What kind of women do men not leave?
Do you think there is no universal secret? And that everything happens in life, and men still leave beautiful, smart women who are both good housewives and skilled mistresses? It only seems so from the outside. The fact that these unfortunate abandoned women are ideal. In fact, everything is not so simple, because there are strong married couples where you look: he is a respectable, stately, handsome, and successful man, and she is an unremarkable gray mouse. And then the whole familiar world collapses and absolute bewilderment comes: “What did he find in her?!?” And he loves her, dotes on her, and all because she behaves correctly with him, like a woman. Let's talk about which women men don't leave. So, this woman:
1. Recognizes authority in her man. Gives him the leadership of the family, primacy in all matters. He is the main breadwinner, her support and protection. He makes decisions and solves any problems that arise. When a woman makes a man feel like a real man, to take responsibility for the whole family, every day he becomes stronger in spirit, more confident in himself, and more successful in his work. And he understands perfectly well that all his achievements are thanks to the wisdom of his wife. Men don't leave such women.
2. Doesn't argue with him. He is her smartest, most prudent, most calculating. And therefore he knows better what to do in a given situation. Of course, a man, having a sharp and focused mind, does not have the intuition that a woman has, so her task is to carefully and unobtrusively direct him in the right direction, to where she feels it is safe. The main thing is to do this in such a way that the man sincerely believes that he made the right decision! Read more in the article “Why can’t you argue with a man?”
3. Admires her husband. No matter what kind of man he is, you can always find good and bad character traits and habits in him. And here it’s up to the woman to choose whether to nag him for what he can’t do or to admire what he can do. If you want to know which women men don’t leave, then this point is very, very important! When a man is admired by his beloved, it inspires him, inspires him and he wants to become even better! Do even more for her! And if she is constantly dissatisfied with him, then the man will immediately give up and lose the desire to do anything. What for? She will still be unhappy!
4. Takes care of himself. At the same time, she doesn’t look at all like a desperate housewife in a dirty robe and curlers on her head. A woman from whom men do not leave always takes care of herself. She is well-groomed and beautiful, looks feminine and gentle.
5. Develops intellectually and spiritually. If a woman has no interests or hobbies, then her main interest becomes her husband. Where was he, why did he come so late, who called, and so on. And also constant grievances that he devotes little time and attention to her. This is very annoying for men, they have the feeling that his freedom is becoming more and more limited with every second and now it will become difficult to breathe. Such a woman very quickly becomes uninteresting to a man, even if he has the most tender feelings for her. Therefore, she must be passionate about something, interested in something and do something. If she is constantly developing, learning something new, setting her own small goals, then a man will become interested in getting to know her better, and will have an incentive to match her.
If after reading these recommendations you are extremely indignant and do not agree with a single word, alas, you are far from the woman from whom men do not leave. And the first step to changing the situation is to admit it.
With love, Yulia Kravchenko
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No fear of appearing weak
There is no need to be afraid to ask your loved one for help. Firstly, men cannot read minds and often have no idea about our desires and emotions, which leads to unexpected conflicts. Secondly, for them, the request of their beloved is an excellent reason to show their resourcefulness and strength, receiving a reward in the form of admiration and gratitude from the lady of their heart.
Give your companion a chance to woo you and feel like a real man. And requests and delegation of some responsibilities will help a woman save energy and time for more important things, including for her loved one.
Treason
It is impossible to forgive the betrayal of a loved one. No matter what they say, the memory of this will forever remain in the head of the other half.
You can pretend that everything is fine and never return to this topic again, but the fear of repeat betrayal will always be with you.
Before making such a mistake, you need to think carefully about the consequences that simply cannot be avoided. Some girls naively believe that their loved one will not find out anything.
Everything secret becomes clear, it just takes time.
The girl you still can't forget - what is she like?
I’ve never answered questions before, but I really want to contribute to this one.
This was an unusual person. I never met anyone like him again. One of a kind. At first glance, there was nothing special about her, but when we first met, an inner voice said “this is it.”
She had large brown eyes and short bleached hair. White, almost platinum. A neat, even nose, beautiful ears with stud and star-shaped earrings and a ring on the cartilage of the left ear. High forehead and cheekbones. Thin, beautiful lips, usually pursed, with slightly raised edges. A beautiful oval face, like the face itself. A thin long neck, prominent collarbones, pure white skin, pale, like that of aristocrats. Neat shoulders, small elastic breasts, toned stomach. Overall, it was some kind of heavenly creature. Seraphim, a sexless creature in appearance.
