You will have to organize compliments yourself
Most representatives of the stronger sex, alas, do not care how a woman is dressed. Too small a task for them! Discussing the international situation or a football match is a matter of business, but it doesn’t matter what kind of rag the woman pulled over herself once again, as long as she herself was satisfied.
Why is he like this? It is not for nothing that there is a proverb that a woman dresses for herself and her friends, but for a man she undresses. Especially often, such an attitude towards women’s clothing arises among those who grew up in a predominantly “male” family, that is, with brothers, but no sisters. It is possible that the mother was indifferent to clothes and did not teach her son to appreciate elegance. In addition, aesthetic discernment is simply not inherent in everyone; it is the same gift as an ear for music, and, alas, it is less common among men. And to express their admiration verbally, that is, in words, is generally a super task for 90% of them.
Solution No. 1. Don’t be shy to tell your loved one that you really want to hear a compliment from him about your new thing. Although keep in mind: it is unlikely to be very sophisticated. First, pay his attention to how good you look today. And if he has an interest in continuing the conversation further, explain in detail why. But there is no need to insist too much - perhaps this task will be beyond the power of the powerful male mind, and you risk irritating it.
Solution #2: Maybe look for someone else to fill this role? – good friends and husbands of friends sometimes cope well with it. Your own will be useful for more serious purposes.
Comfort. Men who are well versed in heels and skirts usually do not limit their research to one woman. Maybe it would be better if yours were blind and deaf - would it be safer?
How to compliment a man
1. Compliments that show you believe in him.
One of the things that makes a man melt is the support and belief in him of the woman he loves.
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When a woman says any options, “I believe in you,” a man begins to feel like a superhero who can achieve anything.
"I like your determination"
“Whatever you set your mind to, I know you can achieve it. You always succeeded."
“Of course people want to work with/for you! People trust you and your abilities. You're great at what you do."
“Of course you will get a promotion/new job. You are talented, hardworking, and everyone knows it. I'm so proud of you."
“You have already achieved so much in life. I'm sure you can continue and do much more. You are able to make the best out of any situation.”
2. Compliments regarding body and appearance.
Although men are not as susceptible to criticism for certain body imperfections as women are, many men are still insecure about some aspects of their appearance.
In addition, any person, regardless of gender, is pleased to know that his partner considers him aesthetically attractive
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It could be his arms, shoulders, eyes, thighs or private parts that deserve a compliment, men are not so picky. Here are a few compliments that will touch his heart.
"You look very attractive."
“Wow, you weren’t kidding when you said you were working out at the gym. Don’t take your eyes off!”
“You look very courageous today. I like it."
“You look very attractive in that suit/tie/outfit.”
“I love it when you wrap your strong arms around me.”
“You are very beautiful when you laugh.”
"You're beautiful when you cry."
“You always look so attractive, even if you just woke up and your hair is a mess.”
Fashion requires not only money, but also cunning
For you, fashionable clothes are a way to be active, modern, and successful. Everyone knows that sometimes getting a job depends on what suit you wear to an interview. What can we say about the reputation in the team (especially in the women's team) ... But the husband does not understand anything about fashion and every time he laments that money was spent on new shoes again, although the old ones have not yet been worn out, and the jeans from the year before last are still worn and worn. Does he really feel sorry for the money?
Why is he like this? Perhaps, in his heart, your husband believes that women, and you in particular, spend a lot of money on nonsense. It’s really difficult for him to notice the difference between the styles of clothes and shoes today and the year before last, but he understands perfectly well that because of the new thing he had to give up a new pump for his car. Why buy new things all the time if he already loves you? In addition, deep inside he has a fear that you may not be trying for him alone. Or maybe he has nothing to do with it at all, because all fashionable things are bought for work, and not for the home where you meet him.
Solution No. 1. Earn money for clothes yourself, and then you don’t have to come up with complex explanations for why a party dress costs three times more than a bathrobe, although ten times less material was used for it.
