Every person loves to hear pleasant words addressed to them, including your friends. In our culture, they are not as common as compliments to a loved one. But this does not mean that it should always be like this, because sometimes you really want to say something nice to a close friend. However, the question arises, where to find sources of compliments for a friend, and what should they be? You will learn about all this from our article.
Why are compliments needed in female friendships?
A compliment is an expression of admiration, sympathy and approval of something about a person. As a rule, its goal is the desire to please another or raise his self-esteem, to bring warmth and intimacy to the relationship. With the help of a compliment, we can improve a person’s mood and cheer him up; in general, a compliment is a weapon for all times!
Unfortunately, it can be very difficult to get pleasant words from a man - it is often unclear to them why they need to constantly talk about our beauty and charm. Therefore, compliments from a friend can greatly compensate for the lack of compliments from men, because they are almost as pleasant.
For female friendship, pleasant words have a special meaning. Sometimes we need something from a friend: for example, you want to ask her to go with you to a boring dinner with your relatives, spending the whole day on it. And here it will be very useful to be able to give your friend a compliment: “You know how to infect everyone around you with fun and optimism, and only you can save a trip to a family dinner from the abyss of despondency!” In addition, some things no one except friends notice, for example, small changes in a haircut or a new handbag. A compliment on this occasion can bring a lot of pleasure to both of you.
Types of compliments
There are a great many compliments in the world. They differ from each other in structure, purpose, effect - in general, in very different parameters. Therefore, when you want to please your friend, you have plenty to choose from. The main thing is to know it well in order not to make a mistake with the type of compliment (for example, some people do not perceive antithetical compliments at all due to the peculiarities of their thinking and perception). So, what types of “amenities” are there?
- Direct compliment
These are words that directly indicate the positive qualities of your friends. Sometimes a decoding is added to a message about a person’s dignity, for example: “Masha, you have incredibly beautiful hair! Every time I see them, it feels like someone spilled a bottle of awesomeness on your head.” Such compliments often use superlative adjectives, positive comparisons, intensifiers (the words “such”, “that”), or words indicating time (“as always”, “today”). Often the object of direct compliments is a friend’s appearance (figure, hairstyle, facial features), positive qualities (character traits, abilities) or a positive assessment of her behavior or actions.
- Hidden or indirect compliment
Its goal is to emphasize the merits of the interlocutor in a veiled form. Unfortunately, direct compliments are not always appropriate (or so it seems to us), but you want to say something nice. A hidden compliment can be a lifesaver for us. They, as well as direct ones, often use exaggeration, comparisons and other artistic means. It has the following varieties:
- the praise is not addressed to the friend herself, but to what is dear to her, for example, work results, achievements or children (“Your children are very cute and somewhat reminiscent of angels”).
- the compliment is addressed to a friend indirectly and indirectly (“My mother’s friend is an amazingly strong woman. You are very similar to her.”)
- Praise emphasizes how you feel or how your friend has a positive influence on you (“You make me feel ten years younger”).
- mentioning in a compliment some generally accepted patterns, proverbs and conventions (for example, when a friend complains to you about the mess in the apartment, say: “Talented people are always a creative mess”).
- A compliment given with humor
About some people you can say that jokes permeate their lives. If your friend is one of these, then most likely she will appreciate a compliment given with a dose of humor or even slight irony. For example: “You are very smart. Just like me!". Sometimes it’s fun to scare her a little before saying nice words: “How can you do that?!” It only took half an hour, but the pie turned out so delicious!”
- Compliment-contrast
In such compliments, you can fully demonstrate your creativity and ability to think outside the box. This type of praise is based on a paradoxical combination of negative and positive: first you say something that can be perceived in a negative way, and then you sharply turn it in a positive direction. An example would be the following compliment: “I can’t say that you are a good artist... You are the most talented and beautiful artist!” The main thing is that the positive outweighs the negative, otherwise the effect will be the opposite. Thanks to the contrast, these compliments are very bright and memorable.
- Compliment-response
As a rule, they are very similar to each other - these are pleasant words that we want to say in response to what a friend said. They come in two types: disagreement with the negative things that a friend says about herself, for example: “You are not at all absent-minded, but, on the contrary, very attentive!” Another option is something like a verbal curtsy addressed to her:
- Do you cook well
- I had someone to learn from
- Emotionless compliment
It doesn’t happen that often – after all, praise is usually quite expressive and emotional. This type of compliment, as a rule, rarely causes embarrassment or indignation in the interlocutor, so it can be given even to a modest or reserved friend. An example of such praise would be the words: “You have a nice car. Where did you buy it?” The girl can only agree with this and tell the story of purchasing the car.
