The family is destroyed due to the fault of a woman
The family begins to experience problems about 3 years after they start living together. After 5 years these problems become very severe. After 7 years, almost all families break up.
No matter how a man behaves correctly, no matter how much he provides for his family or cares for a woman, the result is always the same - the woman begins to behave inappropriately, she rages, gets angry, yells and moves away from the man as much as possible. Only external influence in the form of laws, morality, the fate of children, church laws, pressure from society and relatives can protect a family from disintegration.
Initially, the family is a woman’s environment. It is she who is responsible for the family, for the atmosphere in the family, for the microclimate and the relationship between wife and husband. A man is responsible for the external - for success in society and spiritual development. If a woman behaves correctly, then the atmosphere in the family is so blissful that not a single man will leave her.
Why should a man look for something else on the side if he already has everything in his family? Yes, he may have mistresses and affairs, but they never develop into something serious. He just doesn't need it. A man is polygamous by nature and it is natural and normal for him to have many women. At the same time, the family only benefits from all this.
It is the woman who destroys the family. It creates an atmosphere of the impossibility of coexistence. It infuriates her that her husband said he did this and didn’t allow it. It's all his fault and he's ruining her life and making her miserable. And it’s true - the woman feels unhappy, she feels bad, she suffers. And the man sees all this and does not know what needs to be done, how to calm him down, how to return the peace and love that was before. In the end, everyone gets tired of this nightmare and goes to their own corners. The longer they endure, the more hateful the relationship becomes and the former lovers do evil to each other like sworn enemies.
We call this the fifth year problem. And no one has yet learned to overcome it. No matter how a man behaves correctly, no matter what he does, the result is always the same - a break in the relationship due to the woman’s fault.
It became clear to us that a woman does not fully control herself, does not fully determine her destiny. Her behavior in the family seems to be not hers, as if created from the outside. She does not understand why they are destroying their family and is often very worried about this. He just can’t help himself and that’s it!
What is the first thing you think of when you hear the word “scandal”? That's right, an embittered woman. Not a man, but a woman. We a priori despise a man who is a brawler and is effeminate, you must agree. That is, scandals in the family are a woman’s merit.
Society plays a huge role for a woman. It is the woman in nature and in human society who bears the main social function and creates the herd, creates society. Men always wonder why women react this way to the opinions of others, why it is important for them to look good and make a good impression on others, why respect and understanding are important to her. In general, it is much more difficult for a woman than for a man to go beyond established rules and morals. She is who she is and many women voice it directly - love me as I am. This is because a woman experiences hellish torment when she goes against her nature, or rather, against the attitudes of society that have already been created in her.
This understanding became obvious thanks to my many years of travel and seduction in a variety of circumstances, countries, cities. As a city resident of the capital, I witnessed a fundamental difference in thinking between residents of small towns in Russia, large European cities or cities like Moscow and St. Petersburg. They are different, the women there are different. Outwardly, they are even a little different, they behave differently, they get to know each other differently, they react differently to your words. Women are different depending on their ENVIRONMENT, their upbringing. And this difference is not compensated over time. Maybe through severe life disruption, I don’t know. But a good girl from the outback will always remain a good woman from the outback, and will never become completely like a bitch from the capital. Only externally and only by overcoming oneself.
A woman is shaped by her environment. Her environment, family, society, friends, girlfriends. And if so, then her behavior with a man is also determined by society.
This is especially noticeable in the example of Western countries. Their culture is very different from ours and women there build relationships completely differently, choose other men and voice completely different values. Their behavior in relationships is completely different from our women. At the same time, those Russian women who married a foreigner, even for love, and went to live in another country, experience severe torment in their family life. They are stressed by a lot of things - how her husband behaves with her, how his family treats her, how others react to her. And the point is not that she is little loved or despised. Not at all - everyone loves beautiful women and in the West many people support marrying a beautiful Russian, but they don’t understand them. They are "weird". Because they behave differently and build relationships with others differently. And a woman cannot change. She can adapt, mimic the environment, but in this case she will experience constant torment.
