1) Become well-groomed
Beauty is a rather abstract concept; it depends on the individual preferences of each individual person. But, one way or another, the first thing any man pays attention to is a woman’s appearance. Therefore, if a suitable gentleman appears in your field of vision, take care of yourself!
Don't forget about natural makeup, which will look gentle and only highlight your assets. Keep your hair clean, take care of neat clothes. By the way, we are not talking about any expensive things here; you can look impeccable, but at the same time dress second-hand. Just find your image and watch your appearance, then a man will surely pay attention to you.
How to become an admired woman
Neither man nor woman can resist extraordinary charisma, and everything revolves around it. Since childhood, she was quite plump, but instead of “driving” herself with diets and having complexes about imperfections, she took the path of developing strong qualities. Having a beautiful face, gorgeous breasts and an amazing depth of voice, she began to focus on this, not at all constraining herself in food. She even has a separate wardrobe for her breasts =) - there are all kinds of bras, blouses and beautiful accessories.
While still at the institute, she began working as a toastmaster, and, paying attention to the combination of all of her above-mentioned qualities, people simply could not take their eyes off such a woman. It just became in great demand! Sometimes, coming to another city to help my mother at the market, she, when the goods were poorly sorted, simply put on a beautiful jacket and began to sing at the counter. The crowd immediately came running, and thus the daughter provided her mother with excellent income. At every wedding she officiates, men do not give way.
She is very beautiful and desirable, and no one pays attention to the fact that her figure differs from the television standard.
Now she is already married, but still no one can resist her charms, men sigh after her. This is an example of how a woman should use her power!
Are you using your strengths?
Can you right now, without thinking, name at least 5 of your strengths?
I will give three exercises that will allow you to see yourself, consider your versatility and accept it (if you really want this).
♡ Exercise No. 1 “View from the outside”
Take a photo of yourself, one where you are not posing or trying to hide or hide something.
Take a break. Look at her through the eyes of a stranger.
Perhaps your mind, tuned to criticism, will look for shortcomings. Don't fight him - let him see all the shortcomings. But after that, pay attention to what is beautiful about this woman.
♡ Maybe she has an attractive sparkle in her eyes? ♡ Maybe she has beautiful wrists? ♡ Maybe she has beautiful hips, like a magnificent oriental dancer? ♡ Maybe she has a graceful thin neck? ♡ Or maybe wonderful dimples on your cheeks? ♡ Or is it all about the divinely long eyelashes?
Tune in to beauty, be attentive, pay attention to details.
Write at least 10-15 characteristics of the beauty of this woman. And after that, think about how you could emphasize and strengthen them. Write specific sentences and start using them.
Soon you will begin to feel stronger and more confident as a woman!
♡ Exercise No. 2 “I see beauty”
We see in people what is in our minds and the way our minds are configured. By learning to see the good in other people, we can easily learn to see the good in ourselves.
To do this exercise, you will need to go outside.
When a woman appears in your field of vision, pay attention to what your mind tells you. This way you will understand what it is “sharpened” for. And after that, you will need to, through an effort of will, pay attention only to the most beautiful, most feminine in this lady.
See 5-7 strong feminine qualities in every girl who passes by. Try to sincerely admire them without comparing them with yourself. It is very important to get away from comparison, only then will you be able to feel the depth of beauty of every woman and yourself.
Remember - each of us is a flower. And every flower is beautiful when it blooms and blooms in accordance with its nature.
Over time, you will simply have an eye for good things. This is a wonderful quality that will not only make you a pleasant companion, a wonderful friend, but will also add beauty to you.
After all, what we focus on is exaggerated.
If you concentrate on the shortcomings of others, then your shortcomings will progress.
If you concentrate on beauty, then your beauty will blossom and bloom.
When I did this exercise, I admired some of the women so much that I approached them and complimented them. Any woman knows that a compliment from a woman is much nicer than from a man.
It’s one thing when a man calls you beautiful, and quite another thing when a stranger says, “This dress suits you so well!” This color and style highlight your assets so much, you look incredibly feminine.” And imagine how pleased you would be to hear these words from a woman who happened to pass by?
