Getting to know a girl first is always a huge challenge. Most of the fair sex are confident that the initiative for dating and communication should come only from a man. That, supposedly, they are the stronger sex, they must woo girls, court, surprise, and much, much more. Dear ladies, it's the 21st century. A century where women are much stronger and braver than men. Therefore, if you like a guy in a cafe, don’t be shy, but take the initiative into your own hands.
This article will tell you a lot of useful tips on how to look when meeting a guy, how to behave when meeting a guy, dating tricks and everything you need to successfully meet a guy in a cafe. By following the advice that will be written below, you can easily start talking to the guy you like, and believe me, the initiative in the future will come from him.
If you want to find answers to all your questions, then this is definitely the place for you! Read on and enjoy some quick tips on how to meet a guy in a cafe and much more.
How to behave when meeting a guy
As in many other similar situations, only one thing can be said: confidence must emanate from the girl. Confidence in your choice of partner, in your appearance, and finally, in yourself. Guys prefer girls who are confident, but you shouldn’t think that confidence and self-confidence are the same thing. This is far from true, therefore, never confuse these two concepts.
Often there are such situations: if a girl is confident in herself and the guys feel it, then the girls don’t even have to get acquainted first. The guys themselves will take great initiative, which will later develop into something more.
In addition to self-confidence, a guy should feel that you are calm and natural. Nowadays, most guys prefer natural beauty. Modesty and simplicity are what adorn girls in our century. However, many will say that many guys like vulgar girls who live in clubs? Of course, there is no escape from this, but if you are a supporter of a serious relationship (and most guys want just that), then, believe me, you are out of competition. Club girls will never be able to outshine you, no matter how hard they try.
Take care of your appearance
It's better to meet a guy in a dress. Well, you must admit, who doesn’t like slender girls in beautiful dresses? All the guys are just crazy about it. Just take into account this fact: guys like cute girls who dress modestly, and not liberated ladies dressed vulgarly.
An excellent option for a dress would be a simple pencil or with a flared skirt, preferably in a discreet color, for example, blue, black, perhaps white. Shoes, in principle, can be with heels. Attention, if you know how to walk on them. Few guys are delighted with the fact that a girl walks awkwardly in 20-centimeter heels. It's a pathetic sight, to be honest. Therefore, if you do not have the ability to wear heels, then it is better to wear ballet flats. In them you will look no less attractive, in addition, your legs will be comfortable.
Basically you can wear any clothes. The main thing is that you feel comfortable in it. Therefore, whether it’s a dress, a skirt or jeans, if you yourself interest a guy, then he won’t care what you’re wearing.
Dating without company
It is worth considering that people in a cafe feel relaxed, they are not running anywhere or in a hurry, so getting to know each other here is a little easier than on the street with the eternal bustle.
If you notice a girl you are interested in without company in a cafe, try to indirectly attract her attention - discuss something with the bartender or waitress, exchange jokes with people at neighboring tables, make yourself the center of attention for a while. Firstly, it will arouse the girl’s interest, will make you stand out from the crowd of other cafe visitors, and secondly, it will create the impression of you as a sociable person.
After that, you can approach the girl and just start a conversation. You shouldn’t hesitate, doubt your abilities, or look for some smart topics to start a conversation. Just say hello and start a conversation on a neutral topic, ask questions (preferably those that cannot be answered in monosyllables), involve the girl in the conversation, and give her discreet compliments. At the same time, be sure to look into her eyes, do not wander your gaze, do not look around. Direct, open views inspire more trust.
Try asking her out on a date right away. This is much more secure than exchanging phone numbers. Such pressure can intrigue almost any girl. Try to offer her specific date options - billiards, a club, bowling, a movie, a walk in the park, and so on, you can ask what she would like. Strike a balance between assertiveness and politeness without appearing too intrusive. You can only ask a girl out after you've started a conversation, otherwise it just looks inappropriate.
Makeup
We must not forget about makeup. Makeup should be light and barely noticeable. If you have a problem such as imperfect skin, then use foundation or powder. Just don't apply too much, even if you have pimples or blackheads on your skin. This won't help the situation. Acne should first be treated, not covered up.
