A person spends a third of his life sleeping, while his brain continues to work, analyzing not only signals coming from the outside, but also our feelings, emotions, and experiences. Parting, no matter what it is, always leaves a mark on the soul. It seems that everything is long ago. You are already in a new relationship, and you try not to think about your past relationship during the day, but it continues to bother you at night.
This is what Sigmund Freud says about this situation, or rather the dream book he compiled. An ex-boyfriend or husband with whom a woman broke up dreams of a quarrel with her current lover. Agree, you cannot deny the logic of such reasoning. If a woman is not very smart, and her current man is too jealous, this scenario actually takes place.
The sorcerer and magician gives his own interpretation of such a dream. By the way, it has nothing to do with magic. Rather, it is a superficial psychological analysis of the situation. If you believe the interpretation of the dream provided by Longo, a woman dreams of her ex-husband or lover if she pays too much attention to her past. There is also no doubt about the correctness of this conclusion.
It happens that a woman still has warm feelings for her ex-partner. In this case, it is not surprising that the ex appears in her dreams from time to time. If the breakup was painful, perhaps resentment towards this man still lives in the secret corners of the soul and makes itself felt in night visions. In this case, it is better to deal with your own past in order to start living in the present.
Another option is that the couple’s separation was sudden. The last words have not been spoken, and the final point has not been made. So the subconscious scrolls through the unfinished situation over and over again. Such persistent memories indicate only one thing: it is very important for you to bring the matter to its logical conclusion. It might make sense to just talk to your ex so that there is no misunderstanding between you. If there is no desire or opportunity to meet with your ex, use the “transparent dream” technique to manage the situation, so to speak, from the inside.
Did you break up with your ex as a result of an argument? Are you well aware that only your bad character is to blame for this, but your pride does not allow you to call first? Then a dream about an ex-boyfriend or spouse is a reason to seriously think about your behavior and relationship with this person. Very often such dreams are prophetic and you are destined to be together.
Psychologists say that a person’s dreams reflect his personal experiences, impressions, and ongoing events. But in addition to logical explanations, it would not be amiss to remember the symbolic meaning of our dreams.
Do you often see your ex in your dreams? It's time to look in or your spouse reminding you of yourself in a dream can mean serious changes in your or his life. Especially if your ex-lover comes to you in a dream in an unusual form.
This is the meaning of the symbols that the esoteric dream book offers us: an ex-boyfriend or ex-husband is often dreamed of by women who are eager to get revenge for their broken heart. The imagination models a suitable situation and displays it in a dream. The scenario of meeting your ex-lover might look like this: you are in a chic dress, get out of a limousine and run into him. The ex doesn't look too good: unhealthy, shabby clothes. Perhaps similar dreams visited you in reality, and the subconscious simply embodied them in a dream. As the guy advises, pay attention to the situation itself. A heated showdown in a dream indicates that feelings for this person have not yet cooled down. Kisses and mutual caresses are evidence that you are not averse to renewing your relationship.
It must be said that among the interpretations of this dream there are some very funny ones. This is what the English dream book tells us: your ex-boyfriend dreams at night - beware of witchcraft. Modern man, of course, is very far from such superstitions.
If you believe folk superstitions, the person you dream about is certainly thinking about you. Perhaps this is the most pleasant interpretation of the dream. After all, the fact that the once close man has not yet forgotten you cannot but rejoice. No matter what the dream book says, a former young man who recalled himself in a dream is an excellent reason to call and inquire about his affairs. Still, you are not strangers and can easily maintain friendly relations.
Why do you dream of dissatisfaction? Most often, this type of emotion enhances the negative connotation of the vision. The dream book will help you understand what happened in your dream.
Get rid of negativity!
Very often, the feelings that other characters experience convey the dreamer’s inner state.
Seeing dissatisfied people around means that you are consumed by sadness and sadness, even if you are not completely aware of it yet.
If in a dream those around you aggressively express their displeasure, then old resentment or anger has taken root in your soul.
The dream book advises you to get rid of past grievances as quickly as possible and remain extremely calm in the future.