Therefore, do not be afraid to give compliments - give them to your mother, friends, employees, acquaintances and strangers. Words have great power, let's increase the vibrations of beauty!!!
♡ Exercise No. 3 “Help from a friend”
Ask your friends and acquaintances what they find attractive about your appearance, what do they find beautiful about you?
And, taking a deep breath, please accept everything they say. Don’t forget to follow up with a detailed answer about what you like about their appearance. Such dialogues bring us closer together and sometimes open our eyes to our strengths, which we ourselves cannot see.
When any side of us is revealed, it inevitably leads to a release of energy. Therefore, if you were given a compliment and your body began to react to it, focus on this, develop it in yourself.
I wish you to bloom with your own color, to be a unique flower, because every flower has admirers and connoisseurs!
The main task of a flower is to realize its extraordinary beauty.
Realize it!
© Yulia Sudakova
2) Find your highlight
No matter how beautiful you are, it is still important not to turn into another clone, a girl who is the personification of all the latest trends in beauty and fashion, but at the same time does not have her own “I”. If you like a certain style of clothing, but it is not in fashion right now, then do not neglect your personal preferences.
Of course, this is not about standing out from the crowd by dyeing your hair green, but you should still not forget about your individuality.
Extreme is not welcome3
It’s no secret that men’s attention is immediately attracted to bright, extraordinary girls.
Unusual appearance, original manner of dressing, extravagant behavior - all this immediately catches the eye and arouses interest.
When it comes to communication or participation in joint projects, then all this may be not bad. But we should not forget that the family is a quiet haven where you can calm down, relax and take a break from the crazy world.
It must be said that this rule does not work in the sphere of intimate relationships. Here, bright colors, novelty and strength of sensations, bold experiments greatly contribute to the improvement of family relationships, and sometimes take them to a qualitatively new level. But here everything is very individual, as they say, who likes what.
4) Friendly appearance
In addition to appearance and clothing, men are always attracted to friendly-looking girls. If you constantly purse your lips contemptuously, frown, and pretend to be a cold queen in every possible way, then it’s unlikely that anyone will want to come up to you and make an acquaintance.
No, this does not mean that you should smile at everyone indiscriminately. Practice a friendly smile at home in front of the mirror that makes your face really glow. The kinder you treat the people around you, the more positive emotions you will receive in return.
7) Don't seem smarter than others
Even if you are an intellectually developed person, have a large number of letters, diplomas, and your IQ is above the norm, this does not mean that you need to be smart and spout wise statements in the presence of your chosen one. If a man sees that a woman is smarter than him in all areas, he will conclude that she hardly needs him. And what kind of man would want to be on the sidelines in a relationship?
It's quite difficult for guys to accept the fact that ladies can be smarter than themselves. Therefore, do not reveal your full intellectual potential, thus scaring off your betrothed.
Down with inaccessibility
Down with inaccessibilityOn the one hand, a woman’s inaccessibility can turn a man on and push him to pursue his potential partner. But on the other hand, moderation is still important in this matter.
If a man perceives your coldness as the fact that you simply don’t need him, then he will most likely simply retreat. Therefore, try not to be easily accessible, but at the same time show that you are really interested in the man. Make advances, flirt with him, but at the same time keep a certain distance, which you will gradually reduce as you become closer.
Who is looking for her and why2
Sooner or later there comes a moment when every man understands that the time has come to tie his life with the knot of Hymen and enter into a serious relationship.
And this is where you have to think about it. It turns out that among the huge number of women around, there are not so many worthy of attention.
When it comes to simply communication, some kind of joint events or fleeting connections, problems, as a rule, do not arise.
But we are talking about a person with whom you will have to go hand in hand all your life, share joys and failures.
What about children? Not only must they be born normal, they must be raised, educated and given a normal education. And in this matter, the role of the mother is infinitely great.
But there is still nowhere to go, you need to look. It is clear that you need to believe in success and set yourself up for a positive result. There is a theory that a person’s thoughts materialize, so you need, as Kashpirovsky said, to give yourself the appropriate attitude.