And this once again confirms that a woman builds relationships not on the basis of some of her natural qualities, but they are determined by the society in which she was raised. And since society is responsible for her relationship, it is precisely society that forms the problem of the fifth year. It is society that is responsible for the fact that a family falls apart after 5-7 years.
Let's look at families in Asia. In India, families are strong and have ten or more children. There is poverty all around, but they breed like rabbits and live amicably and together. That is, there is no problem of the fifth year, but we have it. And this is determined by society.
We don’t know what happens to the woman in the family. We see that our women are going crazy and destroying their families. I tried to mentor some girls to keep their families together, but in vain. Their desire for a break was so strong, there was so much negativity that they did not hear any admonitions from the outside. They only wanted to hear words of support and consolation. That's all and nothing more! Change? Never! You can only talk about this when a woman is in love, when everything is fine with her. As soon as she begins to shake, wobble, and she rushes like a wild animal at her man, nothing can be done. She doesn't control herself. So who controls this animal?
It is impossible to call a woman a reasonable person in such a state. She can outwardly perform some reasonable actions if she is well-bred enough, but inside herself she is seething with anger and hatred towards the people closest to her. This is an animal, unreasonable behavior beyond her control. She acts like an animal, based on her feelings and emotions of a very low level. Not some sublime feelings, but feelings of fear, hatred, anger, malice, which is characteristic of all animals.
We know that seduction is largely an animal process. A woman reacts to a man, loves him not because of some lofty intentions, but because of animal instinct. Simply having sex with a woman radically changes her attitude towards you, shapes her desires and emotions. Everything we call love and passion is predetermined by instinct. But the path to this lies through social restrictions. A woman determines how and with whom to build relationships through society; it is society that lays down behavioral stereotypes and determines her choice of partner. For example, in the States, the determining factor will be the guy’s status in her social group, and in Africa, the largest and strongest black man will be. Both have an equally good effect on her sexual instinct, but the choice will be in one favor or another depending on the woman’s environment. This means that society does not determine instinct, but only choice and mating behavior.
Whether the fifth year problem is a natural process or caused by social influences, we do not know for sure. We simply do not have information about how other societies live. But we can make the assumption that if the problem of the fifth year existed in all societies, then this issue would be acute throughout the world, we would have references to this in all religious and spiritual books, and corresponding laws and rules would be created. Like, dear girls, when you live in your family for five years, you need to do this and that to solve your problem.
However, there are no such materials. Even Western civilization began to slowly accept the existence of this problem only after the release of the bestseller “Love Lives for Three Years.” Before this, only scientists and statistics were interested in the issue. More than 90% of marriages fall apart after 5-7 years. It's a sad fact. Our society.
Are the statistics the same in China? No! In India? No! In Arab countries, in Africa, among the Indians? No! We must admit that their statistics are incomplete or distorted for certain purposes, but we cannot completely deny the fact that our society is sick. Our society is sick. It reproduces poorly, gives birth to sick and weak children, we die out and give way to more fertile and stronger peoples. There are a billion of us, the rest are 6 billion. At the same time, we own 80% of all the world's wealth, which creates an understandable imbalance in the world and sooner or later this proportion must change. Either we will share our wealth with the rest, and this is primarily land and water, or we will destroy the rest.
Let's return to family issues. We assume that the problem of the fifth year is peculiar to our society and our way of life and does not affect most other countries. Consequently, this problem was created by society itself, and a woman is its implementer, as an obedient instrument to society. A woman is a biorobot; she has very limited independence and must rely in everything not on her own mind, but on the mind of her husband. You can clearly see this in Hollywood films, where, at a moment of danger, a woman bulges her eyes, waves her arms, and rushes at Godzilla with her bare hands in order to protect her children, while a man acts clearly, intelligently and effectively. We all laugh, rejoice at the hero’s miraculous rescue of the woman and children, and at the level of our feelings we calmly accept the fact of a woman’s complete inability to solve any important life problems.
The woman has a weak mind. But a woman has a strong power of emotions.
