Why start a family
Perhaps you are wondering why marriage is needed, why you can’t start a family without formalizing your relationship? The fact is that there will not be full awareness that you have become a unit of society, that it will not disintegrate over time. In addition, a man must understand that a child born into such a “family” is unlikely to take his last name. A woman will not be able to look into the future with confidence and, according to the law, she is nothing to her man. Let's look at the main reasons indicating the need to start your own family.
- Only in a full-fledged family can one raise healthy children, both psychologically and physically.
- The ability to divide all responsibilities in half, including financial expenses.
- Family is a place where you can talk about your problems, worries, experiences, and get support.
- Family makes you feel safe, gives you the opportunity to create and try something new. This is a place where a person is overwhelmed with emotions, love and pride.
- The family teaches life, allows you to try on different roles and behavior patterns. People can re-educate by seeing their shortcomings.
A WOMAN NEEDS A FAMILY FIRST, NOT A MAN
⇐ PreviousPage 21 of 29Next ⇒True, my first love is O.N. — holds different views: “It is an underdeveloped woman who needs a family more than an underdeveloped man. In relation to everyone else, this thesis is very controversial.” Well, let's figure it out.
Why does a man need a wife?
Why does a man need a wife, what attracts him to her? - Most men will answer that he is attracted to his Wife as a possible Soul Friend, Lover, Mistress of the House and Mother to the Children. Now pay attention to the fact that those moments that attract a man to a Wife (primarily “Soul Friend” and “Mistress”), he can get without any problems even without a family. And what he could receive only from his wife and only in the family (“Mother of his children”) is not very relevant at a young age. And it turns out that there is simply no point in starting a family for a guy under 25-27 years old...
If we consider a family to be a fairly stable cohabitation with fairly responsible relationships...
Of course, there may be DIFFERENT CIRCUMSTANCES and INDIVIDUAL FEATURES.
For example:
If a guy puts Business first, he needs a family (like a calm rear, like a Lair, where he can always lie down and “lick his wounds”).
Convenient. And if a guy’s first priority is Freedom, his family will be more of a burden to him. The Lazy Man needs a family with a Caring Wife (although whether the family needs him is a separate question), but the Energetic and Hardworking young man easily takes care of himself on his own. It turns out that a young man who is not popular with women needs a family: without a family, he doesn’t have women or sex, and in exchange for marriage he will get it. Naturally, a woman’s favorite does not need a family to solve such problems. A difficult life often predisposes to living together, an easy life predisposes to fluttering... Those who are looking for peace and stability often choose a family, and those who are looking for novelty and events avoid families.
And so on. Most of all, the choice of family life reminds me of the choice of a set lunch in a restaurant: not so tasty, not sophisticated, but fast and you don’t need to look for something and think about it every time. A gourmet won’t order a set lunch, but a hard worker will be quite happy with it...
Why does a woman need a Husband?
I want a husband, I want a husband, I want a husband...
The song is like this
A husband usually attracts a woman as a possible Soul Friend, Supporter and Protector, Lover, Sponsor, Home Maker and Father. And the answer will depend on what from this list is important to her in the first place, how important, and what important things she can get only in the family.
And most girls answer that they need a husband...
I, however, suggest that this is nothing more than a MYTH. Hypnosis, illusion.
Moreover, girls have always been divided into Amazons and Housewives. And, at least for a strong, free, developed, active woman, a family is not necessary. The family may be pleasant and interesting to her, but she can live perfectly well without it.
On the other hand, the myth that a WOMAN NEEDS A FAMILY is tenacious and effective. This myth is so “dense”, it has so permeated our entire life and our entire consciousness that it has almost become REALITY. The girls were and are worried when they just can’t get married, and no smart considerations can calm them down. And what a joy, what an event for them - a wedding! And if a girl does not become a philosopher, she does not argue that she needs a family.
But not yet for the guy.
And the girl turns out to need the family more than the guy.
Years go by, he has already married, she has already given birth. What is the level of interest in the family? As a rule, it remained the same. Of course, with age, a man increasingly needs a family, family comfort, but the whole point is that, at least until the age of fifty, he has great opportunities to choose women. He needs a family, but not a specific woman, because there are many women interested in him. And he can choose. But his wife is not, or rather, her choice is more limited.
For most, it is limited only: with this husband - or not at all.