10) Know your worth
Make it a rule that you will never change, never run after a man. Even if you feel bad, in pain, you miss him a lot, don’t humiliate yourself and don’t be intrusive.
If you start stalking your betrothed, bothering him with calls and SMS messages, he will quickly get tired of your desire to control every minute of his life. Value yourself and don't be afraid to lose him!
So what does it mean, it’s unrealistic to become the woman of your dreams? Not certainly in that way.
The fact is that all this variety of men’s wishes, what a dream woman should be, often comes down to two simple things:
A man should be comfortable living with a woman under the same roof.
A man should be pleased (not ashamed) to go out with a woman in public.
There is a third point, but more on that a little later.
A man may say that the woman of his dreams must cook borscht well, but believe me, no borscht will save the relationship if a woman nags a man every evening about scattered socks, an incorrectly hung towel, or a mug that was not washed after herself. Because, despite the delicious borscht, living with such a woman is uncomfortable for a man.
Or here's another example. Let’s say a man dreams of a long-legged model, but everyone gets used to their partner’s appearance over time. In a couple of years, her long legs will become as familiar to him as brushing his teeth in the morning. And if a woman has no other advantages other than long legs, then life together with her will be more boring than books from the school curriculum.
However, if you think that it is enough to simply become what a man needs, you are mistaken. If you adapt to his needs, you will not become the woman of your dreams, but simply as comfortable as a sofa. But people don’t fall in love with sofas. And here we come to the third point, which is important to observe in order for men to dream about you:
A man should appreciate a woman and not take her for granted.
So what should you do to make him appreciate?
Be an individual
If you, like a trained dog, follow all a man’s commands, then he will never be able to see you as a person, which means he will not appreciate you. Because you're welcome. No one will appreciate and respect a person just for dutifully offering dinner and washing clothes. You must have character, which is important to show at the initial stage of dating. A normal man needs a colleague, an ally, a partner, but not a servant, even if he earns tens of times more than you.
Don't forget about life outside of your relationship
You don’t have to give up all your business and plans as soon as a decent man looms on the horizon. He will not appreciate and respect you if for his sake you abandon your friends, studies, work, family and rush to the ends of the earth to see him, as soon as an SMS from him lights up on your phone screen. A man falls in love with a woman in her absence, and not when she is constantly nearby.
Be a little unapproachable
Of course, there is no need to mock a man and force him to crawl behind you on his knees. Tea, not a princess. But let him feel at least a little like a real man, a hunter, a conqueror. Let his interest in you show, do not jump on his neck on the second day of meeting him. A little difficulty won't hurt him.
Take care of yourself
This does not mean that you should always be on parade and fully armed, but self-care should be an integral part of your life. Firstly, it makes you feel better, and secondly, the man will see that you love yourself, take care of yourself, and don’t give a damn about your appearance, which means he will love you himself. I have said many times already that if you don’t care about yourself, then why should others value you?
Don't be indifferent to his interests
No one forces you to go to football matches, but you cannot remain indifferent to his life either. If you don’t know what he does for a living, you don’t know what he loves and what he hates, and you’re not able to support him with a word in difficult times, then why does he need you at all?
Don't be boring
You can be very smart and interesting to talk to, but if you are a chronic bore, then no one will want a serious relationship with you. Bores are annoying. And if you also have a poor sense of humor, then that’s it – you can give up on yourself!
Develop self-confidence
Decent men choose confident women, because it is boring to communicate with insecure ones, it is impossible to fall in love with them, you can only feel sorry for them. And, as a rule, unethical men stick to such women. Do you want unethical men? I doubt.
When a woman is as simple as a felt boot, she does not arouse interest. Well, or it will arouse the interest of someone whose hobbies are limited to football on TV and beer on Fridays. If you have a busy life, work, hobbies, then you will attract corresponding men. Those who want to become part of this interesting life. Winning a simpleton is a simple matter, but getting an interesting woman is a completely different matter.