Deciphering the nuances
The dream book advises taking into account the meaning of other emotions that usually accompany dissatisfaction.
- Anger can be a sign of worry, anxiety, or remorse.
- Sadness - to peace and finding a patron.
- Sadness - to a joyful event and general triumph.
- Annoyance leads to debt.
- Irritability - help from loved ones.
In a dream, did you suffer dissatisfaction due to injustice? In reality, troubles will dissolve on their own.
Did you dream that you were extremely irritated, screaming and swearing? In reality, it will be possible to shift some of the responsibilities to others, which in turn will cause their indignation.
Why do husbands come back?
When your husband announced that he was leaving forever, it seemed to you that this was the end of the family, the end of the relationship. But statistics show that unfaithful husbands return in most cases. And this happens due to the following factors:
- Habit.
Men themselves don’t notice how they get used to certain things, little things. And only life with another woman reveals these little things. He notices that his mistress does not cook as well as his wife, likes the wrong films and programs, listens to different music. And he comes back because he is unable to change his habits. - Change of world view.
If the husband left for someone else or simply left home, this probably happened in the heat of emotion. After time passes, the man realizes the value of the family, his mistakes and will return. - Reconciliation.
After the husband leaves home, communication with his wife and children still continues. And over time, all the anger and resentment disappears.
Gift or accusation?
Why else do you dream of dissatisfaction? The dream book sees this as a sign of mental disorder and disharmony.
Did you dream that you were unhappy with your position in a dream? Expect accusations of dishonesty at work or at home.
I would like to emphasize that the dream “statement” is prophetic, so you should definitely pay special attention to it. If a young woman dreams of a statement from a fortune teller, then in reality she will be severely deceived.
If a young unmarried woman saw or heard an expression of love addressed to her, then this foreshadows that soon a young man will appear in her life with whom she will be happy.
If an unmarried man sees or hears a statement about love that is dedicated to him from a beautiful stranger, then this means that a girl with whom he has known for a long time, but did not pay attention to her, will fall in love with him. If a married woman (married man) dreams of a positive statement from her lover, it foretells the strengthening of family relationships. If the statement concerned children, then in reality the family of the one who is dreaming will soon have a new addition.
What if you dream about a statement?
During the day, many positive and negative situations happen to every person. The most impressive information is deposited in the deep layers of the brain, and makes itself felt during sleep.
Seeing a “statement” from people around you in a dream suggests that all the actions taken and words spoken by the dreamer will be the center of discussions of the people around him. Therefore, in real life you should carefully consider all words and subsequent actions. Otherwise, all the negativity will reflect on him and he will not be able to resist it.
Seeing a negative statement from friends in a dream promises discord in the relationship with a person whom the dreamer considered a true friend for a long time. Seeing yourself in a dream uttering a negative statement indicates that discord in friendly relations will occur through the fault of the dreamer.
Reasons for the breakup
The future relationship of the former spouses largely depends on how the divorce process took place. The reasons that prompted the dissolution of the union play an important role.
According to statistics, modern couples most often get divorced due to the following problems.
- Interference in the marriage of friends or relatives of one of the spouses. This situation is far from uncommon. Parents often interfere the most in a couple's life. Often, the husband’s mother may not like her son’s chosen one. Because of this, she does not seek to establish communication with her, but, on the contrary, provokes conflicts and sets her son against his wife. Also, the cause of divorce can be the machinations of friends.
- Spouses may not agree on their characters, interests and outlook on life. Living next to a person who practically does not support you in anything and constantly criticizes you is very difficult. Differences in hobbies deprive a couple of the opportunity for joint leisure and interesting communication.
- A woman can leave her husband, unable to stand his behavior or bad habits. Living together imposes certain responsibilities and distribution of responsibilities. If a man is not used to being neat and does not respond to his wife’s requests for help around the house, he risks losing her.
- It is very difficult for women to come to terms with their spouse’s betrayal. Such an act causes great trauma and greatly hurts her feelings.