Beautiful compliments for your beloved friend
Indirect (latent, hidden)
The meaning of kind words is to subtly emphasize the positive aspects or qualities of a friend.
Types of indirect compliments:
- A compliment “permeated” with indirection and mediation
Example: “A friend of one of my friends is a very positive woman. She always reminds me of you!”
- A compliment that emphasizes the influence your friend has on you
Example: “Only next to you, my dear, I feel fifteen years younger!”
- A compliment dedicated to a friend’s achievements or excellent results of her work
Example: “You have such wonderful kids! They look like angels...”
With beautiful humor
It is suitable only for those of your friends who know how to laugh not only at other people, but also at themselves.
Examples...
There is no such stupid nonsense in the world that we could not think of together with you, my friend!
Only your advice can tear the thorns out of my heart!
I thought I was the only one so crazy! I remembered that I have you!
Do you know why we kiss when we meet? Because we can’t bite each other!
I value our friendship because I can tell you complete nonsense, and you will still respect my opinion!
You know, you are my real friend! We walked all day, said goodbye for an hour, and then talked on the phone all the way home!
I believe that I would never have Love if I had not discussed her feelings with you!
You are not strong, I am, and together with you we are stronger than anyone on Earth!
You, just holding my hand, see the cardiogram of my heart!
We're friends! We know too much about each other...
You are my best psychological help, especially over a bottle of wine!
A compliment with a complete lack of emotional connotation
It rarely causes a feeling of embarrassment or indignation, so it can be made even by the most reserved and modest person.
Cool dress you have! Where did you buy it and at what price?
Your dress is so original! And I have a headache...
You bought these boots! Yesterday I saw beautiful ones in one shoe store.
Compliment - support
A friend buys a beautiful thing, but it doesn’t fit her at all. You say that this thing doesn’t suit you either. Add that she is still the most beautiful and wonderful, that you should not get hung up on this purchase (because there are a lot of interesting and beautiful things).
I found myself in you!
It is very difficult for a girl to find a good friend, because the coolest one is you and you are already mine!
You are a part of me and it’s simply impossible not to love you!
The Earth has a satellite - the Moon! You are my lunar friend, my companion and my support!
You are my invaluable advice, my fortune teller and sorceress! Without you, I don’t have what you can predict for me!
Your sweet smile lights up my mood and takes my life in a positive direction!
It's good that I have you! Two heads can think better when solving one problem!
There are many answers on the Internet, but my friend has the best answer!
With opposition
Not everyone can say such praise. First you need to “turn” the conversation in a negative direction, and then “turn it” in a positive direction:
“I wouldn’t say that you are a good poetess, because I think that you are the best poetess in the world!”
Straightforward
You tell your friend everything you think about her. You do it directly, without hints and without concealment. Expect a response.
Compliment - question
Helps start or continue a conversation, gives rise to new topics for conversation. Usually women say such kind words to each other, because men are completely uninterested, for example, where a beauty bought her necklace, earrings or chain. A man appreciates how a woman (girl) is transformed thanks to her purchases.
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Inspiration for compliments
Do you know that feeling when you want to compliment your friend, but don’t know what to say? Should I praise her character or is it better to limit myself to praising her new dress? How nice it would be to have universal instructions on how to compliment a friend! Unfortunately, this does not exist, because all people are different. But the girls have some common features, thanks to which you can come across the content of future praise.
Each of us strives to be unique and inimitable, including each of your friends. So if you want to cheer her up, you can always compliment her on the qualities that make her different from others (or that she considers to be distinctive). For example, if your friend is proud of her unique way of laughing, you can always emphasize this once again in a conversation: “There was simply no chance for him not to fall for your catchy laugh.” If there is nothing that lies on the surface, try to look more carefully at your friend: what does she have that others don’t? That's what you're talking about.
If you know that your friend is proud of something, you can rest assured that this can be the content of your compliment. And don’t worry about repetition: even if you praised this particular thing, action or quality a hundred times, the hundred and first will not be superfluous (this is a feature of human psychology). We can listen to praise about something important and meaningful to us endlessly, right?
An interesting step would be to try to give an unexpected compliment. This has several beneficial and pleasant consequences. Firstly, it will increase your friend's self-esteem. She didn’t even think about the fact that she also had such a positive trait, but you noticed it - now she will have something to be proud of in addition to everything else. Accordingly, she will be grateful to you. Secondly, a lot of pleasant feelings await you from your friend. Which birthday gift do you think is nicer: a surprise or the one you chose for yourself? Probably a surprise. The same is with compliments - if your friend is used to everyone praising her intelligence, and you note her appearance, it will be doubly pleasant for her.