At a certain period of life, every man has a question: “Is this the same girl next to me?” But how can we, girls, determine whether we are suitable for our chosen one or not? We present 10 traits that men should have in a chosen one:
10. She is independent: No young man wants to have a nurse next to him. You, dear girls, should have your own affairs and interests. Sometimes it’s useful to disappear for a while, then your man will miss you and understand that you are the one and only.
8. She is sexy: For men, a sexy girl is always compatible with them. For example, he wants you to be a fatal seductress, and you appear in girlish cute pink panties with frills - then this is a problem... The dream girl understands her partner, is ready to play along with him and reveal a spicy secret for him.
7. She is beautiful: Men will say this is very important. But soulfulness and beauty are not always the same thing. Understanding and sensitivity can never be replaced by elastic curls and long legs. Although we agree, appearance matters.
6. She respects her man: This point is important. This means that the girl of your dreams will listen to the man, even when she doesn't agree with what he said. And, of course, she will not humiliate or underestimate his abilities in any field of activity.
5. She allows you to be a man: Sometimes we women want to force men to do what we want: eat low-fat cottage cheese and fruit for breakfast, not go to poker night with friends, not watch football. But let them have a small victory. Better yet, prepare his favorite sandwiches and bring a can of his favorite drink, then he will appreciate it and understand that you are what he was looking for.
4. She's not grumpy: There's nothing worse than whining, nagging and grumpiness, according to men. A wise girl does not scream or wash if something does not suit her. True, if you live together, the man leaves for the night, does not talk anywhere and does not call, naturally, the girl expresses her dissatisfaction. But this situation does not fit here.
3. She gets along with the man's friends and family: Not only will the dream girl help his mom in the kitchen, listen to his dad's stories, chat with his friends, but she will also enjoy it. She will sincerely try to get to know and love the most important people in her man's life.
2. She loves you: If a man finds a girl who will love him and not demand anything in return, he will try to keep her near him. After all, such a girl is difficult to find. A luminous look, a light gait, a desire to help, sincere joy at a sudden call - all this will betray a person in love.
1. She makes him the best man in the world: A girl doesn't have to say this. A man will just feel it when he is with such a woman. It's called LOVE!
What to do to win the heart of the guy you like
We all know that men love different women (just as women love different men). Perhaps you discovered that you are not the kind of girl that your chosen one loves. If this is your case, don’t worry, because this situation can be easily corrected! To do this, you need to find out what attracts a young man to people of the opposite sex and, at the first time you meet, pretend that you are exactly the girl he dreams of.
For example, your lover prefers girls with long slender legs, but you don’t have those. To interest him, you need to highlight your strengths and hide your weaknesses. Let him appreciate your wasp waist, beautiful eyes, luxurious hair.
If you decide to turn the head of a rich guy, firstly, you need to visit the party places that wealthy young people love so much. Clubs, bars, concerts. Secondly, you shouldn’t pretend to be a tough businesswoman if you’re anything but. Keep it simple and natural, with some hint of mystery.
If your chosen one is a big fan of cars, you must be able to drive a car. And if you also have a good understanding of what is under the hood of the car, then the man will be very delighted with you.
If you're madly in love with a guy who's younger than you, the worst way to attract him is to wear a miniskirt and braid your hair. It is best not to mention age in conversations with him, do not discuss work or career. Let your topic of conversation be the latest in fashion, music, and cinema.
If a young man is a real “nerd,” he will like smart, calm, intelligent girls. The rule “keep quiet, you’ll pass for smart” is relevant at all times. If he wants to know your opinion on some issue, smile, think and answer that you need to think carefully, because you do not like to resolve issues rashly.
In order to make a movie fan fall in love with you, you first need to buy discs with the films “The Lord of the Rings” and “Star Wars”. Then he will be sure that you have excellent taste. Study critical articles very carefully, write out and memorize the best ones, so that later you can shine with your knowledge in front of your chosen one.
Perhaps you have fallen in love with a football fan who does not miss a single match, plays at the stadium on weekends, and in his speeches the incomprehensible words “offside” and “penalty” are constantly present. To win his heart, remember the names of all the players on his favorite team. And then learn all the terms and differences between yellow and red cards. And the next time, sitting with him at a match, you will shout “GOAL!” together. He will be delighted.