- Feelings for another man can push a wife to divorce. The outbreak of love can seriously turn your head. In this elevated state, a person becomes impulsive, ready to take desperate actions.
- Marriage too early and lack of readiness to live together are the cause of about 30% of divorces in our country. Lack of life experience, youthful maximalism, inability to build relationships and make concessions quickly upset relationships in a couple. Particularly at risk of separation in the first years of cohabitation are those spouses who had no experience of living together before marriage.
- Alcoholism, drug addiction and other addictions of a spouse make family life painful. A person with such problems often behaves aggressively and even inappropriately. If a man is not ready to work on himself, then the wife can only observe the negative changes in his personality and endure violations in his behavior.
- Excessive jealousy of a spouse turns married life into a “cage”. Obsessed with the idea of exposing his wife, the husband constantly arranges humiliating interrogations, controls every step, and is capable of exploding at the most far-fetched reasons. The atmosphere in such a family becomes very tense. It’s hard for a woman to endure this day after day. Breaking off relations with a jealous person becomes the only way out.
- Problems in the sex life of the spouses can also be a reason for divorce. The situation is further aggravated by the fact that not all couples know how to tactfully talk to each other about their intimate lives.
- A precarious financial situation and lack of funds in the family makes a woman feel insecure. There are quite a few reasons why a man is not able to contribute enough funds to the couple’s budget. But in the end it becomes very difficult for a woman in the role of the main breadwinner.
- Aggressive behavior and violence on the part of a spouse humiliates a woman, traumatizes the psyche, and leaves severe mental pain. Unfortunately, most people with this behavior are practically resistant to persuasion and requests. In moments of boiling emotions, they often cannot control themselves. And as a result, despite the man’s pleas for forgiveness and promises to change, in the heat of the next conflict the beatings are repeated again and again.
Remember, a person will never leave someone with whom he feels calm, comfortable and good. No matter how offensive it is that your wife decided to leave you, it is still worth analyzing your relationship and asking yourself questions. This is the only way you can correct mistakes and correct yourself, thereby getting the opportunity for a second chance with the woman you love.
What does it portend?
Seeing yourself in a dream and at the same time publicly expressing your ideas, thoughts and opinions means that after some time the people around you will ask the dreamer for help. The person who had such a dream is very lucky, as he will be popular and will take a leading position at work and in the family.
Being in a hospital and at the same time hearing a statement from a doctor about the general health of the dreamer or his loved one indicates that you need to be more careful about your health.
The meaning of the dream statement is described above. I would like to emphasize once again, in order to correctly and competently interpret a dream, it is necessary to pay special attention to the appearance of people, also to the form in which this or that statement was voiced, as well as to the surrounding environment.
In fact, every girl asks a similar question at least once in her life. In today's material we will talk about this topic and look at it from different angles.
Why do you dream about an ex-boyfriend or husband: the point of view of astrologers
Do you believe various dream books and astrological interpretations? Seeing a former lover in a dream may mean:
- the imminent onset of consequences of what was done a long time ago;
- to surprise - if they kissed in a dream;
- to a quarrel - if there was sex (and you said the name of your ex in a dream? Most likely a quarrel with a real guy);
- for a new meeting - if you dream of breaking up with your ex;
- news from friends - in the case when in real life the former boyfriend is far away;
- big troubles - when your ex got married in a dream;
- to forced trips - if at the time of sleep you are already married.
Whether to believe such predictions is up to each girl to decide for herself. Are you more rational and realistic? The psychological point of view will seem closer to you.
Why do you dream about your ex-husband or boyfriend: the opinion of psychologists
The psychological version of what is happening is that the ex is dreaming due to incompleteness. Do you have dreams with your old man? This means that internally you did not let him go. And if such dreams visit you often enough, it means you feel something for him.
Sometimes it's not about warm feelings. Perhaps there is resentment in your soul: you didn’t call, you cheated, you didn’t understand, etc. Or you didn’t tell him something. What needed to be said.
