Every person who enters into a marriage certainly dreams that the union will be strong and happy. However, time passes. Feelings gradually cool down and passion fades away. Romantic relationships are replaced by everyday worries. In addition, the spouses are entering a period of midlife crisis. It is at this time that men most often start relationships on the side. After all, not every member of the stronger sex is able to resist the temptation to experience new and vibrant sensations. Why does a married man need a mistress? And how to find a lady of your heart on the side?
Psychology of married men
Most often, betrayal in the family occurs on the part of the spouse. Why is this happening?
Psychologists have identified several reasons why a married man needs a mistress. Among them are the following:
- Sexual dissatisfaction. Often, in this regard, the desires of men have significant differences from those expressed by women. For representatives of the stronger half of humanity, intimate relationships are considered a very important process. For girls and women, in turn, sex is not so important. And it may not be in the first position on the list of priorities. In addition, women are very tired of household chores. And this is one of the reasons for their lack of sexual desire. In this regard, the mistress is a serious competitor for the wife.
- Psychological dissatisfaction. An important component of every marriage is good relationships between partners. However, if there is no normal psychological climate in the house, and the spouses constantly quarrel without finding a common language, then the husband may try to find a calmer environment. And he will do this on the side.
- Having bad habits. Cheating that occurs while drunk is considered a fairly common occurrence. But, as a rule, all this happens unintentionally. Moreover, such betrayals may not occur at all if the man does not abuse alcohol.
- The influence of the environment. In most male companies, it is customary to have a mistress. This helps to increase respect and rating in the eyes of friends.
- Age crisis. This is a pretty good reason. It is in connection with the onset of the age crisis that men start having an affair on the side. During this period, a person begins to doubt the attractiveness of his appearance and his capabilities. A mistress (especially a much younger one) becomes a kind of “simulator” for a man, with the help of which he tries to restore peace of mind.
Cheating on your beloved wife
Men are designed in such a way that they are constantly missing something. Sometimes a husband takes a mistress, although he loves his wife. Why is this happening?
- Wants to rest. A man understands that his wife is smart and a good housewife. Nevertheless, he strives to start a relationship on the side. This happens because a man wants to be strong in the eyes of his other half, does not want to show her weakness and shift his problems onto her shoulders. However, troubles happen in his life, which requires relaxation. This leads the man to the decision to relax on the side.
- Search for the ideal. Many men are tired of everyday problems. That is why they stop admiring their wife, who at the beginning of their relationship was the best woman. Gradually she turns into an ordinary person with her own shortcomings. This leads a man to the decision to start looking for an ideal lover. However, it is worth keeping in mind that only at the beginning of their relationship will the lady of the heart appear in front of her passion with perfect makeup and beautiful outfits. After all, there is certainly an old robe hidden in her closet, and she, like her wife, is also a woman with her own shortcomings. Over time, the man begins to see them. However, this does not always stop him from going outside. He simply begins to search for a new ideal lover.
Internet dating
Where can a married man find a mistress? The easiest way is to meet people online. On the World Wide Web there are a large number of communities that were created to satisfy the request “Looking for a mistress.”
How do existing online dating sites allow you to have secret affairs? How to get a mistress for a married man? First of all, you will need to indicate your marital status. After all, many women do not strive for romance, wanting relationships of no more than an intimate nature. This is why finding a girl on the Internet is not at all difficult. To do this, you just need to select a suitable site, register on it and fill out a form. It is advisable to skip some personal questions that relate, for example, to your place of work or name. After all, a married man needs to be careful. It is possible that this site is visited by friends of his family. In most cases, such resources ask you to upload a photo. However, this step can also be skipped. It will be better if the man sends the photo to his new acquaintance personally. First of all, you need to start communicating.
The creators of any dating site equip it with a special search. This function allows you to enter some criteria. They can be, for example, zodiac sign, nationality, age, place of residence. For example, if you want to have an affair with a married woman, a man must select the “married” status.
In addition to the dating site, there are a large number of similar phone applications. Many icons do not have names. This allows you to install the application without arousing suspicion from your spouse. In addition, such applications usually have a password. For a married man, caution comes first.
Complete isolation
There are situations when you need to get rid of your married man, but you are connected by some kind of business relationship.
- Firstly, try not to communicate with him literally at all, pass on information through third parties.
- Secondly, if communication cannot be avoided, try to have less face-to-face contact, write letters by email, for example.
- Thirdly, ideally it is better to change jobs or move to another department and in a new place not to do the same bad things again as having an affair with a married colleague.
Complete isolation is an excellent method of breaking up, as long as you are not forced to cross paths. Ban him on social networks, block his number, prohibit mutual friends from talking about his life. Don’t whine when looking at his VKontakte page. What are you trying to achieve? A nervous breakdown because of a dishonest man?
Don't let him get you into private conversations. Tell him clearly and clearly to his face: “Our relationship is over, I deserve more than a relationship with a married man!” And put a bold point.
Social media
Where can a married man find a mistress? He can do this by turning to social networks. If a representative of the stronger sex increasingly thinks that it is worth advertising: “I am looking for a mistress,” then it is quite possible for him to realize his desire on VKontakte. In this case, it is enough to enter the city of residence and age range.
How can a married man have a mistress? To do this, you will need to attract attention and interest the lady. Don't use standard greetings. You need to stand out in any way, for example, by sending a virtual gift. A man should be sincerely interested in a girl. However, it should be remembered that the main condition for such an acquaintance is the lady’s consent to remain on the sidelines. A woman must understand that her lover is a married man who wants to have an exclusively secret relationship. You should chat with your chosen one online for some time. After this, you can start planning a personal meeting.
