I often come across situations where a woman complains that her man pays little attention to her, and spends more time lying on the couch, watching TV, sipping beer, or playing computer games, and is not interested in anything at all and is not interested in anything. pursuit. I immediately have a question: if she has such problems with a man, then why does she continue to live with him? What does he hope for? That he will change after having children? Nothing like that! It will all end in problems, both psychologically and financially (children need to be raised and fed!).
What is the difference between a smart person and a fool?
If an intelligent person starts to get sick, what will he do? That's right - he will find and make an appointment with a good specialist so that he can help him recover.
What does a not very smart person do? He decides that everything will go away on its own, heal, heal, and so on. Well, if it goes away on its own, then he doesn’t need any specialist. As a result, health problems can lead to disability. And they can even lead you to the grave.
So, for example, if a normal person develops cancer, then immediately after the first “bell” he goes to a specialist, begins treatment, and goes through all the procedures. And at the same time he is looking for information on how to cope with his problem. And, oddly enough, he finds it. There are many examples of people overcoming cancer and then living happily ever after.
And those who decided that they did not need treatment did not look for anything, did not go to anyone, but waited for everything to resolve itself. So they lived until the fourth stage, and then, that’s it...
The same thing happens with family problems:
- The first stage is when a woman has problems with a man;
- The second stage - the woman begins to solve these problems through quarrels and clarification of relationships;
- The third stage - a man and a woman cease to understand each other, the husband can leave home, and even raise his hand against his wife;
- The fourth stage is the agony of the relationship and divorce.
But here’s the paradox: going through all these stages, the woman is for some reason confident that the problem will resolve itself and the relationship will become healthy again. Therefore, she does not try to find the necessary information, does not try different techniques, does not go to a specialist and does not try to constructively solve her problem. What for? After all, it will pass on its own!
There is a problem with a man - there must be a solution.
Dear women, understand that if you have problems with a man, you don’t have to let everything take its course. We must begin to act so as not to bring the matter to the fourth stage. And this is inevitable if you sit idly by or yell at your husband.
If you have not yet had time to tie the knot, and have already discovered in your fiancé an excess of laziness, manifestations of alcoholism, wrong priorities, or maybe something worse (for example, the presence of a hidden wife), then you should not waste your energy and time on such a subject. You won't fix it, and you won't get anything good. End the relationship and leave.
Why do you need to correct the bad ones? You deserve a better man! Even if you don't believe it.
To cope with a problem in your personal life, you need to learn to attract worthy men into it. And not allow others to destroy it, like an infection penetrating the body of a sick person. After all, all the girls who are going to get married know that many families get divorced after 3-5-8 years. But for some reason they don’t think much about it, don’t analyze the problems and don’t stock up on possible solutions. Again the favorite “maybe” comes into play: I’m smart, this can’t happen to me, I’ll change it, fix it...
Don't change or fix it! If problems with a man appeared at the beginning of the relationship, then it will only get worse. And you will have to suffer a lot. Do you need this?