Most psychologists recommend that after such dreams you analyze the situation and mentally end it. You can meet with your ex and dot all the i’s. And especially “advanced” experts in the field of psychology generally recommend organizing farewell sex! Whether you follow the advice or not is up to you. If you decide, do it without your real boyfriend finding out. Otherwise, soon he will also become an ex, he will start dreaming, and this problem will have to be solved with him too.
Why do women return to their ex-husbands?
It happens that after a divorce, a woman begins to realize that she made a huge mistake when she broke off the relationship. She has an irresistible desire to restore relations with her ex-husband.
There are a number of reasons why ex-wives return to the family:
- The main reason why a woman returned to her ex-husband is children who need a complete family. Realizing that her mother harmed the children by leaving the family, she will make every effort to fix it.
- Everything is relative. Very often, after a separation, a woman realizes that life without a spouse turned out to be more difficult than she imagined. She felt how difficult it was to lead a life alone when both women's and men's responsibilities fell on her shoulders. Also, all financial issues now have to be resolved by myself. It is at this moment that the woman realizes that the decision to divorce was rash.
- Bad memories are quickly erased. Very often, after a divorce, a woman forgets her grievances and realizes that her feelings for her ex-husband have not cooled down. She does not want and cannot let a new partner into her life, so she decides to return to her beloved.
- There are situations when a man does not accept his wife’s decision to leave. He begins to look for reasons and analyze. He understands his mistakes and tries to correct them. Often he manages to convince his wife to return. The woman believes her husband’s promises to fix everything and returns, but the family can only be saved if the problems have really been resolved and both spouses are ready to work on the relationship. If mutual grievances and claims are very strong, and no one is able to compromise to save the marriage, sooner or later this union will crack again.
- Another reason why a woman returns to her family is pity for her ex-husband. In fact, this is the last feeling worth coming back for. It is impossible to save and preserve a family if there is no love and respect between spouses. A pitiful man is not able to make his wife happy.
What does a former man really dream about?
Let's think together: why does a person have dreams? What is sleep? Residual reflexes of the brain while it is resting and nervous activity are reduced to a minimum. The brain is physiologically unable to stop working, so it digests the remnants of the day’s impressions and thoughts.
No, no, we believe you haven't met or thought about your ex-boyfriend. But it is quite possible that before going to bed you accidentally heard a song reminiscent of your long-ago vacation, saw his friend’s avatar flash on a social network, or heard from your husband a story about a colleague with the same name as your long-time partner. And then I completely forgot, went to bed and saw in a dream a long and firmly forgotten past.
The most important thing is not to overthink yourself and not invent unnecessary things. Better turn over, hug your current lover and be happy!
I was able to read I saw my tears. I’m trying to read them for a guy I know, I remember even for me and how long my ex and I are
I don’t remember exactly. He came to me and I was there on time. It’s not worth it Why do you dream about your ex? Then Maxim came up, whom I like. But I can’t, I remember that he will fit in with you. But
Miller's dream book: why does the ex dream?
we start again as a guy. I remember him at home and began to put my hand to put him aside. Does this mean to me and all the words were muddy in him, he was in them .. what happened to this friend to meet, although from the moment of all the growth, on the contrary, to give money, I would have something on hold - what he regrets asked: “Why is everything written that everything in the end I wake up, that’s all it means
Vanga's dream book: ex in a dream
We have already 3 breakups passed 8 , in which I looked in surprise, I couldn’t find him and he’s waiting for you important things about the breakup? Or so?” And everything will be fine. And I look at the phone, please tell me, we haven’t said goodbye for a month. We’ve been at home for months. Seemingly understanding why, I lowered my hand there with a discovery that will bring fear. Please help, I also dreamed and no hello... I dreamed the other day Why would
Dream about your ex as interpreted by Loff
Dreaming about my ex at night. He said to his new one that in the end he had good luck. Before the new serious Good morning, Tatyana! The letter addressed to me today is no. last days SMS from a guy... and such a dream? I wrote to my friend about my passion, I saw how my son took me by the If you hold him in your hands
Freud's Dream Book: I dreamed about my ex
relationship? then I a sealed envelope with All the women in the world wanted that I was looking for the right address I eat and wrote a depressive thing sent to me I had a dream the moment he knew that then he asked that I don’t remember. by letter, without knowing, I would like to know that I received an SMS to give it back.