Dating service workers talk about the problems of their clients. 20-25 years old - there are guys, no girls. 30-40 years old - a lot of women, no men at all. (As the consultant admits: “If suddenly a man of this age calls us and is interested, I’m ready to drag him from the other end of the line on a hook!”) 50-60 years old - Men appear, but do not look at women their own age, but look for young people who do not look on them. Over 60 years, women completely disappear, and men are still searching... And if we now take a specific couple, then, as a rule, SHE is more interested in family life.
But not a single smart woman would agree with this. She knows that this is so, and that is why she does not agree with it. She is participating in a WORLD WOMEN CONSPIRACY.
Global Conspiracy of Women
To make it clearer what the trick is, let’s look at a simple example. Here is one that has no problems and one that needs something from MMM. Question: who will turn to whom: MMM to LJJ or vice versa?
Naturally, since LJZ is needed, she will apply. And who will dictate the terms of the contract to whom? — That’s right, MMM will dictate, and LJJ will scratch his head and think: will I be able to cope with these conditions or not... But! But the fact is that LJJs have natural intelligence, and the dull MMMs are somewhat deprived of it. And so smart LJJ managed to secretly agree that from now on they look at MMM as annoying flies, that they don’t need anything at all from these MMM - and created a convincing appearance of this. And if MMM believes in this theater, then the trick works: LJJ of these stupid MMMs are cheated and prosper at their expense. Accordingly, men run after women, and women turn their noses up at them and critically examine their proposals. And smart men look at women and admire them.
Although, if you still think about it and answer not blindly following tradition, but in fairness, then: Who should look after whom, meaning the creation of a family?
Who should propose to whom? Who ultimately has the right to determine family orders (norms, forms, image and style of family life)?
Naturally, both discuss, but whose decision is decisive? Who should be ready to bear the brunt of family life?
The most interesting question for me here is different: where is the line separating the Man-Knowing-His-Strength from the Man who does not respect the Woman, from the Parasite Man?
A MAN SHOULD SUPPORT A FAMILY. AND HOLDING IS A WOMAN.
Agree amicably
The most beneficial agreement for you is the one that takes into account the interests of the other party.
ABC of business
If a man is not married, he must be married. If he doesn’t yet understand that he will be better off in the family, it’s okay, he’ll understand later. And if I revealed the Worst Secret of women, it was not at all in order to disarm women, but to arm men. The fact is that sooner or later “everything secret becomes clear,” but the conclusions from what has been revealed are very often not what is needed.
The guy lived like a guy, wanted girls, and for this he even became a decent person. He learned to look after girls, gave them flowers, had “a blow and a bummer” many times, but then he finally got married and began to value his wife. It’s hard, but he carries the family cart and listens to his wife. But suddenly the veil fell away, and he realized that SHE needed all this to a much greater extent than HIM. And he drew from this a completely obvious continuation: “If you need it, do it.”
Guess what his personal (it’s already difficult to say - his “family”} life turned into after that? An intelligent woman will always take care of her husband. But, given the fact that on her shoulders are both children and the rest of the household, without him she simply cannot do without help, and the man who puts his family on the shoulders of one woman will soon be left without a family at all.
Although, let us note to be fair, with different women.
And the one who supports his wife and builds a family with her will take care of both his wife and himself. Yes, she needed it more - that means it was his gift to the woman he loved. But he also received a lot - he received a good family.
Those who have a bad family will confirm this first of all.
Men, come to an amicable agreement with the Woman - it will be better...
My conditions
Among the first in the questionnaire “Fundamentals of a Family Agreement” is the thematic block “WE and FAMILY”, containing the following questions:
- What kind of family do I want? What is the most important thing for me in the family?
- Do I really need a family? Am I going to put a lot of time and effort into it? For which of us is family more important?
-What do I value most about you? Why do I need you? (Now try to prove to another that he needs you). Why do you need me?
Why should you marry (marry me)? Besides the fact that we love each other, what is the point in this?
- If love passes, what next?
If now I needed to start a family again, get married, in a conversation with the woman I love and suits me, I would probably answer them briefly like this:
“I live my life. You can be next to me, it shouldn’t burden my life in any way; my family should help me live and work. I see in you a friend, assistant, lover and mother of our children. Be prepared for the fact that the family will be mainly on you. I will do a lot for the family, but you should never have any complaints against me. Be grateful for what I did, everything else is only in the form of requests, and no offense. I will also never have any complaints against you, and if I don’t like something, I will always tell you so, and we will discuss it. If you behave well, I will give you everything you need: help, support, love, warmth, I will provide for the family financially, we will have good children and a strong, friendly family. Will that suit you?