Now forget everything you just read, because there is no better way to make a man fall in love than to remain yourself!
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There is a female type with whom I personally feel very comfortable communicating. The most interesting thing is that of all my friends, I have only seen excellent long-term family relationships with women of this type. Everyone else is divorced, single, or endlessly complaining about their husband, working more than him. Either the husband drinks, for example, or doesn’t want to earn money, or... a lot of different things, or... Among my friends, only this type of woman is in long-term happy relationships. I don’t know a single “unclaimed” woman of this type. In a mixed company, they always receive much more attention from men, although they behave modestly and silently.
Not only do their men “don’t run away” from these women, they don’t look around... they haven’t been interested in anyone except their wife for many years (there have been marriages for more than 20 years). And what men!!! Everything is fine - the owners of large businesses, and good-looking, and healthy, and smart... These women also don’t need any other man, although they form fans around them in any company - almost like Scarlett. Very harmonious couples...
In every person (man and woman) there are two polarities: what is called yin and yang. I decided to describe this yin polarity that exists inside any woman - manifested or unmanifested. Just like yang polarity is the active formation of reality. I have compiled a list of “key competencies” of the ideal yin (that is, passively accepting the world) “dream woman.”
Further in the text, a “Yin woman” is a woman who passively perceives, is inactive, does not change the world, but rather creates a comfortable environment for a man. I have several such acquaintances of women who have been with wonderful men for many years. And their men not only don’t walk, they don’t look around at all.
What sets them apart from many other women?
1. She “unconditionally” accepts the man.
Of course - this is WITHOUT CONDITIONS. And not “for something,” as most often happens. In general, he does not make any claims in an aggressive manner. If she is dissatisfied with something, she would rather express a wish to the man on how to please her, rather than begin to “nag” and broadcast her dissatisfaction. She has no explicit demands that the man change - because it is more convenient for her, for example. She is more likely to influence a man’s behavior with her mood than with scandals.
2. Calm. Not hysterical.
3. She is happy with life.
This is about the ability to treat troubles without negativity, as a life lesson, from the state: “Why do I need this, Lord? Thank you for caring that you remember about me,” - calmly solve problems and tasks without broadcasting negativity.
Or how Thumbelina from a fairy tale masterfully took advantage of circumstances, but did not make any active efforts to change reality, no struggle. A very Yin woman. Albeit in a Western interpretation.
We are also talking about everyday communication with the husband (as in the fairy tale “What the husband does not do is good”). That is, the ability to find positivity or a lesson in any life events. About the ability not to complicate your husband’s life with your dissatisfaction.
4. Does not burden you with your problems.
She may ask a man for advice or help, but she finds the right time for this. Able to move on from unsolvable problems and have a positive outlook on life in general. Problems can be discussed/solved, or they can be “loaded”. Most people have been burdening others with their problems for years, but do not want to solve them. She's not like that.
5. Silent. Mostly he listens and admires, occasionally asking questions that encourage him to tell something more.
When the interlocutor knows how to silently listen attentively, the communication is much more enjoyable than when he endlessly tells me some unimportant things. And, according to my observations, most people are more comfortable talking with a silently admiring woman than listening to something uninteresting.
Doesn’t show initiative in relationships (doesn’t call, doesn’t write SMS, doesn’t invite, doesn’t offer). Calmly waits for or encourages (provokes) male initiative.
6. Admires a man, his actions and deeds (as a person, as a professional, as a man, etc.).
7. She is proud of her man and notices his advantages out loud.
8. Believes in a man.
9. Does not show sexual initiative in an aggressive manner.
She does not deny her man sex and gives herself completely. It’s just that the first initiative comes from a man. If he is not tired and wants to. And if she wants, then she seduces like a woman, and doesn’t “attack” with this sex like a man. 
