Three main problems for women
Yesterday morning, after seeing off my husband and sending my son to my grandmother until the evening, I sat with tea on the veranda and listened to the joyful chirping of the birds in our garden to the rustle of the old apple tree.
A glossy magazine caught my eye. On the cover, the headline reads: " Women's Top Three Problems."
Well, let's see... (Women's magazines have the ability to arouse monkey curiosity in some mystical way, even if you know in advance that you won't find anything worthwhile there).
And what do you think, dear sorceresses, what turned out to be these three problems? Here's the revelation in a nutshell:
- I don't have a man (husband).
- My man (husband) is of poor quality.
- The man (husband) is of high quality. But he's not mine.
I laughed for a long time. Together with the birds. In the end, this answer will probably satisfy some category of women. In any case, those who seriously read glossy magazines.
And then I thought... How would I, “sort of smart,” answer this question? What are the three main problems of a modern woman? And this is what I pictured, right here, on the veranda, with the birds singing.
I do not pretend to be the truth and, of course, our entire women’s life, multifaceted with its suffering, cannot be reduced to these three problems. And, of course, my statistical sample is limited to:
- Those women with whom I communicate and whom I have the opportunity to observe.
- My own projections.
So. Three main problems of modern women.
Problem one
I don’t know my place in the world, I don’t know myself, I don’t know what (who) I want.
It’s not for nothing that I placed this problem first. Because everything else that torments us grows from there.
We are talking about an unformed female identity.
In simple terms, identity is contact with oneself, a sense of self and an idea of oneself in this Universe. If I don’t feel who I am, what I mean, what I want, I cannot focus
in this direction, accumulate energy for this, know where to get it from for this, and I am very “shaky” emotionally, energetically, behaviorally.
This is why the process of self-knowledge is so important, be it trainings, classes with a psychologist, communication with interesting and experienced friends and mentors in the women's circle, women's development tools - books, films, practices. We build our personality brick by brick, recognize ourselves, choose our path, shake off stereotypes imposed from the outside, and establish ourselves in our individuality.
We establish contact with ourselves - the most important mental function for a woman. Identity exists on different levels - from your philosophy of life to your style of clothing.
As soon as a woman acquires a more or less conscious identity (an image of herself and her values), a huge mass of problems of self-esteem, relationships with other(s), problems of violating your boundaries, your internal conflicts go away without special super-techniques.
As a woman, I can state that 50% of my personal problems have definitely disappeared,
when it became clear to me who I am, what I am and why.
This discovery does not happen overnight. And besides, it is always dynamic and developing. But as soon as the contours of your identity are determined, life becomes fundamentally easier and more interesting,
because the mass of everything that is not “yours” (people, affairs, projects, dreams) simply stops drawing energy from you.
Problem two
Her name is Lyubov Dogrobova. Or “my personal happiness globally depends on a man.”
Love Dogrobova is alive in each of us. This is a myth that has plagued many women. And which is now actively taking root in our minds, like a contagious virus. You must have a man. Worthy of you. The measure of your feminine importance. What is your life worth now? Your real life will begin when he comes - the man of your dreams. Courageous, strong, responsible. Ready to do anything for you. You are weak, small, stupid (you are a woman), so vulnerable in this huge world. And he will solve your problems. Including with myself. And you will have great love for life...
We are pushed towards the criteria of “having something”, instead of the criterion of “being happy”. And the woman plunges into a state of expectation neurosis if she has not yet attracted such a man into her life. Or a neurosis of disappointment if her man is suddenly not a Terminator. She makes lists of his ideal qualities, visualizes a fateful meeting three times a day after meals, spins funnels with all the chakras and... Waits. But, alas. The prince got stuck somewhere in a forest swamp with his horse.
Neither personal, nor spiritual, nor even simple women’s work on themselves begins while a woman seriously believes that it ’s all about the man
. In fact, her man comes (changes, is replaced) only as a reflection of her evolving inner masculine aspect. And as a result of how much a woman knows how to be truly happy in herself. Not the other way around.
Problem three
Distortion into maternal energies instead of truly feminine ones.
Often, instead of the main female task - inspiration, we carry out the male task - protection. Without feeling the support of the masculine principle, both in the outside world and in her own personality, a woman lives on maternal resources, ensuring the survival of everyone who is dear to her, including herself and “that guy.”
We do not feel the boundaries between the measure of tension and restoration that is due to us by nature. As my wonderful friend and colleague Tatyana Vasilets says: ,
this is a mega-cultural situation throughout the Western world.
Hence - tension, fatigue and excessive burden of obligations.
We are constantly saving someone, we are responsible for everyone, and if not us, then who. We work too much, we get tired, we stress out. We survive instead of living. We obsessively think about what will happen tomorrow. And this uncertainty plagues us.
There is only one reason for this: fear. We feel so unprotected in this world (how scary it is to live). We do not know how to be saved, we do not know how to accept help and support from those who are able to provide it to us. We do not know how to protect ourselves even from ourselves in the urge to be everything to everyone.
The hypermaternal complex of the Russian woman is a long-standing historical “tradition”, firmly entrenched not only in the minds of individual Sorceresses, but also in our collective unconscious.
But this problem can also be solved by cultivating a balance of male and female energies in oneself, delegating feats to men, colleagues and loved ones in exchange for our inspiring energies, so that one does not have to rely all one’s life on one’s eternally vigilant and ready to go even to war heroic maternal principle.
How do infections of the female genital organs manifest?
In the vast majority of cases, women experience the following symptoms of a sexually transmitted infection:
- pain during urination
- fairly frequent trips to the toilet, while daily diuresis does not change
- presence of foul-smelling leucorrhoea discharged from the genital tract
- pain and discomfort during intercourse
Symptoms of infection appear characteristic of a specific type of pathogen of the genital organs. Eg:
- papillomavirus pathology is characterized by the formation of warty growths and condylomas in the anogenital zone
- for a fungal infection (candidiasis) - the presence of a cheesy white discharge with the smell of sour milk and severe itching
- for syphilis - the formation of ulcerative lesions (chancre) on the genitals and enlargement of the inguinal lymph nodes
- Gonorrhea is characterized by purulent discharge and hyperemia of the vulvar mucosa
- for trichomonas colpitis - the presence of foamy discharge with the smell of rotten meat
- Genital herpes is characterized by the presence of blisters with transparent contents and a strong burning sensation in the affected area. An increase in body temperature is often observed.
In most cases, the symptoms of infection in women depend on where the lesion occurs.
- If the infection is localized in the urethra, there will be complaints of frequent visits to the toilet, as well as pain and discomfort when urinating.
- Symptoms of an infection of the labia will include hyperemia and swelling of the mucous membrane, as well as pain when touched.
- If the cervical canal is damaged (cervicitis), a woman will complain of bleeding during or after sexual intercourse.
- inflamed endometrium (endometritis) will make itself felt by pathological manifestations of menstrual irregularities in the form of painful sensations in the lower abdomen.
The timing of the appearance of the first signs of infectiousness varies depending on the type of pathology.
The incubation period for STIs varies for different diseases. It can be several days or stretch over time up to several months and even years. In some cases, the disease may occur without any characteristic symptoms. As a rule, in about 20-40% of cases and even more often, signs of infection do not appear.
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