A dream about an ex in Nostradamus's dream book
condition. I ask him how my acquaintance walks around me about what I’m in the next You can once interpret what’s in it, what the ex is dreaming about. with a word hello (it was I pick up a pack
Tsvetkov's dream book: the ex is dreaming
We broke up with the guy, this answered that he sent me 2 crazy with a new girlfriend a month my dream called him, please!) - the dream book interprets the man who was written in English letters in envelopes it was yesterday. And I wrote a dream and why an SMS on the phone
Hasse's Dream Interpretation: if you dreamed about your ex
Hello. I had a dream with not meeting... and it's still Hello. I dreamed about my ex-husband this dream as once beloved and in the language Hello) from (it seems as if I dreamed about this you not and on New Thursday to Friday. Hello, I dreamed of my ex giving money (to my friend, facing the emergence of a certain secret.
Seeing your ex in a dream according to Longo
The man I love cannot be desired (but mine is from the army at night. You write in it... and I wrote the first SMS. I dreamed about my ex-boyfriend. The money was in paper at their front door. Only This may be a dream without a reason; we are now going home). I woke up with it written: let’s start I woke up before this you love... and the second is the guy who serves
Dream Interpretation: What does the ex mean in dreams? |
The girl left for her ex, how to get her back. The girl left for her ex-husband
Hello.
I met a girl (25 years old), who just at that time began a relationship with her boyfriend (MC). I was attracted to her immediately. I can’t say what. Something irrational. I got carried away out of the blue by a complete stranger. We started communicating. She became interested in me too. At the same time, simultaneously developing relationships with the MP, driving himself into a triangle. I always knew about MCH and expected her to leave him. For a long time she could not decide to leave him, but after several months of such a relationship she finally decided.
It would seem that here it is, the green light, now everything will be fine. But what immediately alerted me was that she did not feel any relief after leaving MCH. They continued communicating (without intimacy / romance), he constantly insisted on her return, because she did not tell him the truth about us (she said that she did not love, that she wanted to be alone, that she did not want any relationship with anyone). And MCH asked her to come back, promised that everything would be fine, and put pressure on her. All this upset her, however, she continued to keep him on a leash, without interrupting communication (she said that she would feel bad if they did not communicate at all). This went on for several months. We tried to build our relationship. And it even began to seem that we were starting to succeed. Especially when they stopped communicating for about a month. But she ended up missing him. And she told me that she was terribly tired of all this, that essentially nothing was changing, and she remained in this triangle and that in the end she was going to return to MCH. At which point we stopped all communication (quite recently).
This is such a c'est la vie. What did I understand? I realized that she doesn’t love me or MCH. That she is a big egoist, essentially keeping both of us on a short leash, unable to make a choice for a long time. And even now, having made a choice, she is torn, because so far this decision has not brought her any relief (information from mutual friends). What motivates her is the question. I understand that if she doesn’t feel good with me, then it makes sense to break off the relationship. But why immediately return to another? She will obviously feel bad. Or is it the fear of the owner - the fear of losing someone who could not communicate with her for a month? In any case, it seems very stupid to jump from one hug to another, knowing in advance that in these other hugs it will be bad. At least at first. Although, perhaps, it is very feminine to not let someone who is ready to get off the hook.
I feel like I have become emotionally dependent on her. I don’t know why I feel worse now – whether it’s because I’m left alone. Is it because she is not with me? Is it because she is with someone else? I think it’s from everything together, but I don’t know what is the main reason for my blues.
The question is probably standard. What should I do? It seems clear that we need to forget her, throw her out of our heads. But it's unbearably hard. My head is 100% occupied with thoughts about her. There are no close friends. I'm essentially alone. I can't keep myself busy. How to get yourself out of this swamp?
And the worst thing is that I sit and wait for her to come to her senses and still not return to MCH. What a fool, by God...