The power of emotions can be strong even in a man if he is not brought up correctly. Boys who were raised by their mothers, who indulged them in everything, have little capacity for asceticism, self-restraint, achievement, responsibility - all these qualities need to be developed in a child; they do not appear on their own. except as a reaction to a very aggressive and difficult environment, when a complete idiot becomes a hero due to the influence of circumstances. But in life everything is much more prosaic and the majority stupidly die where they could survive.
The power of emotions is the power of the animal world. A man must learn to control them and act with reason. A woman must learn to respect her man and rely on his decisions. Why does this reasonable system fail after 5 years of marriage?
A woman experiences very strong negative emotions and these emotions are caused by the influence of society. We can only guess what kind of influence this is. There is probably a discrepancy between what was expected and what actually happened. In this case, the level of wealth does not matter. Often they leave rich husbands more willingly, having received a good piece of his pie and having the opportunity to build an independent, prosperous life. Anyone who has ever dated a rich divorced bitch can imagine what it’s like. A woman gets freedom and wants to enjoy it, she doesn’t need a family for a while, she wants to do what she wants and how she wants. And if you build a new family, then according to YOUR own rules.
What is symptomatic is that these women are not affectionate, they are angry, aggressive, dominant. That is, they seem to acquire some of the masculine qualities. Often they start buying men as prostitutes! Beautiful, selected males for sexual pleasures. At the same time, they humiliate and despise them.
A man loves beautiful women and when buying them he often becomes dependent. But women are elevated, despised, and subjugated to them with all their hearts. That is, they demonstrate natural, animal feelings.
This tells us that the problem of the fifth year is associated with a woman’s rebellion against the power of a man and the desire to demonstrate her masculine qualities. A woman lacks a certain freedom, this oppresses her and causes severe general irritation, which then manifests itself over trifles. As you can see, we are gently approaching the problem of feminism.
Feminism is contempt for men, a thirst for power over him, financial independence from men and the promotion of base animal desires and needs that are so characteristic of a woman and causes the problem of the fifth year. This social poison destroys a woman’s mind, infects it with wrong social ideas, and forms wrong desires and needs.
Scientists have found that society forms pleasure centers in people. We like what society has instilled in us. The group we belong to determines what we will like and what we will strive for.
But this postulate is also true in the other direction. Society also shapes our hatred, malice and anger towards what is unacceptable. Isn’t it very similar to family relationships in the fifth year of life?
The woman seems to be going crazy. She, for no reason, begins to rage, get angry and throw herself at her man. This is not caused by the behavior of a man, this is the autonomous behavior of a woman, a working program. It looks crazy because it goes against logic, against reason and the prevailing circumstances. That is, this influence from OUTSIDE should be understood by us in exactly this way.
The woman is essentially the same victim here as we ourselves. She doesn’t understand why she feels bad with you, it just happens under the influence of society. She really feels bad and she can’t help herself, no matter how hard she tries. They influence her, she just follows a certain program.
The experience of eco-settlements and religious sects shows that despite the change in society, the absence of television and other media, the problems of the fifth year remain in many cases, although they are not so obvious. Sects generally impose very strong restrictions and taboos on divorce, which forces women to suppress their feelings and strengthen their rational control over feelings. However, the process itself is preserved and occurs in a hidden form.
The example of the gay community shows us how much society can influence sexual behavior. A huge number of people in Europe and the USA became homosexuals, going against the natural program inherent in them. That is, society has invaded their sexual behavior so much that it has radically changed it. A huge number of pedophiles. necrophiles and other psychopaths shows us the depth of influence and the intention of the social code to invade the life of every person. Therefore, we must conclude that the influence of instinct is not as great as the influence of the social code and can be reprogrammed by it for far-reaching purposes.
Apparently, the problem of the fifth year is programmed into a woman during her upbringing and is then supported and aggravated by the influence of the media and communication. Somewhere in the social code that defines our basic values, there is an error, intentionally or accidentally, that destroys the family at a certain stage. If you think that you yourself are free from such code, then think again.
For most people, their values and preferences are shaped by society. Our behavioral habits, our aspirations, our desires are largely a product of the influence of society, its social code. Without making special efforts to free oneself, a person is nothing more than a biorobot with a pre-known set of reactions to basic stimuli and well-predicted behavior. The success of political technologies in elections clearly demonstrates this to us.