I can imagine that someone here will not like the phrase “If you behave.” Of course, this involves some infringement on the woman’s independence, but she wants to live with me, and I tell her what I expect from her. She will apparently have to give up something - naturally, she has to pay for everything.
We all pay for what we want - with money, time, and independence...
And the ultimatum is no more than the need to pay for travel on public transport.
A woman needs a family more, so a man has the right to set his own conditions.
And if he is more satisfied with a free family, where there is no “should”, but only “thank you,” then let the woman accept his proposal. This will be both fair and because she has no other choice, because it will be better for everyone, including her.
Will it? Judge for yourself. For example:
The husband came home from work, tired, and wants his wife to pack him dinner. And the wife:
- also tired (option 1), - chatting on the phone or reading an interesting book (option 2).
If in this family it is believed that “the norm is mutual assistance between spouses,” then:
In option 1 there will be a bickering between “who is more tired” and “who should help whom. In option 2, the wife’s behavior if she does not want to interrupt her occupation is assessed as conflicting with all the ensuing scandals.
If in this family mutual assistance is not an obligation, then these problems do not exist. Anyone who wants to have dinner will have dinner. No offense.
Everyday life of married life
(psychological workshop)
That the proposed algorithm for family life works, and works well, we need to be convinced again and again. Let's immerse ourselves in family life for a whole week and analyze the simplest situations: how difficult they turn out to be in a traditional family and how they are resolved in a free family.
I give my assessments and decisions briefly in footnotes.
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Monday.
In the morning the child is sent to kindergarten, he does not want to, his mother dresses him forcibly, jerking him sharply. The child is screaming. Dad looked away from breakfast: “You’re not a mother, you’re a stepmother!” What are your grades?
Mom is wrong, but dad is not right. Firstly, with these words he hit her; and secondly, if he doesn’t like how his wife copes with the child, let him take a real break from breakfast and do everything well himself.
In the evening, the wife returns home and sees that her husband is washing clothes, but due to his inexperience, he put her favorite white blouse and his blue sweatpants in the basin together. Naturally, the blouse is hopelessly ruined. How should she react?
Kiss her husband, and, if she guessed about the trouble before him, prepare him for it - so that he does not get too upset.
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Tuesday.
In the morning, my mother’s porridge ran away and everyone ate the burnt porridge, except for the child, who refused to eat it and became capricious. In this situation, dad expressed his assessment of mom’s culinary abilities. Does he have the right to such a reaction?
How will be correct?
Here you need to pay attention not to the mother, but to the father and child.
An irritated father is no better than his whining offspring, and both require warmth and gentle containment. When dad comes to his senses, he will guess that mom can be petted with good words: “The porridge today, of course, is not very good, but mom is very tasty!”
The husband came home from work, saw that his wife was reading “Foreign Literature” in the chair, there was a mountain of dishes in the kitchen that had not been washed since morning, and there was no dinner... How should he react? Are there problems, are quarrels possible?
No one bothers him, and his wife is still there - at home. What problems?
The situation can generally be turned around: imagine that his beloved has come to his house, and if he makes dinner, they can have a delightful evening (and night).
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Wednesday.
In the morning, the father was doing physical education with the child, he dropped it, he was seriously bruised, the child was screaming in pain. How should a wife react to these events and to dad? What will she think and say, with what intonations?
Poor dad!
Mutual friends called and are coming to visit. Wife: “We need something for tea. Aren't you going? “I’m not going.” Is everything okay here? Are there reasons for dissatisfaction?
The wife thinks that she should go, but her husband, busy with his own affairs, does not prevent her from doing so. Everything is fine.
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Thursday.
In the morning, my wife casually said: “It’s somehow uncomfortable here,” meaning the lack of curtains. The husband decided that she meant the old wallpaper, and, having left work early, quickly went to the store, bought new wallpaper, tore off the old ones and got ready to glue it up. At this time, the wife returns, having invited her friends to the evening... She sees the destruction, she had to apologize to the guests, and when they left, she created a scandal for her husband. How should she have reacted?