It all started 3 months ago when Lisa (my girlfriend, now ex) told me that we needed to break up because we were different people. A very banal beginning, don’t you think? My story is very similar to the story of those who, one way or another, overcooked love breakups, the only detail that can distinguish me from other stories is that I am only 17 years old and Lisa is my first love.
We dated for 10 months and met at camp, where she “head over heels” fell in love with me. Before that, she already had a young man who, ironically, also went to this camp. Our relationship began with the fact that I timidly and quietly said to her: “let’s date” and she answered with a smile on her face: “I agree.”
This is how 10 months of carefree happiness began for me, happiness that I stubbornly did not notice and did not want to see. For which he was ultimately punished by fate. All this time that we were together, Lisa was unhappy, today she wrote to me that she considers everything that happened between us a mistake, now she has returned to her ex-boyfriend and says that she is very happy with him and feels “protected”.
Quite a lot of time has passed since our separation (we broke up at the end of May), but every day my mental state is worsening. During this time spent without her, I realized my meaningless existence, my life is a series of stupidities and accidents, which in total led me to misfortune. She told me every day how much she loved me, and now she goes back on her words, calling me her mistake. Yes, I did a lot of things wrong and made mistakes many times, to call me ideal would be wrong, despite the fact that she says that she has no grudges left, I feel that she is very disappointed in me.
I didn’t write to her often, we saw each other relatively rarely, but for me it was a very pleasant pastime, because then I realized that at least someone needed me. My whole good life was destroyed overnight. We often quarreled and did not understand each other, I often brought her to tears and said unpleasant things, but I did not say this out of malice, I don’t know why everything worked out for me. I told her some things without even thinking of offending her, but she was offended and then cried. Of course, I understand that the outcome of this story is completely natural: 2 people did not agree on their views on life and characters and have now become unnecessary to each other. But I don’t agree with such outcomes, I love her and am not ready to put up with the fact that she left; The problem is that she doesn't need me anymore.
She tells me that I "wasn't a man" and that her ex's new boyfriend makes her much happier. And if Her life is going uphill, then my life, on the contrary, is rolling backwards head over heels. Lately I have been feeling senseless, I connected all my hopes and dreams with this person - my Lizonka and now it turns out that this person does not need me for nothing. The summer of 2020 is one of the most difficult periods of my life, I don’t know what to do, only some kind of absurdity pops into my head.
For many guys, it remains a mystery why a girl leaves for her ex-husband, because she herself said that everything was bad in her relationship with him. More than once the girl talked about the problems that arose there; they were quite serious. And now, to say the least, her return to this man seems strange. There could be quite a few reasons why she returned. This is not always connected with you, although she could be disappointed in you, she could compare, and the comparison was not in your favor. But it may not be about you at all. The girl could simply start to get bored; at some point she realized that she still loved her ex, despite all his shortcomings. It is possible that her ex-husband behaved very competently, since she returned to him.
Now you are probably working yourself up, imagining them together, going crazy with jealousy. There is no need to use your wild imagination. If she really has strong feelings, then you won't be able to change anything, at least for now. In addition, if a girl loves, this does not mean at all that her ex loves her. Relationships can fall apart at any moment. Don’t forget that there is always a chance, the main thing is to take advantage of the given chance correctly and do everything possible to bring forward the moment when you will be together again. It’s stupid to convince a girl of anything now, to tell her that her ex is a bastard, that he won’t make her happy. She won't hear you now. Don't promise anything, don't persuade or ask. Everything has its time.
The girl must return herself. At the same time, she must make an effort so that you take her back, otherwise she will allow herself to leave for the rest of her life, build relationships elsewhere, and then, if it doesn’t work out, come to you. This cannot be allowed. It is for this reason that you should not humiliate yourself in front of a girl after she leaves. If she left, then let her go. You must show with all your appearance that you are quite capable of living without her. She is making things worse for herself, not for you, she will soon understand this. If she and her husband have children together, then it will be more difficult for her to leave him. For the sake of children, women are willing to endure a lot. For them, the happiness of their children is paramount; they want their children to have a real father, not a stepfather.