You can also try to praise what your friend generally considers a flaw. This type of compliment requires special skill, so you need to treat it with caution. For example, if a friend considers herself too thin, you can turn this into an advantage by saying: “I would really like to be as slim and attractive as you.”
Nice words to a friend
How lucky I am to have you, girlfriend! It's good that I have you. A bright and kind creature. I appreciate you endlessly. You won’t find such a positive person during the day these days. But thanks to you, dear, they are filled with joy.
I'm lucky to have you in the world. After all, I can always open up to you. And if suddenly sadness lurks in my heart, You always save me from trouble. You are like a spring where I can drink and relax from the eternal bustle.
You are my best friend, and I want to tell you. Please be the strongest, be the happiest, and the most stylish! For me you are my other half, Beautiful, stylish - a star. My friend, my heroine. I love you very much!
Do you remember how much you and I have gone through, And how much more awaits us ahead. We quarreled with you, then we became friends again And we were able to get through all the troubles. After all, you, my beloved friend, will always support and always understand. My successes are all your merit, You will save me from any trouble.
My friend, know that you are Smart, thrifty, beautiful! You are just an angel of kindness, You are a bright ray of positivity! Remain as glorious, And always just delight everyone, Smile as often as possible, And radiate a wonderful light!
Girlfriend, you are the only one. I know it couldn't be better. It’s so good that I met you on my way. Wise, honest and know a lot, you know how to give practical advice. You forgive all my misfires and you will not cause harm in return. I take an example and admire it. I've been lucky in my life to have you. I try to be the same. You are a golden ray of light.
You have intelligence and beauty, But for me this is not more important, But your pure soul, There is no envy and anger in it, And this is a rare gift in our time, You can listen calmly, Help with advice or just be there, And I love you for this, You just help me to be myself.
Unique, multifaceted, Feminine, sweet, desirable, Girlfriend, how good you are! Both your appearance and your soul. You make me smile, you lift my spirits. I share everything with you. I love you very much!
Wonderful and original. Sophisticated and sexy. Assertive, honest, smart. Perky, always cheerful! The character is soft. Kind soul. You are a good friend from head to toe!
You can’t find anyone like you, friend, Even if you go around the whole planet, I want to hug you, After all, there is simply no better person. I can talk to you for hours, About what my soul desires, And we can’t drink a glass of joy, Cheerful laughter greets us today. I trust you with all my secrets, I can tell you a lot, You won’t betray me, I know that for sure, You can only dream of such friendship.
How to compliment a friend correctly
It happens that the words seem to be chosen correctly, and the moment is chosen well, but the compliment does not bring joy and satisfaction to either you or your friend. This could mean two things: either your friend doesn’t like compliments at all, or you’re saying something wrong. In the first case, nothing depends on you (but this option is quite rare in life), but in the second there is always the opportunity to improve your manner of giving compliments.
What is the secret of a good compliment? Firstly, it must be spoken sincerely. There should not be even a hint of ambiguity or ridicule of a friend - it should be simple and understandable. Secondly, reality should not be greatly exaggerated. Enhancing your friend's assets a little won't hurt, but if you tell your chubby friend, “You're incredibly slim,” she will not only not be happy, but will most likely be offended. Thirdly, do not forget about the correct manner of delivering a compliment:
- Don't forget that compliments should be appropriate to the person, place, time and situation in which they are uttered;
- The compliment should be spoken kindly and confidently. In a conversation, a smile is an indicator of openness and sympathy, so you can safely use it;
- Avoid cliches in your speech: in most cases this causes either boredom or irritation;
- Pay attention to the person you compliment. You shouldn’t overdo it with solemnity, but sometimes a compliment given in passing can offend;
- Excessive emotionality, theatricality and enthusiasm are not encouraged in the manner of giving compliments. This makes the praise seem insincere and causes irritation;
- Avoid hints of irony and sarcasm in your compliments. If you want to offend your friend, this, of course, will be the best way, but if you want to do something pleasant for her, then irony and sarcasm will be unnecessary;
- The best indicator of truthfulness is whether your facial expressions and gestures match what you say. Agree, it will be strange and unpleasant if you confess your love to your friend, and your eyebrows will be frowned.
