Sexual intercourse gives not only pleasant physical sensations, but also moral satisfaction. Therefore, it is not at all surprising that representatives of both sexes, having reached reproductive age, feel the desire to have sex. However, this is not always possible. What to do if you want sex, but there is no opportunity?
Determining the essence of the problem
A period of prolonged sexual abstinence can begin in a person’s life for a variety of reasons. For example, the lack of a permanent partner or the reluctance to have sex without feelings with a “random” person. Often, for some time, you don’t want physical intimacy at all, especially after the end of a long-term relationship, and then there comes a moment when the desire awakens, but how to realize it is completely unclear. So, if the problem is of a moral nature, it needs to be solved comprehensively. One-time sexual contact is unlikely to change anything and help you feel happier. You need to learn to build close relationships with likeable people. There are often situations when it is clear why you constantly want sex, but nothing can be done about it. We are talking about those who prefer to maintain their virginity until marriage, or about girls waiting for their loved ones to return from the army. Sometimes sexual intercourse is prohibited by doctors, for example, when treating sexually transmitted diseases or during pregnancy. How to overcome the basic instinct in this case?
Independence never hurts
Any teenager knows the answer to the question: “What to do if you want sex, but you can’t have it?” It's simple - satisfy your need on your own. Men are more accepting of masturbation. But many women have too strong beliefs that this is immoral and dirty. If this sounds like you, it’s time to get rid of such complexes. Try to relax as much as possible and choose a time when no one will disturb you. Explore your own body, and to create the right mood, you can even watch an erotic film or light candles and incense throughout the apartment. This option will also help if you want sex during your period. Virgins can also caress themselves, because clitoral orgasms are the most vivid, and you can get them without risking your own innocence at all.
The husband has lost his desire. What to do?
There are several options that will help you get out of this delicate situation. However, first you need to figure out the reason.
Often family quarrels result in bed problems, and what happens is that your man doesn’t want you. In some cases, a man does not want sex if he believes that he cannot satisfy his woman. Sometimes a third extra appears, because of which the family collapses and sexual relationships come to naught.
To solve the problem that has arisen, the couple needs to sit down and talk, listen to each other and understand their other half. Still, conversation is a very important step to creating strong relationships. Don’t rush to conclusions; you don’t need to do something rashly without listening to your partner.
Help of modern technologies
Today, a whole industry of a specific industry is working in order to improve sex and allow it to be done well alone. Be brave and visit an adult store. The consultants of such a salon will not be embarrassed by the visitor’s statement: “I really want sex.” They will probably tell you what to do in this situation in the brightest colors. And don’t think that in a sex shop you can only find male simulators of all sizes and colors. There are many other interesting items here. If you are afraid to go to such a store and are embarrassed to communicate with sellers on personal topics, the online market will help you out. Many online adult toy stores deliver throughout Russia. Such stores also care about the customer’s reputation; your order will arrive in neutral packaging, and no one around you will know about its contents until you open the box at home.
The lady of my heart is no longer attractive
One of the reasons why a man doesn't want sex is that a woman doesn't excite him. This may be due to perfumes that the partner associates with unpleasant memories, for example with an ex-girlfriend. Or I remember some event. Even strict notes in the voice, which are similar to the displeasure of an evil teacher, become a moral injury for a man. Who knows what the male prefers today, because he is so fickle. Here it is important to understand what holds a man back, what scares him or pushes him away from his other half. It is necessary to comprehend changes in the behavior or appearance of the spouse, which will subsequently help solve the problem before it leads to a breakup or scandals. A woman's job is to figure out how to please a man sexually.
What should expectant mothers do?
During pregnancy, a woman's body undergoes rapid hormonal changes. One of its external manifestations is an increase in the sensitivity of erogenous zones and an exaggerated desire to have sex. In fact, during a normal pregnancy there is no problem. Sexual intercourse is not prohibited, and in some cases it is even beneficial. The most difficult thing is to choose a comfortable position without the risk of injuring your stomach. But sometimes intimate relationships are strictly contraindicated. The reasons for the prohibitions are different: the threat of miscarriage or other pathologies. So what should you do if you want to have sex during pregnancy, but you can’t? The answer is still the same - engage in self-satisfaction, which does not carry any harm. You can also involve the future dad in this process; such games will certainly bring a lot of pleasure to both spouses and will be remembered for a long time.