Look how most men live in the Russian outback - alcoholism, drug addiction, smoking, devouring dead flesh, lack of clear goals and healthy ambitions. Are they born this way as children? No, they were raised that way by their parents and environment. And they like to drink, eat meat and smoke. I like it, you know? For them this is the norm, their behavior and desires are PROGRAMMED by society. If he had been born in another country, perhaps their life would have turned out differently.
Both women and men are equally susceptible to social programming and have a social code that determines our desires and behavior. Activation of this code destroys the family in the fifth year of life, and to solve the problem it is necessary to remove this code from the woman.
How to do this remains a mystery to me.
Be constantly dissatisfied
You're annoyed by the way your hair is lying, you're tired of the eternal mess at home, you're annoyed by the neighbors across the street, your idiot colleagues, and your washing machine that's always acting up. And as soon as your husband crosses the threshold, you dump it all on him. Imagine yourself in his place - living in a constant stream of negativity. He would be happy to help you - but the level of your tension is too great, and he does not know what to grab onto.
If there's one thing I've learned over the years of marriage, it's that a good husband wants his wife to be happy. And if he discovers that this is not so, he himself feels unhappy. Of course, we all have days when everything goes wrong. But making dissatisfaction and irritation with your lifestyle means destroying your family.
They destroyed two families, but they did not become happy
Alena divorced for her lover. Two months later, she realized what a mistake she had made, but nothing could be corrected. FROM THE AUTHOR: I recently met my former classmate Alena by chance in a store.
Having difficulty recognizing my friend in this haggard, thinner and seemingly faceless woman, I called out to her. Dull eyes, drooping shoulders and complete indifference to life - that’s what I saw first and at first decided that an irreparable grief had happened. I knew that 32-year-old Alena had a wonderful family - a husband and two children. But what she said made me shudder. After talking with her, I asked for her consent to publish this shocking story - perhaps someone would benefit from the colossal experience that this woman received. Alena agreed, but asked not to indicate her last name, since all the participants in this drama live in Oryol.
Just three months ago, Alena had a wonderful family - a husband and two daughters, 11 years old and 3 years old. She once gave birth to her eldest daughter for herself - her father ran away at the first signs of pregnancy, but Vlad fell in love with her as his own and became her real dad. They met by chance - on a dating site, and a few months later, in 2012, they got married, and in 2013 their youngest daughter was born - a complete copy of Vlad.
- We had an ideal family. My husband literally carried us all in his arms, fulfilling all our whims and desires. And every year I became more and more bored. The passion disappeared, there was no place for romance - there was no one to leave the children with to devote time to each other. Home, work, school, kindergarten - that’s all we lived with. Yes, many people live like this. Almost all. But I always wanted something more. I dreamed of passion, emotion, recklessness. To blow your head off. They say - be afraid of your wishes, they will come true. Now I know for sure that it’s true,” says Alena.
The romance with Anton began last December with a New Year's corporate party. As the woman recalls now, she came in a bad mood, and she was also tired over the past year. All this required some way out. And it found it.
Put your husband last in the hierarchy of your values
What is most important to you? Children, relationship with mother, friends, self-realization, career? And what place is your husband in? Isn’t he in last place? If so, then it turns out that you have been telling him every day for years - “you are completely unimportant to me.” Imagine if they told you this for years? How would this affect your self-esteem?
The husband should come first. This may seem counterintuitive and generally wrong to you, but it is actually the key to a happy marriage. So many couples break up today precisely because people neglect to take care of each other. Be the most important thing to each other.
Play “telepath” and “partisan”
Women love to use hints (I think it's genetic in us). But men simply do not understand them (and this is inherent in them). Don't waste time on hints - he still won't understand you. Keep it simple. Speak honestly about how you feel, without accumulating the burden of unspoken things. If he asks: “What happened?” and you answer: “Nothing!” - well, don’t expect your husband to read your thoughts. Keep it simple, be open.
Translation from English by Anna Barabash
