The young people have been dating for quite a long time, they sympathize with each other, but the girl just can’t wait for that important moment when her chosen one confesses his feelings to her. Of course, any representative of the fair sex would like to hear such a confession from her boyfriend. There are already few hints that he is not indifferent and fortune telling about his beloved. The girl is simply perplexed why the young man does not say that he loves her. What should she do to get the guy to open up to her?
The most important thing: if a young man stubbornly does not admit his own feelings, the girl should not be persistent. Such behavior will only push a man away. First, the lady must be patient; she should not rush her beloved. In fact, it is not these cherished words that are most important, but the feelings that a person experiences and expresses.
Confession of feelings must be from the heart, so a girl cannot do without some effort. She must show the guy that she truly cares about him, supports him if necessary - she must show her feelings sincerely. But it’s worth remembering: you can’t become just a friend for a young man; a girl should always remain sensual and desirable. Spontaneity and some mystery often become the impetus for the chosen one to want to confess his love.
Many representatives of the stronger sex are afraid of declarations of love, because they believe that this step is quite serious, it can be compared to a marriage proposal. Therefore, from the consciousness of a young man it is necessary to displace the idea that immediately after confessing his tender feelings he will need to go to the registry office and submit an application. The girl must demonstrate with all her appearance that she does not at all claim the freedom of her chosen one, she completely trusts him. Then the young man confesses his feelings sincerely, and not just because it’s supposed to be so.
If a girl is strong and brave, she can be the first to start talking about her own feelings and spiritual impulses, then the young man will understand that if he confesses his love to her, he will not receive a cold reaction in return. If this step is quite difficult for a representative of the fair sex, she can send her chosen one a romantic SMS or email in which she will tell about her attitude towards her lover. But you don’t need to demand an urgent answer from your boyfriend; it’s important to give him time to weigh everything, think it over and make his own decision.
In addition, it is still worth remembering: a beautiful declaration of feelings does not mean that the guy’s love itself is actually just as pure and beautiful.
Magenya for the magazine “With Your Hands”
Why doesn't a guy confess his love?
In fact, there may be several reasons, ranging from the banal fear of rejection and indecision, to the lack of serious feelings and intentions. Why is your boyfriend still silent about his feelings? Maybe he just doesn’t like to talk about it, but tries to prove his attitude towards you with beautiful actions and attitude. Usually such young people are very secretive and it is quite difficult for them to confess their love. They would rather try with all their might to prove their love to you in practice, but it’s hard for them to say the cherished words. What to do in this case? Wait, show your tenderness more often, try to show him that words mean as much to you as actions, and you want to hear these words from him. And, of course, be patient. Your prince's heart will definitely thaw over time.
The second situation is when a guy doesn’t talk about love simply because he’s not sure of his feelings and perhaps he just likes you, but it still hasn’t come to the point of love. Of course, we hope that this is not your case at all. Whether you stay with such a person and wait for him to sort out his feelings or not is up to you. But you still need to check how he treats you. Try to talk to him about love, confess first and watch the guy’s reaction. If he looks away in embarrassment, then most likely he is simply shy and therefore remains silent about his feelings. If a young man does not particularly react to your words and continues to go about his business without even changing his face, then most likely he just likes you and is not thinking about anything serious yet. Waiting for a declaration of love in this case is pointless, at least in the near future.
Quick love spells for action
- The love spell procedure itself can be carried out anywhere. The main thing is that no one is nearby at this moment. For example, in a park on a bench, in an empty room.
There are love spells for various actions, these are like unspoken orders and instructions that are designed, first of all, to overcome a person’s indecision and shyness. At their core, these are the most harmless conspiracies, their effect is short-lived, and there are practically no consequences.
However, you should not forget that this is still magic, and under certain circumstances (mockery, the use of love spells for entertainment) can play a cruel joke on the performer.
Love spell to make a guy confess his love
Drink a glass of water in small sips, saying: “I measure the blue sea with sips, you can say words to a feathered bird. The falcon will sing songs about love for me, but all sincere ones. The slave will say, the black raven will not cover with its wing.”
Write your phone number in letters, not numbers, on a white piece of paper. Take a coin and erase the letters with its edge, saying: “Money knows my name, money will remember my number. A gray dove will fly into the slave's window, remind him of his number, tell him his name. As the letters are erased from the sheet, so the numbers are typed by the hand. The slave will call or he will suffer.”
Love spell for a guy to come visit
Stand on the threshold so that one leg is behind it and the other in the house. Say: “I see the empty edge, I see the entrance door. As soon as the slave begins to cross the threshold, the slave will begin to think about coming to visit me. My threshold is gilded, my threshold is smeared with honey. The dove flies quickly to the dove - drink water, wash with water.”
Love spell for a guy to give a gift
Crumble white bread into a bowl, saying: “A crumb of bread will come to me, a slave will feed it. The grass will grow high, the sun will shine brightly. The slave will bring me a gift, either red or brocade. I’m waiting for scarves and stones, and offering love in return.”