Next about the eyes. Eyes are weapons of mass destruction, so they should look as bright and expressive as possible. But you shouldn’t take the previous sentence too seriously; your eyes should look bright, but not flashy. Therefore, no pink or other shades of eyeshadow. Bright shadows will not make your eyes bright, but will only hide them under a bunch of unnecessary color. For makeup, shadows in calm and neutral tones, such as light pink, nude or gray, are ideal. In general, all dull and discreet colors. Arrows are also perfect to complement this makeup.
As for the lips, everything is extremely simple here too. If you decide that your makeup should be bright, then use red lipstick. It suits almost everyone. Especially those who have plump lips. If you have lush and voluminous lips, then red lipstick is what you need. If you want your makeup to be subtle, then use warm-colored lipstick.
Dating methods
Perhaps this subtitle is the main one, because it will reveal several secrets about how fragile and sweet girls can meet the guy they like in a cafe.
The first method is the simplest. Basically, you don't have to do anything other than smile. A smile is what attracts any guy. Therefore, if you smile sweetly at him, he will understand everything himself and will certainly be the first to approach you. And if it doesn’t fit, then you should think about whether you need one at all?
Next is the look. A look is something that will not leave any man indifferent. The pattern is the same as when smiling. And if you combine these two weapons, then he definitely won’t get away from you!
The third method is a little more complicated, but also much more effective. So, we need a napkin, a pen and a waiter. Remember everything that is written below, because this is the most effective method of all. Take pens and a napkin and write down your phone number. Then, as if by chance, you call the waiter over to you and ask him to give the note to that guy. Slow waiters nowadays have become insolent and will tell you. That this is not their responsibility. In principle, he is right. In this case, give him 2 dollars, and he will gladly fulfill such a small request. After that, get up and leave. The advantage of this acquaintance is that even if he suddenly does not call you back, you do not lose anything, because, most likely, you will never see him again. Well, isn’t it a miracle method that all proactive girls should use?
In general, not only a phone number can be written on a napkin. Anything you want can be written on it. For example: “I really liked you,” or if he is not alone, you can pass a note to his friend with the text: “Your friend is very cute.” In general, write whatever you consider acceptable without hesitation.
Next there will be a method only for very brave girls. Therefore, if you are modest and unapproachable, then please pass by. So, let's begin. As soon as you see the guy you want to meet, you immediately need to take the “bull by the horns.” Sit at his table (if he is sitting alone) and start getting acquainted. This is done in a trivial way: “Hello, what’s your name? Maybe we can meet? I just really liked you.” That's it, nothing more is required from you. The rest of the actions depend only on the guy. If he liked you, he will happily reciprocate your proposal. Well, if not, then this is not your person.
If you are embarrassed to approach the waiter and ask him to hand over your phone number on a napkin, then your friends can help you in this case. They will gladly agree to improve your personal life, rest assured! You can do the same. That is, give the napkin with the number to your friend, and while he takes it to the guy you like, leave unnoticed. However, it is better to sit for a while, because the guy may simply not notice you.
There is also another dating option. In principle, it is not much different from the 4th, but it may suit less liberated girls. So, the essence is extremely simple. There is one small nuance. You should come to the cafe when it is full of people. To ensure that there are no empty tables. This trick will help you sit down with the guy you like, citing the fact that, unfortunately (or maybe fortunately), there are no vacancies in this establishment. Next, if the guy likes you, he will talk to you. Well, if not, then he will run away for the first time for 5 minutes.
If you didn’t calculate the time and came when, as luck would have it, all the tables in the cafe were free, then you need to act very cunningly and insidiously. Sit down with the guy, only now mentioning that, for example, those tables are uncomfortable for you because the air conditioner is blowing so hard. Or not the other way around - it’s very hot. A well-mannered guy will invite you to sit down, even if he doesn’t really like you.
Next, watch how he behaves. If there are any signs of attention on his part, even if a little strange and transparent, do not doubt that you managed to win his heart!
To the madness of the brave we tweet tweets2
“I decided to ask the waitress who served him for advice. She offered to order him a beer. By the way, this is exactly what I planned to do - pass him a beer or a portion of fried potatoes.
Step 1: I spotted this guy and asked the waitress for advice on how to pick him up — TheBabeReport (@thebabereport) September 17, 2016
The guy was really cute. I know that this often happens - a stranger seems prettier from afar. But then I was sure that he was handsome.