The compliment should be short enough, otherwise it is not a compliment, but a whole monologue on the topic “what a wonderful friend I have.” This, of course, is pleasant, but difficult to perceive: your friend may get tired and not understand what is so important you wanted to tell her. Try to choose words that correspond to the level of your friend’s outlook: for example, you can praise a girl with a higher education for the level of development of verbal-logical thinking, and for a girl who has barely graduated from college, it is better to say pleasant words about her beauty.
In conclusion, I would like to once again note the undeniable benefits and advantages of compliments. Thanks to them, relationships are improved and restored, love arises and destinies are built. “A kind word also pleases a cat,” says a well-known saying. Of course, we are not cats, but sometimes one nice remark is enough to cheer us up for the whole day. But it's so simple! So why not use compliments regularly when communicating with your friends? After all, who, if not us, should please, support and protect each other!
Beautiful poems with compliments to a friend
****Unique, multifaceted, Feminine, sweet, desirable, Girlfriend, how good you are! Both your appearance and your soul. You make me smile, you lift my spirits. I share everything with you. I love you very much!
**** Friend, there is no one more beautiful than you, I consider it an honor to be friends with you, I consider those who don’t know you to be unhappy, All your virtues cannot even be counted! You are smart, beautiful and kind-hearted, You will give practical advice to anyone, You do everything flawlessly, May you have an eternal dawn in your life!
**** You are the dearest to me, And the best friend in life, And our friendship will not melt until the funeral service! You are faithful and kind, Of course, you are beautiful, You are a good housewife, And I like everything about you.
**** I knew there was friendship in the world. I trusted many, but I’ll say thank you to you alone. You are not just a girlfriend, you are my best friend, you are one of those who are just nearby, and not just around...
**** You are stubborn and persistent, Patient and honest Business, you conquered your husband, You are rewarded with happiness... And therefore I think - You are a friend, the stronger sex! The verse is a confirmation of this - a compliment, not a joke...
**** It is impossible to find someone like you, You are exclusive, incredible, You can understand and forgive without words, Charming and multifaceted. And you know, I’m very lucky with you, I couldn’t have dreamed of such a friend, Both in sorrow and in happiness you are next to me, You always know how to support me!
**** I have a friend, She has countless compliments: And she’s smart, kind, beautiful, And she’s not at all proud, And she won’t leave you in trouble, And she won’t ask for payment. We divide the joy in half. Together we are to harm our enemies. I don’t need another one anymore, We understand at a glance All each other’s desires... After all, that’s why we are friends! You have become like a sister to me, I share my dreams with you. You and I are so similar, Even though we are so different.
**** Your eyes are burning with fire. You are my lighter! We have fun together. I appreciate you, friend! Your walk is simply chic, You can’t take your eyes off your figure. You clever! Any man would like to marry you!
**** I’ll tell you, friend, frankly, that I admire you. A rare combination, probably, of Beauty and a sharp mind. And the figure is super - everything is in place! The charm of the men drove me crazy. Well, I’ll tell you without any flattery - How lucky I am with my friend!
**** I admire your love of life, your boundless optimism, And people are always drawn to you, You, my friend, are a source of love! Even if your destiny is cloudy, You shine with a smile like the sun. May all your days be clear. Please accept the compliment, dear!
**** Friend, you and I have gone through a lot, you never let us down along the way! You always tried to help with advice, You didn’t give away my secrets. I like you for your simplicity, And your honesty, and your gentle beauty, I like your intelligence, And the fact that you have no vice and debauchery. Your soul, like a bright angel, warms me in winter, spring, summer. You are joyful and lovely, not lying, and very honest!
**** Oh, dear friend, how good you are! You are the only one in the world, Your soul is so pure! You are kind, sincere, you will always give practical advice, you are impeccable in many ways, you are my ray, a bright light! You are with me joy, sadness You are always ready to share! “I am proud of our friendship” - I will repeat it to you again!
**** You are so cute, my friend, Smart, beautiful, slender figure. It’s always fun and joyful with you - And this is not empty praise! How hard it is for me - you will always support me, And you will tell me an anecdote, you will amuse me. And I always feel good with you - And these are not just empty words! There are few friends like you in the world, so I am lucky to be friends with you. So may you always remain so glorious - And let friendship bloom over the years!
**** My friend, you are as fresh as a rose! I have something to be proud of with you. You can easily drown in your eyes. You can easily become a star!
**** With you I can laugh, And sometimes I can be sad, With you I have nothing to fear, With you I can forget everything. You are the only one I have, Whom I can trust, My dear friend, My support and family!