Love spell to make a guy return an item
Take a gold or silver ring and tie it to a thread. Holding it over an open bag or suitcase, say: “Give me back my slave. Ring loudly, remind the slave of his duty. Will return safe and sound. If he doesn’t give it back, I’ll tie it in a knot and won’t unravel it.”
How to push a guy to confess his love
To begin with, forget about the word “force”. You can't force anyone, especially a guy. And you don’t need this, you want sincere recognition, and not forced and squeezed out through force. But you can still gently push a guy to confess his love, especially if you are already tired of waiting.
1. Recognition in response to recognition. The easiest way. Confess your love to the guy yourself and look expectantly into his eyes. You can ask him if he wants to tell you something too. Usually guys realize that this is one of the best moments to confess their love and finally do it.
2. Set up a game. Invite your friends and have a game of forfeits for wishes. When it’s your loved one’s turn, say that your desire is for him to confess his love to you.
3. Take the initiative, show that you sincerely love your boyfriend, do not hesitate to express your feelings. Perhaps the guy doesn’t confess his love because he’s afraid of being rejected or you’re being too cold towards him. Show him that you really need him and you truly love him. Most likely, he will answer you in kind.
4. Turn on indifference. The method is the opposite of the previous one. If you constantly express your feelings, are always gentle with him, and always confess your love to him, and the answer is silence, then try changing tactics. Become more indifferent for a while, stop constantly telling him about love, mind your own business and temporarily push your feelings into the background. This course of events will surprise the guy and perhaps make him reconsider his attitude towards you and understand how dear you are to him. When he asks you what is the reason for such changes, simply tell him that you do not feel enough love and warmth from him. Explain to him that you are a girl and it is important for you to feel loved and needed. This will make him think.
5. Have a romantic evening. Perhaps you simply lack romance, and the right moment for such a touching confession has not yet occurred. Well, you'll have to take the initiative into your own hands. Arrange a romantic evening, invite him to talk about your acquaintance, about feelings, about the future. Hint to the guy that the time has come for declarations of love.
It is unknown which method will help you push your boyfriend to confess, because all people are different. But since it won’t be possible to force a guy to confess his love, be patient and don’t be upset if you didn’t manage to hear these cherished words from him the first time. Be patient, because if he truly loves you, he will still say so sooner or later.
The article was prepared by Kristina Semenova.
How to attract men. 50 rules of a confident woman Sergeeva Oksana Mikhailovna
Rule No. 38. Help a man reveal his feelings
Many girls are interested in how to get recognition from a man? What needs to be done to make him talk about love? Do not seek a declaration of love, but create the necessary conditions for the man to reveal his feelings. Here we will talk about how not to act and what common mistakes girls make when they are desperate to hear words of love from their chosen one.
Some girls, in order to achieve recognition, try to pity a man: “Oh, I love you so much, but you don’t love me at all. I'm so unhappy." Believing that all methods are good in love, they begin to cry and become despondent. Sometimes girls use the “offense” technique: they become sad and pout to show how upset they are by the lack of attention. Now, if they were told how much they were loved, they would forgive everything in the world and would not be offended anymore.
A man, observing what is happening, can say the desired words. But the question is: how sincere is this recognition? How much of it was done in good faith? Do not try to manipulate a man and play on his feelings. This will not lead to anything good.
Another common mistake is to insist on the need for feedback and feedback. “I’m telling you about my love - and you do the same.” It won't work.
Well, a completely ridiculous way to provoke a man to make a confession is to leave, slamming the door. This, by the way, is one of the most common methods that girls resort to with the hope that they will be returned and said those very long-awaited words. It is quite possible that this will happen. However, a confession obtained in this way will turn out to be implausible and insincere. So think before you take such a step. Don't provoke a man. After all, he may not return you.
There is another common way of “fishing out” recognition. A woman tries to please a man in bed, and then asks about his feelings. Of course, sex is an important component of a relationship. However, if you want to hear the true voice of your lover’s heart, then you should not mix sexual pleasures and expression of feelings.
What to do if a man is dumb as a fish? Do not provoke or irritate a man with requests. Your task is to gently and unobtrusively win over recognition. First of all, you yourself must be honest and frank with him. Confess your love only if you are sure of your feelings. If you are doing this only to gain his recognition or to bring him into a frank conversation, then this is the wrong path.
It happens that a man simply cannot say about his feelings because he does not find the right moment. Routine and everyday life are not conducive to expressing feelings. Why express them if everything is going as usual? Create such a moment, add new impressions, do something unusual and unexpected.
It happens that a man needs distance in order to understand himself and his feelings. You can go somewhere for a while in order to give him the opportunity to think, reflect on what your relationship is for him and how much he values it.