10. Open.
11. Trusting.
12. I am grateful to the man, including for his attention. And he doesn’t think that he “should.”
13. Sensitive (not in the sense of emotional), shows empathy, knows how to feel what is happening to another person.
14. Doesn’t compete with a man, but accepts him completely...
15. Not aggressive.
She didn’t “become like this for a man” - she was just like that from the very beginning. And in communicating with me too. This doesn't mean she doesn't have boundaries or doesn't know what she wants. She's just not aggressive at all. With no one. Especially with your man.
16. For her, all of the above is natural - like breathing. She doesn’t force herself or break herself to behave like this. And she is not deprived of anything in life. The “Yin women” I know have 2-3 degrees each. They make decent money freelancing. For example, the cost of a consultation with one of my friends is 100-200 euros per hour - and you can’t get to her. Everything is fine with her: the man of her dreams is nearby, a lot of attention from other men, girlfriends, travel, a decent personal income, her own interests...
It looks like a classic description of a woman in the Arab East (nomadic peoples have different demands on women, they need initiative and a certain masculinity). That is, this is an absolutely real, everyday type of woman - but not with us. Is it possible for us to allow ourselves to be just such a woman - throwing away all the ambitions of feminists? Should we fully master this polarity and not worry about social stereotypes?
Let's imagine:
The husband is an "alpha man". He has his own business, all material problems were solved many years ago. A cook, a housekeeper, and a driver who takes the children to their clubs.
His wife spent the day enjoying herself. Doing what you love. She painted pictures, did design, wrote articles or a book, conducted individual consultations - whatever interests her and makes her happy - at her choice. (If something happens to her husband, she will make good money freelancing).
The husband returns from work. Do you think he wants to get a showdown from his wife about who is the big alpha at home? Or taking away the brain, how it works incorrectly with partners? Or retelling gossip about girlfriends? Or criticism that you still haven’t defeated your competitors? Oh no, instead of dinner he needs his wife's sexual demands
I dare say that an alpha man would prefer to have dinner in silence and tell his wife how he’s doing when he’s rested. Get her admiration and support. If he is tired, then she will not make demands and claims. Next to such a woman, a man recovers (gains energy) very quickly.
This is what is supposed to complement each other in these polarities - a man is active, knows his goals, confidently and accurately acts to achieve them in the outside world. A woman at home creates a comfortable environment (in which the man does not get another war, as often happens in ordinary families), in which the man is “recharged” with energy for further actions.
If a woman’s responsibility is only to make her husband feel good at home, then the man’s responsibility in this model is for everything else - for his wife, for his children, and for his own self-realization... Such a woman in the modern world can only allow herself to be close to very an adult and very responsible man.
To afford a Yin woman, the man next to you must be “not a boy, but a husband.” Only 5% of men are psychologically adults and will be able to bear this responsibility. And the downtrodden “little boy” needs to do something only for the sake of his mother or to spite her - so the woman is forced to “drive” endlessly.
A Yin woman is not a “doll”. She can be as active and successful in society as she wants, in this way she behaves only with her man. These are highly educated women who are professionally successful and can easily provide for themselves and their children. But in a relationship with their man, this does not matter to them.
For example, the brightest representative of this type of my friends charges 100-200 euros per hour for individual consultations - and you can’t get to her
A Yin woman's love for her man is not maternal. If we are talking about a woman’s love for a man, then the position of a “caring mother” turns him into a little boy - which would be a violation in a relationship between an adult man and an adult woman. A Yin woman can create comfort for a man, give him energy, but will never belittle him.
An adult man is usually motivated not by the external support of a woman, but by his own goals and objectives. His woman trusts his choice of goals and actions (this is not her business at all). And the relationship with her man is more important to her than her own ambitions, whims, pride and other teenage joys.
Let's discuss whether it is possible “not in the East” to become such a woman?
I personally can only be in such an internal state as long as everything suits me. And when something is not right, I react in the usual way - I begin to actively act (instead of patiently accepting the situation). And this also applies to men - instead of accepting him and changing myself, I try to change him... which does not have the best effect on relationships...
Hence my limitations in working with clients. I know how to support another person in self-realization and achievement. What steps should he take to achieve his goal? But I don’t know how to be Yin instead of actively transforming the world to my taste. I am not like that.