Contain your emotions and calm down. Figure out what's going on.
Thank the husband for his attention to his wife and hard work. Admire his work.
Take the blame for not being clear about your wishes. Think with him about what to do now. Discuss everything she wants for the future.
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My husband is hanging wallpaper, but the child runs around him all the time and doesn’t let him work.
His wife is chatting on the phone and does not respond to his requests to occupy the baby.
Half an hour passes, the husband begins to get irritated: “Stop chatting, take care of the child!” Does the husband have the right to be irritated and make such demands?
The maximum he can do is stop repair work and sit with the child with a book or construction set. You can explain to your wife that he can return to repairs only when she takes care of the child.
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Friday.
It turns out that today mom cannot take her child to kindergarten, which she informs dad about. Dad is unhappy with mom and grumbles. Is he right?
Dad, you're wrong. A mother is no more obligated to take care of her child than you are.
Be grateful for her work, patience and courage. By the way, it is necessary to take into account that it is better to go with your child to kindergarten in a good mood than in a bad one.
Coming home from work, the husband kisses his wife, puts on his slippers, takes the newspapers and sits in a chair watching the TV - relaxing. The fact that he needs to wash clothes and do other things around the house does not concern him, and he does not express any desire to help his wife.
Is there anything for a dissatisfied wife to be? And satisfied, joyful? Grateful?
The appearance of your husband home is already joy: do not hide it! Even if he doesn't do anything, just let his presence warm you. He did at least something - thank him, he did well - admire him.
Saturday.
My husband's sheepskin coat needs to be taken to a studio for repairs. He doesn't have time. The wife can cut it out if she wants, and he asks her to do so. But she doesn’t want this (she says that she doesn’t like to argue with receptionists, but he’s better at it). Can a husband insist or be offended?
I wonder what he would do without his wife? Would you have managed it somehow?
The wife believes that her husband does not spend enough time with the child. Does she have reason to be dissatisfied and make claims to her husband?
The child has a father - once. The father sometimes takes good care of the child, freeing his wife from this and bringing joy to the child - two. In my opinion, he deserves gratitude.
And as for who thinks what... The husband also thinks that his wife sometimes treats the child poorly - but he remains silent. Good example!
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Sunday.
The husband is getting ready to go to training, although his wife asks him to help her with spring cleaning and go to the store. In her opinion, the apartment is a mess and the food has run out, but he thinks that everything is in order. He agrees that it is difficult for his wife to fulfill her plans alone, but he goes to training. Are there any grounds for offending your wife?
No war, no famine, the children are healthy, the husband loves (although he has other views on what can be considered order in the house): in my opinion, live and be happy!
The wife washed her husband's shirt. He is about to put it on, but sees an unwashed stain, and besides, it is poorly ironed. There is no other clean shirt... What should you think about your wife? What should I tell her?
In my opinion, it is worth asking for advice whether it is possible to wear this shirt, and if not, then ask what to wear. In any case, the situation is not fatal.
In none of these cases, in my opinion, there are grounds for a quarrel.
For most of them, the solution stems from the principle “Whoever needs what, does it,” taking responsibility for oneself and tolerance for others.
However, if we proceed from the traditional family model, there are many unfulfilled family responsibilities, many times spouses do not help each other, make serious mistakes, and therefore you can swear to your heart's content.
The philosophy behind the family model proposed here gives freedom to both spouses and peace to their family. Perhaps, for some, all my arguments were not convincing enough, then I give the floor to Yulia.
Julia: “I had to get a divorce to start living so well”
Maybe you remember the story about Yulia, who was faced with a choice and married Maxim, had a child, and later they divorced - but I warned that this was not the end of their story.
By the way, I kept asking Yulia: “Why do you need to get a divorce, make another ritual gesture, since you still have nowhere to go?” No, Yulia stubbornly insisted: “This will make it easier for me.” Maxim was against the divorce, and this further strained their relationship.
A long, painful, exhausting path to divorce, finally a trial - they were given a divorce and freedom from each other. They took advantage of this freedom, but quickly realized that it was stupid to exchange sewing for soap. They continued to find it difficult to live side by side, but Yulia had already begun to rethink...
