doesn't work, she stays at home. She has nothing to do, and she pesters him with calls with similar questions: “Do you miss me?” This time he almost exploded and almost dropped the steering wheel: “Yes, honey!” And then he couldn’t stand it: “Damn, when do I get bored! I have three phones that are constantly ringing, my workload is overwhelming.” Then I advised him how to get out of this situation. Now he periodically sends her template SMS messages, and she doesn’t pester him with calls. In order to avoid getting into such situations, especially since you don’t know what situation he is in now, you don’t need to send SMS to him often. Possible sometimes, but not often. You can send something unobtrusive, pleasant, and wish you a good mood. And if you have agreed to meet in some place, you should not call to find out where it is and say with a claim in your voice: “Well, where are you? I’m sitting here alone, like a fool, in a restaurant, everyone is looking at me.” It’s better to say this: “You’re probably delayed, maybe you’re stuck in a traffic jam? I’m waiting for you, come quickly.” Speak from the heart, with understanding. You don't know what's really going on. Maybe he’s really in a traffic jam, rushing to get to you, or maybe someone delayed him. Immediately tune in to the fact that the person is coming to you, just something could have happened on the way or something delayed him. If you talk to him with this attitude, he will speed up and come to you faster. And if you speak with complaints, he will gradually lose the desire to date you.
5. I’ll say a platitude - don’t be jealous. Don't do this in all seriousness. There is, of course, some slight coquetry. But you cannot be seriously jealous and lead to scandals, claims and hysterics. If, God forbid, you see that he is sitting with someone (we in our female pickup studio often play out situations when, for example, you saw that he was sitting with someone, or when you were sitting with someone , and he walks, or you are sitting, and his ex came), remember that in fact there is a very worthy way out of all these situations (and we do all this in our classes). In any case, there is no need to throw hysterics, scandals, or scenes of jealousy. If you saw or heard something like this, or someone gave you such an idea, you don’t need to tell him about it. It’s better to ask us what to do, because we can easily resolve these situations. But he doesn’t need to reprimand this. A strong man will not tolerate this. He does not tolerate control when he is limited.
6. You can make some claims against a man. But which ones? That he didn’t buy you a gift, or forgot to congratulate you on some holiday, or promised something, but didn’t do it. Then you need to make a bow on your lips and say: “Well, how come, you promised... You’re so good, you always keep your word.” There is a good technique on how to create a stir around yourself using jealousy. Constantly tell him how many fans you have. But you need to know how to do it correctly. One of my acquaintances has been living on this hype for three years now: his feelings are on fire, he is restless all the time. He knows that someone else will quickly take his place, and this is the result: he constantly brings gifts and looks after him. He likes it. I'm not saying I'm kissing anyone. This is done very carefully, using special words, etc. We study these techniques in detail in our women's pickup studio. There are always many women next to a strong man. This is fine. And there are many men next to a sexy woman - this is also normal. This is an indicator of your sexuality. This doesn't mean that you have sex with them, they just like you and want to communicate with you. These could be friends, admirers of your talents, etc. But if a man is completely alone, he has no one and there are no women around who are interested in him, it means that no one needs him, it means that something is wrong with him. Because a normal man will not be alone. Some woman will immediately grab him. And if he doesn’t date anyone, it means that he is either an alcoholic, or a drug addict, or a pessimist to the core, or a loser, or mentally or physically unhealthy. We must be vigilant. Real stories Once in our practice there was such a case. In Moscow, a girl came to us for a consultation. She really wanted to meet someone and said: “No, my man will definitely be single, rich, handsome and lonely.” And then she met someone who was rich, handsome, and lonely! We tell her: “Marina, this can’t happen. Something’s not right here.” As a result, he invited her to his place - to a very luxurious house, security and all that, but when they began a romantic relationship, he undressed, put on roller skates and said - take me around the house for ... (this is the place). If you don’t drive, my guards won’t let you out.” The girl was in shock and very scared. And she began to do this in a state of horror. We then worked with her for a long time on this fear. Let's not repeat such terrible incidents. You should always remember that you are working out in a women's pickup studio. There are so many women around, standing at bus stops, wrapped up and not here. You definitely have an advantage. You take care of yourself, learn the secrets of sexuality, and reveal your capabilities. In terms of energy level, you are almost always higher than those women who are there. The more you do, the higher your energy. The higher the energy, the less you will be afraid of any competition - it simply won’t be there. You will look calmly, saying: “Yes – women, yes – they walk, yes – they call, yes – the secretary is beautiful. So what? I’m self-sufficient, I’m next to him, I won’t offend myself with jealousy or anything else unworthy.” That's why…
7. There is no need to be jealous of the women who are next to him. They could just be friends. These could be women with whom he satisfies his sexual needs. It's better to react calmly. This could all have happened before you were in a relationship with him. And if you win him over to your side with your energy, your youth, your sociability, he simply won’t have these women. But while not everything is clear in your relationship, there is a chance that he will not treat you like a pioneer. You should immediately know that this can happen and calm down. Don't insult yourself with these emotions. Don’t think: “Someone is calling him, which means I’m worse, there’s something wrong with me.” You must reconsider your thoughts. In our studio classes we play out different situations. For example, imagine that you and a respectable man went to a nightclub, and there you met his old acquaintances, two girls, and began to communicate with them. Finding herself in this situation, one of the participants in our training began to take the man aside and say: “Well, let’s go, let’s go already” - in general, to behave inappropriately. Although here you need to react calmly and not even show that you are worried. Of course, a relationship with a strong man requires some internal and external changes and efforts from the girl. But it’s so nice to be next to a worthy person, to live beautifully, to receive gifts, to travel. We sincerely wish you all this!

From Elena Gamayun’s book “Woman in Great Demand”