It used to be simpler when traditions prescribed “to each his own”... The role of a woman and the role of a man were clear. And now? Equality in fact is impossible. A man and a woman are different. Biologically. Energetically. Psychologically.
Olga Yurkovskaya
Superhero
You are an impressionable guy of the 21st century, not a specimen of a caveman. The fact is that sometimes a woman needs just such a man. “For short-term, fleeting failed trials, women often prefer men who have social standing, muscular bodies, and symmetrical facial features,” says Daniel Krueger, Ph.D., a psychologist at the University of Michigan Public Health. “These features are characterized by high levels of testosterone, which is a sign of good genetic inheritance.”
Be a man: forget about frequent use of a razor. In a 2008 study, women rated slightly unshaven men the most highly. They see it as a sign of masculinity without making the man appear overly dominant or aggressive, says study author Nick Neave, a PhD candidate at a university in England.
When it comes to your image, don't overdo it. In a study at the University of New Mexico, researchers found that during women's fertile period, when they craved masculinity and felt their sexiest, their partners understood their feelings and became increasingly attentive. But the more men began to show attention to women, the fewer of them wanted intimate relationships. This period begins about a week after the first day of menstruation and lasts 7 or 8 days. She may dress nicely and give specific cues to wanting intimacy, says gynecologist Rebecca Booth, MD, author of Venus Week. Whisper something nice to her, like, “You look great. I can’t wait to spend time with you.” This will increase her arousal.
Every man has a dream girl. There is a certain ideal that he imagines, which he desires. In fact, with And, as an average man, I can easily describe him and give all his characteristics. I can see her straight away, this beauty. My requirements for a Dream Girl are simple. She should always have a scarlet manicure. Morning, afternoon, night. Flawless scarlet manicure. And she must also be a brunette. I love brunettes. But sometimes blonde. Sometimes I want to hug the blonde by the elastic waist. It all depends on my mood. In short, let her be a brunette, but as soon as I command “Blonde!” - She instantly turns blonde.
By the way, about the waist. Of course, the Dream Girl must have an excellent figure. Like ancient statues. Round ripe ass, breasts no smaller than size four. The legs are strong, the ankles are thin. And in no case taller than me. Although if he wears heels, let him be the same height as me, I don’t mind. Yes, she should always be in heels, move with a light gait, so that everyone turns around and envy me. You can go to the gym without heels, I agree. But go to the gym at least three times a week! To become the Girl of my dreams, you have to work hard. And how she plays beach volleyball - wow! All the men come running to look at her elastic, athletic body.
I remembered! I also really like redheads. So the Dream Girl should also turn red as soon as I feel like it. Once! - blonde, two! — redhead, isn’t she lovely? The main thing is quickly. And so as not to spend money on salons, on hairdressers. The girl of your dreams should be very budget-friendly, without these stupid ones: “Oh, I need to go to a procedure, oh, I have absolutely nothing to wear!”
What else? Of course it should be fun. The Dream Girl does not have any PMS. Only constant joy, happy laughter, plus small surprises for your lover. That is, me. In the morning I open my eyes, she immediately: “Darling, do you want me to make you happy? Look at the underwear I’m wearing!” I look: cool, daring, sexy. What is the price? “I sewed it myself!”
Yes, a needlewoman. The correct Dream Girl is generally a hostess. Hang new curtains there, put up wallpaper, lay tiles, build a dacha, rebuild the engine - all by myself, all by myself. Delicate hands with scarlet manicure. And I’m sitting opposite, in a large wicker chair, admiring her legs, ass and general enthusiasm. Either she is red, or she is blonde. Either she’s making dumplings, or she’s painting a wall. What else is needed for happiness?
Oh yes, parents... Everything is simple here: the parents of the Dream Girl should live in a distant Siberian city and come extremely rarely. It’s better not to show up at all, it’s too crowded. Although why Siberian? What's bad about London? Let them live in London, in a mansion, Kensington. And during our visits they vacate the mansion for us. Let them leave the servants in livery.