So, the initial data: a young and free man and woman live in the same apartment, who have nowhere to leave even if they wanted to. Both are drawn to comfort and both are very intelligent - however, mutual insults prevent them from being friends and loved ones. Yulia thought about it, cried and made, in my opinion, the only correct decision: “Why do I need a war in my best years? Since we still live nearby, we need to establish normal relationships and make the atmosphere at home warm. In the end, this is my responsibility to the child."
And she began to conquer Maxim again.
By the way, despite the divorce, both did not consider this a sufficient reason to stop being sexual partners. Moreover, an interesting fact: overturning all the rules, sex with Maxim Yule always brought satisfaction. Divorce and grievances are on their own, sex is on its own. At that time I came to them and talked with both of them. Yulia amazed me with her wisdom that came from nowhere, Maxim - with her immense fatigue and apathy. To all our direct questions and suggestions whether he wanted to normalize relations (naturally, while remaining an absolutely free person), he answered: “I can’t. I won't. I'm afraid of repetition."
As I could feel, his soul had been thoroughly damaged over the past six months. But before he was not weak at all...
However, after a few months, Maxim also began to change his attitude.
Maybe he just came to his senses little by little.
In addition, later, analyzing what happened, Yula assumed that she simply won a fair competition: Maxim compared her with other women (and he had them), and the comparison turned out to be in her favor.
Here is one of the episodes. Maxim, in front of Yulia, was talking on the phone with one of his friends, and she began to reprimand him for something. After exchanging remarks to Maxim’s question: “Do you want to quarrel with me?” - It sounded (apparently) “Yes!” and the phone was hung up.
Normal female behavior... But Julia didn’t do that anymore at that time.
Julia has already acquired a different vision. She began to look at Maxim as a physically attractive man, the father of her child and a possible source of financial assistance, but at the same time a completely independent person, free of responsibilities to her. She began to think about how to make it attractive for him to stay at home. And then the Miracle began to happen. Maxim’s eyes brightened again and his shoulders straightened, and Yulia sighed freely.
Recently I visited them, their life again resembles illustrations to Christmas fairy tales. Julia takes care of the house and Maxim, Maxim tries to earn more money and make the house beautiful and cozy. And now Yulia says with a happy smile: “I had to get a divorce to start living so well.
True, Maxim recently started talking about signing again..."
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Women's need
Let's look at why a woman needs a family.
- Social status. Understanding that she fulfilled her destiny, became a wife.
- Communication with friends is easier. A married woman is not seen as a rival.
- Now I have someone to go visit with and celebrate all the holidays.
- Having an assistant. A woman does not need to cope with hard work herself, carry bags, do repairs, and fix breakdowns. Now for this there is a man who can cope with these tasks.
- A person has appeared for whom you need to strive to be beautiful and use your culinary skills. A woman is pleased when someone appreciates her merits.
- The opportunity not to work if the husband agrees to support her.
- The end of the man's search. You no longer need to waste time searching for a suitable gentleman, getting to know him, meeting and parting. Now your loved one is always nearby, with whom you can wake up every morning and spend all your free time.
- Birth of children. Undoubtedly, you can become a mother without having a husband. But the child will fully grow up if both parents are present. In addition, lifting a baby together is much easier than raising a baby alone.
- A person appears nearby to whom you can direct all your tenderness and love.
- There is an opportunity for joint growth and common development. To achieve this, it is necessary that the couple be of approximately the same intellectual level, have common views on life, and aspirations for self-development.
- Household amenities. Now you don’t need to rent a house yourself; all household expenses can be divided in half with your husband. And if a man earns well, he is able to shift all financial issues onto his shoulders.
- When you are married, you can notice your shortcomings. A man will literally reflect in himself, at first glance, his vices, when, in fact, this is a mirror image of his wife. Thus, the woman sees her mistakes and has the opportunity to improve.
- There is always support, support, a faithful defender nearby.
As a child, I dreamed of getting married for the sake of a wedding dress. Having grown up, I realized that the main purpose of a woman is to create a family and give birth to a child, to take care of her closest ones. I am very happy that my husband is next to me, a person who always supports me, shares victories and failures with me, and helps raise my child. Every day I feel his love, care, and repay him in the same coin. Next to him, I always strive for self-development in order to correspond to the status of my man.
Self-realization
Just a hundred years ago, a woman could realize herself only in the family. The Germans of the Kaiser's Germany even came up with a motto for their Frau consisting of three letters "K". The slogan personified the three main female values of those times - Küche (kitchen), Kinder (children), Kirch (church). Words can be rearranged, and the motto will not change either linguistically or in meaning. Nowadays women can realize themselves outside the family. The unit of society in this sense has ceased to be valuable for the fair sex. A lady can find her place in a career, art, hobby, and so on. You don't have to get married for this.