She was funny, her laugh was very strange, but funny. The voice is very interesting, not high, but clear, I liked it. She had a really stupid owl tattoo on her ribs that you could feel on her fingertips. She had warm, pleasant hands, a little dry, tender. I have never felt so good holding hands with a person as I did with her. When we walked together through St. Petersburg, holding each other tightly, I felt incredibly happy, content and proud. “She’s mine, just look at this miracle.”
He was a big kid, many years older than me. Naive, attached to his mother and home, to his grandmother, to his cats, but broken from the inside. Crippled by time, other people, society. She was very interesting, my soul mate. We had many common interests and hobbies. She was smart, educated, it was interesting to talk with her about many things and discuss various topics from any category.
She didn’t know how to cut her nails herself and was afraid to sleep on the edge of the bed without light. She loved her funny cats so much that as soon as one of them sneezed, she immediately ran to the veterinarian. She loved sweet cocoa, putting 6-7 spoons in one mug, and at the same time she loved beer with fatty meat and snacks to go with it.
The warmest days of my adult life were spent there, in cold St. Petersburg. Pleasant, tender memories that I sometimes look back on with slight sadness.
This girl left a huge mark on my life. Quite a long time has passed since the last time we saw each other or even wrote letters to each other. Everything bad that happened was forgotten. All that was left was a good aftertaste with tart bitterness, like a good dry wine. I am grateful to her for this experience.
Your own point of view
Of all the positive qualities listed above, this can be called the most important. It is very good when a woman has her own point of view, but at the same time leaves her companion the right to have his own view on the issue. It’s very good when she says, “I am what a network is, and if you came into my life, then take it into account. For my part, I will do the same.”
This approach turns a man on very much - he tries to convince the woman, to win her over to his side. This is intriguing and makes life together interesting. The value of such a soul mate for a spouse increases incredibly, and this is what many are accustomed to calling “zest.”
Finally, Andrei Nikolaev reminded that you should always wait for your person, the best and only one. “The first person you meet” is an option for ladies with low self-esteem who are terrified of loneliness. Any relationship at the initial stage is a game in which everyone tries to show themselves as better than they are.
In family life, you live with a real person who has his own views on things and, of course, shortcomings. Therefore, before tying yourself seriously and for a long time, it is better to live together, take a closer look, and understand whether this is your person or just a random guy in your life.
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Gratitude
This is a very valuable quality that has an important impact on male self-esteem. Representatives of the stronger sex spend most of their lives making money and a woman should appreciate this. Signs of attention, surprises and gifts from your husband - you need to be grateful for all this. If in response to a man’s actions there are only reproaches: it’s not such a gift, why are you working all the time, bringing in little money, then the companion simply fades away and he has a desire to go where he will be appreciated.
The ability to forgive
The ability to forgive is misunderstood by some. This is not about comprehensive forgiveness and enormous patience, but about working on your psycho-emotional development. Not a single family, even the happiest, can do without quarrels. But there is no point in waiting for them to fade away on their own or to “slow down”.
Resentments have a habit of accumulating and sooner or later they arise and hurt both partners. Psychologist Andrei Nikolaev sees the solution to the problem as follows:
The most common phenomenon is when our internal depot of grievances and complaints becomes so large that it absorbs all good feelings, and the second half is no longer just annoying, but disgusting. A woman who knows how to forgive, that is, work with her condition, does a kind of prevention of such an unenviable outcome. She will not accumulate these problems, but will begin to understand them, defending her boundaries and rights. Or, if a man stumbles, she will sincerely forgive him, realizing that somewhere there is her responsibility.
But at the same time, one should not confuse the ability to forgive with the common victim syndrome, in which a woman always forgives everything. Such wives are most often not valued.
Striving for self-improvement
Men are drawn to interesting women who crave new knowledge and impressions. Such girls will always strive to become erudite, live in a better place, and improve their qualifications. They will not be satisfied with little. Next to such a companion, men forget about boredom. Young people feel their exclusivity, begin to change their lives and develop. They develop a taste for life and faith in their own strengths. And interest in an active and cheerful lover does not fade even after years.
Love yourself, develop, fill your life with joy and new sensations. When you like yourself, then worthy and interested men will increasingly appear next to you.
Takes care of himself
Self-care is a consequence of good self-esteem. Such a woman remains attractive in any situation and at any age, and she chooses a partner to match herself. Many people justify their reluctance to take care of their appearance by taking up a lot of time at home, but we must remember that this is not an excuse. There is no need to cook borscht in heels - just do it at your convenience, but when your spouse is at work. And in his presence, always be at your best.