Love affair at work
How to get a mistress for a married man at work? It is worth noting that this option to have an affair on the side is the easiest. After all, every employee knows about the marital status of his colleagues. At the same time, people know each other quite well and are able to plan the time of their meetings without any problems so that the spouse does not know about it. Also, connection at work adds extra excitement to the relationship. In addition, a romantic relationship will certainly give the daily work routine exciting and very pleasant sensations.
However, this type of relationship also has a large number of disadvantages. Female and male colleagues will no doubt notice that there is a certain relationship between them. This will first give rise to rumors, and then such conversations will certainly turn into serious gossip.
Companies often hold corporate parties to which employees are invited with their significant other. The wife of a man who started an office romance is unlikely to fail to notice her husband’s increased interest in a colleague of the opposite sex. This threatens him with a family scandal.
In addition, a mistress working with a man in the same organization knows all his personal data. After the end of the affair, it will not cost her anything to destroy the marriage. In addition, after breaking up, the man will have to meet every day with the lady with whom he just recently spent his free time.
It is also important to remember that one of the policies pursued by many companies is to prohibit romance in the workplace. Because of this, a man has a high risk of losing his job due to a fleeting relationship. In addition, those who work together with their mistress are unlikely to be able to concentrate on fulfilling their duties as before. This will deteriorate the quality of work, which will cause serious damage to career growth.
And a few more opinions
8. Sergey, 27 years old, journalist
“Office romances, like all good things, come to an end. And it’s not always smooth. And you actually like this job. To avoid inconvenience later, it’s better not to start.”
9. Vladimir, 27 years old, photographer
“I work with models. Most of the time they are practically naked. This is a very intimate moment: the work of a model and a photographer. If I had gotten involved with a producer, an assistant, or the same model, some magic would have been lost. Or it wouldn't be a job anymore. But attacks of jealousy, hysterics, all this is definitely not for me.”
10. Mikhail
, 32 years old , designer
“To be together at work, at home, and on vacation. It too. A man needs something of his own, he needs a feeling of freedom. Otherwise you might go crazy.”
11. Rais, 35 years old, artist
“You can’t interfere, there must be a clear hierarchy. If you give in, then it starts: I want this, I don’t want that... Where’s the bonus? I see a purpose, but I do not see obstacles! If suddenly a person becomes close to you, it will be difficult to achieve your goal.”
12. Sergey, 31 years old, showman
“I work as a host of various events; I often host wedding celebrations, at which there are a lot of beautiful girls. As a presenter, I get a lot of attention. How do I use it? I help single guys shine in front of these girls, because if they succeed, guess who will officiate their wedding?”
13. Evgeniy, 31 years old, entrepreneur
“Personally, I met my wife at work in a nightclub. This place was dotted with scantily clad girls and guys with whom all of us came into contact for work and other matters. There was no jealousy or other problems. After some time, we said goodbye to this place of work, got married, had children, and everything is fine with us, thank God.”
What do you think about office romances? Write your opinion in the comments.
Other people's wives
A married lady can become a permanent mistress of a married man. And this is understandable: a married woman will not demand increased attention to herself. She will take the lack of gifts quite calmly, because the trinkets that appear may arouse her husband’s suspicion. Married lovers meet within a limited time. In addition, such a novel will always be kept secret.
A married lady will also strive to hide her third-party relationship. In addition, she will never destroy the family and force someone else’s husband to dissolve the marriage. But when starting an affair with someone else’s wife, you need to make sure of her intentions not to leave her husband. Otherwise, such a mistress will present a huge number of problems. A relationship with a married man, for whom a woman intends to leave her husband, will lead to the fact that she will be left alone. This happens in most cases. Anyone who does not intend to leave the family for the sake of his mistress should warn his new passion about this in advance. This will avoid adverse consequences.
Office romance with a married man. For or against?
Such relationships have many more disadvantages than advantages, so you should think several times before starting them. True, when passion and enthusiasm awakens, there is no time to think or it is already too late.
The danger here lies in the fact that this connection begins to affect all aspects of a woman’s life and does more harm than good.
What are the dangers of having an affair at work with a married man?
This is the worst way to find a partner for a relationship.
Partner's age
How can a married man have a mistress? In order to make your sexual adventure as enjoyable as possible and not cause problems later, you should carefully consider the choice of your partner. Not all women are suitable for temporary relationships.
So, if the mistress is much younger, then this, on the one hand, allows a man to realize his attractiveness and ability to win the heart of any lady. However, young girls are most concerned about finding not a temporary gentleman, but a spouse who will take care of them and support their family. It is worth understanding that if the lover is younger and the age difference is significant, then she most likely still dreams of eternal love and absolute fidelity. That is why young girls, on the one hand, are very attractive, and on the other, very dangerous. Such young ladies will certainly try to destroy the marriage and take the man away from the family. After all, they so want to build their own happiness!
But ladies after 30 years already realize that life is not a fairy tale, which is why they dream and fantasize less. They stand more firmly on their feet and are not looking for a sponsor at all, but for an interesting companion who can brighten their life. In addition, they are more skilled than young girls in sex, and understand exactly what they like and what they don’t like in intimate relationships.
It is easiest to have an affair with older ladies. They themselves do not strive to enter into a serious relationship. They are more satisfied with temporary alliances to relieve boredom.
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- Marina
I do not agree! I met my husband at work, I worked as a financier, he is in the commercial department) and he came to our company from competitors, where I had previously come for reconciliations