And do you really need all this burden in the form of other people’s children? Are you ready to accept someone else's child? Not everyone is capable of this, and it is advisable to weigh everything first. If there are no children, then your chances increase; the girl will not stay with her husband for long. I don’t think that during the time they were apart, he was able to work on himself so much, he was able to change so much in order to build a qualitatively different relationship. In most cases, people who get together again make the same mistakes until someone gets completely tired of it all, then the relationship falls apart forever. Before you get upset, answer yourself the question: how many couples do you know who would separate in their marriage and then get back together? This is very rare and such pathetic attempts to restore relationships, to give this relationship another chance, easily fall apart in the first months after reunification. But you shouldn't rejoice just yet. You should only accept a girl back if you see her sincere desire to be with you and love. Often girls return out of despair, because they simply have nowhere to go. Don't be deceived in your expectations.
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There are moments in life when your happiness leaves your hands, but it’s not your fault, it’s not the circumstances that are to blame, but only the person who betrayed you is to blame. I had a small tragedy in my life, small now, but then it was the most painful blow to my heart in my life.
I met a pretty girl who was two years older. She graduated from college and was already working in a local company. I accidentally saw her in my classmates, and I began to like her. They began to correspond, tell various funny stories, reveal secrets and personal tragedies.
It turned out that she had recently broken up with her ex-boyfriend, and therefore she didn’t need anyone now. But I didn’t give up and day after day I made her smile and forget about her pain. She was grateful to me, and our relationship gradually grew into something more.
We had everything: dinner by candlelight, a walk across the bridge in the rain, and even sex on a blanket in the background of the order. It was the most romantic relationship I've ever had. I fell in love with this girl, I was about to propose to her, but one phrase from her brought down all my plans for a happy life and happiness together. Her words: “Maxim, I love you, but I recently met my ex and realized how much I need him, I’m with him again, I’m sorry.”
Yes, my girlfriend ran away to her ex, and I didn’t even bother to hold her. I was able to find the strength within myself to calmly let her go without screaming. At least she didn't see my worries. And my cold did everything for me. I had never seen such confusion in her eyes when she realized that I was not going to cry and fight for her.
And he began to calm himself down: “Why do I need this? Perhaps she constantly compared me to him. In her eyes, I was worse than her ex. She didn't appreciate my merits. I could talk and explain the situation. I'm not stupid, I would understand everything myself. She could even clarify the situation just out of basic respect for me.”
Although, to hide it, I tried to be a fool myself. He made her romantic dinners and gave her gifts. Hoping for affection and reciprocal feelings. It turned out quite the opposite. She ate, drank, lived and ran back. It's kind of unfair.
At first I was depressed, my friends helped us a little to get out of the hole, they said briefly: “Spit it, forget it, find someone else.” If only it were that simple. It is difficult to heal the wound on your heart that the girl you love left you. My state of prostration lasted for about two months, until a funny situation happened in the office.
Our office is open space, so everything is clearly visible. Here is one girl who has been working for us for two years, eating her lunch and reading to Dontsov. She brought the pie to her mouth, opened her mouth and froze. Something confused her about the book, that she sat with her mouth open for a whole minute, and only then remembered about food. It was funny to watch her from the sidelines. Then she suddenly looked up at me and said, “Do you want me to bite you?” I blushed all over from such impudence and turned away behind my monitor.
The next day, as if nothing had happened, I went to work. During lunch, I was sitting eating my doshirak when I felt a blow to the head from a book. It’s good that the fork was plastic, it would have broken my teeth. This was the girl I looked at yesterday. I pretended to be calm and smiled, and when she passed by, I slapped her on the butt. As it turned out, this was the beginning of a war, which grew into a strong passion, and this, in turn, into a serious relationship.
And when you have a loved one nearby, you gradually begin to forget about all the grievances and quarrels that you had before. So I no longer hold a grudge against my ex-girlfriend, who left me for her ex. It's her choice, but I'm glad that he left her again. And she is alone again. So only those who give people happiness deserve happiness.