Caring neighbor
Fortunately, the world for Galina Yankova was not without kind people. At the very beginning, when she was immobilized, neighbor Olga came to the rescue.
Olga lives in the apartment opposite. She and Galina Innokentievna are the oldest residents of this house, living here since the late 70s. Olga grew up before the eyes of Galina Innokentievna, their mothers were friends with each other. Today, the woman is the only one who has not remained on the sidelines and is kind to her neighbor, although she herself has a family and work six days a week.
“I’m just helping out in a purely neighborly way.” We have been neighbors for more than 40 years. Galina Innokentievna came to visit us for a long time. When my parents died, she came to help,” says Olga. “When she fell, the kids called into the intercom and said: your neighbor has fallen.” An ambulance was called and she was taken away. They didn’t immediately ask which hospital they would take me to; they found me the next day. After work, I went to the hospital and brought what I needed.
Olga works as a cook from seven in the morning to seven in the evening. She turned out to be a modest woman, so she did not give her last name and refused to take a photo for our publication. Perhaps a woman underestimates what a good deed she does every day. In the mornings, she brings breakfast and lunch to her neighbor, and in the evening, after returning from work, she prepares dinner.
Galina Innokentievna just shrugs and doesn’t understand why she received such a punishment from fate, because she herself always rushed to help people, and today, in her ninth decade, almost everyone has turned away from her.
“There lives a woman in this same house who had a hard time 18 years ago. I didn't know her. She came towards me and told me that she was starving with her sick son. I brought her to my place, I had flour, yeast and even liver sausage. She cooked it for herself and took it away, I also gave her 200 rubles in addition. In the next house there lived a woman younger than me who had nowhere to live. As a result, she lived with me for six months and sued her sister over the apartment. I went to court as a witness with a bad leg and did everything so that she would win this apartment. And neither one nor the other comes to me now when I need help. Having lived my life, I understand that the world is ruled by selfishness,” says Galina Innokentievna, holding back tears with difficulty.
How to understand that a man needs you?
And in addition to everything, I would like to say that it is better to pay attention not to how he runs away from you, but to how he shows how dear you are to him. We need to look at the situation from all sides.
- He maintains a great relationship with your parents. This is very important, since usually young people are little keen on family gatherings with their mothers, and even more so with potential or actual mothers-in-law;
- He takes into account your opinion. Listens and listens to him. Yes, maybe he’s inattentive somewhere, but he’s trying. It's always visible;
- A man who respects and values his woman will never allow himself to humiliate or insult her. Whatever it was.
Don't try to see the flaws. This won't make it any easier. Try to see a hint that everything is fine.
The stronger sex differs from girls in its psychology. Very often they do not give their words and actions the meaning that women understand.
Here are some tips to help you figure out what's going on:
- Do not demand an immediate explanation for what was said or done. This will cause a storm of emotions.
- When in doubt, don't blame him for it. Your statements will be annoying.
- Be less offended and especially don’t say: “No, no, everything is fine!” If something is bothering you, tell me personally. Such misunderstandings accumulate and then result in trouble. The guys are straightforward and that's what they expect from you.
- It is also unusual for them to be so excited about some events or your new dresses. They are a more silent and reserved people by nature. They don't have the same set of emotions that girls have.
In general, try to look less for tricks. Talk about your concerns. With guys, everything is strict, like in mathematics, if you don’t invent it yourself and don’t screw it up.
So, let’s summarize: you shouldn’t torment yourself with thoughts of how to understand that a man doesn’t need you? It’s better not to think about it again. Trust him to come forward and say it directly when such a problem arises, and not beat around the bush.
Video: if your loved one doesn’t need you...
In this video, professional psychologist and expert in family relationships Sergei Klyuchnikov will tell you what signs you can use to accurately determine whether a man needs you:
It is strange to guess whether this question will ever arise before you, and whether you will begin to look for an answer to it. After all, the family is the hearth and spark that has kept and will keep afloat the many millions of generations of the inhabitants of planet Earth. But theoretically, it is still important to know why each of us needs a family, why family is so important and why people who do not have a family live even less.