Solution No. 2. Try to convince your husband that the presence of an elegant, fashionably dressed woman nearby increases his prestige. You can even hint that all other men will envy him. But don't go too far with this argument; the result can be just the opposite.
Comfort. You still won't be able to keep up with fashion. Someone will beat you anyway. And if your husband does not react to this, then is this such an important goal?
What do compliments to a woman and a man have in common and how do they differ?
The compliments we give each other have the same goal - to show the importance of our lover or lover to us. So let's go in order. To begin with, I want to convey to you the importance of compliments to the man you love.
Compliments to a man are necessary in order to instill strength in him and give him support. Your words, when they convey sincere care, are able to convey to your beloved that he is a “ hero”
He wants to hear about it, not guess. By praising his masculine qualities, you strengthen a man’s self-confidence.
He needs to know that he is strong, that he has influence, that he has the gift of persuasion, for example. Let him know that you have found “ your hero” in him.
This article is valuable because you will gain practical skills if you read it to the end. In addition, I will share the “ secret information” that
I give only during trainings.
Thanks Evgenia! Mutual understanding reigns in their family relationships with their loved ones. I'm happy for them.
Do you want to get the husband of your dreams? Then let's get started.
The purpose of complimenting a man is to maintain an emotional connection in the relationship.
First, let's remember what it is - an emotional connection?
In the modern world, there is an opinion that successful and functional relationships in a married couple are built on mutual respect and unconditional trust. But love, passion and other “romance” are not of the first importance, “ you can do without it
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If there is a place for that same “romance” in your relationship with a man, then the “emotional connection” strengthens it. This is important for your communication. And I'll tell you why.
An emotional connection in a married couple is the foundation on which your Home is built. A home where you want to return as soon as possible. You know the feeling when you really want to get home after a “bad day”, where all the negativity of the day will not weigh on you. This is the place where troubles lose their weight and become insignificant.
Be sure that if you, as a married couple, do not create such an atmosphere for each other, then no one will do this for you. Such an environment is necessary. After all, things may come to a decision on divorce or severance of relations.
Ask yourself: do I want communication with my man to create conditions of “ security inside my Home
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If “yes
”, then a very effective method is to compliment your man. And do it right.
In the Women's Path , we teach women the art of giving the right compliments. An entire lesson No. 18, entitled “Compliments,” is dedicated to this skill.
It would be better if he didn’t consider himself Zaitsev
It's even worse when your husband or friend decides to interfere with your clothing experiments. His twelve-and-a-half-year-old niece wears these acid T-shirts with pins - maybe you should try them on too? Otherwise he will see some star on the cover and hint that it would be nice for you to fit into the same skirt... It would be better to remain silent! How does he know that this star has been on a diet for three years to afford such skirts? Even worse is homegrown patriarchy. “Why is it all pants and pants when I finally see my wife in a dress? - asks the domestic tyrant. “In these trousers, the whole navel is visible, who should I show it to…”
Why is he like this? Your man heard somewhere that women should dress fashionably. And he quite rightly decided that at the forefront of fashion are “green” youth and supermodels from glossy covers. So he wants to tell you what to do, but he does it clumsily. On the other hand, he doesn’t really like the fact that his beloved will expose herself to everyone. This is quite understandable - all men are owners. Therefore, by and large, it is not your clothes that irritate him, but the lack of attention to his person. Or so he shows hidden dissatisfaction, which he has for another reason.
Solution No. 1. Sometimes you can, for fun and agree with his choice, put on what he likes, of course, only within the confines of the house. Nothing bad will happen if you show off in an acid T-shirt for an hour or two. You'll see that some new facets of your charm will open up... You can even praise his taste.
Solution No. 2. Pretend that he was the one who advised you to choose the things you like. And smile innocently when he tries to “censor” your attire.
Comfort. If you are an accomplished, successful woman, you have your own style and your own concept of elegance. You just need to convince your companion that your and his ideas about fashion and beauty coincide. This is not so difficult to do - he really doesn’t really notice what you’re wearing. The main thing that men react to is your sparkling eyes and confident movements.
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