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If a woman says: “I love you!”, then most likely she really loves you. With men, everything is different. Confessing their love to the fair sex, they can be completely sincere - and at the same time, their feeling may have nothing in common with what is glorified in novels...
So, what reasons most often push the stronger sex to confess love?
Reason one. Desire for sex
You can be indignant as much as you like, but this is how it is. Most men see nothing wrong with saying “I love you!” and receive a reward for it - . They treat it as a kind of ritual. It’s just that by the phrase about love, sensualists mean: “I want you!” Or rather - “I love your body!” So there is no deception: there is love. Just not as sublime as you dreamed of.
Sometimes in such a situation it seems to a man that he really loves. And only if true love comes, finally sees the difference, realizing that previously there was only sexual attraction...
Reason two. Because that's how it's supposed to be
Many women have the habit of asking, sometimes at the most intimate moment: “Do you love me?” It’s much easier to answer in the affirmative than to explain why you don’t love her, and yet you’re with her... Well, it’s somehow inconvenient: since you’re together, that means he must love you... That’s the way it is.
Reason three. Sympathy
He is pleased to be with you, likes the way you look, talk, and in general he feels comfortable with you... Why not? It's true! He loves you - as a friend, or a sister, or just a loved one. He may have about thirty such “close ones”, no less. And you are among them. And again - he does not deceive! He really loves you - like all of them.
Reason four. Love
It is in vain that we scold the Don Juans. The moment they confess their love to a woman, they truly love her. The only trouble is that falling in love can pass in one day. That is, when a man confesses his love to you, he is absolutely honest with you. But as soon as he meets another more or less attractive person, he immediately forgets about his “feeling” and switches to her. Well, what can you do if you are not the only one who can light a fire of passion in him? This is his peculiarity!
And now - how to understand whether a man really loves you, or just wants you, or feels sympathy, or is in love?
True love is timid. It is associated with a special state of mind. In this state, a man may generally strive for solitude and even avoid the object of his feelings... It takes time for this feeling to “ripe”. Therefore, if your chosen one is in a hurry to make a confession a week after meeting, then treat his words critically.
Psychologists also advise to be wary if a man repeats words about love too often. Better watch his behavior. If a man literally “undresses” you with his gaze, then he is most likely interested in you exclusively sexually. That is, maybe he loves, but only your body. If he looks around and only occasionally at you, then he treats you quite evenly, perhaps with sympathy, but he is unlikely to have a deep feeling for you... But if he constantly strives to look into your eyes, then there is a chance that he is at least in love.
A downcast gaze in your presence may also indicate this: a man is afraid to look at you because he is afraid of being rejected by his “sun”. But still, this is not a necessary sign of love, since there are men who are simply embarrassed by women or are not interested in them at all.
Love is prone to self-sacrifice. Therefore, if your boyfriend takes out the last hundred from his wallet to treat you to ice cream, or goes to the other end of town to walk you home, then he is at least seriously interested in you. If he says: “Sorry, I don’t have much money left, maybe we can go for a walk?” or asks: “It’s already late, maybe you can get there yourself?” - then let's face the truth: there is no smell of feelings here.
A man who simply likes you, or who meets you solely for sex, can easily postpone your next meeting in order to go with friends to. A man who really loves will never choose friends over a date with his beloved.
But you shouldn’t draw premature conclusions. Love at first sight doesn't happen to everyone. It is quite possible that your relationship will begin with friendship or mutual sympathy. Or even from sex. But over time they can develop into something more. And the phrase “I love you,” uttered, say, six months after the start of a relationship, already deserves much more trust than if a man said it on the second or third date or during the first intimate meeting. During this period, feelings may well “come to pass.” An unmistakable sign of true love: when making a confession, a man is always a little embarrassed.
Some men are stubborn silent people. They love the woman with whom they live side by side, but for many years they may never admit their feelings to her. How to get a guy to confess his love
, if he doesn’t want to talk about it himself, or something else?
Ultimatum
This measure is very radical, but still in some cases it can help you
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Give your significant other an ultimatum: either the guy confesses his love to you, or you break up with him
. I repeat that this method of extracting a declaration of love is radical, and therefore think ten times before using it. If the guy chooses the second option (breaking up), then you can safely let him go, because he clearly made it known that he does not love you.
Conditions for performing love spells on action
The main condition is desertedness. The presence of strangers will make the love spell unfulfillable. In addition, it is advisable to do love spells in the evening, when the sun is already starting to set.
In order for the love spell to have greater power, you can do it in the forest or near a river, but, again, alone without witnesses. Among the available means, food or drinks can be used, as well as materials such as dishes, wooden chests, and light fabrics.
When performing love spells at home, it is advisable to unplug all electrical appliances and also open at least one window. A love spell for a guy to call requires the presence of a pencil and paper.
Roman and Arabic numerals cannot be written; they are replaced with letters. For example, 5 – 21 -98 should be written as “Five – twenty-one – ninety-eight.”