Sex on the Internet?
Another interesting way of self-satisfaction is virtual sex. It is best suited for those who have a good imagination and cannot get some release alone. Some couples practice virt during a long separation. But you can also find a new partner. There are even entire sites for fans of such high-tech entertainment. So, what to do if you want sex? Find yourself a partner (on a thematic forum) or propose such a bold idea to your soulmate who is far away. Next, describe all your fantasies during correspondence or even demonstrate something clearly during a video conference session. And these are not all the options; don’t forget about sex by phone or via SMS messages.
Where to find a partner for one time?
If you want sex all the time, and nothing helps, you should think about having it yourself. Single people who do not want to start a serious relationship are quite normal about relationships, so to speak, for one time. Don't forget about safety and purchase a supply of contraceptives in advance. To be sure of your protection after contact, you can use a special antiseptic at home. The easiest way to make acquaintances is at a party or club. A popular alternative is dating sites. But keep in mind that searching for a partner on the Internet can be dangerous. Firstly, there is no guarantee that the person you chose based on the photo will show up for the meeting. Secondly, we must not forget about the likelihood of meeting people who are not entirely mentally healthy. If you decide to have such a meeting, be sure to tell a close friend or friend about the upcoming date. Do not be lazy to indicate the address of the hotel or apartment where you will be invited, and the license plate number of the car if your partner promises to pick you up by car. Also agree on a time when friends should start trying to contact you and find out if everything is okay.
No sensations
Your partner doesn't feel you. It happens that a woman’s muscles are weakened. This may be one of the reasons why a man does not want sex. By the way, the muscles could have stretched due to labor or lost their former elasticity over time. Then the partner’s desire for a sexual nature disappears. And the fear of future failures haunts him. He just stops wanting you. Without any doubt, the worst thing for him could be a decrease in potency. The main thing is to talk, find a compromise and decide to change. To increase muscle elasticity, a woman can be recommended preventive or therapeutic exercises. Or simply engage in active sports that will help strengthen your pelvic muscles.
Relationships without obligations
As you can see, one-time sex does not seem safe. A permanent lover is a completely different matter. Intimate relationships without commitment are not that common these days. More often than not, everything begins spontaneously, somehow a romance began, but the partners have no common plans for the future. So why not give each other pleasure, without the torment of jealousy and everyday problems? If you are satisfied with this option, it’s time to start looking for a suitable candidate. What to do if you want sex and are ready for free love? First of all, you should take a closer look at representatives of the opposite sex who do not hide their sympathy for you. You can try to find a partner on the Internet. Then all that remains is to maintain the relationship at the level you need.
Harmful or beneficial?
You should choose a way to quench your thirst for sexual adventures yourself. It all depends on the specifics of the situation, your capabilities and principles. Regular intimate life helps improve your mood and well-being. Even doctors talk about this. But if you need to remain faithful to “the one,” and self-satisfaction is not of interest to you, try playing sports or being creative. It’s a completely different matter if the desire for new exploits does not disappear during an intense sex life with a regular partner. In this case, it makes sense to visit a sexologist and ask him: “Why do you always want sex?” It is likely that the problem is more serious than it seems, and it will require months of psychological correction to resolve. Now you know what to do if you want sex without it, but with everything else it’s better to consult a specialist.
Stress
Chronic fatigue or stress in men is more often a physical problem. Often the partner does not want sex due to health problems. As a result, fatigue, severe physical activity or illness are some of the reasons for refusing sex. Stress can lead to premature ejaculation or erection problems. To top it off, the man is afraid of not satisfying his partner. You can’t leave it like this, you need to get treatment, and not wait for it to go away on its own. The longer a man’s indecision drags on, the more advanced the disease it leads to.
Sit down and talk to the man and let him open up. Tell him how much you love him, show him that you need him. Give your partner your warmth and explain to him that you support him. Explain that you can tolerate without sex, give the man time to think. After all, stress can lead to many consequences in a man’s body. Because of it, hormonal levels may be disrupted. This often happens in men over 40 years of age, but it can also happen at a younger age. Of course, with age, the production of male hormone decreases. Therefore, sexual desire slowly but surely decreases. At an advanced age, it is recommended to monitor hormone levels and undergo periodic medical tests.
