Bad girl
Hello, dear girls!
Surely, you know that for some reason guys and men really like bad girls. Have you tried to try on such a role? If not yet, this article is for you! You will find out who she is - a bad girl and why men literally go crazy for such young ladies.
Bad girl
Bad girl
To turn a man's head, it is enough to use a few simple techniques that any bad girl has in her arsenal. Below are some of them. Not all, but there are enough of them for you to turn on your imagination and continue moving in the right direction. So let's get started!
Become the boss in bed
Any bad girl uses her power over a man during sex. You can throw the guy on the bed and tie his hands to the headboard so that he can't touch your body. And then start seducing him, teasing him, covering his torso with kisses, going lower and lower. And when you reach your hips, slowly move up again, all the way to your neck. The guy will get incredibly excited, but don’t rush to untie him, but ask him to tell him why he’s so excited and how much he wants you now. Let him try to convince you of his desire to possess you and only after that free his hands. Give him complete freedom of action - let him do whatever he wants.
Change your look more often
The bad girl seduces men with her versatile sexuality, trying on all kinds of erotic images on herself. For example, you can put your hair in a bun and wear a young man’s shirt + a school (plaid) miniskirt. This will make you look like a high school student. Another time, use black lace lingerie, loose unruly hair and bright red lipstick - this will turn you into a vamp, a mistress giving orders to her submissive man. Let the guy fulfill all your desires, even the most daring and obscene!
Obscenity
Feel free to say obscenities when left alone with a guy in bed. Traditional moans and screams, of course, have not been canceled, but if you start whispering obscene words and desires during sex, it will excite both of you much more. As an addition, be sure to tell your man what you expect from him in bed and what he needs to do during the “process” itself. You shouldn’t rely on him to figure everything out on his own. Men love it when their partners direct their attention where it is needed.
Video
It is very useful to observe from the outside how everything happens with you and your boyfriend during sex. To do this, you need to film your lovemaking on camera and then watch it carefully. Of course, you need to watch it together. This will turn you both on much more than any XXX movie, believe me.
Your fantasies
A bad girl never hides her sexual fantasies from her partner, no matter how obscene they may seem to her! Throw your complexes and embarrassment aside - after all, your beloved and loving man is next to you, so fearing that he will start thinking badly about you is groundless. On the contrary, by revealing your secret desires to him, you will show how much you trust him and he will certainly appreciate it! Well, for his part, he will try to bring them to life for the joy of both of you!
I wish you success in this interesting business!
An article on a similar topic is here.
In conclusion, traditional humor:
» A pretty girl is sitting on a bench in the park. A guy approaches: “Girl, can I sit next to you?” “You can, but don’t try to persuade me to have sex with you.” - What, do you really like to have sex? - Crap! Well, we’ve persuaded you!...”
Career for bad girls: a game without rules?
The career path of a good girl vs the career path of a bad girl
Decent girls clearly know the rules of career growth: good education, responsibility, punctuality and creativity, coupled with the ability to make decisions and stay at work as needed, even if this jeopardizes their personal life. They are dressed in accordance with the dress code and do not gossip in the smoking room about the boss’s new suit.
But it happens that completely different girls bypass them at the turn: they paint their nails with scarlet varnish, manage to show off their cleavage even in a strict office shirt, interfere with reporting indicators with charming smiles, and in the end it turns out that they were the ones who were given the new project.
The fact is that modern bad girls are not at all the shadowy “evil girls” from Mexican TV series, whose simple maneuvers are clear to everyone.
Bad Girl Career: Sex as Lure
“She achieved everything in her career exclusively through bed!” How many times in your life have you heard such a phrase? Well, here it is: it is morally outdated.
To use men for your own purposes, including career ones, it is not at all necessary to jump from bed to bed at the speed of a frisky flea. Men are also fascinated by flirting, understatement, and compliments. Your inaccessibility (read: decency) combined with obvious sympathy for them can work wonders. And sex as such, including without obligations, has long been a non-problem in modern life.
The situation is complicated by the fact that you will meet more than one useful man, not two or three, and such relationships need to be skillfully juggled so that everyone stands in line and is happy. It is possible that the process of maintaining contacts will also include carnal pleasures - for mutual pleasure. But in this case, the real bad girl behaves independently and neutrally: well, it was and was. And by the way, it was very good, my dear.
Rarely a man will fall for this bait called “maximum pleasure, minimum complications.” After all, they have firmly learned that their close relationship with a woman means her claims, demands, hysterics and jealousy. And bad girls don't fall in love. Well, maybe very bad guys. Ine at work.
But they marry good people... A classic of the genre.
The kingdom of intrigue in the careers of bad girls
Men's help and influence will not be enough for the stability of your career.
After all, a woman can always deceive a man, but never another woman. That is why you will have to act through subtle “undercover” intrigues. To intrigue competently, you need a base: information, a support group and abilities for this specific activity.
Katya worked at a large factory and was always the only woman among men at planning meetings. Before the planning meeting, the accountant came to the boss and convincingly explained that the money Katya was asking for for development was unnecessary.