And so we walk with her, like that, around London. We enter a trendy gastropub, where my Dream Girl has booked a table in advance, smart girl. Let's sit down. My Dream Girl doesn’t stare at a smartphone—she doesn’t have a smartphone at all. She only admires me. Warmly whispers: “You are the best, the best, the best...”
Lo and behold, at the next table, Mick Jagger and Benedict Cumberbatch also came in for a bite to eat. Then Mick glances at my Dream Girl, choking on his roast beef in admiration. He jumps up and comes to us: “Hai guys!” What a fantastic girl. Not like all these grims of mine...” My trembling companion lowers her eyes, takes me by the hand, quietly asks: “Who is this vile old man?” - “Oh, don’t pay attention! - I answer. - Shall we dance?
And we go out with her to the center of the hall. My Dream Girl dances like a wild spring nymph - either salsa or hip-hop. But now we have a waltz. And we're spinning, spinning, spinning...
...The music here is crack! - breaks off. A gloomy citizen nearby exclaims: “Are you out of your mind at all? Take your hand off my thigh, quick! Here you have an electric train, and not something there. Look, you're daydreaming, you goat!
Prominent Perspective
Many women think they'll have to sacrifice their careers to raise children, so they constantly evaluate your ability to provide for your family, says Gary Brace, Ph.D., professor of psychology at Kansas State University.
Be a Man: To gauge your willingness to share finances, she will test your daily kindness and generosity. So instead of arguing over who will pay for dinner at a restaurant, just deposit the check on your credit card and pay later.
Unconditional selflessness can be a sign of intelligence and resourcefulness, according to a 2007 study published in the Journal of Personality Research. The manifestation of this quality suggests that you are capable of saving.
Don Juan
According to a Kenyon College study, men believe that the ideal number of sexual partners over a person's lifetime should be at least 13. Women settled on the number five. They are more picky because she will stay with the baby if you leave her. Yvonne K. Fulbright, Ph.D., author of Touch Me, says that a woman who is looking for a man who is sexy, smart, and confident understands that he is not born that way—he will become that way over time.
Be a man: ease her inhibitions so she can focus on pleasure. "Making her feel comfortable will help her become sexually assertive, so she'll take responsibility for her own satisfaction and her sense of adventure will increase," Fulbright says. Your move: hug her before sex, not after. You are programming her for pleasure by increasing her testosterone. This helps her achieve orgasm. Massage is also a pleasant way to please her. "This shows that you're not just looking for sex, but for her to enjoy intimacy with you," Fulbright says.
There's no need to rush4
In search of a life partner, in no case should you make sudden, ill-considered decisions and rush to the registry office in big leaps. The reasons for the rush in this matter are different.
Meeting a woman you like, is good in bed and suits her personality, is not yet a reason to formalize the relationship. It must be remembered that marriage, ideally, is forever. And the extra time spent communicating, getting to know each other and checking feelings will not be superfluous at all.
It happens the other way around. Having suffered several failures, a man begins to propose to everyone or just anyone. This also usually does not lead to good things.
It is necessary to remember that several unsuccessful novels or a fortieth anniversary are not a reason to commit yourself to an unfamiliar woman.
Witty
No, she doesn't need a man so she can just laugh with him. Women need a witty person in moments of awkwardness and tension. “Humor involves looking at everyday things in an unconventional way,” says Don Nielsen, Ph.D., co-founder of the International Society for the Study of Humor. She will be impressed by your ability to see the funny side of things.
Be a man: Women tend to find stories funnier than one-liners or sarcastic rants. “Men tell jokes to compete with others and impress others, while women tell jokes to maintain friendships,” says Nielsen. Stories bring the storyteller and the listener closer together.
When arguing, couples use humor to ease tension, express hostility, or shift emphasis. The result of using humor is the establishment of more trusting relationships. These are the results of a 2008 study published in the Journal of Psychology. But when humor becomes a weapon, it's not good. "Next time you're arguing, start with a joke as a peaceful way to calm her guard," suggests Diana Kirshner, Ph.D., author of Love in 90 Days. “Then get serious about solving the issue at hand.”