I noticed him as soon as I sat down. I suddenly realized that it was so stupid to be afraid to meet a man myself. I decided to do it for once.
Step 2: We narrowed it down to sending him a #burger, #fries or #beer — TheBabeReport (@thebabereport) September 17, 2020
How did I imagine everything? I order him something. He does the same. Then he sits down at my table, says hello and says how great I arranged everything.
He would talk about how no one does that nowadays. We would chat about how people should do this kind of thing more often. Then we would kiss, exchange numbers or something else.
But things didn't go quite that way...
Step 3: I wanted to be funny and send fries, but she suggested I send beer #datingadvice — TheBabeReport (@thebabereport) September 17, 2020
I thought it would be fun to send food instead of a drink. But I followed her advice and ordered a beer. After all, she knows him better than me - she has been serving him for the last couple of hours.
The waitress and I are chatting about loneliness. She's been out of a relationship for 3 years now. Even when she flirts while serving men, she is never asked out. — TheBabeReport (@thebabereport) September 17, 2020
Isn't it crazy that a beautiful waitress with a charming smile and a friendly personality has never been asked out or approached? Some kind of nonsense, in my opinion!
It seems that men (and women) no longer have the courage to flirt in real life because they know they can take the easy way out and use dating apps.
Step 4: I ask the waitress when she will send him my beer and she says she will wait until he finishes his. Ugh. Patience? — TheBabeReport (@thebabereport) September 17, 2020
Or maybe he drinks even more slowly (read in the voice of Chandler Bing from Friends)? Patience is not one of my strong qualities.
Step 5: My food has just arrived. Great. Now when she brings him my beer and points at me, I'll probably have a very attractive mouth full of hamburgers. — TheBabeReport (@thebabereport) September 17, 2020
This is where the worst part began.
They brought me my food and I noticed that he had almost finished his beer. I wasn't sure if I should eat my burger—I didn't want to risk it. She will bring him my beer, point at me, and at this time my mouth will be full of food. But then I thought how stupid it was. Sometimes I'm such a girl.
I took a huge bite without bothering at all.
Step 6: She just brought him a beer and pointed at me, saying it was from me. He gives me a smile and an airy greeting. And it's all??? — TheBabeReport (@thebabereport) September 17, 2020
I remember this moment. I remember my thoughts - “I hope this is not all he is capable of, damn him.” Did he wave at me? It can not be. Couldn't he at least order me something in return? I almost finished my Mimosa. He could have sent me a Mimosa! Come on.
Step 7: All his buddies give him a fist bump, I guess to congratulate him on getting to him. — TheBabeReport (@thebabereport) September 17, 2020
Without exaggeration. When my beer arrived, all his friends started fist-bumping him encouragingly. I also thought, “Hmm, maybe I shouldn’t encourage him so much until he gets off his ass, comes to my table and says “thank you”?”
Step 8: Mmm... He still hasn't come over to say thank you or say hello in person. #so fucking lonely #single team — TheBabeReport (@thebabereport) September 17, 2020
When 15 minutes pass and he still hasn't come to say thank you, and he still hasn't sent me a mimosa, only one word comes to mind: anger.
Step 9: This is my first attempt at this and I'm disappointed. He's there drinking the beer I bought him, looking really hot and ignoring me — TheBabeReport (@thebabereport) September 17, 2016
He actually drinks my beer there, eats ribs and doesn’t even look at me. Um, shouldn't I thank you? Seriously, what the fuck?
Step 10: He sees me paying the bill and knows he should come say hi before I leave. He sits next to me, chats for a while and gets my phone number! — TheBabeReport (@thebabereport) September 17, 2020
Okay, in his defense, he said he was eating ribs and didn't want to come over until he was done so he wouldn't get sauce all over his face.
What I really liked was that he didn’t just come up to say thanks. He talked to me and took my phone number.
But this rib-loving cutie still owes me a Mimosa. It will be fair.
And his friends came up to me and told me that I was confident and they liked it. They said more women should do this. In turn, I said that it wouldn’t hurt for men to take the initiative more often.
So, even though it didn't work the way I imagined, it still worked. And it’s so cool to try something new – I feel great.”