But Katya had a special dress - office, laconic, but fit and with a neckline on the back... Putting on a gray jacket, Katya walked along the corridor past the secretary straight to the men who would rather hand out money to the workers for nothing than allocate it for Katya’s plans.
And then... Katya took off her jacket, hung her posters on the stand and began to convincingly prove (demonstrate?) that she was right. Katyani never left without money...
This is the most primitive example of how to hide your ideas about women under a gray jacket. Real bad girls intrigue left and right, and the level of skill is determined not so much by the result as by public opinion - no one should guess that you are behind all this.
Therefore, you need a person who can work as a kind of mouthpiece, a “disseminator of information.” Such people are priceless. It's your job to manipulate them. After all, a prerequisite for success is its publicity. If no one knows that you negotiated brilliantly, what's the point? Bad girls don't play coy. Praise yourself, but praise cunningly: the emphasis should be on the seriousness of the problem that you managed to solve and the difficulties that arose.
The boss as a career driver
You already know what good girls do in this direction. But what do the bad guys do?
– They adapt to his (her) work style and are shamelessly flattering; – exaggerate their victories and belittle others; – find out his (her) weak points and, if necessary, use them; – establish informal relationships with him (her); – are friends with his (her) secretary.
Safety rules for bad girls' careers
Of course, the path of a bad girl in her career is fraught with a lot of dangers. Therefore, we have prepared instructions for you that will help you get around the “sharp corners”:
– if you’re busy at work, keep your mouth shut and your hands in place (most often touches give us away); - if you are planning an intrigue, then it is better not to let its participants in on your plans (meaning those whom you consider as allies, but you will not tell your enemies anyway); – involve in your actions only those who are clearly on your side, and not out of friendship, but out of calculation; – work so that everyone knows that you are a high-class professional. Professionalism is like talent; a lot can be forgiven for it; – do not underestimate the enemy, it is better to overestimate; – don’t waste your time on trifles, it’s better to wait for a worthwhile opportunity and go all-in.
This image of a bad girl looks like an unattainable ideal and requires remarkable acting skills. But if you resolutely take a similar path in your career, then you must strive for such an ideal. Otherwise, you will be considered simply evil and stupid.
Be a good girl. For what?
Let's look at this story from a psychological point of view.
What happened to the heroine? How did she get into this predicament?
Strict parents and a stern grandmother raised a “good girl, an obedient girl.”
What does it mean?
A few points:
- she has an introject - an emotionally charged belief - that they are right. Just by the fact of their existence, her parents and stern granny are right.
Even when they are clearly wrong.
In her childhood experience, every time she tried to defend her boundaries, her vision of the world, it was considered a rebellion and was harshly suppressed.
Her childhood adaptation to the world: caring for others.
It was her way to survive and fit into her parents' family.
“In order to get anything for herself, she had to behave well.” And then her parents encouraged her.
She's used to earning love.
She internalized the idea of her lack of self-worth.
She is a nobody, but if she behaves well, they can “pat her” for it.
Parents, teachers, and even grandmothers can very rarely pretend to approve.
So, “being good” = taking care of others to the detriment of oneself, expecting that they will love (encourage) for it.
What does this lead to in real life?
People from other family worlds do not interpret her behavior that way.
They may think that if a person takes care of them, does something for them, gives them gifts - this is for the simple reason that he likes to do it, he expresses his love in this way, he wants it himself.
They don't know it's a deal.
They perceive that a gift is a gift. Not an advance payment for something.
Other people from more violent personal stories view this style of adaptation as a sign of weakness and react to it with subconscious fear and aggression.
For them, kindness and care are dangerous, since warmth and love inspire their trust, and then pain and the memory of suffering.
And it’s easier for them to devalue, take a consumerist attitude, exploit and escalate the situation into a conflict in order to confirm their picture of the world.
But for a “good girl,” a negative attitude towards her means only one thing - that she is bad, and she needs to try to become good.
And she continues to diligently and sacrificially, often silently, take care of a person who ALREADY feels bad from her kindness.
After all, she knows that “the other is always right, but she is wrong.”
A synonym for “good, obedient girl” is narcissistic extension.
More scary name. And it conveys the meaning more accurately.
A living person is methodically made into a convenient object - like a stool or a slow cooker.
Without your will. Without your own character. Have a good one.
This is a very difficult task for modern parents: how to find the line and not raise a child to be either a narcissist or his shadow - a narcissistic extension (social masochist).
At the same time, the child needs to be raised so that he can live in the real world, communicate with people and be in relationships and remain himself, develop his own, individual nature.
In the story that we are studying, the matriarch, a stern Soviet grandmother, polished the heroine’s parents “to suit herself.” Then, together, they raised her to be a “good, obedient girl.”
The social and historical context changes quite often. And, if in the period of the late USSR she could have completely fit into life, since there were structures with clear rules and her way of adapting “to take care of others, be good, obey” was quite consistent with the situation, then in modern reality, where the rules of the game change very much often, and people are brought up with very different values, she tragically loses.
Like a trained circus animal released into the wild.
A family drama from the past is a continuation of the analysis of history.
